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I might have not answered clearly .....
It is a bitter experience being let down by someone who came in two shoves and could never be plastered over with a I was so horny excuse......
It's a let down , down let , let down..... let .......... down. |
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"Guess it depends on how much time you had spent getting ready, and how much you were expecting back!  "
Yeah ........ so easy to do LOADS of stuff before the final dirty and just as easy to continue after.......
The let down is if he's one of those........ oh ...... i've come.... that's the end then ..... sos. Thats the let down. |
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"I might have not answered clearly .....
It is a bitter experience being let down by someone who came in two shoves and could never be plastered over with a I was so horny excuse......
It's a let down , down let , let down..... let .......... down."
Something of a disappointment is what I think you are trying to say? |
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If it's a quicky then it's not an issue for me. If I was expecting a bit of a session then I'd hope he'd recover and be able to go again. If not, well there's other things to do (or just break out the Scrabble  ). |
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I love foreplay and "encores" so I love a quick "cummer" that can repeat and repeat and repeat... and did I mention repeat ?
Also I like to see the fruit of my labour , a guy that can hold on all night makes me feel rather inadequate .
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
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"I love foreplay and "encores" so I love a quick "cummer" that can repeat and repeat and repeat... and did I mention repeat ?
Also I like to see the fruit of my labour , a guy that can hold on all night makes me feel rather inadequate .
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You're repeating yourself about the repeater.  |
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"As long as he makes an effort to please me too it's all good. "
This 
As long as he’s not pulling his chinos up whilst running for the front door as soon as he’s spaffed the situation is totally salvageable. |
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"Guess it depends on how much time you had spent getting ready, and how much you were expecting back!
Yeah ........ so easy to do LOADS of stuff before the final dirty and just as easy to continue after.......
The let down is if he's one of those........ oh ...... i've come.... that's the end then ..... sos. Thats the let down."
Ahh yes. Totally get that. Few thrusts and walking away like his work is done would be a recipe for a used condom being twatted at the back of his head. |
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"I love foreplay and "encores" so I love a quick "cummer" that can repeat and repeat and repeat... and did I mention repeat ?
Also I like to see the fruit of my labour , a guy that can hold on all night makes me feel rather inadequate .
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Yes this for me too |
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Sorry can not all guy's go at least a couple of times.
1 quick squirt does not seem much
Pretty much all people can all become overly aroused and orgasm can come quite quickly but surely you just mop the sweat off your brow and go again. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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The key is in how the guy reacts after - it's an affliction I can suffer from particularly with penetrative sex, and no matter how many different "methods" I've tried it's not one I can overcome - but with an understanding partner and taking your time to please them in other ways and not seeing cumming as "game over" it doesn't have to be a problem even if at times I do feel the need to apologise (and usually be told not to be silly).
Same with when "he" decides he's not going to play ball and rise to the occasion - there are plenty of other ways to be intimate and have just as pleasurable a time.
The problem is sites like this can cause a perception that you need to be able to go all night and continually remain hard, which for the vast majority of men is physically not possible.
Trouble is we let it play on our minds and think we've failed somehow, when the majority of the time if we accept it happens and behave like adults about it and find other ways to please our partners are happy - yes there may be some that seek to belittle because of it but frankly they're not the type of partner I would seek out anyway. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I quite enjoy it truth be told as long as I don't end up having to sneak to the toilet to have a quick wank/he doesn't roll over and fall asleep or try and quickly leave. I guess for me personally it's kind of hot and it normally leads to fingering/oral for me which is always a win. If it doesn't (and there's only been a couple of occasions!) I get a bit grumpy and feel a bit... put out?
I think GM is right - there's so much pressure put around penetrative sex and also the male erection being the the main focus of sex but if you enjoy exploring each other for what it is without a list of sexual expectations it's far better (in my experience anyway). |
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over a year ago
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I can cum pretty quick if iv
A, not cum in a while
B , am proper turned on
C, the girl is really good at what she does..but I can carry on regardless anyway. And once iv cum thats it I cant cum again for ages unless B & C get repeated |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"As long as he did it just to get that first one done and was a repeat "
Believe it or not we're not performing seals who "do" anything to order whether that be cumming too soon "to get that first one done" or the ability to repeat or anything else really - the key as I said above is how *both* people approach it - if it's done maturely and with an understanding and acceptance that it happens and there are other things that can be done - "As long as..." doesn't even have to come into it |
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Wow. Poor guy! Some of these comments make me sad.
