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Is this the wrong site for people that say they are against meeting people in a relationship???
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I've seen many profiles and comments regarding people saying they against seeing people that are married or in a relationship. So my question is should they be on a swinging site or a dating site? |
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Just because someone is married and cheating on wife on a swingers site, doesn't mean that those who don't agree with that behaviour should be on dating sites. |
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Just a heads up, its not all about cheating/not cheating.
I'm a happily married fella. We have a couples profile and singles profile on here.
The wife actively encourages it.
Just because you are married, does not mean its cheating.
In fact, for most women(my experience), it seems that because you are married and are allowed to play.. it means that they can have the thrill of playing with a married man without all the drama. |
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OP I think you need to understand that swinging and adultery are completely different things.
We won’t meet with people who are cheating on partners but that doesn’t mean we won’t meet people who have partners. |
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“It’s about ethics innit?”
Another term for swinging is ‘ethical non-monogamy’
The non-monogamy bit is fairly straight forward.
The ethnical bit is covered by permission to play from a partner either with them present or not.
I’d go as far to say that you should flip the question round. Cheaters shouldn’t be on this sort of site!
Swinging, Hotwifing and BDSM play all require trust. By being a cheater you’re already breaking trust and lying on a daily basis. |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
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Well this is a swinging site not a cheating site (there is one of those)
It's everyone's personal preference as to whether they will meet a married person that is cheating. Meeting a couple together is swinging. I personally don't get involved or judge people in relationships, but I also wouldn't meet them.
I also state that ideally I am looking for a relationship as finding someone on a 'vanilla' dating site has been fruitless  |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
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"Just a heads up, its not all about cheating/not cheating.
I'm a happily married fella. We have a couples profile and singles profile on here.
The wife actively encourages it.
Just because you are married, does not mean its cheating.
In fact, for most women(my experience), it seems that because you are married and are allowed to play.. it means that they can have the thrill of playing with a married man without all the drama."
Agree that that is totally different. You obviously have an open and honest communication and trusting relationship with your partner and it shows. That to me is swinging not cheating |
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"Just a heads up, its not all about cheating/not cheating.
I'm a happily married fella. We have a couples profile and singles profile on here.
The wife actively encourages it.
Just because you are married, does not mean its cheating.
In fact, for most women(my experience), it seems that because you are married and are allowed to play.. it means that they can have the thrill of playing with a married man without all the drama.
Agree that that is totally different. You obviously have an open and honest communication and trusting relationship with your partner and it shows. That to me is swinging not cheating"
Exactly.
I dont know about you, but I think for some people who are new to the scene, the lines get blurred or misunderstood.
At the end of the day, its all down to tastes.
I will add, the only thing the wife insists on is that I get home and play with her AND if the other couple/woman allow, have photos of the act.
Makes for a VERY knackering night!!! |
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Why would we join a dating site? We joined a swinging site to have fun with unattached men and women and attached couples looking to enhance their relationship. We have no intentions of dating anybody.
We will not entertain the thought of even talking to attached guys as where there's a wife or girlfriend there's a chance somebody will get hurt (the kids even?). We want no part of that.
We are not interested in the guys excuses (we've probably heard them all now). It's a morality thing for us. Saying this we try not to judge others for their lack of morals we just tell them we're not interested. |
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"I've seen many profiles and comments regarding people saying they against seeing people that are married or in a relationship. So my question is should they be on a swinging site or a dating site? "
Swinging isn’t code for cheating .... if your significant other doesn’t know you’re on here then you’re cheating not swinging and I would question whether cheats should be allowed on here. |
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"I've seen many profiles and comments regarding people saying they against seeing people that are married or in a relationship. So my question is should they be on a swinging site or a dating site?
Swinging isn’t code for cheating .... if your significant other doesn’t know you’re on here then you’re cheating not swinging and I would question whether cheats should be allowed on here. "
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"Why would we join a dating site? We joined a swinging site to have fun with unattached men and women and attached couples looking to enhance their relationship. We have no intentions of dating anybody.
We will not entertain the thought of even talking to attached guys as where there's a wife or girlfriend there's a chance somebody will get hurt (the kids even?). We want no part of that.
We are not interested in the guys excuses (we've probably heard them all now). It's a morality thing for us. Saying this we try not to judge others for their lack of morals we just tell them we're not interested. "
Saying others have a lack of morals is a judgement |
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"I've seen many profiles and comments regarding people saying they against seeing people that are married or in a relationship. So my question is should they be on a swinging site or a dating site?
