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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've seen a lot of body shaming going on in the threads lately... From people sharing their own experiences with it to threads that single out certain body types and have a tendency to make those that don't fit that category feel self conscious. Just thought I'd share my own story about body appreciation.
Lockdown was shit for a lot of reasons but honestly one of the best things to come out of it was the improved relationship I developed with my body. I lost my job two weeks in and, instead of flying off the binge-eating rails, I was determined to not let this setback get to me and focused a lot of my time and energy on my health instead. Especially when there were so many people becoming ill and dying it seemed almost a slap in the face to keep fucking myself up on purpose.
While a lot of good things have come from my new approach to health (reversed my diabetes and can now walk a 5k with no leg pain, not to mention the 3.5st weight loss), my newfound appreciation and love for my body has by far been the most noticeable. Before I would avoid looking at myself naked wherever possible, and always wore some sort of lingerie during sex (like the ones in my pics). Even though my body has not really changed much, the way I look at it has, and sometimes I catch a glimpse of my naked self and think "wow look at those curves!  ". When I realised that looking after my body was my way of thanking and appreciating it for everything it does for me, is when I started plucking out the positives in it instead of only seeing the bits I hate. Yes I still have a lot of work to do on it but this is the body I have at the moment and wow I fucking love it 
Anyway the point of this thread - as patronising as it sounds, I wish everyone could realise this. Obviously not everyone is self conscious but I do see a lot of people who are. Honestly life is too short. Whether you're a size 4 or 24, the only thing that should matter is the value you see in yourself, and reflecting that value in the way you treat yourself. It's not about changing your appearance, it's about changing your attitude and learning to appreciate your flaws - the rest will follow.
And who knows, maybe that bit about your body that you hate right now could become one of the things you love the most!  |
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I'm glad that other thread got removed.
Just no need for it. People are struggling with issues due to lockdowns and not being able to socialise as it is.
If you don't like someone's appearance use the block button and leave them alone no need to dig at them because of your insecurities |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"For a minute I thought this was about antibodies  . Too much Covid news I guess. "
Ha! Please no more, I've had enough of covid threads for the time being  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Impressive weight loss... well done but I'm curious what did you change nutriental wise?"
Thank you 
I cut out carbs. It's not for everyone but it's working for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"For a minute I thought this was about antibodies . Too much Covid news I guess.
Ha! Please no more, I've had enough of covid threads for the time being "
You held your own . Xx |
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"I've seen a lot of body shaming going on in the threads lately... From people sharing their own experiences with it to threads that single out certain body types and have a tendency to make those that don't fit that category feel self conscious. Just thought I'd share my own story about body appreciation.
Lockdown was shit for a lot of reasons but honestly one of the best things to come out of it was the improved relationship I developed with my body. I lost my job two weeks in and, instead of flying off the binge-eating rails, I was determined to not let this setback get to me and focused a lot of my time and energy on my health instead. Especially when there were so many people becoming ill and dying it seemed almost a slap in the face to keep fucking myself up on purpose.
While a lot of good things have come from my new approach to health (reversed my diabetes and can now walk a 5k with no leg pain, not to mention the 3.5st weight loss), my newfound appreciation and love for my body has by far been the most noticeable. Before I would avoid looking at myself naked wherever possible, and always wore some sort of lingerie during sex (like the ones in my pics). Even though my body has not really changed much, the way I look at it has, and sometimes I catch a glimpse of my naked self and think "wow look at those curves! ". When I realised that looking after my body was my way of thanking and appreciating it for everything it does for me, is when I started plucking out the positives in it instead of only seeing the bits I hate. Yes I still have a lot of work to do on it but this is the body I have at the moment and wow I fucking love it
Anyway the point of this thread - as patronising as it sounds, I wish everyone could realise this. Obviously not everyone is self conscious but I do see a lot of people who are. Honestly life is too short. Whether you're a size 4 or 24, the only thing that should matter is the value you see in yourself, and reflecting that value in the way you treat yourself. It's not about changing your appearance, it's about changing your attitude and learning to appreciate your flaws - the rest will follow.
And who knows, maybe that bit about your body that you hate right now could become one of the things you love the most! "
Good on you lovely! You look amazing in pics.
