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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Chin up u are lovely! X I dont feel lonely I feel ugly and not worth it  "
You are not ugly and it won't be you. Patience is key and trying not to overthink (not always easy I know). Participate in the forums more and just take it a day at a time. |
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By *isslush OP Woman
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"Chin up u are lovely! X I dont feel lonely I feel ugly and not worth it
You are not ugly and it won't be you. Patience is key and trying not to overthink (not always easy I know). Participate in the forums more and just take it a day at a time."
just tried of trying and people leading me on I'm a decent person |
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By *isslush OP Woman
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"Like to perve and process, I am a voyeur. Unless I get caught and questioned. And you are always welcome for a drink and Reggae  "
think we all like a pervert now and again and if you ain't hurting any one then I dont see why not |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm starting to think I'm the problem because no one wants to talk long enough to meet etc I just feel shit "
Don't let this place make you feel shit....unfortunately the majority of guys are after one thing and just then fuck off....you look great keep smiling.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Chin up u are lovely! X I dont feel lonely I feel ugly and not worth it
You are not ugly and it won't be you. Patience is key and trying not to overthink (not always easy I know). Participate in the forums more and just take it a day at a time. just tried of trying and people leading me on I'm a decent person "
I get times like that - 'the forums are boring full of the same old same old and there's no one out there for me'.
Your moods are temporary and a down mood will shift your perceptions of what is going on around you. When you're in the middle of it it feels like it will never end ... but it does. |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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The art of conversation is lost on most people I find. I was complimented once because I use paragraphs in my messages!
My experience so far is that in most cases if the conversation is not about meeting soon, then the conversation just stops.
We have questioned ourselves several times following similar situations and the reality is it’s not you and it’s not them, its just an incompatibility. Its easy to blame ourselves though, especially if the other person is someone we feel would be a good match.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm starting to think I'm the problem because no one wants to talk long enough to meet etc I just feel shit "
You are most definitely NOT any problem. It’s just the way the site can be and has nothing to do with you. Big love cutie x |
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By *az2019Man
over a year ago
Yorkshire/stockport |
Problem these days is choice and ease of access.
In times gone by you would meet people out and about, swap numbers and date/meet/naughties with.
Now you can go on pof. Tinder.badoo. Fab and all the other platforms.
And speak to fair more people, so there is no effort needed.
Thats why so many cheat now.
(Not putting myself in that list)
Tho I am looking for someone genuine who would like to put equal effort in and see where it goes xxx
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By *isslush OP Woman
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"Problem these days is choice and ease of access.
In times gone by you would meet people out and about, swap numbers and date/meet/naughties with.
Now you can go on pof. Tinder.badoo. Fab and all the other platforms.
And speak to fair more people, so there is no effort needed.
Thats why so many cheat now.
(Not putting myself in that list)
Tho I am looking for someone genuine who would like to put equal effort in and see where it goes xxx
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exactly no one puts the time in any more |
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By *omin8rMan
over a year ago
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"Chin up u are lovely! X I dont feel lonely I feel ugly and not worth it
You are not ugly and it won't be you. Patience is key and trying not to overthink (not always easy I know). Participate in the forums more and just take it a day at a time. just tried of trying and people leading me on I'm a decent person
I get times like that - 'the forums are boring full of the same old same old and there's no one out there for me'.
Your moods are temporary and a down mood will shift your perceptions of what is going on around you. When you're in the middle of it it feels like it will never end ... but it does."
Actually it is appreciated, and fun being the star, its distracting what all the critics write, and I totally enjoy the reading. That's why I rarely write to those gorgeous guys and girls. Except to see if all is going well. But my head spins from the different publications. Lol all have something different to say.
Lol
Keeps my brain working (I can handle the good and the bad, the bad sometimes see what's not there and sometimes give valid feedback. |
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By *isslush OP Woman
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"I'm starting to think I'm the problem because no one wants to talk long enough to meet etc I just feel shit
You are most definitely NOT any problem. It’s just the way the site can be and has nothing to do with you. Big love cutie x"
thank you very much |
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"Obviously your in the wrong community I guess. It’s a shame your far away, so many things we can do together, lighten up xx
NEVER tell anyone feeling low to “lighten up”.  "
Oh thanks for that but wasn’t referring to youse and lighten up in this context means she should be cheerful and be happy regardless of whatever situation she finds herself. That’s what everyone in her situation needs to know/hear. |
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By *isslush OP Woman
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"The art of conversation is lost on most people I find. I was complimented once because I use paragraphs in my messages!
