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I'm a mixture of both, I can get swept up with the thought of romance but I'm also a realist. I'm not perfect and neither is anyone else. We shouldn't have unrealistic expectations of people, else we end up sad and alone |
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"You can be both can't you?
You can get swept up initially in the romance but then reality sets in."
Romance doesn't ever just die off though does it? And depends what is classed by romance. I don't do flowers and chocolate version of romance but I do the unexpected cup of tea in bed version. |
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"Romantic or Realist? Which term best describes you?
Are they mutually exclusive or can you be a bit of both?
Asking for a friend   "
Due to my age and experience - a Realist as some of that romantic heart has been knocked out of me.....But not all of it  |
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"You can be both can't you?
You can get swept up initially in the romance but then reality sets in.
Romance doesn't ever just die off though does it? And depends what is classed by romance. I don't do flowers and chocolate version of romance but I do the unexpected cup of tea in bed version. "
That's more appreciation isn't it? Personally, I class romance as an emotion really - it's fleeting.
Even the dictionary definition classes it as a feeling.
Personally I think romance develops into something deeper. But then it's not romance any more. It's something better. |
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"Realistic Romantic
I adore romance but in a structured way, I know my expectations and am very vocal about them to him "
So marked out on a calendar like, Tuesday night is romance night and you will be done by 9 not a minute later?  |
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I'd say realist, but it does depend how you're defining romantic. Flowers, chocolates and grand, showy gestures? Nah, I find them devoid of any thought and pointless...done more for the giver than the receiver. The little things count for me |
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"I'd say realist, but it does depend how you're defining romantic. Flowers, chocolates and grand, showy gestures? Nah, I find them devoid of any thought and pointless...done more for the giver than the receiver. The little things count for me"
It's more for social media these days than anything else  |
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"You can be both can't you?
You can get swept up initially in the romance but then reality sets in.
Romance doesn't ever just die off though does it? And depends what is classed by romance. I don't do flowers and chocolate version of romance but I do the unexpected cup of tea in bed version.
That's more appreciation isn't it? Personally, I class romance as an emotion really - it's fleeting.
Even the dictionary definition classes it as a feeling.
Personally I think romance develops into something deeper. But then it's not romance any more. It's something better. "
And what does your dictionary call this something better? Is it when romance turns into love? |
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"You can be both can't you?
You can get swept up initially in the romance but then reality sets in.
Romance doesn't ever just die off though does it? And depends what is classed by romance. I don't do flowers and chocolate version of romance but I do the unexpected cup of tea in bed version.
That's more appreciation isn't it? Personally, I class romance as an emotion really - it's fleeting.
Even the dictionary definition classes it as a feeling.
Personally I think romance develops into something deeper. But then it's not romance any more. It's something better.
And what does your dictionary call this something better? Is it when romance turns into love? "
It turns into whatever it turns into. That's personal for each and everyone of us.
That's why you appreciate the little things and other people appreciate other things. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I'd say realist, but it does depend how you're defining romantic. Flowers, chocolates and grand, showy gestures? Nah, I find them devoid of any thought and pointless...done more for the giver than the receiver. The little things count for me"
I don't think the overt gestures are romantic, they're done for more selfish reasons like you said. Romantic for me is my partner buying me new rosin and putting it in my case because he knows I'm running low. Small things that show appreciation and thoughtfulness and that they care. |
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"Realistic Romantic
I adore romance but in a structured way, I know my expectations and am very vocal about them to him
So marked out on a calendar like, Tuesday night is romance night and you will be done by 9 not a minute later? "
Hardy ha ha 
More like being able to create a very romantic weekend without fear of mine or his feelings being taken the wrong way or imagined to be more than what they are |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"Realistic Romantic
I adore romance but in a structured way, I know my expectations and am very vocal about them to him
So marked out on a calendar like, Tuesday night is romance night and you will be done by 9 not a minute later?
Hardy ha ha
More like being able to create a very romantic weekend without fear of mine or his feelings being taken the wrong way or imagined to be more than what they are "
perfectly put
Why can’t you be both ? We both love the romantic side of swinging , but doesn’t mean we’re ruled by emotions , far from it, just think sunsets, seduction and candle lit dinners are fun! |
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"I'd say realist, but it does depend how you're defining romantic. Flowers, chocolates and grand, showy gestures? Nah, I find them devoid of any thought and pointless...done more for the giver than the receiver. The little things count for me
It's more for social media these days than anything else "
That as well 
But generic gifts? Without meaning to sound ungrateful, I'd rather people didn't bother...cook me a nice meal, or get me a copy of a book I've talked about loving as a kid...that shows me that you actually listen to me and care about what I like way more than going to Hotel Chocolat and buying whatever is on offer.