I’ve put weight on recently due to lockdown grr (I’m sticking to blaming lockdown) and some tablets I’m on as well  not feeling my best at the moment. I’m still buying new underwear and sharing pics on here, for a boost really, nice to know I’m still found attractive. I know it shouldn’t matter what others think, but when I’m feeling low it’s hard to find the positives myself.
Sorry bit of a ramble there x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Amber You are awesome and have been a great support to me so thank you.x"
Thank you Lorna x you have been a great help to me too lately  if it weren't for you I'd still be scared of my injections |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Amen OP. An admirable post and a highly commendable message you give.
Nice to see some positivity on here for once  "
Honestly sometimes I hear the things people say about themselves and I just think "wow... would you talk to a friend this way? Probably not so why do it to yourself?" |
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"I've seen a lot of body shaming going on in the threads lately... From people sharing their own experiences with it to threads that single out certain body types and have a tendency to make those that don't fit that category feel self conscious. Just thought I'd share my own story about body appreciation.
Lockdown was shit for a lot of reasons but honestly one of the best things to come out of it was the improved relationship I developed with my body. I lost my job two weeks in and, instead of flying off the binge-eating rails, I was determined to not let this setback get to me and focused a lot of my time and energy on my health instead. Especially when there were so many people becoming ill and dying it seemed almost a slap in the face to keep fucking myself up on purpose.
While a lot of good things have come from my new approach to health (reversed my diabetes and can now walk a 5k with no leg pain, not to mention the 3.5st weight loss), my newfound appreciation and love for my body has by far been the most noticeable. Before I would avoid looking at myself naked wherever possible, and always wore some sort of lingerie during sex (like the ones in my pics). Even though my body has not really changed much, the way I look at it has, and sometimes I catch a glimpse of my naked self and think "wow look at those curves! ". When I realised that looking after my body was my way of thanking and appreciating it for everything it does for me, is when I started plucking out the positives in it instead of only seeing the bits I hate. Yes I still have a lot of work to do on it but this is the body I have at the moment and wow I fucking love it
Anyway the point of this thread - as patronising as it sounds, I wish everyone could realise this. Obviously not everyone is self conscious but I do see a lot of people who are. Honestly life is too short. Whether you're a size 4 or 24, the only thing that should matter is the value you see in yourself, and reflecting that value in the way you treat yourself. It's not about changing your appearance, it's about changing your attitude and learning to appreciate your flaws - the rest will follow.
And who knows, maybe that bit about your body that you hate right now could become one of the things you love the most!
Good on you lovely! You look amazing in pics.
I’ve put weight on recently due to lockdown grr (I’m sticking to blaming lockdown) and some tablets I’m on as well not feeling my best at the moment. I’m still buying new underwear and sharing pics on here, for a boost really, nice to know I’m still found attractive. I know it shouldn’t matter what others think, but when I’m feeling low it’s hard to find the positives myself.
Sorry bit of a ramble there x "
No worries that's a nice pic so keep smiling and believe in yourself |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Amber You are awesome and have been a great support to me so thank you.x
Thank you Lorna x you have been a great help to me too lately if it weren't for you I'd still be scared of my injections "
Well im glad you are not now.
I was very happy to help and you know where I am. X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I've seen a lot of body shaming going on in the threads lately... From people sharing their own experiences with it to threads that single out certain body types and have a tendency to make those that don't fit that category feel self conscious. Just thought I'd share my own story about body appreciation.
Lockdown was shit for a lot of reasons but honestly one of the best things to come out of it was the improved relationship I developed with my body. I lost my job two weeks in and, instead of flying off the binge-eating rails, I was determined to not let this setback get to me and focused a lot of my time and energy on my health instead. Especially when there were so many people becoming ill and dying it seemed almost a slap in the face to keep fucking myself up on purpose.
While a lot of good things have come from my new approach to health (reversed my diabetes and can now walk a 5k with no leg pain, not to mention the 3.5st weight loss), my newfound appreciation and love for my body has by far been the most noticeable. Before I would avoid looking at myself naked wherever possible, and always wore some sort of lingerie during sex (like the ones in my pics). Even though my body has not really changed much, the way I look at it has, and sometimes I catch a glimpse of my naked self and think "wow look at those curves! ". When I realised that looking after my body was my way of thanking and appreciating it for everything it does for me, is when I started plucking out the positives in it instead of only seeing the bits I hate. Yes I still have a lot of work to do on it but this is the body I have at the moment and wow I fucking love it
Anyway the point of this thread - as patronising as it sounds, I wish everyone could realise this. Obviously not everyone is self conscious but I do see a lot of people who are. Honestly life is too short. Whether you're a size 4 or 24, the only thing that should matter is the value you see in yourself, and reflecting that value in the way you treat yourself. It's not about changing your appearance, it's about changing your attitude and learning to appreciate your flaws - the rest will follow.