Swinging isn’t code for cheating .... if your significant other doesn’t know you’re on here then you’re cheating not swinging and I would question whether cheats should be allowed on here. "
Totally agree.
If not just for the fact that it puts people off (blanket no meets) meeting those few who are doing this properly and above board.
Cheating is wrong on any level. FULL STOP.
With that being said, open communication with "SO" can make this enhance your relationship.
Sorry, think I'm helping this thread diverge. Sorry OP HA! |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
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"Just a heads up, its not all about cheating/not cheating.
I'm a happily married fella. We have a couples profile and singles profile on here.
The wife actively encourages it.
Just because you are married, does not mean its cheating.
In fact, for most women(my experience), it seems that because you are married and are allowed to play.. it means that they can have the thrill of playing with a married man without all the drama.
Agree that that is totally different. You obviously have an open and honest communication and trusting relationship with your partner and it shows. That to me is swinging not cheating
Exactly.
I dont know about you, but I think for some people who are new to the scene, the lines get blurred or misunderstood.
At the end of the day, its all down to tastes.
I will add, the only thing the wife insists on is that I get home and play with her AND if the other couple/woman allow, have photos of the act.
Makes for a VERY knackering night!!!"
Haha well it's only fair afterall!! Also sounds like a lot of guys dream life  |
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"OP I think you need to understand that swinging and adultery are completely different things.
We won’t meet with people who are cheating on partners but that doesn’t mean we won’t meet people who have partners. "
I totally understand the cheating side however this is my exact point am making it's a swinging site and because some people on here are married/in relationships people are avoiding them jumping to the conclusion they are cheating but the married and people in relationships are on the correct swinging site and not on just a dating site |
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"Why would we join a dating site? We joined a swinging site to have fun with unattached men and women and attached couples looking to enhance their relationship. We have no intentions of dating anybody.
We will not entertain the thought of even talking to attached guys as where there's a wife or girlfriend there's a chance somebody will get hurt (the kids even?). We want no part of that.
We are not interested in the guys excuses (we've probably heard them all now). It's a morality thing for us. Saying this we try not to judge others for their lack of morals we just tell them we're not interested.
Saying others have a lack of morals is a judgement "
LOL. Good point, well made. I can't argue with that. So yes I do judge people that are obviously cheating  |
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"I've seen many profiles and comments regarding people saying they against seeing people that are married or in a relationship. So my question is should they be on a swinging site or a dating site?
Swinging isn’t code for cheating .... if your significant other doesn’t know you’re on here then you’re cheating not swinging and I would question whether cheats should be allowed on here. "
How would that screening process work? |
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"Just a heads up, its not all about cheating/not cheating.
I'm a happily married fella. We have a couples profile and singles profile on here.
The wife actively encourages it.
Just because you are married, does not mean its cheating.
In fact, for most women(my experience), it seems that because you are married and are allowed to play.. it means that they can have the thrill of playing with a married man without all the drama.
Agree that that is totally different. You obviously have an open and honest communication and trusting relationship with your partner and it shows. That to me is swinging not cheating
Exactly.
I dont know about you, but I think for some people who are new to the scene, the lines get blurred or misunderstood.
At the end of the day, its all down to tastes.
I will add, the only thing the wife insists on is that I get home and play with her AND if the other couple/woman allow, have photos of the act.
Makes for a VERY knackering night!!!
Haha well it's only fair afterall!! Also sounds like a lot of guys dream life "
Honestly... its not ALWAYS what its cracked up to be but is definitely fun every so often. (Would hate to do this regularly).
When I'm doing this, it's never a case of getting laid, always ALWAYS a case of pleasing the females first (been told I'm dom side of life but always want and strive to please the women who enter my life from a sex point of view)
(This is why I do it and why the wife allows it and wants me to do this)
I think it would be a WHOLE different ball game if I played with others JUST to get laid!!! |
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"I've seen many profiles and comments regarding people saying they against seeing people that are married or in a relationship. So my question is should they be on a swinging site or a dating site?
Swinging isn’t code for cheating .... if your significant other doesn’t know you’re on here then you’re cheating not swinging and I would question whether cheats should be allowed on here.
How would that screening process work?"
Provide a landline and the site makes a random call on it haha |
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"Why would we join a dating site? We joined a swinging site to have fun with unattached men and women and attached couples looking to enhance their relationship. We have no intentions of dating anybody.
We will not entertain the thought of even talking to attached guys as where there's a wife or girlfriend there's a chance somebody will get hurt (the kids even?). We want no part of that.
