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By *ub bbwWoman
over a year ago
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yes I was for 5 years by a man i left everything for and i only found out when i caught him in bed with someone on the day of my brothers funeral he slept with over 100 women in 5 years. I am now definitely one who wants to know and if someone says they are atached i wont play with them even in clubs i look for the tell tale signs of wedding rings or tan lines on fingers. Honesty is best policy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we have the same rule also, Never play with anyone if we know that they are married or attached and is cheating, if they both are swingers then all is good |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"we have the same rule also, Never play with anyone if we know that they are married or attached and is cheating, if they both are swingers then all is good"
thats fair enough but if your own partner was cheating on you, would you want to know? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a bit of a weird question really. I think as people we always want to know the truth, we want to be right rather than ignorant.
*Maybe* this can be one instance where we'd actually be better off not knowing but the vast majority of people I think would still want to know, because they want knowledge for its own sake. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I would always want to know... But have always known in the past... I just let them get on with it...
Cali "
id kick his ass (not litterally) if i got cheated on.. wouldnt let him carry on thats for sure. He'd be gone! lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"we have the same rule also, Never play with anyone if we know that they are married or attached and is cheating, if they both are swingers then all is good
thats fair enough but if your own partner was cheating on you, would you want to know?"
yes i would want to know, but when we play as singles we both know who with when and when and have phone numbers |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would want to know if it was worth it. Loosing what he had? Don't think it would bother me who with well depends if its not a friend of myself. I don't see why those who are allowed to have sex with someone else in front of their partners would want to cheat why when they can do it with their partners. But those who don't do this and cheat well they get what they deserve in the end and that's ending up regretting what they did. But each to their own their choice to cheat.x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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mmmm not sure i would want to know and i think most people have a feeling something isn't right and to be honest i am not sure i would kick them to the curb. i think i would want to know why and i know some men cheat because they can but i also know some do it because the relationship is not all it could be. xxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No I don't think I would want to know. I hope the person would be big enough to end it with me first.
I think finding out would damage my self esteem, and take a long time to get over.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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as i posted above id like to know if he told me he was cheating ideally. The relationship would be over instantly. I couldn't be with someone who i no longer trusted or respected. If he couldn't communicate with me which lead to the cheating then i see nothing to base a relationship on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would always want to know... But have always known in the past... I just let them get on with it...
Cali
id kick his ass (not litterally) if i got cheated on.. wouldnt let him carry on thats for sure. He'd be gone! lol "
see for me it was a case of I knew.. but it didnt bother me.. let him think that I didnt know... It suited me to let it carry on.. I am sure many wives that are being cheated on do actually know... and as long as it doesnt affect the home life then thats that.
The amusing thing for me was that My ex cheated because I was always in the mood... go figure that one.. lol
but no matter why.. I just saw it as something they had to do...(then again I have only been faithful once)
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The heart doesn't grieve about something of which the mind is unaware.
Let's say your partner cheated but it was 20 years ago and since then he/she had been a faithful and loving partner. You find out about the cheating 20 years after the event. What do you do?
I've learned that in the course of human relationships that promises made are only kept whilst the love is alive and strong but once it's dead the promise dies with it, and if the love is dead then it doesn't matter anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When it happened to me with my ex, I knew, but she spent another two years denying it - no matter what evidence I put in front of her.
That hurt far more than knowing she was cheating...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When it happened to me with my ex, I knew, but she spent another two years denying it - no matter what evidence I put in front of her.
That hurt far more than knowing she was cheating...
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Cheating is not a result of someone's inability to adequately express how they feel about you, it is an expression of *exactly* how they feel about you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yup I would want to know.
If it isnt an honest open trusting relationship then I'm not interested.