And who knows, maybe that bit about your body that you hate right now could become one of the things you love the most!
Good on you lovely! You look amazing in pics.
I’ve put weight on recently due to lockdown grr (I’m sticking to blaming lockdown) and some tablets I’m on as well not feeling my best at the moment. I’m still buying new underwear and sharing pics on here, for a boost really, nice to know I’m still found attractive. I know it shouldn’t matter what others think, but when I’m feeling low it’s hard to find the positives myself.
Sorry bit of a ramble there x "
Thank you!
Oh I'm sorry to hear you're struggling. Honestly it's so understandable - and relatable! Food makes us feel good, right? People are super stressed, depressed and/or frustrated right and food is such an easy outlet for those emotions. Don't be too hard on yourself, you're a beautiful intelligent woman and a couple of extra snacks during a difficult time is not going to change that x |
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Honestly sometimes I hear the things people say about themselves and I just think "wow... would you talk to a friend this way? Probably not so why do it to yourself?" "
It can become a vicious self fuelling circle. It can often need outside intervention from a great friend to say something nice or positive to you to get you to see what is going on.
But good on you with your personal success and kudos for your thread. Being nice to people costs nothing but it can be of immense value to the recipient |
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"I've seen a lot of body shaming going on in the threads lately... From people sharing their own experiences with it to threads that single out certain body types and have a tendency to make those that don't fit that category feel self conscious. Just thought I'd share my own story about body appreciation.
Lockdown was shit for a lot of reasons but honestly one of the best things to come out of it was the improved relationship I developed with my body. I lost my job two weeks in and, instead of flying off the binge-eating rails, I was determined to not let this setback get to me and focused a lot of my time and energy on my health instead. Especially when there were so many people becoming ill and dying it seemed almost a slap in the face to keep fucking myself up on purpose.
While a lot of good things have come from my new approach to health (reversed my diabetes and can now walk a 5k with no leg pain, not to mention the 3.5st weight loss), my newfound appreciation and love for my body has by far been the most noticeable. Before I would avoid looking at myself naked wherever possible, and always wore some sort of lingerie during sex (like the ones in my pics). Even though my body has not really changed much, the way I look at it has, and sometimes I catch a glimpse of my naked self and think "wow look at those curves! ". When I realised that looking after my body was my way of thanking and appreciating it for everything it does for me, is when I started plucking out the positives in it instead of only seeing the bits I hate. Yes I still have a lot of work to do on it but this is the body I have at the moment and wow I fucking love it
Anyway the point of this thread - as patronising as it sounds, I wish everyone could realise this. Obviously not everyone is self conscious but I do see a lot of people who are. Honestly life is too short. Whether you're a size 4 or 24, the only thing that should matter is the value you see in yourself, and reflecting that value in the way you treat yourself. It's not about changing your appearance, it's about changing your attitude and learning to appreciate your flaws - the rest will follow.
And who knows, maybe that bit about your body that you hate right now could become one of the things you love the most!
Good on you lovely! You look amazing in pics.
I’ve put weight on recently due to lockdown grr (I’m sticking to blaming lockdown) and some tablets I’m on as well not feeling my best at the moment. I’m still buying new underwear and sharing pics on here, for a boost really, nice to know I’m still found attractive. I know it shouldn’t matter what others think, but when I’m feeling low it’s hard to find the positives myself.
Sorry bit of a ramble there x
Thank you!
Oh I'm sorry to hear you're struggling. Honestly it's so understandable - and relatable! Food makes us feel good, right? People are super stressed, depressed and/or frustrated right and food is such an easy outlet for those emotions. Don't be too hard on yourself, you're a beautiful intelligent woman and a couple of extra snacks during a difficult time is not going to change that x"
Thank you lovely that’s very kind.