We are not interested in the guys excuses (we've probably heard them all now). It's a morality thing for us. Saying this we try not to judge others for their lack of morals we just tell them we're not interested.
Saying others have a lack of morals is a judgement
LOL. Good point, well made. I can't argue with that. So yes I do judge people that are obviously cheating "
Me too ....  |
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No I don't think anyone is obligated to meet any type of person, including attached people. Personally I'm happy to meet attached people as long as I'm sure their partner is aware and happy with it. I do find it odd however when you encounter people who think that married/partnered non-monogamous people shouldn't be on here though considering it's a swingers site. I've essentially been told off on here before. It's an odd place to come if you think sex should only be between singles or within relationships. |
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"OP I think you need to understand that swinging and adultery are completely different things.
We won’t meet with people who are cheating on partners but that doesn’t mean we won’t meet people who have partners.
I totally understand the cheating side however this is my exact point am making it's a swinging site and because some people on here are married/in relationships people are avoiding them jumping to the conclusion they are cheating but the married and people in relationships are on the correct swinging site and not on just a dating site "
So then by your definition married cheaters are spoiling the swinging site |
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"“It’s about ethics innit?”
Another term for swinging is ‘ethical non-monogamy’
The non-monogamy bit is fairly straight forward.
The ethnical bit is covered by permission to play from a partner either with them present or not.
I’d go as far to say that you should flip the question round. Cheaters shouldn’t be on this sort of site!
Swinging, Hotwifing and BDSM play all require trust. By being a cheater you’re already breaking trust and lying on a daily basis."
I agree with your ethical viewpoint and trust is absolutely vital to any relationship sexual or otherwise but I wonder if humans are a bit more complicated than that. I have had meets with two married women on here who were cheating and both are now divorced and in happier relationships. I also know there are a lot of men on here who regard it as a cheap and easy way of getting sex and are not interested in any relationship. I am here because I like interesting sex and open minded people but I am not a swinger in the classical sense. |
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"OP I think you need to understand that swinging and adultery are completely different things.
We won’t meet with people who are cheating on partners but that doesn’t mean we won’t meet people who have partners.
I totally understand the cheating side however this is my exact point am making it's a swinging site and because some people on here are married/in relationships people are avoiding them jumping to the conclusion they are cheating but the married and people in relationships are on the correct swinging site and not on just a dating site
So then by your definition married cheaters are spoiling the swinging site "
YES. Because a profile doesn't state they can accommodate or have public pictures they automatically become a cheat. And it proves people judge before talking. |
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"OP I think you need to understand that swinging and adultery are completely different things.
We won’t meet with people who are cheating on partners but that doesn’t mean we won’t meet people who have partners.
I totally understand the cheating side however this is my exact point am making it's a swinging site and because some people on here are married/in relationships people are avoiding them jumping to the conclusion they are cheating but the married and people in relationships are on the correct swinging site and not on just a dating site
So then by your definition married cheaters are spoiling the swinging site
YES. Because a profile doesn't state they can accommodate or have public pictures they automatically become a cheat. And it proves people judge before talking."
No for me it’s about banging on about being discreet that gives me a clue ... also the times they’re online. Also lots of married men lie so it’s kind of assumed that if men fall into a pattern of behaviour then they’re playing away. (I say men as that’s my experience I know women do it too) I judge cheaters .. simple. |
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"OP I think you need to understand that swinging and adultery are completely different things.
We won’t meet with people who are cheating on partners but that doesn’t mean we won’t meet people who have partners.
I totally understand the cheating side however this is my exact point am making it's a swinging site and because some people on here are married/in relationships people are avoiding them jumping to the conclusion they are cheating but the married and people in relationships are on the correct swinging site and not on just a dating site
So then by your definition married cheaters are spoiling the swinging site
YES. Because a profile doesn't state they can accommodate or have public pictures they automatically become a cheat. And it proves people judge before talking."
If you're talking about yourself OP then can I raise the point that you literally talk about being married in other threads  If not, apologies for getting the wrong end of the stick |
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"“It’s about ethics innit?”
Another term for swinging is ‘ethical non-monogamy’
The non-monogamy bit is fairly straight forward.
The ethnical bit is covered by permission to play from a partner either with them present or not.
I’d go as far to say that you should flip the question round. Cheaters shouldn’t be on this sort of site!
Swinging, Hotwifing and BDSM play all require trust. By being a cheater you’re already breaking trust and lying on a daily basis.