An ex many moons ago grew me some sunflowers in secret on his dad's allotment...he knew they are my favourite flower and that I don't like cut flowers, so that meant an awful lot to me. That's the kind of romance I like...and I'm a realist in so far as I realise that most people will go for the easy, generic option |
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Bit of a romantic but very much a realist. At 40 I've got a good handle now on how life and people behave in my world. There are times though when someone or something surprises me and the romantic side says 'could this be something different, or special even?'. More often than not I'm brought back down to earth which puts me back in realist mode. |
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"Hopeful romantic.
The trouble with me is that I want the moon on a stick. And I’m so delusional I think there is a small chance of getting it, if I hold on long enough "
The Moon on a Stick
https://youtu.be/ERDUbAv8Qz0 |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Romantic or Realist? Which term best describes you?
Are they mutually exclusive or can you be a bit of both?
Asking for a friend "
I think a person has to be a bit of both ..the " romalist ".. |
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I'm a romantic, but not a flowers, chocolate and gift romantic. My idea of romance is giving time, compliments and letting people know they are wonderful, special and beautiful. |
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I’m a realist but the right person can bring out my softer side. Never been a traditional romantic needing flowers or gifts, for me it’s more the little things they do throughout the year than on set days that speaks volumes. |
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Is romance not a realty?
We can either hide behind the safety of realist walls to keep hearts intact or follow them and take the chance of "who knows..." |
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"Is romance not a realty?
We can either hide behind the safety of realist walls to keep hearts intact or follow them and take the chance of "who knows..." "
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
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Realist but can be deeply affectionate with the right person. Genuine acts of consideration and appreciation are always chosen over the clichéd, stereotypical acts that I see as empty gestures. |
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"You can be both can't you?
You can get swept up initially in the romance but then reality sets in.
Romance doesn't ever just die off though does it? And depends what is classed by romance. I don't do flowers and chocolate version of romance but I do the unexpected cup of tea in bed version. "
This is the best type - which made me think, I should get off my ass and deliver a coffee with a slice of yesterday's birthday cake  |
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Being one doesn’t counter the other. Romance can look differently to each person and can come in many forms.
Sometimes romance is sending flowers to the office on your first day of a new job, and sometimes it’s picking up oil for the other persons car because you know they’re low and it’s on sale |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"I'd say realist, but it does depend how you're defining romantic. Flowers, chocolates and grand, showy gestures? Nah, I find them devoid of any thought and pointless...done more for the giver than the receiver. The little things count for me
It's more for social media these days than anything else
That as well
But generic gifts? Without meaning to sound ungrateful, I'd rather people didn't bother...cook me a nice meal, or get me a copy of a book I've talked about loving as a kid...that shows me that you actually listen to me and care about what I like way more than going to Hotel Chocolat and buying whatever is on offer.
An ex many moons ago grew me some sunflowers in secret on his dad's allotment...he knew they are my favourite flower and that I don't like cut flowers, so that meant an awful lot to me. That's the kind of romance I like...and I'm a realist in so far as I realise that most people will go for the easy, generic option "
I think that’s true for a lot of gift buying, when I hear people stressing saying they haven’t got a clue what to buy me or someone else, I think maybe you shouldn’t bother then. It takes effort and listening and you need to care and it should be enjoyable to buy and give gifts to people you care about. |
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You can be both and neither too people are far too complex to categorise into boxes most people are full of complex emotions and that's what is great about meeting new people and finding out about them. |
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You can be both... but I think I’m my heart I’m a hopeless romantic who wears her heart loudly on her sleeve for all to see.
For the right person, I’d move the universe for them and do everything I could to make them feel loved and special. X |
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"You can be both and neither too people are far too complex to categorise into boxes most people are full of complex emotions and that's what is great about meeting new people and finding out about them. "
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Im both...I romantacise about so many different things but the realist side knows it will never happen...not just talking sex and its neighbouring characteristics, all things. I suspect most people do to a degree..both that is  |
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"Romantic or Realist? Which term best describes you?
Are they mutually exclusive or can you be a bit of both?
Asking for a friend "
A bit of both but more leaning to realist I’d imagine |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
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"You can be both... but I think I’m my heart I’m a hopeless romantic who wears her heart loudly on her sleeve for all to see.
For the right person, I’d move the universe for them and do everything I could to make them feel loved and special. X"
Get ya kit off. Phwaor. |
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"You can be both... but I think I’m my heart I’m a hopeless romantic who wears her heart loudly on her sleeve for all to see.
For the right person, I’d move the universe for them and do everything I could to make them feel loved and special. X
Get ya kit off. Phwaor. "
Perv  |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
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"You can be both... but I think I’m my heart I’m a hopeless romantic who wears her heart loudly on her sleeve for all to see.
For the right person, I’d move the universe for them and do everything I could to make them feel loved and special. X
Get ya kit off. Phwaor.
Perv "
Awww thanks. |
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I'm both, I think a lot of people are.
I cry when I see clips of people doing romantic stuff, I think it's beautiful.
I know full well tho that relationships aren't that 2 minute clippet, but yeah, I'd love someone to want to do that kinda lush stuff for me, well, I would have done. Dunno about now, I'd probably think they were doing it to try and manipulate or have one up on me |
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