If they didnt tell me and I found out from someone else, well I wouldnt waste my breath on 'the partner' again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would want to know, simply because i would'nt want to be seen as the stypid wife sat at home while her hubbys out fucking
I've known loads of people who have cheated on their partner and i dont know why but the person who is being cheated on is always referred to as stupid for not knowing etc and i wouldnt want everyone who knew seeing me or talking about me like that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes I'd want to know... nothing worse than thinking your going mad with little suspicions  also it's a really humiliating feeling to discover other people knew before ya  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we have an understanding that if wife meets a guy when out on the town as long as i get a text that she going to play all is fine, one night no text but she played told me when she got in i was not happy at all, as for me even thinking about other women in her mind thats cheating |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"we have an understanding that if wife meets a guy when out on the town as long as i get a text that she going to play all is fine, one night no text but she played told me when she got in i was not happy at all, as for me even thinking about other women in her mind thats cheating "
So she gets the best of both world's and you cop a fuck load of grief? Sod that for a game of soldiers!  |
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By *andKCouple
over a year ago
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"we have the same rule also, Never play with anyone if we know that they are married or attached and is cheating, if they both are swingers then all is good
thats fair enough but if your own partner was cheating on you, would you want to know?
yes i would want to know, but when we play as singles we both know who with when and when and have phone numbers "
same here - and also when we get home we let the other one know, for K's safety more than anything else |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"we have the same rule also, Never play with anyone if we know that they are married or attached and is cheating, if they both are swingers then all is good
thats fair enough but if your own partner was cheating on you, would you want to know?"
Before I started swinging I was with a guy for nearly 4 years. I found out in Feb that he'd had a 2 year affair. I wish I'd known when it had happened purely so I could have left him and given her the slap around the face she deserves. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"we have the same rule also, Never play with anyone if we know that they are married or attached and is cheating, if they both are swingers then all is good
thats fair enough but if your own partner was cheating on you, would you want to know?
Before I started swinging I was with a guy for nearly 4 years. I found out in Feb that he'd had a 2 year affair. I wish I'd known when it had happened purely so I could have left him and given her the slap around the face she deserves. "
i also think its that feeling of a wasted life, my first hubby was cheating on me and when i found out i just thought if i had knmown years ago i could have left and got on with my life instead of being in a dead end relationship with you
Whats the point in being with someone who didnt love or want me he may as well have left me and been single so he could fuck who he liked, but some want the wife at home so they dont have to do their owen cooking and cleaning but a single life while out |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"we have the same rule also, Never play with anyone if we know that they are married or attached and is cheating, if they both are swingers then all is good
thats fair enough but if your own partner was cheating on you, would you want to know?
yes i would want to know, but when we play as singles we both know who with when and when and have phone numbers
same here - and also when we get home we let the other one know, for K's safety more than anything else"
Thats a good rule, but thats not cheating that's swinging.
Cheating is without partners consent. I've been in a relationship before where he was cheating and yes I knew but I had 2 kids, didn't know where to turn so sat at home slowly going mad. It was him that walked away in the end and I then got grief for not begging him to stay but I was so relieved he'd gone and took the decision out of my hands I literally locked the door behind him & just carried on with my life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm very much in to BDSM but Siren isn't so I've had to supress my tendencies to control in our marriage. However, I'd dearly love to suspend her from the rafters and flog her (not beat her, there's a difference), so if she was to cheat on me, and I found out, I'd ask the following two questions:
First, does she plan on leaving or staying?
Second, if she says she wants to stay she'll have a choice to make: accept her punishment for her infidelity, or leave. It would be non-negotiable.
If she accepts, she gets what she wants and I get what I want. If she doesn't, we split up. |
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By *MissDxWoman
over a year ago
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Yes I would like to know.. Part of me thinks what I don't know won't hurt me but in the long run they have no respect for u and making a fool of ya... If your a swinger as a couple then why the need to cheat when you do be with other people together and enjoy things. Me missd has never cheated on someone before as I feel treat others the way you would like to be treated.. It has happened to me before and of course I found out and swiftly got rid of him  I just don't see the point in lying to anyone... X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm very much in to BDSM but Siren isn't so I've had to supress my tendencies to control in our marriage. However, I'd dearly love to suspend her from the rafters and flog her (not beat her, there's a difference), so if she was to cheat on me, and I found out, I'd ask the following two questions:
First, does she plan on leaving or staying?
Second, if she says she wants to stay she'll have a choice to make: accept her punishment for her infidelity, or leave. It would be non-negotiable.
If she accepts, she gets what she wants and I get what I want. If she doesn't, we split up. "
holy shit thats horny!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm very much in to BDSM but Siren isn't so I've had to supress my tendencies to control in our marriage. However, I'd dearly love to suspend her from the rafters and flog her (not beat her, there's a difference), so if she was to cheat on me, and I found out, I'd ask the following two questions:
First, does she plan on leaving or staying?