I agree with your ethical viewpoint and trust is absolutely vital to any relationship sexual or otherwise but I wonder if humans are a bit more complicated than that. I have had meets with two married women on here who were cheating and both are now divorced and in happier relationships. I also know there are a lot of men on here who regard it as a cheap and easy way of getting sex and are not interested in any relationship. I am here because I like interesting sex and open minded people but I am not a swinger in the classical sense."
No ... people aren’t more complicated they make a choice to cheat on someone that trusts them. People choose to say ‘it’s complicated’ as they want casual sex and feel justified in doing that. They choose the situation to suit their own narrative.
If a person is in a relationship that has broken down and they’re in the process of ending it that’s one thing but taking joy in virtual sex while the wife is sleep next to them (as I’ve seen people boast of on forums) is just abhorrent. |
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"Some people don't mind meeting married people, most abhore it. It's not a question of swinging, it's a question of a person's morality. "
I think 'Most' is an exaggeration! |
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"OP I think you need to understand that swinging and adultery are completely different things.
We won’t meet with people who are cheating on partners but that doesn’t mean we won’t meet people who have partners.
I totally understand the cheating side however this is my exact point am making it's a swinging site and because some people on here are married/in relationships people are avoiding them jumping to the conclusion they are cheating but the married and people in relationships are on the correct swinging site and not on just a dating site "
But they aren’t avoided though are they, there’s plenty of couples profiles that have lots of meets.
Or if someone is on here solo and says they’re in a relationship with permission, they usually explain on their profile that wife/partner will join us for a social or happy to speak on the phone to confirm said person has permission to play away.
This site is so Male heavy it’s easier to just meet a single guy than a guy who is attached. |
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"“It’s about ethics innit?”
Another term for swinging is ‘ethical non-monogamy’
The non-monogamy bit is fairly straight forward.
The ethnical bit is covered by permission to play from a partner either with them present or not.
I’d go as far to say that you should flip the question round. Cheaters shouldn’t be on this sort of site!
Swinging, Hotwifing and BDSM play all require trust. By being a cheater you’re already breaking trust and lying on a daily basis.
I agree with your ethical viewpoint and trust is absolutely vital to any relationship sexual or otherwise but I wonder if humans are a bit more complicated than that. I have had meets with two married women on here who were cheating and both are now divorced and in happier relationships. I also know there are a lot of men on here who regard it as a cheap and easy way of getting sex and are not interested in any relationship. I am here because I like interesting sex and open minded people but I am not a swinger in the classical sense.
No ... people aren’t more complicated they make a choice to cheat on someone that trusts them. People choose to say ‘it’s complicated’ as they want casual sex and feel justified in doing that. They choose the situation to suit their own narrative.
If a person is in a relationship that has broken down and they’re in the process of ending it that’s one thing but taking joy in virtual sex while the wife is sleep next to them (as I’ve seen people boast of on forums) is just abhorrent. "
I dont think I can wholeheartedly agree with that point of view as in my experience emotion plays a far bigger part in meetings than you seem to be implying but maybe thats just me? |
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"OP I think you need to understand that swinging and adultery are completely different things.
We won’t meet with people who are cheating on partners but that doesn’t mean we won’t meet people who have partners. "
Very well put and our stance too xx |
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"OP I think you need to understand that swinging and adultery are completely different things.
We won’t meet with people who are cheating on partners but that doesn’t mean we won’t meet people who have partners.
I totally understand the cheating side however this is my exact point am making it's a swinging site and because some people on here are married/in relationships people are avoiding them jumping to the conclusion they are cheating but the married and people in relationships are on the correct swinging site and not on just a dating site
So then by your definition married cheaters are spoiling the swinging site
YES. Because a profile doesn't state they can accommodate or have public pictures they automatically become a cheat. And it proves people judge before talking.
If you're talking about yourself OP then can I raise the point that you literally talk about being married in other threads If not, apologies for getting the wrong end of the stick "
That's right. He admitted to have a wife in another thread.
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We won't meet cheats. We won't judge them either. We don't play separately. We either both agree or no play. It's happened many times.. He wanted to play and I wasn't feeling it or visa versa. But we both agree that even if the person was the perfect fab... "date" for both of us, if they are cheating on a So, then it's game off |
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The phrase "people with no morals" is irksome! I think everybody has some morals, and just because someone has different morals to you or I is just that... not lacking. We can have high or low morals.
Another small point... when cheating is mentioned it's always about men, yet there are many married women on this site so it is a two-way street.