No of course it wouldn’t bother me and even if I was a bit disappointed I wouldn’t let it show. You don’t do that to people. Not in my world anyway. |
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"As long as he did it just to get that first one done and was a repeat
Believe it or not we're not performing seals who "do" anything to order whether that be cumming too soon "to get that first one done" or the ability to repeat or anything else really - the key as I said above is how *both* people approach it - if it's done maturely and with an understanding and acceptance that it happens and there are other things that can be done - "As long as..." doesn't even have to come into it"
Ok you have arranged a meet, had a great social, built up anticipation with texts and fun chats. The meet is arranged child care sorted, u take extra effort shave, choose relevant outfit / underwear/ lingerie and the night arrives, U don’t want to just have a quick fumble for them to zip up and be done!!! How rude, now I understand if he couldn’t control his excitement and then that initial first come is out the way and u spend the rest of the night filled with mutual pleasure pleasing and teasing And god knows what else, yes it has to be two ways mutual, but Iv had more than my fair share of selfish fucks enough to refuse to participate in that one sided dynamic ever again, nothing about performing seals, two pumps and a squirt is what I’m talking about! At least seals perform |
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"As long as he did it just to get that first one done and was a repeat
Believe it or not we're not performing seals who "do" anything to order whether that be cumming too soon "to get that first one done" or the ability to repeat or anything else really - the key as I said above is how *both* people approach it - if it's done maturely and with an understanding and acceptance that it happens and there are other things that can be done - "As long as..." doesn't even have to come into it
Ok you have arranged a meet, had a great social, built up anticipation with texts and fun chats. The meet is arranged child care sorted, u take extra effort shave, choose relevant outfit / underwear/ lingerie and the night arrives, U don’t want to just have a quick fumble for them to zip up and be done!!! How rude, now I understand if he couldn’t control his excitement and then that initial first come is out the way and u spend the rest of the night filled with mutual pleasure pleasing and teasing And god knows what else, yes it has to be two ways mutual, but Iv had more than my fair share of selfish fucks enough to refuse to participate in that one sided dynamic ever again, nothing about performing seals, two pumps and a squirt is what I’m talking about! At least seals perform "
Brilliant comment x  |
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Depends.
Are they a repeater?
How quick is quick? 5mins or less is dissappointing regardless.
How much foreplay was involved.
If he is a 2 pump wonder with not much else going on, then no thank you!
Alot of us ladies can take hours getting ready.
Anything from a 10 min session to half hour is good with me, or even longer if it is broken into several rounds  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I always find if I am near to Cumming, I pull away and concentrate on the person I'm with. That way it gives you time to calm down a bit."
It’s not a crime it happens and sometimes when a guy does too soon you can tell they genuinely feel bad it wasn’t intentional X that’s the difference xx |
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"As long as he makes an effort to please me too it's all good.
Taxi to Liverpool please. 
Kill two birds I’ll put the kettle on x "
What's your postcode lol xxx |
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"is it a real let down when a guy comes to quick or do you like the fact that youve really got him turned on xx"
It’s the greatest compliment any man can pay a woman. |
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"I might have not answered clearly .....
It is a bitter experience being let down by someone who came in two shoves and could never be plastered over with a I was so horny excuse......
It's a let down , down let , let down..... let .......... down."
Stop sitting on the fence and tell us what you really think. |
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"I might have not answered clearly .....
It is a bitter experience being let down by someone who came in two shoves and could never be plastered over with a I was so horny excuse......
It's a let down , down let , let down..... let .......... down."
What about a round 2 Granny? |
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"I might have not answered clearly .....
It is a bitter experience being let down by someone who came in two shoves and could never be plastered over with a I was so horny excuse......
It's a let down , down let , let down..... let .......... down.
Stop sitting on the fence and tell us what you really think."
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"If I was meeting someone I like to be in their company having fun for at least an hour or more. Not just sex but fooling around having fun and relaxing who I am with."