Second, if she says she wants to stay she'll have a choice to make: accept her punishment for her infidelity, or leave. It would be non-negotiable.
If she accepts, she gets what she wants and I get what I want. If she doesn't, we split up. "
That was a tongue in cheek post right? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm very much in to BDSM but Siren isn't so I've had to supress my tendencies to control in our marriage. However, I'd dearly love to suspend her from the rafters and flog her (not beat her, there's a difference), so if she was to cheat on me, and I found out, I'd ask the following two questions:
First, does she plan on leaving or staying?
Second, if she says she wants to stay she'll have a choice to make: accept her punishment for her infidelity, or leave. It would be non-negotiable.
If she accepts, she gets what she wants and I get what I want. If she doesn't, we split up. "
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I was married to my ex wife for almost 20 years and without trying to tart it up or explain it away as anything other than my being a complete shit, i lost her and everything we had due to my infidelity. My regret is a simple one that I cheated and more to the point my actions destroyed her love for me and what we had. My biggest regret is that I lied to her when she initially confronted me about it. So over 5 years on things are still tough for her and as a result for me. So all I can say is if I was cheated on I would want to know. Not really sure why I shared that but there it is
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm very much in to BDSM but Siren isn't so I've had to supress my tendencies to control in our marriage. However, I'd dearly love to suspend her from the rafters and flog her (not beat her, there's a difference), so if she was to cheat on me, and I found out, I'd ask the following two questions:
First, does she plan on leaving or staying?
Second, if she says she wants to stay she'll have a choice to make: accept her punishment for her infidelity, or leave. It would be non-negotiable.
If she accepts, she gets what she wants and I get what I want. If she doesn't, we split up.
That was a tongue in cheek post right? "
Nope, that's exactly what I would do. I'd figure that the worst case scenario is that the relationship is dead, so any improvement on that position would be a bonus. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"we have an understanding that if wife meets a guy when out on the town as long as i get a text that she going to play all is fine, one night no text but she played told me when she got in i was not happy at all, as for me even thinking about other women in her mind thats cheating
So she gets the best of both world's and you cop a fuck load of grief? Sod that for a game of soldiers! "
Agree with Wishy - kick her ass into the kerb mate! Stuff that!!!!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm very much in to BDSM but Siren isn't so I've had to supress my tendencies to control in our marriage. However, I'd dearly love to suspend her from the rafters and flog her (not beat her, there's a difference), so if she was to cheat on me, and I found out, I'd ask the following two questions:
First, does she plan on leaving or staying?
Second, if she says she wants to stay she'll have a choice to make: accept her punishment for her infidelity, or leave. It would be non-negotiable.
If she accepts, she gets what she wants and I get what I want. If she doesn't, we split up.
That was a tongue in cheek post right?
Nope, that's exactly what I would do. I'd figure that the worst case scenario is that the relationship is dead, so any improvement on that position would be a bonus."
Bloody hell - It's 'Pork agrees with Wishy day'!!!! Spot on - there is NO middle ground in this - been there, done that and got a range of T shirts!
If the transgressor GENUINELY wants to stay in the relationship, they HAVE to accept there will be a form of punishment of some kind. Personally I wouldn't have beat her to within an inch of her life at the time (should have done in retrospect) but there would still have been a punishment of some kind, which may or may not have been physical.
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By (user no longer on site)
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i also think its that feeling of a wasted life, my first hubby was cheating on me and when i found out i just thought if i had knmown years ago i could have left and got on with my life instead of being in a dead end relationship with you
Whats the point in being with someone who didnt love or want me he may as well have left me and been single so he could fuck who he liked, but some want the wife at home so they dont have to do their owen cooking and cleaning but a single life while out"
This is SO true hon, When I found out about my EX, he said he hadn't wanted me around for the last 7 years! 
I was so angry.. I'd wasted all that time loving some twat who hadn't the balls to be honest and finish it. What a fucker!  |
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"I'm very much in to BDSM but Siren isn't so I've had to supress my tendencies to control in our marriage. However, I'd dearly love to suspend her from the rafters and flog her (not beat her, there's a difference), so if she was to cheat on me, and I found out, I'd ask the following two questions:
First, does she plan on leaving or staying?
