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"Or have you in fact ghosted someone?
What are your thoughts about either?"
Yes, we have. It pissed me iff because when you have kids, arranging a meet takes a huge amount of effort.
It's shitty, disrespectful, rude and childish. |
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over a year ago
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"Define ghosting
Where they just stop responding to any messages whatsoever. Or even sending them in the first place."
Do they ever send messages in the first place lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Define ghosting
Where they just stop responding to any messages whatsoever. Or even sending them in the first place."
I thought ghosting was arranging a meet and just not going then disappearing with no explanation |
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Yes, just before Christmas last year. Supposed to have met at a local pub, we texted and messaged on here on the day of the meet, nothing. We went to the pub at the arranged time anyway but he didn't show. Annoying yes, but we came home and had our own fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Define ghosting
Where they just stop responding to any messages whatsoever. Or even sending them in the first place.
I thought ghosting was arranging a meet and just not going then disappearing with no explanation "
Ghosting is cutting all contact out of the blue with no explanation, happens everywhere, not just fab. |
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"I probably have one of the worse experiences of being ghosted 
Is that a ply to get a full inbox "
No, basically what happened was, I got to know said individual, we chatted every night on the phone for around 8 weeks, during this time her father passed away and I was there for at every moment, I was even the first individual she spoke to after the funeral,..we agreed to meet and I spent 3 nights and days at her hours,..two days after this she completely ghosted me with no explanation |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You can’t be ghosted on fab. If someone stops responding before a meet that’s them simply changing their mind.
To be truly ghosted you need to have at least met the person or at the very least communication would need to have been frequent and a meet being arranged. Then without any explanation the person just stops responding.
It’s when you believe things are going well and then it just stops sudden.
Someone not answering a few messages that you’ve exchanged on here is not ghosting, that’s just someone changing their mind. |
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The problem with this site that this is like a box of chocolates your never know what your going to get out, men and women are always looking for the next best thing and maybe actually had a connection with someone they have ditched them to get the better candy failed then tried to then worm there way back with the previous chat buddy, you find you chat with somebody constant for say 48 hours then all of a sudden it stops and they won’t reply to your messages |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You can’t be ghosted on fab. If someone stops responding before a meet that’s them simply changing their mind.
To be truly ghosted you need to have at least met the person or at the very least communication would need to have been frequent and a meet being arranged. Then without any explanation the person just stops responding.
It’s when you believe things are going well and then it just stops sudden.
Someone not answering a few messages that you’ve exchanged on here is not ghosting, that’s just someone changing their mind. "
Precisely ^^^ not ghosting |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You can’t be ghosted on fab. If someone stops responding before a meet that’s them simply changing their mind.
To be truly ghosted you need to have at least met the person or at the very least communication would need to have been frequent and a meet being arranged. Then without any explanation the person just stops responding.
It’s when you believe things are going well and then it just stops sudden.
Someone not answering a few messages that you’ve exchanged on here is not ghosting, that’s just someone changing their mind. "
I understand the difference. But also didn’t properly explain the definition. So yeah, what are your thoughts on someone just all of a sudden blanking you. Even if you have met etc and not responding or messaging etc?
And obviously I’m not talking about meeting during Covid. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You can’t be ghosted on fab. If someone stops responding before a meet that’s them simply changing their mind.
To be truly ghosted you need to have at least met the person or at the very least communication would need to have been frequent and a meet being arranged. Then without any explanation the person just stops responding.
It’s when you believe things are going well and then it just stops sudden.
Someone not answering a few messages that you’ve exchanged on here is not ghosting, that’s just someone changing their mind. "
You can be ghosted on fab. I socialled with someone twice. Put plans in order for a full meet (ie arrangements for family work etc) He was pushing for it. We chatted that week he asked me to send him some pics on the Friday night. We were meant to be having the meet on the following Tuesday. Then zero. Nothing. That’s ghosting in my opinion it’s not a chat and no reply. I had already given up two afternoons to spend time with him and I had arranged my off duty to spend the day with him |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You can’t be ghosted on fab. If someone stops responding before a meet that’s them simply changing their mind.
To be truly ghosted you need to have at least met the person or at the very least communication would need to have been frequent and a meet being arranged. Then without any explanation the person just stops responding.
It’s when you believe things are going well and then it just stops sudden.
Someone not answering a few messages that you’ve exchanged on here is not ghosting, that’s just someone changing their mind.
I understand the difference. But also didn’t properly explain the definition. So yeah, what are your thoughts on someone just all of a sudden blanking you. Even if you have met etc and not responding or messaging etc?
And obviously I’m not talking about meeting during Covid. "
I think it’s a shit thing to do to someone.