And me...I like to take my time. Fooling around before the nitty gritty. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"is it a real let down when a guy comes to quick or do you like the fact that youve really got him turned on xx"
Oh hell no! its a HUGE let down, thats grounds for divorce... |
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"is it a real let down when a guy comes to quick or do you like the fact that youve really got him turned on xx
Oh hell no! its a HUGE let down, thats grounds for divorce..."
Guess it was no sex before marriage xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Wow. Poor guy! Some of these comments make me sad.
No of course it wouldn’t bother me and even if I was a bit disappointed I wouldn’t let it show. You don’t do that to people. Not in my world anyway. "
awe thats nice |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"is it a real let down when a guy comes to quick or do you like the fact that youve really got him turned on xx
It depends! If its when its still in his pants its disappointing. "
if that happened to me I would be so embarrassed id never meet a woman again |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Eh No, its actually a legally accepted grounds for getting rid of a man. If he hasn't learned a few simple tricks to delay himself then hes
A crap in bed
B selfish in bed
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I think it’s fair to state that all men have had times when they’ve cum far sooner than they, and their sexual partner had hoped for. If it’s due to being overly excited and turned on then they should soon be up for round two. It’s no big deal and second time around normally does the trick. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Wow. Poor guy! Some of these comments make me sad.
No of course it wouldn’t bother me and even if I was a bit disappointed I wouldn’t let it show. You don’t do that to people. Not in my world anyway. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The key is in how the guy reacts after - it's an affliction I can suffer from particularly with penetrative sex, and no matter how many different "methods" I've tried it's not one I can overcome - but with an understanding partner and taking your time to please them in other ways and not seeing cumming as "game over" it doesn't have to be a problem even if at times I do feel the need to apologise (and usually be told not to be silly).
Same with when "he" decides he's not going to play ball and rise to the occasion - there are plenty of other ways to be intimate and have just as pleasurable a time.
The problem is sites like this can cause a perception that you need to be able to go all night and continually remain hard, which for the vast majority of men is physically not possible.
Trouble is we let it play on our minds and think we've failed somehow, when the majority of the time if we accept it happens and behave like adults about it and find other ways to please our partners are happy - yes there may be some that seek to belittle because of it but frankly they're not the type of partner I would seek out anyway."
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"As long as he did it just to get that first one done and was a repeat
Believe it or not we're not performing seals who "do" anything to order whether that be cumming too soon "to get that first one done" or the ability to repeat or anything else really - the key as I said above is how *both* people approach it - if it's done maturely and with an understanding and acceptance that it happens and there are other things that can be done - "As long as..." doesn't even have to come into it
Ok you have arranged a meet, had a great social, built up anticipation with texts and fun chats. The meet is arranged child care sorted, u take extra effort shave, choose relevant outfit / underwear/ lingerie and the night arrives, U don’t want to just have a quick fumble for them to zip up and be done!!! How rude, now I understand if he couldn’t control his excitement and then that initial first come is out the way and u spend the rest of the night filled with mutual pleasure pleasing and teasing And god knows what else, yes it has to be two ways mutual, but Iv had more than my fair share of selfish fucks enough to refuse to participate in that one sided dynamic ever again, nothing about performing seals, two pumps and a squirt is what I’m talking about! At least seals perform "
As has already been established it's completely not good form to zip up and go - but it's also about understanding on *both* sides that it happens and not making a guy feel like he's somehow failed if he does go off quick - as I said there are plenty of other things that can be done and that are just as pleasurable either while he recovers or if he's unable to and *that* takes the mature approach I referred to above on the guy by not running for the hills and on the woman by not making him feel like a performing seal and expecting him to be able to get it up again immediately (which inevitably will lead to him not being able to) |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Eh No, its actually a legally accepted grounds for getting rid of a man. If he hasn't learned a few simple tricks to delay himself then hes
A crap in bed
B selfish in bed
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I'm obviously both crap and selfish in bed then - guess UNLOS is the only thing for me  |
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"Eh No, its actually a legally accepted grounds for getting rid of a man. If he hasn't learned a few simple tricks to delay himself then hes
A crap in bed
B selfish in bed
I'm obviously both crap and selfish in bed then - guess UNLOS is the only thing for me "
No it's C. Too decent a bloke for people like that to appreciate. |
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"Eh No, its actually a legally accepted grounds for getting rid of a man. If he hasn't learned a few simple tricks to delay himself then hes
A crap in bed
B selfish in bed
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Sex is a 2 way street
Woman can also be both of those things. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"Eh No, its actually a legally accepted grounds for getting rid of a man. If he hasn't learned a few simple tricks to delay himself then hes
A crap in bed
B selfish in bed
Sex is a 2 way street
Woman can also be both of those things."