My experience so far is that in most cases if the conversation is not about meeting soon, then the conversation just stops.
We have questioned ourselves several times following similar situations and the reality is it’s not you and it’s not them, its just an incompatibility. Its easy to blame ourselves though, especially if the other person is someone we feel would be a good match.
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most definitely its just get annoying then you sit here crying like a fool x |
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"Great have tried to pm but won’t let us how old are you
42 that's why lol "
Ok sorry your profile says 30-48 but that’s fine you are lovely and there will always be wankers who like to make people feel bad so keep your head up |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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DO NOT let fab influence the way you feel about yourself. If your feeling crap being on it step away and work at building your own self worth. When you come back do things your way. Don’t let people make you feel like shit. If someone isn’t offering what you need then cease contact with them. It’s took me a long time and being burnt to be this way but it’s refreshing when you start putting your own needs first  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm starting to think I'm the problem because no one wants to talk long enough to meet etc I just feel shit "
Anyone who's not interested in a conversation just wants an easy shag and clearly aren't right for what you're looking for.
Please don't let it get you down, you look really beautiful, patience will pay off and hopefully you find a meet that suits you. Remember there's no rush |
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By *isslush OP Woman
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"Chin up u are lovely! X I dont feel lonely I feel ugly and not worth it
You are not ugly and it won't be you. Patience is key and trying not to overthink (not always easy I know). Participate in the forums more and just take it a day at a time. just tried of trying and people leading me on I'm a decent person
I get times like that - 'the forums are boring full of the same old same old and there's no one out there for me'.
Your moods are temporary and a down mood will shift your perceptions of what is going on around you. When you're in the middle of it it feels like it will never end ... but it does."
I wasn't feel great but I was only but then this just topped it off |
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By *isslush OP Woman
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"I'm starting to think I'm the problem because no one wants to talk long enough to meet etc I just feel shit
Anyone who's not interested in a conversation just wants an easy shag and clearly aren't right for what you're looking for.
Please don't let it get you down, you look really beautiful, patience will pay off and hopefully you find a meet that suits you. Remember there's no rush "
awe thank you for you kind words and you know when you feel like you are running out of time so you feel like you got to rush |
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By *isslush OP Woman
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"DO NOT let fab influence the way you feel about yourself. If your feeling crap being on it step away and work at building your own self worth. When you come back do things your way. Don’t let people make you feel like shit. If someone isn’t offering what you need then cease contact with them. It’s took me a long time and being burnt to be this way but it’s refreshing when you start putting your own needs first "
oh most definitely |
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By *omin8rMan
over a year ago
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"Obviously your in the wrong community I guess. It’s a shame your far away, so many things we can do together, lighten up xx
NEVER tell anyone feeling low to “lighten up”.
Oh thanks for that but wasn’t referring to youse and lighten up in this context means she should be cheerful and be happy regardless of whatever situation she finds herself. That’s what everyone in her situation needs to know/hear. "
I like the sound of that or not, I see or not, I hear or not, I feel the buzz, the bite, the pinch, 
Imagine the shock, when some gets all tied up, when chained to work. Will have to rope in some elves and paddle to the north Pole. |
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"I'm starting to think I'm the problem because no one wants to talk long enough to meet etc I just feel shit "
If it's any consolation, OP, I largely just want to chat to people without necessarily the meet at the end of it, and the conversation can fizzle out eventually just as much....  |
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"I'm starting to think I'm the problem because no one wants to talk long enough to meet etc I just feel shit "
I would be happy meeting you and chatting etc. (Not sure if you would be though  )
However please don’t take this the wrong way as it’s not intended as a negative comment. Your located a long way from me so the logistics around meeting would be a bit of a mare.