But how would you know, for certain? Someone saying they aren't married? Do you trust them. I'm sure a lot of people who say they won't play with a married person have, they just may not be aware of it.
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Not entirely clear on your question, should who be on a swinging/dating site?
Those who won't meet someone who is cheating or the cheater?
But my answer is the same.
They can use this site. Just because I won't personally fuck a guy who is cheating on his Mrs doesn't mean I don't think they should be on here. That is my moral/ethical choice, just as cheating is theirs.
Swinging isn't cheating. I fuck other men with my husbands knowledge and consent, if I didn't have that I would be monogamous or divorced.
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"I've seen many profiles and comments regarding people saying they against seeing people that are married or in a relationship. So my question is should they be on a swinging site or a dating site? "
Which one is "they"? Swinging and being a despicable person have nothing to do with each other. Cheating turds exist everywhere. |
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I’d go as far to say that you should flip the question round. Cheaters shouldn’t be on this sort of site!
Swinging, Hotwifing and BDSM play all require trust. By being a cheater you’re already breaking trust and lying on a daily basis."
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"I've seen many profiles and comments regarding people saying they against seeing people that are married or in a relationship. So my question is should they be on a swinging site or a dating site? "
Who do you mean? the cheats or the legitimate swingers? your post isn't clear, |
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"I've seen many profiles and comments regarding people saying they against seeing people that are married or in a relationship. So my question is should they be on a swinging site or a dating site? "
why don’t you say in you’re profile you’re married? As you know most on here don’t like cheating as some have had it done to them and it’s not nice as I said in other posts you asked for advice you got it probably not what you wanted but you got it
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"I'm pretty sure they usually mean that they won't meet people who are here behind their partner's back "
That's what it comes down to to me. I have met couples and if they both into it I love it but so many profiles here that make it clear they are cheating.
Swinging isn't cheating. Swinging is consentual, cheating is cowardly and selfish.
Big difference between meeting a couple or a person who's partner knows and meeting behind a partners back |
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"Just because someone is married and cheating on wife on a swingers site, doesn't mean that those who don't agree with that behaviour should be on dating sites."
Nice of you to assume it’ll be a man cheating  |
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I'm on here because, like most chaps, I enjoy sex, however my wife is partially invalid due to spinal issues and sex for her is simply too painful, and no she is not aware that I am on here |
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"I've seen many profiles and comments regarding people saying they against seeing people that are married or in a relationship. So my question is should they be on a swinging site or a dating site? "
Whom, those who are married or in a relationship?
Depends i suppose.. |
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"I've seen many profiles and comments regarding people saying they against seeing people that are married or in a relationship. So my question is should they be on a swinging site or a dating site? "
No, it’s purely their personal choice.
They may want the possibility for any meets to develop into a relationship with someone who understands this scene, if it’s something they’d want to be a part of any subsequent relationship.
They may just be trying to minimise the risk of an angry partner....male or female, because for the absence of doubt, both sexes are equally capable of cheating....who is unaware of their OH’s activity, becoming involved.
Whilst a normal dating site might be more appropriate in some ways, neither of those reasons above should mandate using one instead of being here. |
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"I'm on here because, like most chaps, I enjoy sex, however my wife is partially invalid due to spinal issues and sex for her is simply too painful, and no she is not aware that I am on here "
I'm amazed how many men have wives who cannot have sex because of various illness on here  |
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"OP I think you need to understand that swinging and adultery are completely different things.
We won’t meet with people who are cheating on partners but that doesn’t mean we won’t meet people who have partners.
I totally understand the cheating side however this is my exact point am making it's a swinging site and because some people on here are married/in relationships people are avoiding them jumping to the conclusion they are cheating but the married and people in relationships are on the correct swinging site and not on just a dating site
So then by your definition married cheaters are spoiling the swinging site
YES. Because a profile doesn't state they can accommodate or have public pictures they automatically become a cheat. And it proves people judge before talking.
If you're talking about yourself OP then can I raise the point that you literally talk about being married in other threads If not, apologies for getting the wrong end of the stick "
I think this thread was started because OP thinks I shouldn't be on fab. He thinks I should be on a dating site because he thinks fab is the place for married cheats who are looking for sex behind their wife's back
And I have made it quite clear that I won't meet a cheat...
I have also made it clear that if I was approached by a married man and I knew his wife personally - I would tell her he wanted to meet me for sex. I couldn't look her in the face whilst knowing her husband was a cheat   |
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"I've seen many profiles and comments regarding people saying they against seeing people that are married or in a relationship. So my question is should they be on a swinging site or a dating site?