I’m in the middle of swapping over antidepressants so kind isn’t in the best place at the moment and I find myself late night snacking. I need to get out of that habit.
I decided to join the gym last week and they shut the next day, can’t make it up!
I’m ordering some weight plates and bar next week, going to do body pump at home, so that’s making me feel positive. Xx |
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Most important part of appearance to me is how someone carries themselves. Can be any weight and any age, what attracts me is a person's energy. If you are happy with yourself I will be happy with you, all this "what's your type" is literally bullshit. Looking back on my ex's they had nothing in common apart from capturing my interest in their own unique ways |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I've seen a lot of body shaming going on in the threads lately... From people sharing their own experiences with it to threads that single out certain body types and have a tendency to make those that don't fit that category feel self conscious. Just thought I'd share my own story about body appreciation.
Lockdown was shit for a lot of reasons but honestly one of the best things to come out of it was the improved relationship I developed with my body. I lost my job two weeks in and, instead of flying off the binge-eating rails, I was determined to not let this setback get to me and focused a lot of my time and energy on my health instead. Especially when there were so many people becoming ill and dying it seemed almost a slap in the face to keep fucking myself up on purpose.
While a lot of good things have come from my new approach to health (reversed my diabetes and can now walk a 5k with no leg pain, not to mention the 3.5st weight loss), my newfound appreciation and love for my body has by far been the most noticeable. Before I would avoid looking at myself naked wherever possible, and always wore some sort of lingerie during sex (like the ones in my pics). Even though my body has not really changed much, the way I look at it has, and sometimes I catch a glimpse of my naked self and think "wow look at those curves! ". When I realised that looking after my body was my way of thanking and appreciating it for everything it does for me, is when I started plucking out the positives in it instead of only seeing the bits I hate. Yes I still have a lot of work to do on it but this is the body I have at the moment and wow I fucking love it
Anyway the point of this thread - as patronising as it sounds, I wish everyone could realise this. Obviously not everyone is self conscious but I do see a lot of people who are. Honestly life is too short. Whether you're a size 4 or 24, the only thing that should matter is the value you see in yourself, and reflecting that value in the way you treat yourself. It's not about changing your appearance, it's about changing your attitude and learning to appreciate your flaws - the rest will follow.
And who knows, maybe that bit about your body that you hate right now could become one of the things you love the most!
Good on you lovely! You look amazing in pics.
I’ve put weight on recently due to lockdown grr (I’m sticking to blaming lockdown) and some tablets I’m on as well not feeling my best at the moment. I’m still buying new underwear and sharing pics on here, for a boost really, nice to know I’m still found attractive. I know it shouldn’t matter what others think, but when I’m feeling low it’s hard to find the positives myself.
Sorry bit of a ramble there x
Thank you!
Oh I'm sorry to hear you're struggling. Honestly it's so understandable - and relatable! Food makes us feel good, right? People are super stressed, depressed and/or frustrated right and food is such an easy outlet for those emotions. Don't be too hard on yourself, you're a beautiful intelligent woman and a couple of extra snacks during a difficult time is not going to change that x
Thank you lovely that’s very kind.
I’m in the middle of swapping over antidepressants so kind isn’t in the best place at the moment and I find myself late night snacking. I need to get out of that habit.
I decided to join the gym last week and they shut the next day, can’t make it up!
I’m ordering some weight plates and bar next week, going to do body pump at home, so that’s making me feel positive. Xx"
Haha sod's law! Maybe just go for a walk outside I find the fresh air makes me feel a lot better and more invigorated, and helps calm my thoughts too. I put it off for a long time as I hated walking (and exercise in general lol) but now if I don't go out for a walk most days I start feeling a bit out of sorts.
Ah yeah antidepressants are so tricky. I was on citalopram a number of years ago and honestly never felt worse! |
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"I've seen a lot of body shaming going on in the threads lately... From people sharing their own experiences with it to threads that single out certain body types and have a tendency to make those that don't fit that category feel self conscious. Just thought I'd share my own story about body appreciation.
Lockdown was shit for a lot of reasons but honestly one of the best things to come out of it was the improved relationship I developed with my body. I lost my job two weeks in and, instead of flying off the binge-eating rails, I was determined to not let this setback get to me and focused a lot of my time and energy on my health instead. Especially when there were so many people becoming ill and dying it seemed almost a slap in the face to keep fucking myself up on purpose.