Second, if she says she wants to stay she'll have a choice to make: accept her punishment for her infidelity, or leave. It would be non-negotiable.
If she accepts, she gets what she wants and I get what I want. If she doesn't, we split up.
That was a tongue in cheek post right?
Nope, that's exactly what I would do. I'd figure that the worst case scenario is that the relationship is dead, so any improvement on that position would be a bonus."
i find it very hard to believe that you would choose to forget someone or not if they cheated on you based of if they allow you to flog them for it
Basically your giving someone the red light there do do what they want so long as they prepaired to take a flogging after for it
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By (user no longer on site)
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Basically your giving someone the red light there do do what they want so long as they prepaired to take a flogging after for it
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Is that not what the Catholic church does too?
Are you a religeous man Wishy?  |
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"I'm very much in to BDSM but Siren isn't so I've had to supress my tendencies to control in our marriage. However, I'd dearly love to suspend her from the rafters and flog her (not beat her, there's a difference), so if she was to cheat on me, and I found out, I'd ask the following two questions:
First, does she plan on leaving or staying?
Second, if she says she wants to stay she'll have a choice to make: accept her punishment for her infidelity, or leave. It would be non-negotiable.
If she accepts, she gets what she wants and I get what I want. If she doesn't, we split up.
That was a tongue in cheek post right?
Nope, that's exactly what I would do. I'd figure that the worst case scenario is that the relationship is dead, so any improvement on that position would be a bonus.
i find it very hard to believe that you would choose to forget someone or not if they cheated on you based of if they allow you to flog them for it
Basically your giving someone the red light there do do what they want so long as they prepaired to take a flogging after for it
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You have to understand the type of person that I am to understand why I said what I said above.
I'm not a possessive or jeaous person by any means, but I don't let people take advantage of me either. If she wanted to have sex with other men she knows I wouldn't mind it at all, and would even help her in selecting them, but, if she met a guy who wasn't into swinging and she still wanted ot shag him then she'd have to do it behind my back and that's unacceptable.
She makes her decision and acts on it leaving me to make my decisions should I find out. If it then changes our relationship so that she can shag who she wants as long as she takes her 'punishment' for it (if I find out), then that's acceptable as I'll be getting what I want too.
I actually don't care who she shags so long as I know about it. |
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Basically your giving someone the red light there do do what they want so long as they prepaired to take a flogging after for it
Is that not what the Catholic church does too?
Are you a religeous man Wishy? "
Not in any conception of the word. I am my own god. |
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In 47 years ive never knowly had anyone cheat on me. Ive always been open and if they wanted to go shag someone else it wouldnt bother me. However, if they cheated it wouldnt be the act of them shagging someone else it would be the lies especially if they where actually having an affair. Im also aware that its the secrecy and doing it behind the partners back that is the turn on. |
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i also think its that feeling of a wasted life, my first hubby was cheating on me and when i found out i just thought if i had knmown years ago i could have left and got on with my life instead of being in a dead end relationship with you
Whats the point in being with someone who didnt love or want me he may as well have left me and been single so he could fuck who he liked, but some want the wife at home so they dont have to do their owen cooking and cleaning but a single life while out
This is SO true hon, When I found out about my EX, he said he hadn't wanted me around for the last 7 years!
I was so angry.. I'd wasted all that time loving some twat who hadn't the balls to be honest and finish it. What a fucker! "
+1 same with what happened to me, and I felt the same - all that time wasted........
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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In proper long term relationship I would want to know - I have always subscribed to an honesty policy so really there is no need for cheating as my partner can do what he likes and so can I. If we choose to see other people, thats ok and if we dont thats fine also.
Cheating is only bad if it involves betrayal of trust usually that of an unsuspecting partner. Trust takes a long time to re-build after an affair if in fact it can be rebuilt. Hence for me cheating would not be worth that for me anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The heart doesn't grieve about something of which the mind is unaware.
Let's say your partner cheated but it was 20 years ago and since then he/she had been a faithful and loving partner. You find out about the cheating 20 years after the event. What do you do?
