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Are you a good communicator?
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"I feel comfortable to talk with new people , i'm relaxed and i can keep a conversation , like i mentioned before i can , but only with people who can do the same thing "
Thats a good point a one way conversation can be like pulling your finger nails out. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
I can be quite awkward around new people, especially in a group situation, and it takes me time to get comfortable to open up - one on one where I have to talk I'm not so bad, especially if the other person is happy to take the lead. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I managed about 3 minutes of chat with people at the MLS before they got that "fuck off!" look in their eyes and I had to move onto my next victim.
I'm shit at communicating. I have to draw pictures and then it goes from bad to worse. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everyone has a story of some kind, most people just don’t realise it.
I absolutely love it when you give someone the confidence just to talk and see how their expressions change as they start to connect the stories together.
Never again will they feel that uncomfortableness when at yet another work training session, the dreaded ice breaker question comes up:
Tell everyone something about you they don’t know |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are you comfortable chatting to new people, do you relax quickly and can you carry a conversation? "
Nope
As a aspie I tend to be crap at conversations so I lean more towards asking questions which is ok normally but nearly ended badly for me when being interviewed by a nawty villain who wanted me to set up a football academy for his team.
He thought I was dibble!!!!
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
I chat to anybody and everybody and Mrs rolls her eyes. Although after a couple of glasses red wine she’s far worse and will go and sit with complete strangers in a restaurant and discuss sex. Some of our best friends are people we’ve met randomly when out |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sometimes my body says more than my words 
You mean your cock has learnt sign language? "
Indeed and can fly like a helicopter also stand up to attention x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The biggest compliment ever paid to me was "you could walk into a room full of strangers and come out with friends" i'll never forget that  "
I've been told that I could start an argument in an empty room!
Not sure if that was a compliment though  |
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"The biggest compliment ever paid to me was "you could walk into a room full of strangers and come out with friends" i'll never forget that
I've been told that I could start an argument in an empty room!
Not sure if that was a compliment though "
They say that a lot about us down here too. We speak our mind and don't pull punches. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The biggest compliment ever paid to me was "you could walk into a room full of strangers and come out with friends" i'll never forget that
I've been told that I could start an argument in an empty room!
Not sure if that was a compliment though "
The scouse phrase is cause murder in an empty house  |
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"Sometimes but then not at others as some people are really difficult to talk to. Communication has to be a 2 way thing for me."
Well I can't ague with that you need two or more to make a conversation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can be quite awkward around new people, especially in a group situation, and it takes me time to get comfortable to open up - one on one where I have to talk I'm not so bad, especially if the other person is happy to take the lead."
^^This^^ is more like me. Unless alcohol is involved and sometimes if I get nervous or very excited I can burble away. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find it an awful effort but I am incredibly friendly when required. I dont think I get a point across very well so on that front dont consider myself good at communication. |
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Depends on the situation and the other person/people. You can pick up their vibe straight away and if there is something I don't like then I find it very hard to be open.
Also, as an introvert, I do take exception to the generally accepted idea in our society that loud/chatty = good and quiet = bad.
I'm not saying the opposite is true but that we prize the talker and overlook the listener |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I go on auto pilot from work (sales) so I can hold a conversation and keep one going but I don’t always pay much attention sadly unless particularly interested |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can or I could..not so sure now as I ve spent so long in silence that I ve withdrawn from everyone but my gf whom I see in the evenings. Dont even make eye contact outside of gf.  |
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I can be a bit of a chatterbox, and will talk for hours as long as I'm getting some kind of feedback...one-sided conversations can be hard work. I frequently start conversations with random strangers. |
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Yes, it's something I'm regularly given positive feedback on, across age groups and demographics. It's rare I'll struggle, and in retrospect it's often more them than me.
It took some work to get to that point, development, confidence, that sort of thing. I can be a situational extrovert if circumstances call for it. I hate it but I can. |
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"I love to chat but there are a lot on here who really struggle to communicate even at a basic level. "
I hate when you are talking with someone..and they just talk about themselves.
Or you ask them a question and get a 1 word answer back.
Its really hard to find someone you can have a proper conversation with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think that I can come across as rather awkward and have been called aloof in the past. But I think that it is shyness really as I relax when I get to know someone better. I'm not good in groups either |
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"I think that I can come across as rather awkward and have been called aloof in the past. But I think that it is shyness really as I relax when I get to know someone better. I'm not good in groups either "
I've practiced putting on masks, stepping into a role. It's still me and true to me, but I can hide behind a sense of doing a job, being a role, when the awkwardness kicks in. |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"I think that I can come across as rather awkward and have been called aloof in the past. But I think that it is shyness really as I relax when I get to know someone better. I'm not good in groups either "
I found you anything but aloof and awkward |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think that I can come across as rather awkward and have been called aloof in the past. But I think that it is shyness really as I relax when I get to know someone better. I'm not good in groups either
I've practiced putting on masks, stepping into a role. It's still me and true to me, but I can hide behind a sense of doing a job, being a role, when the awkwardness kicks in."
Yes I can relate to that... its different in my job as you say, it's being a role. Its when I dont have that particular armour on that I have issues |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think that I can come across as rather awkward and have been called aloof in the past. But I think that it is shyness really as I relax when I get to know someone better. I'm not good in groups either
I found you anything but aloof and awkward "
Lol yes but you are not a stranger |
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"I think that I can come across as rather awkward and have been called aloof in the past. But I think that it is shyness really as I relax when I get to know someone better. I'm not good in groups either
I've practiced putting on masks, stepping into a role. It's still me and true to me, but I can hide behind a sense of doing a job, being a role, when the awkwardness kicks in.
Yes I can relate to that... its different in my job as you say, it's being a role. Its when I dont have that particular armour on that I have issues "
I get that x I almost always wear armour |
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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago
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I've found as I grow older, its become easier to initiate conversations.
I used to be painfully shy, couldn't initiate any talking to save my life, or if someone spoke to me, I just dried up!
But one day, in a new senior job role, the MD said to me, "you've good verbal skills, so I'm putting you in charge of Sales!".
From that day, I prospered! |
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