Which one is "they"? Swinging and being a despicable person have nothing to do with each other. Cheating turds exist everywhere."
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"I've seen many profiles and comments regarding people saying they against seeing people that are married or in a relationship. So my question is should they be on a swinging site or a dating site? why don’t you say in you’re profile you’re married? As you know most on here don’t like cheating as some have had it done to them and it’s not nice as I said in other posts you asked for advice you got it probably not what you wanted but you got it "
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"I've seen many profiles and comments regarding people saying they against seeing people that are married or in a relationship. So my question is should they be on a swinging site or a dating site? "
So you are saying you think people that wont meet attached people should not be on Fab?
Blimey. Methinks you have misunderstood what swinging means. Its based on trust and mutual respect, not lies and deceit |
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As one of those people who chooses to not meet people who are married / significant others behind their backs of their partners . I feel I should add my thoughts and this merely my thoughts .
For me personally I do play with people who are married /significant others . But it’s above board, everyone has an opportunity to discuss boundaries what they want .
For me personally if someone is doing it behind the backs of their of partners it shows no respect for them , and certainly a lack of honesty and trust . If they can’t show those things to the person they love . They sure as hell are not going to show me respect.
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"I'm on here because, like most chaps, I enjoy sex, however my wife is partially invalid due to spinal issues and sex for her is simply too painful, and no she is not aware that I am on here
I'm amazed how many men have wives who cannot have sex because of various illness on here "
In sickness and in health, forsaking all others etc.
Yes I know not all marriages use those vows but my belief is that the principles of marriage are the same weather or not its a Christian wedding. Just my belief. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just because someone is married and cheating on wife on a swingers site, doesn't mean that those who don't agree with that behaviour should be on dating sites.
Nice of you to assume it’ll be a man cheating "
I'm not assuming. OP said he's married in another thread. So if he cannot accommodate and wants to be discreet - well if this isn't cheating then I don't know what is.. |
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"I've seen many profiles and comments regarding people saying they against seeing people that are married or in a relationship. So my question is should they be on a swinging site or a dating site? "
Some people have morals I guess some cheaters don't there are specialist sites for cheaters out there so maybe its the wrong site for them. |
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"I'm on here because, like most chaps, I enjoy sex, however my wife is partially invalid due to spinal issues and sex for her is simply too painful, and no she is not aware that I am on here
I'm amazed how many men have wives who cannot have sex because of various illness on here
In sickness and in health, forsaking all others etc.
Yes I know not all marriages use those vows but my belief is that the principles of marriage are the same weather or not its a Christian wedding. Just my belief. "
I don't actually believe what they are saying |
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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago
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"I've seen many profiles and comments regarding people saying they against seeing people that are married or in a relationship. So my question is should they be on a swinging site or a dating site? "
They should be on any site they want to be on.
The same are those who are married or in a relationship or singles.
AS long as they are not breaking the site rules it is nothing to do with the rest of us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've seen many profiles and comments regarding people saying they against seeing people that are married or in a relationship. So my question is should they be on a swinging site or a dating site?
They should be on any site they want to be on.
The same are those who are married or in a relationship or singles.
AS long as they are not breaking the site rules it is nothing to do with the rest of us."
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"I've seen many profiles and comments regarding people saying they against seeing people that are married or in a relationship. So my question is should they be on a swinging site or a dating site? "
I won't knowingly meet married or attached people as I don t want to be part of any deception that might go on. For one, I do not want an upset woman ringing me asking what my number is doing in her partner's mobile. This has happened and I was unaware of the situation as I was told his wife was dead! (Not off this site I might add)
2. I just love honest communication without drama. |
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As someone who does state that on my profile why shouldn’t I be here. I am not judging those who cheat on their partners and I embrace their choice of kink if that’s what they get off on.
I rather not have to keeping replying and wasting people’s time or my time for that matter in reading and replying to people that I will not have any intention with playing with.
Each of us are here for different reasons and have different kinks each to own . I am just transparent and honest about how I choose to play and with whom. |
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"I've seen many profiles and comments regarding people saying they against seeing people that are married or in a relationship. So my question is should they be on a swinging site or a dating site? "
You are missing the point.
They don't mind married folk. They just don't like cheaters and liars.....
Maybe the married folk should join a 'married and cheating' site.....
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"I've seen many profiles and comments regarding people saying they against seeing people that are married or in a relationship. So my question is should they be on a swinging site or a dating site?