No, sex is a one way street but it's about finding the right person to go down that street with - if you're not sexually compatible then inevitably it will lead to disappointment and frustration. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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I have a bit of a mean streak in bed and quite often (when the mood takes me) I enjoy getting a guy to cum as quickly as possible but in a way where he doesn’t really get any gratification from it and he’s left frustrated.
I derive great pleasure from that.
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"I have a bit of a mean streak in bed and quite often (when the mood takes me) I enjoy getting a guy to cum as quickly as possible but in a way where he doesn’t really get any gratification from it and he’s left frustrated.
I derive great pleasure from that.
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Do you let him cum again? |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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"I have a bit of a mean streak in bed and quite often (when the mood takes me) I enjoy getting a guy to cum as quickly as possible but in a way where he doesn’t really get any gratification from it and he’s left frustrated.
I derive great pleasure from that.
Do you let him cum again? "
Only if I want penetrating |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just make her cum a few times as you reload its no big deal
That’s the second time you’ve used that this morning!!
No it’s not, I’m on the wrong thread  "
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's a two way thing... If you think a guy is going to cum too quick change it up or take a break.. get him to do something else for a while...or tell him to think about his grandma that will stop him instantly |
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"It's a two way thing... If you think a guy is going to cum too quick change it up or take a break.. get him to do something else for a while...or tell him to think about his grandma that will stop him instantly"
unless its kevin bloody wilson |
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Dunno if it’s just me that thinks this way but a guy that cums within a few minutes of sex struggles to control his sexual urges? This is why foreplay is important and I advocate learning the technique of edging |
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"Eh No, its actually a legally accepted grounds for getting rid of a man. If he hasn't learned a few simple tricks to delay himself then hes
A crap in bed
B selfish in bed
I'm obviously both crap and selfish in bed then - guess UNLOS is the only thing for me
No it's C. Too decent a bloke for people like that to appreciate. "
People like what exactely? men v boys, decent man takes care of business first before himself, and im far from the only 1 here who believes that. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Eh No, its actually a legally accepted grounds for getting rid of a man. If he hasn't learned a few simple tricks to delay himself then hes
A crap in bed
B selfish in bed
I'm obviously both crap and selfish in bed then - guess UNLOS is the only thing for me
No it's C. Too decent a bloke for people like that to appreciate.
People like what exactely? men v boys, decent man takes care of business first before himself, and im far from the only 1 here who believes that."
And as I have said numerous times in my post who said anything about not "taking care" of others?
I've made it very clear that the key here is how *all* people concerned handle the situation - if a guy cums quickly gets flustered and heads for the hills that's obviously wrong, but so are partners who show a lack of understanding and acceptance when it does happen and expect him to immediately be able to repeat and stand to attention for round two like he's a performing seal.
There are plenty of pleasurable things that can be done while a guy recovers, or even if he can't - a guy cumming doesn't have to mean "game over" - by *either* party thinking it does just perpetuates the myth that guys should be able to go all night and stay hard the whole time, which for most is not physically possible.
I get that it can be frustrating, for all concerned, especially if it's something you've been looking forward to and preparing for etc - but again, handled maturely and with empathy and understanding, it doesn't have to be. |
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I’ve actually had the opposite. I met a girl in a bar, we went back to hers, kissing, stripping off, foreplay...all very good...we started fucking and it was all quite animalistic and wild, and after 10 minutes or so she came and then said to me “Did you cum too? No? Well I’ve finished I’m afraid and I want to go to sleep now. I’ll show you out.” Out of pettiness I stole a beer out of her fridge for the walk home.
So I ABSOLUTELY know the frustration of some of the women on here.
Cumming earlier happens, but it’s a two person game guys! Don’t walk out the restaurant whilst she’s still eating just because you’re arrived first. |
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