If you’ve met and you’re not feeling it you should at least tell the person.
1) it gets rid of the hope they have of seeing them again so they can draw a line under it.
2) it would stop them blaming themselves and thinking they did something wrong
3) they can start getting over it if the person bluntly tells them that they aren’t interested and doesn’t want to meet again.
I feel like a lot of people who ghost, do so because they don’t want to be nasty or don’t want the person to think they’re bad people but it shouldn’t matter what the person thinks of them cos they’re not interested anyway.
A lot of this stuff is in my book! |
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We've been ghosted a few times on fab and other swinging sites after socials and an agreement to take things further. It does leave unanswered questions but the bottom line is they either decided they didn't want to meet after all or they had no intention of meeting in the first place. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You can’t be ghosted on fab. If someone stops responding before a meet that’s them simply changing their mind.
To be truly ghosted you need to have at least met the person or at the very least communication would need to have been frequent and a meet being arranged. Then without any explanation the person just stops responding.
It’s when you believe things are going well and then it just stops sudden.
Someone not answering a few messages that you’ve exchanged on here is not ghosting, that’s just someone changing their mind.
You can be ghosted on fab. I socialled with someone twice. Put plans in order for a full meet (ie arrangements for family work etc) He was pushing for it. We chatted that week he asked me to send him some pics on the Friday night. We were meant to be having the meet on the following Tuesday. Then zero. Nothing. That’s ghosting in my opinion it’s not a chat and no reply. I had already given up two afternoons to spend time with him and I had arranged my off duty to spend the day with him "
You had a social twice? That’s meeting them in person then so yeah that’s ghosting.
A lot of people just assume that if someone doesn’t answer a second or third message they’ve exchanged on here that equates to ghosting. Which it does not.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You can’t be ghosted on fab. If someone stops responding before a meet that’s them simply changing their mind.
To be truly ghosted you need to have at least met the person or at the very least communication would need to have been frequent and a meet being arranged. Then without any explanation the person just stops responding.
It’s when you believe things are going well and then it just stops sudden.
Someone not answering a few messages that you’ve exchanged on here is not ghosting, that’s just someone changing their mind.
I understand the difference. But also didn’t properly explain the definition. So yeah, what are your thoughts on someone just all of a sudden blanking you. Even if you have met etc and not responding or messaging etc?
And obviously I’m not talking about meeting during Covid.
I think it’s a shit thing to do to someone.
If you’ve met and you’re not feeling it you should at least tell the person.
1) it gets rid of the hope they have of seeing them again so they can draw a line under it.
2) it would stop them blaming themselves and thinking they did something wrong
3) they can start getting over it if the person bluntly tells them that they aren’t interested and doesn’t want to meet again.
I feel like a lot of people who ghost, do so because they don’t want to be nasty or don’t want the person to think they’re bad people but it shouldn’t matter what the person thinks of them cos they’re not interested anyway.
A lot of this stuff is in my book!"
Can I get a signed copy please?
Preferably with a boob imprint over the foreword  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You can’t be ghosted on fab. If someone stops responding before a meet that’s them simply changing their mind.
To be truly ghosted you need to have at least met the person or at the very least communication would need to have been frequent and a meet being arranged. Then without any explanation the person just stops responding.
It’s when you believe things are going well and then it just stops sudden.
Someone not answering a few messages that you’ve exchanged on here is not ghosting, that’s just someone changing their mind.
I understand the difference. But also didn’t properly explain the definition. So yeah, what are your thoughts on someone just all of a sudden blanking you. Even if you have met etc and not responding or messaging etc?
And obviously I’m not talking about meeting during Covid.
I think it’s a shit thing to do to someone.
If you’ve met and you’re not feeling it you should at least tell the person.
1) it gets rid of the hope they have of seeing them again so they can draw a line under it.
2) it would stop them blaming themselves and thinking they did something wrong
3) they can start getting over it if the person bluntly tells them that they aren’t interested and doesn’t want to meet again.
I feel like a lot of people who ghost, do so because they don’t want to be nasty or don’t want the person to think they’re bad people but it shouldn’t matter what the person thinks of them cos they’re not interested anyway.
A lot of this stuff is in my book!
Can I get a signed copy please?
Preferably with a boob imprint over the foreword "
Yeah. If you buy it I’ll sign it  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You can’t be ghosted on fab. If someone stops responding before a meet that’s them simply changing their mind.
To be truly ghosted you need to have at least met the person or at the very least communication would need to have been frequent and a meet being arranged. Then without any explanation the person just stops responding.
It’s when you believe things are going well and then it just stops sudden.