You are missing the point.
They don't mind married folk. They just don't like cheaters and liars.....
Maybe the married folk should join a 'married and cheating' site.....
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"I've seen many profiles and comments regarding people saying they against seeing people that are married or in a relationship. So my question is should they be on a swinging site or a dating site? "
Personally we don't think anybodies business matters, along as they keep it there buisness if anybody is using this site to get what they need that's there buisness nobody else's |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've seen many profiles and comments regarding people saying they against seeing people that are married or in a relationship. So my question is should they be on a swinging site or a dating site? "
I think they should be on a dating site, I don't understand why their is so much hate towards married couples or those with free passes on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd have more of an issue if I found out after that they were married and not in fact single as they had said. I'm guessing this happens quite often, regardless of whether they are male or female.
I'm sure people who are married and their partners don't know often have reasons why they are here.
Who am I to judge that, I don't know their situation. |
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"I've seen many profiles and comments regarding people saying they against seeing people that are married or in a relationship. So my question is should they be on a swinging site or a dating site?
I think they should be on a dating site, I don't understand why their is so much hate towards married couples or those with free passes on here"
I'm making the assumption the married they won't meet are the cheating rather than joining the couple, or one half with the consent of the other.
Having been cheated on, I never want to make another human feel how I did, and by meeting a cheat, that's exactly what could happen. |
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There’s allegedly 38,000 members online right now. Since there are no rules about who can and cannot join people should accept that it’s open to all and direct their communication respectively.
But those with complicated lives should have the decency to be honest with those they talk to in order for everyone to make an educated choice.
It’s simple respect. Sadly lacking in many areas. |
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"I've seen many profiles and comments regarding people saying they against seeing people that are married or in a relationship. So my question is should they be on a swinging site or a dating site?
I think they should be on a dating site, I don't understand why their is so much hate towards married couples or those with free passes on here"
I don’t see why I should be on a dating site because I choose to honest and transparent. I choose to show respect to the significant other partner/s.
I am happy to play with those who are open with their partners or as you say have free passes. For me personally I see as a honour and privilege to get my filthy way with someone else’s significant other. I choose to support the wishes/boundaries of that significant other as well.
I certainly don’t see my choices as hating or judging anyone . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I state on my profile that I won't meet cheats... Why? I've been the woman wondering where the hell my other half is whilst he was balls deep in another woman. Finding out I'd been cheated on was horrendous and I NEVER want to be the reason another woman was to feel that pain.
I don't believe you can truly say you love someone whilst partaking in something that would ultimately break their heart and hurt them.
Why that should mean I should only be on a dating site is beyond me. |
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No I don't think anybody is obligated to meet anyone. I have no issue with people who won't meet me because I'm in a relationship. However I do find it strange when people are on a swingers site when they have a huge issue with people being in ethically non monogamous relationships. Nowt as queer as folk though. |
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"No I don't think anybody is obligated to meet anyone. I have no issue with people who won't meet me because I'm in a relationship. However I do find it strange when people are on a swingers site when they have a huge issue with people being in ethically non monogamous relationships. Nowt as queer as folk though. "
Totally agree
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"No I don't think anybody is obligated to meet anyone. I have no issue with people who won't meet me because I'm in a relationship. However I do find it strange when people are on a swingers site when they have a huge issue with people being in ethically non monogamous relationships. Nowt as queer as folk though. Totally agree"
But that seems to be because the post makes no sense...? |
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"No I don't think anybody is obligated to meet anyone. I have no issue with people who won't meet me because I'm in a relationship. However I do find it strange when people are on a swingers site when they have a huge issue with people being in ethically non monogamous relationships. Nowt as queer as folk though. Totally agree
But that seems to be because the post makes no sense...? "
What is? My comment was about my own experiences and I didn't write the OP. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've seen many profiles and comments regarding people saying they against seeing people that are married or in a relationship. So my question is should they be on a swinging site or a dating site? "
Cheating site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Easy to judge without having a full picture of the situation. Someone may be in a loveless/sexless relationship and still have the need for intimacy whilst still having the security of a relationship.
Someone might be in an abusive relationship and seeking affection as all they get is shit from their partner.
Someone may have discovered their partner is cheating and instead of getting mad, prefer to get even.
So many permutations... |
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"Easy to judge without having a full picture of the situation. Someone may be in a loveless/sexless relationship and still have the need for intimacy whilst still having the security of a relationship.
Someone might be in an abusive relationship and seeking affection as all they get is shit from their partner.