I hope that you understand what I’m saying and that I’m not trying to be awkward. |
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By *isslush OP Woman
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"I'm starting to think I'm the problem because no one wants to talk long enough to meet etc I just feel shit
If it's any consolation, OP, I largely just want to chat to people without necessarily the meet at the end of it, and the conversation can fizzle out eventually just as much.... "
I know |
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By *omin8rMan
over a year ago
In A Playspace |
"On the upside, you're ing out the guys who are only interested in themselves. It will be worth it in the long run. And you're fine just as you are x"
 lol, should get concerned though being an open book, leaves can be ripped out and cause a lot of damage
On the other hand I don't know what you are talking about, even worst what they are. And I don't care lol. Stay off my doorstep. Just want to have fun. |
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By *omin8rMan
over a year ago
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"I'm starting to think I'm the problem because no one wants to talk long enough to meet etc I just feel shit
I would be happy meeting you and chatting etc. (Not sure if you would be though )
However please don’t take this the wrong way as it’s not intended as a negative comment. Your located a long way from me so the logistics around meeting would be a bit of a mare.
I hope that you understand what I’m saying and that I’m not trying to be awkward."
Everyone is a friend, no exception. |
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By *omin8rMan
over a year ago
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"On the upside, you're ing out the guys who are only interested in themselves. It will be worth it in the long run. And you're fine just as you are x
lol, should get concerned though being an open book, leaves can be ripped out and cause a lot of damage
On the other hand I don't know what you are talking about, even worst what they are. And I don't care lol. Stay off my doorstep. Just want to have fun. "
Its confusing .  talking about cleaners |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you want to meet someone, You need to be wider in your age range.
There may be either a 53 year old man or a 28 year old man who's perfect for you and within 10 miles of you, but cant contact you due to your age restrictions.
This is a common problem on here. Someone is a perfect match, likes interests, wants, etc but due to either the restrictive age range set or their 'looking for' settings being set at 'no single men' Then there is no way that they can be contacted by the other person.
Then the person with the restrictive profile put's on the Forum that they are not having any luck and cannot understand why.
Its quite simple, this is a fuck site, not a dating site.
If you want a fuck, dont be so fussy on age. Your losing out.
Also you should have realised by now that us blokes have the attention span of a dead Goldfish and dont want long arsed messaging conversations. We want to meet, see if we click, fuck and see how it goes from there. If it leads to more then thats good |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We tried to message you too, we’re 32,35 so in your age group..maybe it’s blocking a few people. your a good looking girl we’d definitely like to chat to you xx |
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By *omin8rMan
over a year ago
In A Playspace |
Some keep quiet because some speak German and some speak French, and often when the German speaks the French misread.
You may say in French stay of my doorstep, but could relate to losing more than the doormat, it could relate to anything in a safe.
Still learning and trying to understand what are the different modules in app teaching French.
Other than that not going anywhere. Unless something I miss. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Interesting,
When it's guys posting that they get no replies/interest, it's because their profiles are shite.
When a woman posts, there's a lot of sympathy
..... Just an observation."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm starting to think I'm the problem because no one wants to talk long enough to meet etc I just feel shit "
Google covid.
If they don't want to chat they either don't want to meet at the moment or you're just not compatible. |
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"I'm starting to think I'm the problem because no one wants to talk long enough to meet etc I just feel shit "
You are definitely not the problem.
The problem is men not wanting to chat and the fact that most people are not meeting due to the virus.
Keep your chin up and take care of yourself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Interesting,
When it's guys posting that they get no replies/interest, it's because their profiles are shite.
When a woman posts, there's a lot of sympathy
..... Just an observation."
Yup you see it in threads over
A guy would be mocked and told to change his approach and profile
So OP, what do you want out of Fab? How can you get it? Could your profile need adjusting? Look at your filters and age brackets.
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"Interesting,
When it's guys posting that they get no replies/interest, it's because their profiles are shite.
When a woman posts, there's a lot of sympathy
..... Just an observation.
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This.
Not having a go at the OP (I'm sure you're lovely) I just think it's unfair. |
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"Interesting,
When it's guys posting that they get no replies/interest, it's because their profiles are shite.
When a woman posts, there's a lot of sympathy
..... Just an observation."
100% agree with you there, you see it a lot in the forums |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Interesting,
When it's guys posting that they get no replies/interest, it's because their profiles are shite.
When a woman posts, there's a lot of sympathy
..... Just an observation.
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She’s not asked for profile advice tho.
She should..... but hasn’t. |
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