I've learned that in the course of human relationships that promises made are only kept whilst the love is alive and strong but once it's dead the promise dies with it, and if the love is dead then it doesn't matter anyway."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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wishy and porky
in my wife,s words you asked me if i would shag other guys for your pleasure which i agreed to.
i never asked you to shag other women so if you do your a cheating twat
"we have an understanding that if wife meets a guy when out on the town as long as i get a text that she going to play all is fine, one night no text but she played told me when she got in i was not happy at all, as for me even thinking about other women in her mind thats cheating
So she gets the best of both world's and you cop a fuck load of grief? Sod that for a game of soldiers!
Agree with Wishy - kick her ass into the kerb mate! Stuff that!!!!
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By *phroditeWoman
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"I would want to know, better always from them...
but then again, if they could open up, they may not cheat in the first place"
Absolutely, that is what I mean - if you are totally honest and open (and sometimes that in itself is difficult and can cause hurt) ... there is no need to cheat really ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm very much in to BDSM but Siren isn't so I've had to supress my tendencies to control in our marriage. However, I'd dearly love to suspend her from the rafters and flog her (not beat her, there's a difference), so if she was to cheat on me, and I found out, I'd ask the following two questions:
First, does she plan on leaving or staying?
Second, if she says she wants to stay she'll have a choice to make: accept her punishment for her infidelity, or leave. It would be non-negotiable.
If she accepts, she gets what she wants and I get what I want. If she doesn't, we split up.
That was a tongue in cheek post right?
Nope, that's exactly what I would do. I'd figure that the worst case scenario is that the relationship is dead, so any improvement on that position would be a bonus.
i find it very hard to believe that you would choose to forget someone or not if they cheated on you based of if they allow you to flog them for it
Basically your giving someone the red light there do do what they want so long as they prepaired to take a flogging after for it
You have to understand the type of person that I am to understand why I said what I said above.
I'm not a possessive or jeaous person by any means, but I don't let people take advantage of me either. If she wanted to have sex with other men she knows I wouldn't mind it at all, and would even help her in selecting them, but, if she met a guy who wasn't into swinging and she still wanted ot shag him then she'd have to do it behind my back and that's unacceptable.
She makes her decision and acts on it leaving me to make my decisions should I find out. If it then changes our relationship so that she can shag who she wants as long as she takes her 'punishment' for it (if I find out), then that's acceptable as I'll be getting what I want too.
I actually don't care who she shags so long as I know about it."
it always amazes me that people believe they can say what someone would do when they r not in that relationship and on this forum may not even know that person. every person deals with a situation slightly differently or completely differently. i think that if wishy things he can be cheated on an being able to flog her may keep there relationship together who the feck am i to disgree as i don't know him or there relationship. in my current relationship i real believe if he cheated i could forgive him, but maybe not trust him again and for him the fact i trust him is a huge thing so hey we all have our quirks  xxxxx
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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in the olden days and I mean pre social networking sites, issues were more private... people may have been more dignified when things went wrong.... 'doesn't excuse any cheating or the hurt'.....
now it seems people manage every facet of their relationships on line and at the click of a button.... all hell is let loose. |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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now it seems people manage every facet of their relationships on line and at the click of a button.... all hell is let loose."
Very true - our lives, all aspects of ... seem to be changing. Not all for the better... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i think that if wishy things he can be cheated on an being able to flog her may keep there relationship together who the feck am i to disgree as i don't know him or there relationship. "
You've misunderstood me a little. It's not about keeping the relationship going if I can flog her from time to time, it's about changing the dynamics of the relationship completely and letting her know I won't stand for being cheated on, else there are consequences - a flogging if she agrees to it, separation if she don't. It's all about sending an unequivocal message that says "got for it if you must, but there are ramifications". |
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"When it happened to me with my ex, I knew, but she spent another two years denying it - no matter what evidence I put in front of her.
That hurt far more than knowing she was cheating...
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You were married to my ex?
Had the same thing with my ex wife, that made me more angry then the fact she thought she could get away cheating on me! The actual 'act' of shagging someone behind my back was a very small part of anger/pain it causes.
As for knowing or not knowing, I've always be able to read my partners like a book, unfortunately a few pages behind not in front! So its not like I get a choice of knowing or not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If someone is cheating on you then there is a part of them you do not know. Therefore you would, logically, want to know and then you could make your informed decision where to go from there.
I think |
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