Someone may have discovered their partner is cheating and instead of getting mad, prefer to get even.
So many permutations..."
All very true however it is still perfectly reasonsble for someone to choose not to meet or have sex with someone that is married or attached and the partner isn't aware thst they are playing away. |
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"Easy to judge without having a full picture of the situation. Someone may be in a loveless/sexless relationship and still have the need for intimacy whilst still having the security of a relationship.
Someone might be in an abusive relationship and seeking affection as all they get is shit from their partner.
Someone may have discovered their partner is cheating and instead of getting mad, prefer to get even.
So many permutations..."
And someone else may prefer not to meet attached folk or are they not to be afforded the same level of choice? |
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It's a bit naive to think that everyone who says they are single actually are. People can be against it but they might actually be doing it and have no idea. |
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"It's a bit naive to think that everyone who says they are single actually are. People can be against it but they might actually be doing it and have no idea."
This ^^^
Some will say, but lots will carry on the deceit regardless, and the first you know about it is when he ghosts you immediately after sex |
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"It's a bit naive to think that everyone who says they are single actually are. People can be against it but they might actually be doing it and have no idea.
This ^^^
Some will say, but lots will carry on the deceit regardless, and the first you know about it is when he ghosts you immediately after sex"
he or she ghosts you  |
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By *ibonacciMan
over a year ago
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"I've seen many profiles and comments regarding people saying they against seeing people that are married or in a relationship. So my question is should they be on a swinging site or a dating site? "
I think people have lost your question a little as it tends to be an emotive subject and so the moral conscience brigade (ironic, on a Swinging site) are making their feelings known.
But lets try to answer your question. Technically they should aim for a dating site, unless they have a particular kink which is more likely to get fulfilled here.
But the lines blurred a number of years ago for Fab and it is no longer a "swingers only" platform - you can get a vanilla meet right up to an all-you-can-eat orgy-fest buffet.
And as regards whether someone is attached or not: who cares? None of my business and I never pursue the subject unless the person volunteers the info. I'm not here for dating so he other persons relationship status is none of my concern. |
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"All very true however it is still perfectly reasonsble for someone to choose not to meet or have sex with someone that is married or attached and the partner isn't aware thst they are playing away. "
Of course it is, never suggested otherwise. |
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"And someone else may prefer not to meet attached folk or are they not to be afforded the same level of choice? "
Of course they have the same level of choice, why wouldn't they? |
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"I've seen many profiles and comments regarding people saying they against seeing people that are married or in a relationship. So my question is should they be on a swinging site or a dating site? "
Whichever site they want to use....Nobody's place to tell anyone Where they can and can't be.
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There is no right or wrong way to fab. How people choose to fab is their choice. The only people that really shouldn’t be here are the ones that cannot accept other peoples choices and get butt-hurt, upset or angry about it.
But having said that……
There is no wrong or right way to fab. So if someone wants to use fab to air disappointment at other people having choice then I guess they can stay too, question is, why would they? |
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I believe fab is about honesty and its about all parties being involved and informed .
A married man for me is a no go only for the reason the wife is not aware and isn’t involved in the decision.
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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago
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"I've seen many profiles and comments regarding people saying they against seeing people that are married or in a relationship. So my question is should they be on a swinging site or a dating site?
I think people have lost your question a little as it tends to be an emotive subject and so the moral conscience brigade (ironic, on a Swinging site) are making their feelings known.
But lets try to answer your question. Technically they should aim for a dating site, unless they have a particular kink which is more likely to get fulfilled here.
But the lines blurred a number of years ago for Fab and it is no longer a "swingers only" platform - you can get a vanilla meet right up to an all-you-can-eat orgy-fest buffet.
And as regards whether someone is attached or not: who cares? None of my business and I never pursue the subject unless the person volunteers the info. I'm not here for dating so he other persons relationship status is none of my concern."
There’s no “technically” about it. I do not need to head anywhere else. Here is just perfect for me to find the dates I want.
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"It's a bit naive to think that everyone who says they are single actually are. People can be against it but they might actually be doing it and have no idea."
This is also very true x |
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"There is no right or wrong way to fab. How people choose to fab is their choice. The only people that really shouldn’t be here are the ones that cannot accept other peoples choices and get butt-hurt, upset or angry about it.
But having said that……
There is no wrong or right way to fab. So if someone wants to use fab to air disappointment at other people having choice then I guess they can stay too, question is, why would they? "
Ranting makes the adrenaline flow. Like an orgasm rush when no sex is available. |
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