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Is sex a let down?
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over a year ago
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I absolutely love the build up to meeting a guy,love the flirting, the talking about what we like, the promises,the admissions of guilty pleasures but then im left flat after the event,
Am i alone? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No that’s the best part but also may I add the messaging on the way to the meet is A nice little sprinkler too  "
As long as they're not driving.
I love the flirty messages on the day of the meet up. Builds up the excitement.
I'm usually snuggled under my fluffy blanket once we part to keep those feelings of "wow,I feel good" and let myself come down fully. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its the come down, i would imagine the excitement and anticipation and the sex released all sorts of good hormones, and then after, things get cleared and its a bit of a come down.
I think we all suffer it! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I absolutely love the build up to meeting a guy,love the flirting, the talking about what we like, the promises,the admissions of guilty pleasures but then im left flat after the event,
Am i alone?"
After sex, I have to snuggle up. I need a cuddle and human contact otherwise it can make me feel a bit shit. Once I'm on my own again, I tend to snuggle up in front of the TV or have a nap to resettle my mood. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The after sex come down can be really draining. It often was with an ex, our chemistry was off the scale. The drop always left me really emotional and him too.
I think part of the issue was that we both wanted more but couldn't.
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"I absolutely love the build up to meeting a guy,love the flirting, the talking about what we like, the promises,the admissions of guilty pleasures but then im left flat after the event,
Am i alone?
After sex, I have to snuggle up. I need a cuddle and human contact otherwise it can make me feel a bit shit. Once I'm on my own again, I tend to snuggle up in front of the TV or have a nap to resettle my mood."
In the BDSM world, “sub-drop” is a recognised thing but it carries across to the vanilla world too if it’s an intense feeling.
Don’t worry or feel embarrassed about it at all, just make sure you get the aftercare you want |
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I was really apprehensive about posting in here,I thought some would ridicule or be nasty but im so glad i did,i might become a regular contributor now
Thank you x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was really apprehensive about posting in here,I thought some would ridicule or be nasty but im so glad i did,i might become a regular contributor now
Thank you x"
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"I was really apprehensive about posting in here,I thought some would ridicule or be nasty but im so glad i did,i might become a regular contributor now
Thank you x
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I find thing's difficult when Mr Jones leaves because it's always intense but he can't stay. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Im quite relieved and surprised that a lot of you feel the same.
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I too feel relieved I’ve often felt the same way after a meet/sex great thread to hear others  I absolutely love the build up everything before and during it’s sometimes the after part strange empty feeling I can’t describe it doesn’t last long fortunately and then I’m back to normal  |
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"In the BDSM world, “sub-drop” is a recognised thing but it carries across to the vanilla world too if it’s an intense feeling.
Don’t worry or feel embarrassed about it at all, just make sure you get the aftercare you want "
This is what my mind went to as well. Aftercare is important, respect what your body needs.
Additionally, there appears to be pressure for women particularly to "suck it up" so as not to appear "clingy". This is dumb, and harmful - be willing to say you need a cuddle and some time to wind down together after a session, it doesn't mean you're falling for them or want their babies. It's right alongside all the other parts of making sure both parties are satisfied on a meet.
(This doesn't mean everyone needs the same thing, mind!) |
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Yep. Post holiday blues, post Christmas blues, etc are all accepted as normal things when yoy come down from a great experience. Post sex blues can totally be a thing that isn't often talked about and as others have said, it's often implied you're being clingy or looking for more if you do talk about it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In the BDSM world, “sub-drop” is a recognised thing but it carries across to the vanilla world too if it’s an intense feeling.
Don’t worry or feel embarrassed about it at all, just make sure you get the aftercare you want
This is what my mind went to as well. Aftercare is important, respect what your body needs.
Additionally, there appears to be pressure for women particularly to "suck it up" so as not to appear "clingy". This is dumb, and harmful - be willing to say you need a cuddle and some time to wind down together after a session, it doesn't mean you're falling for them or want their babies. It's right alongside all the other parts of making sure both parties are satisfied on a meet.