While a lot of good things have come from my new approach to health (reversed my diabetes and can now walk a 5k with no leg pain, not to mention the 3.5st weight loss), my newfound appreciation and love for my body has by far been the most noticeable. Before I would avoid looking at myself naked wherever possible, and always wore some sort of lingerie during sex (like the ones in my pics). Even though my body has not really changed much, the way I look at it has, and sometimes I catch a glimpse of my naked self and think "wow look at those curves! ". When I realised that looking after my body was my way of thanking and appreciating it for everything it does for me, is when I started plucking out the positives in it instead of only seeing the bits I hate. Yes I still have a lot of work to do on it but this is the body I have at the moment and wow I fucking love it
Anyway the point of this thread - as patronising as it sounds, I wish everyone could realise this. Obviously not everyone is self conscious but I do see a lot of people who are. Honestly life is too short. Whether you're a size 4 or 24, the only thing that should matter is the value you see in yourself, and reflecting that value in the way you treat yourself. It's not about changing your appearance, it's about changing your attitude and learning to appreciate your flaws - the rest will follow.
And who knows, maybe that bit about your body that you hate right now could become one of the things you love the most! "
Well said OP |
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I dont get what people get by trying to make feel bad another person. Is it satisfaction? Or is it a way of exteriorizing their own rejections to themselves. Anyway theres no justification for that. I shared this before on anoter post but is worth to share it again.
"Is fat really the worst thing that a human being can be? Is fat worse thqn vindictive jealous, shallow, vain, boring, evil or cruel? Not to me." JKR love ypurself sister
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Most important part of appearance to me is how someone carries themselves. Can be any weight and any age, what attracts me is a person's energy. If you are happy with yourself I will be happy with you, all this "what's your type" is literally bullshit. Looking back on my ex's they had nothing in common apart from capturing my interest in their own unique ways"
I appreciate this, but people often underestimate how hard it is to get to a place where you're happy with yourself! Especially when you have every aspect of society telling you to look a certain way... It's great that you have that view though |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I dont get what people get by trying to make feel bad another person. Is it satisfaction? Or is it a way of exteriorizing their own rejections to themselves. Anyway theres no justification for that. I shared this before on anoter post but is worth to share it again.
"Is fat really the worst thing that a human being can be? Is fat worse thqn vindictive jealous, shallow, vain, boring, evil or cruel? Not to me." JKR love ypurself sister
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Sometimes it feels like being fat is a crime, doesn't it?
I think there is something about being "different" that makes a lot of people subconciously think that you are choosing to open yourself up to criticism. If you don't measure up to societal standards you are seen as "sub par" and therefore it's okay to make comments, because obviously it's not like you're as much of a person as someone who is trying their best to fit in, right? |
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"I dont get what people get by trying to make feel bad another person. Is it satisfaction? Or is it a way of exteriorizing their own rejections to themselves. Anyway theres no justification for that. I shared this before on anoter post but is worth to share it again.
"Is fat really the worst thing that a human being can be? Is fat worse thqn vindictive jealous, shallow, vain, boring, evil or cruel? Not to me." JKR love ypurself sister
Sometimes it feels like being fat is a crime, doesn't it?
I think there is something about being "different" that makes a lot of people subconciously think that you are choosing to open yourself up to criticism. If you don't measure up to societal standards you are seen as "sub par" and therefore it's okay to make comments, because obviously it's not like you're as much of a person as someone who is trying their best to fit in, right? "
Will also say that this goes for other types of bodies too. Have seen celebrities who lose weight, post photos and have people commenting "eat a burger, you look anorexic" etc on them. It's so impossible to please everyone, which is why you should really only worry about pleasing yourself |
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It is hard. I'm saying all this while my profile pic is of my abs because that is what society expects from a male body. That pic was years ago and probably counts as catfishing by now
I set it when I was young and thought looks mattered |
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Well done on your weight loss.
" Whether you're a size 4 or 24"
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I'm a 26/28 and proud of my body. It took me a lot to get from a 32/34+ to this after abusive relationships. I hope you didn't mean that over 24 is nothing to be proud of. I'm sure you didn't. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Well done on your weight loss.
Whether you're a size 4 or 24 ....