Someone not answering a few messages that you’ve exchanged on here is not ghosting, that’s just someone changing their mind.
I understand the difference. But also didn’t properly explain the definition. So yeah, what are your thoughts on someone just all of a sudden blanking you. Even if you have met etc and not responding or messaging etc?
And obviously I’m not talking about meeting during Covid.
I think it’s a shit thing to do to someone.
If you’ve met and you’re not feeling it you should at least tell the person.
1) it gets rid of the hope they have of seeing them again so they can draw a line under it.
2) it would stop them blaming themselves and thinking they did something wrong
3) they can start getting over it if the person bluntly tells them that they aren’t interested and doesn’t want to meet again.
I feel like a lot of people who ghost, do so because they don’t want to be nasty or don’t want the person to think they’re bad people but it shouldn’t matter what the person thinks of them cos they’re not interested anyway.
A lot of this stuff is in my book!
Can I get a signed copy please?
Preferably with a boob imprint over the foreword
Yeah. If you buy it I’ll sign it "
Deal   |
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By *hav02Man
over a year ago
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Yes i have, several times in life.
, including so called best friends.
Even ghosted by genuine people on fab, before the meet!
As a result, i care little about being ghosted and I've ghosted women too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I probably have one of the worse experiences of being ghosted
Is that a ply to get a full inbox
No, basically what happened was, I got to know said individual, we chatted every night on the phone for around 8 weeks, during this time her father passed away and I was there for at every moment, I was even the first individual she spoke to after the funeral,..we agreed to meet and I spent 3 nights and days at her hours,..two days after this she completely ghosted me with no explanation "
A little strange... Obviously something she saw in you or something you did that hit the cooler button...
Anyway your Status... Yep a banana first thing every single morning for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Twice. The worst was the guy I'd had a three year relationship with. One day he was talking about wedding plans and the next he had just completely disappeared off the face of the earth. To this day I struggle with it and it's really hard to trust anyone again.
Pre-covid, I met a guy and we really seemed to hit it off. We met about 7 or 8 times over a couple of months and I thought we were getting along really well. We had another meet planned and the of, I went to send him a message and found I had just been blocked with no explanation. That hurt a bit too.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah been ghosted on here and off dating apps.
Love it when they get back in contact after a couple of months ....blocking them makes me feel so much better after informing they already had a chance  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yep... I don't care enough for it to worry me too much, just a bit annoying is all. People probably think I am ghosting them as I don't always go into my inbox when online so can be weeks before I reply to anybody |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes.. was in a 9m relationship. Met my family swapped xmas birthday valentines. Went out one saturday night to chameleons ..as we did regularly .. by thursday was ghosted.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It depends on what you mean by ghosted. Sometimes the conversation just fizzles out. I always try to send a follow up message a week after just incase they were busy. |
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By *yronMan
over a year ago
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Yeah, a few times. First was at Uni, someone I thought was a good friend ignored me and acted like he'd never met me. But he would then talk to me when no-one else was about. Made for a pretty lonely time in my life. |
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By *yronMan
over a year ago
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"Not completely. They seem to reappear months down the line.
This
Went with it for long enough before deciding I was worth better than that and blocking him "
Wish I had, instead I wasted a lot of time over someone who wasn't worth it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I’ve been zombied a few times......
That’s when someone ghosts you and then contacts you 6 months to a year later... like nothing ever happened.....
First one was a married lady who lived around the corner from me... She would text me whenever she was walking her dog and meet me for car sex.... One night she texted to meet up , I get in my car and wait for her... for 30 minutes no contact... I leave... I figured her husband found out....
1 year later , I get a text .... Hey what’s up , you want to meet ? I replied with the classic “ Who is this “ lol
Second time I got ghosted... Was a single female I met on Instagram.... We hung out 3 times, sex was good everything was cool... She texted me on a Sunday night to hangout... I went out bought groceries , wine , cleaned up my apartment and shaved my balls....
Nothing... no text or phone call.....
2 years later I get a text... “ Hey sorry about last time , I started falling for you “
I replied no worries, I’m married with a kid on the way .....
Last one was the worst.... Young couple, 21 year old male , 19 year old female... I was their first bull and I thought it was great... they invited me over a second time because they had a female friend with them.... I get dressed, shave my balls and get in the car... I drive in traffic, and get to their house... text them I’m here... no response... I waited 1 hour... just because I didn’t want to drive home in traffic and I could possibly fuck 2 teenage girls... nothing, so I go home....
I get a text 8 months later “ Sorry about last time , we had a fight “ I responded “ Sorry, I don’t need sex that bad , fuck off “
They still text me almost every weekend begging me to come over ... they even offered me money and to send a Uber..... |
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"I’ve been zombied a few times......