(This doesn't mean everyone needs the same thing, mind!)"
Exactly this. I make it very clear what I'm going to need after sex before I play with someone because if they just want a "fuck and go" so to speak, we will not be compatible. It won't be for everyone but you need to find the ones on your level. It makes a huge difference. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes. But once I get the foot pump and puncture repair kit out, she is back to full pressure again 
Tough crowd.  "
Oh sweetie. It's not even a joke is it. |
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"I was really apprehensive about posting in here,I thought some would ridicule or be nasty but im so glad i did,i might become a regular contributor now
Thank you x"
Thank you for bringing this subject up. I also thought it was just me been to needy.xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"NSA sex is like any drug - it's great at the time but the comedown is miserable.
Especially for singles.
I'm sure it's different for couples.
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We used to get it after meets too (as a couple). The reclaim sex helps but there's still a 'drop' after the excitement of a great meet. |
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Good question o/p. One of the reasons I like a social meet first and see if we connect mentally. I can definately tell after this if the physical side is going to be good and not just a 'quick fix'. |
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"I was really apprehensive about posting in here,I thought some would ridicule or be nasty but im so glad i did,i might become a regular contributor now
Thank you x"
Well this is great news. Hope to see more of you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I absolutely love the build up to meeting a guy,love the flirting, the talking about what we like, the promises,the admissions of guilty pleasures but then im left flat after the event,
Am i alone?"
Possibly meeting the wrong ones who knows.
Hope it improves so you get feeling you desire after the event |
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"NSA sex is like any drug - it's great at the time but the comedown is miserable.
Especially for singles.
I'm sure it's different for couples.
We used to get it after meets too (as a couple). The reclaim sex helps but there's still a 'drop' after the excitement of a great meet. "
Yes I guess what goes up must come down |
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9 times out of 10 my meets are us celebrating a great friendship so its always left on a high as the friendship will progress further
On the one offs yes for me feeling flat is common, hence why I don't like to do them anymore
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"9 times out of 10 my meets are us celebrating a great friendship so its always left on a high as the friendship will progress further
On the one offs yes for me feeling flat is common, hence why I don't like to do them anymore
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Positive mind there |
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Yeah I get that come down afterwards. I think it's because I've spent a long time getting to know people first and creating the build up. I just start over analysing everything afterwards too.
Mrs x |
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"NSA sex is like any drug - it's great at the time but the comedown is miserable.
Especially for singles.
I'm sure it's different for couples.
We used to get it after meets too (as a couple). The reclaim sex helps but there's still a 'drop' after the excitement of a great meet.
Yes I guess what goes up must come down "
Like a kite. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The secret is to set the bar incredibly low, bring down their expectations, but after you’ve finished, make them the best fish finger sandwich they’ve every had, (I recommend tar tar sauce) that way they will leave with a spring in their step and a new found love of the captain. |
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"The secret is to set the bar incredibly low, bring down their expectations, but after you’ve finished, make them the best fish finger sandwich they’ve every had, (I recommend tar tar sauce) that way they will leave with a spring in their step and a new found love of the captain."
Tartare sauce fish finger sandwich!  Marry me? |
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"The secret is to set the bar incredibly low, bring down their expectations, but after you’ve finished, make them the best fish finger sandwich they’ve every had, (I recommend tar tar sauce) that way they will leave with a spring in their step and a new found love of the captain.
Tartare sauce fish finger sandwich! Marry me? "
Only if we marry in Las Vegas both dressed as lobsters |
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"The secret is to set the bar incredibly low, bring down their expectations, but after you’ve finished, make them the best fish finger sandwich they’ve every had, (I recommend tar tar sauce) that way they will leave with a spring in their step and a new found love of the captain.
Tartare sauce fish finger sandwich! Marry me?
Only if we marry in Las Vegas both dressed as lobsters "
Deal! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes. But once I get the foot pump and puncture repair kit out, she is back to full pressure again
Tough crowd.
Oh sweetie. It's not even a joke is it. "
Of course it’s a joke cheeky |
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