I'm a 26/28 and proud of my body. It took me a lot to get from a 32/34+ to this after abusive relationships. I hope you didn't mean that over 24 is nothing to be proud of. I'm sure you didn't. "
Nooo of course I didn't! I just thought it rolled off the tongue nicely haha |
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It is a shame to try and Shame someone who is not ashamed. Lol
Why is it a bother if the person who should be bothered is not bothered lol
Why is it the people who should complain is not complaining lol
Live the life you love and love the life you live. |
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"I dont get what people get by trying to make feel bad another person. Is it satisfaction? Or is it a way of exteriorizing their own rejections to themselves. Anyway theres no justification for that. I shared this before on anoter post but is worth to share it again.
"Is fat really the worst thing that a human being can be? Is fat worse thqn vindictive jealous, shallow, vain, boring, evil or cruel? Not to me." JKR love ypurself sister
Sometimes it feels like being fat is a crime, doesn't it?
I think there is something about being "different" that makes a lot of people subconciously think that you are choosing to open yourself up to criticism. If you don't measure up to societal standards you are seen as "sub par" and therefore it's okay to make comments, because obviously it's not like you're as much of a person as someone who is trying their best to fit in, right? "
So many categories fit in here but what the heck, different is better than "normal" |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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It is a shame to try and Shame someone who is not ashamed. Lol
Why is it a bother if the person who should be bothered is not bothered lol
Why is it the people who should complain is not complaining lol
Live the life you love and love the life you live. "
Hmm. I wish I could say it doesn't bother me when someone body shames me, but it does. I think you would have to be INCREDIBLY thick skinned for it not to bother you.
For me it's not so much what someone says but the intention behind it, and the insinuation that I should be ashamed of my looks. |
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"Well done on your weight loss.
Whether you're a size 4 or 24 ....
I'm a 26/28 and proud of my body. It took me a lot to get from a 32/34+ to this after abusive relationships. I hope you didn't mean that over 24 is nothing to be proud of. I'm sure you didn't.
Nooo of course I didn't! I just thought it rolled off the tongue nicely haha "
Yeah, it does. |
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Good for you! I'm so pleased that you're feeling healthier and loving your beautiful body more.
For me lockdown caused a lot more binge eating, and it wasn't until I put my back out for the second time in a year that I really noticed how much it's needed looking after.
I switched to intermittent fasting after noticing that eating in the mornings made me feel bloated all day and eating late in the evenings meant I was waking up in the night with reflux. I haven't lost a lot of weight, but I feel a lot better, which is more important to me right now.
I started working with a PT doing the heavy weightlifting I always wished I could do, then started pole fitness not long after, and the changes I'm seeing in my body are amazing.
I'm still not far off the biggest I've ever been, but I love myself more than I ever have |
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Not sure what prompted this as I bailed out the other thread early.
But a happy person never runs people down. No need for body shaming.
Comments about size whether large or small cut deep it’s not about shaking them off. They shouldn’t be said in the first place.
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"Good for you! I'm so pleased that you're feeling healthier and loving your beautiful body more.
For me lockdown caused a lot more binge eating, and it wasn't until I put my back out for the second time in a year that I really noticed how much it's needed looking after.
I switched to intermittent fasting after noticing that eating in the mornings made me feel bloated all day and eating late in the evenings meant I was waking up in the night with reflux. I haven't lost a lot of weight, but I feel a lot better, which is more important to me right now.
I started working with a PT doing the heavy weightlifting I always wished I could do, then started pole fitness not long after, and the changes I'm seeing in my body are amazing.
I'm still not far off the biggest I've ever been, but I love myself more than I ever have "
That's great! Well done for making the changes you need in order to treat yourself better, you deserve it weight loss is a nice side effect but the priority is always the love and respect you feel for yourself x |
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"Not sure what prompted this as I bailed out the other thread early.
But a happy person never runs people down. No need for body shaming.
Comments about size whether large or small cut deep it’s not about shaking them off. They shouldn’t be said in the first place.
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Unfortunately it's hard to remember that they are unhappy and insecure when they are cutting you down. |
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Unfortunately it's hard to remember that they are unhappy and insecure when they are cutting you down. "
So true.
Why anyone would want to make someone feel bad is beyond me.
There must be some real issues there to want to intentionally upset people  |
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