That’s when someone ghosts you and then contacts you 6 months to a year later... like nothing ever happened.....
First one was a married lady who lived around the corner from me... She would text me whenever she was walking her dog and meet me for car sex.... One night she texted to meet up , I get in my car and wait for her... for 30 minutes no contact... I leave... I figured her husband found out....
1 year later , I get a text .... Hey what’s up , you want to meet ? I replied with the classic “ Who is this “ lol
Second time I got ghosted... Was a single female I met on Instagram.... We hung out 3 times, sex was good everything was cool... She texted me on a Sunday night to hangout... I went out bought groceries , wine , cleaned up my apartment and shaved my balls....
Nothing... no text or phone call.....
2 years later I get a text... “ Hey sorry about last time , I started falling for you “
I replied no worries, I’m married with a kid on the way .....
Last one was the worst.... Young couple, 21 year old male , 19 year old female... I was their first bull and I thought it was great... they invited me over a second time because they had a female friend with them.... I get dressed, shave my balls and get in the car... I drive in traffic, and get to their house... text them I’m here... no response... I waited 1 hour... just because I didn’t want to drive home in traffic and I could possibly fuck 2 teenage girls... nothing, so I go home....
I get a text 8 months later “ Sorry about last time , we had a fight “ I responded “ Sorry, I don’t need sex that bad , fuck off “
They still text me almost every weekend begging me to come over ... they even offered me money and to send a Uber....."
Its the preparatory shaving that puts the nail in the coffin. Ive been smooth so often all for nothing |
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"I’ve been zombied a few times......
That’s when someone ghosts you and then contacts you 6 months to a year later... like nothing ever happened.....
First one was a married lady who lived around the corner from me... She would text me whenever she was walking her dog and meet me for car sex.... One night she texted to meet up , I get in my car and wait for her... for 30 minutes no contact... I leave... I figured her husband found out....
1 year later , I get a text .... Hey what’s up , you want to meet ? I replied with the classic “ Who is this “ lol
Second time I got ghosted... Was a single female I met on Instagram.... We hung out 3 times, sex was good everything was cool... She texted me on a Sunday night to hangout... I went out bought groceries , wine , cleaned up my apartment and shaved my balls....
Nothing... no text or phone call.....
2 years later I get a text... “ Hey sorry about last time , I started falling for you “
I replied no worries, I’m married with a kid on the way .....
Last one was the worst.... Young couple, 21 year old male , 19 year old female... I was their first bull and I thought it was great... they invited me over a second time because they had a female friend with them.... I get dressed, shave my balls and get in the car... I drive in traffic, and get to their house... text them I’m here... no response... I waited 1 hour... just because I didn’t want to drive home in traffic and I could possibly fuck 2 teenage girls... nothing, so I go home....
I get a text 8 months later “ Sorry about last time , we had a fight “ I responded “ Sorry, I don’t need sex that bad , fuck off “
They still text me almost every weekend begging me to come over ... they even offered me money and to send a Uber.....
Its the preparatory shaving that puts the nail in the coffin. Ive been smooth so often all for nothing"
I feel your pain..... that’s why I love my long term couples... I can just show up and do my showering/grooming at their place..... |
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Currently being ghosted.
Dude practically harrassed me to get a date, I agree, we talk on kik for a week, have an hour phone chat, then silence since 3 days before we were due to me  |
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"Currently being ghosted.
Dude practically harrassed me to get a date, I agree, we talk on kik for a week, have an hour phone chat, then silence since 3 days before we were due to me "
Meet* |
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"Currently being ghosted.
Dude practically harrassed me to get a date, I agree, we talk on kik for a week, have an hour phone chat, then silence since 3 days before we were due to me
Meet*"
Trust me , he will rise from the dead next week and try to reschedule another date... But in the meantime before the next date , he will want to chat on kik and the phone until he does the same thing again....
Wash , rinse , repeat.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Currently being ghosted.
Dude practically harrassed me to get a date, I agree, we talk on kik for a week, have an hour phone chat, then silence since 3 days before we were due to me
Meet*"
Can’t believe anyone would ghost you, what an idiot. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Currently being ghosted.
Dude practically harrassed me to get a date, I agree, we talk on kik for a week, have an hour phone chat, then silence since 3 days before we were due to me
Meet*
Trust me , he will rise from the dead next week and try to reschedule another date... But in the meantime before the next date , he will want to chat on kik and the phone until he does the same thing again....
Wash , rinse , repeat...."
Yeh but I am not a mug, 1 shot and you are out, unless given a genuine reason with notice |
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