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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes but recently more in a thank god I left them kinda way.
I casually looked up my ex husband on Facebook the other night. I think I must have been d*unk or devoid of my senses out entire 9 year marriage.
I've been divorced 11 years now and it still baffles me how it even happened in the first place |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yeah! A girl from my younger years. Was mad into her but few things happened and we moved apart. Still think of her now. 30 years ago! "
Any way to track her down? Social media is great at re connecting people x x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Normally jobs me (the boy)
Apprentice at a nuclear power plant!!
Apprentice with a power distribution company
Highway’s traffic officer
Etc"
So is yours more a missed oppertunity? X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"..meh
Just thinking how different life would be..
Anyone else ever pondered on a 'what if'??
I'm on friendly terms with my exes, but there's only one is I'd go out with a second time."
Have you tried to re kindle things? Does she know x |
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"Never had one that got away, still great friends with my ex 
I honestly wish i could have been friends with mine. "
We should have never made the transition from good friends to lovers, luckily we could slip back into just friends as it didn't get nasty |
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Nah, I only had one serious relationship with a loser that racked up loads of debt in my name. He’s still doing the same now.
Luckily my best friend (now my husband) helped me sort out all the crap I got left to deal with and I have never looked back |
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"Yes but recently more in a thank god I left them kinda way.
I casually looked up my ex husband on Facebook the other night. I think I must have been d*unk or devoid of my senses out entire 9 year marriage.
I've been divorced 11 years now and it still baffles me how it even happened in the first place "
Ha ha I'm same when I look at my first husband x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Nah, I only had one serious relationship with a loser that racked up loads of debt in my name. He’s still doing the same now.
Luckily my best friend (now my husband) helped me sort out all the crap I got left to deal with and I have never looked back "
Glad youve got a happy ending.. one day i will get mine x x x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My longest relationship was when I was 30, it lasted less than a year but might of been longer had I not fucked it. Think about her once and a while because she was, is, a lovely woman, but I try not dwell on whatifs |
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"Normally jobs me (the boy)
Apprentice at a nuclear power plant!!
Apprentice with a power distribution company
Highway’s traffic officer
Etc
So is yours more a missed oppertunity? X "
Kinda, I was always very close to being chosen. But my current job takes me good places and is interesting so I’m not too upset. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"My longest relationship was when I was 30, it lasted less than a year but might of been longer had I not fucked it. Think about her once and a while because she was, is, a lovely woman, but I try not dwell on whatifs "
Oooh so does this mean you still have potential feelings?? Message her, even if just to say hi to a friend x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Normally jobs me (the boy)
Apprentice at a nuclear power plant!!
Apprentice with a power distribution company
Highway’s traffic officer
Etc
So is yours more a missed oppertunity? X
Kinda, I was always very close to being chosen. But my current job takes me good places and is interesting so I’m not too upset. "
Glad that youve a good job still x x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My longest relationship was when I was 30, it lasted less than a year but might of been longer had I not fucked it. Think about her once and a while because she was, is, a lovely woman, but I try not dwell on whatifs
Oooh so does this mean you still have potential feelings?? Message her, even if just to say hi to a friend x "
I don't have her number anymore and she's married now anyway  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"My longest relationship was when I was 30, it lasted less than a year but might of been longer had I not fucked it. Think about her once and a while because she was, is, a lovely woman, but I try not dwell on whatifs
Oooh so does this mean you still have potential feelings?? Message her, even if just to say hi to a friend x
I don't have her number anymore and she's married now anyway "
Guess you just smile when you think of her though..
Doubt anyone would see me as a 'one that got away'.. id be flattered if someone did think that highly of me x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My longest relationship was when I was 30, it lasted less than a year but might of been longer had I not fucked it. Think about her once and a while because she was, is, a lovely woman, but I try not dwell on whatifs
Oooh so does this mean you still have potential feelings?? Message her, even if just to say hi to a friend x
I don't have her number anymore and she's married now anyway
Guess you just smile when you think of her though..
Doubt anyone would see me as a 'one that got away'.. id be flattered if someone did think that highly of me x "
I think you need to start by doubting less and maybe thinking more highly of yourself first, you seem lovely on here so I wouldn't think it would be a stretch for others to see it though I don't know your exes lol
But yes, I smile whenever she crosses my mind |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I think you need to start by doubting less and maybe thinking more highly of yourself first, you seem lovely on here so I wouldn't think it would be a stretch for others to see it though I don't know your exes lol
But yes, I smile whenever she crosses my mind "
Awww Sirius  |
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Personally it's not really something I believe in. Things end for a reason. If it was important enough to both of you, you wouldn't have let it end and you certainly wouldn't have moved on. If its one sided you deserve someone who wants you just as much. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No, not anymore. I done the whole "what if" thing trying to fix a dead marriage, the only thing it achieved was destroying my health and self worth.
If they got away so to speak, it's because we weren't compatible in the first place, I'm right where I should be with the people in my life who want and deserve to be in it. |
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"Personally it's not really something I believe in. Things end for a reason. If it was important enough to both of you, you wouldn't have let it end and you certainly wouldn't have moved on. If its one sided you deserve someone who wants you just as much. "
I think this is a very healthy outlook to have. |
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By *RSTCouple
over a year ago
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Yeh, there are 2 girls in particular. One of which came along at the same time as I met Mrs DRST. It was a toss of the coin between the 2 in the early days. Pretty sure if I'd chosen the other lady I would not be on here and living the life we are now.
Some people are best left as "what if". If not then talk to them, there's nothing to lose if you don't already have them.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The guy I met on here who turned out to be married (in the cheat sense, not in a swingers sense)
I know in my head that I could never have trusted him yadda yadda yadda, but I've never had a connection like that before or since.
I probably should stop talking to him (we are still friends) as I think while he is on the scene no one else stands a chance....sigh... |
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"..meh
Just thinking how different life would be..
Anyone else ever pondered on a 'what if'?? "
Been giving this a lot of thought recently. Been chatting to an ex, that i should have never let slip away...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think a day goes by where there isn't a thought but you can't let that affect where you are right now. You can't change people to be what you want them to be. Just have to keep moving forward and resist looking back. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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I sometimes wonder what my life would be like if I’d not split up with my first serious fella. But then I’d not have the kids I have now, and I wouldn’t be without them.
I am where I am because of the choices I made in the past, and those choices were made for very good reasons. I’m where I am because of who I am. That’ll do me.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am where I am because of the choices I made in the past, and those choices were made for very good reasons. I’m where I am because of who I am. That’ll do me."
Pretty much ^^this^^.
I used to do what ifs (what if I hadn't messed up my 'A' levels and got to the London College of Printing? what if I hadn't got in a **real** mood with a particular girlfriend?).
But at the time those choices felt like the right ones so I am where I am (and who I am) because of those choices (and if I had made opposite choices doesn't mean the outcome would've been better). Try not to do what ifs now but occasionally they creep in. |
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"..meh
Just thinking how different life would be..
Anyone else ever pondered on a 'what if'?? "
Pondering "what if" is the bane of my life closely followed by "why didn't you say"
I am a bit of a worry monkey. |
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At the end of my last relationship there were many, and I thought he was gonna be the one that got away.
He isn't.
I'm his one that got away.
As much as we had good times, there would have been a hint of toxicity and I'd have been second guessing those what ifs even if the ones I wanted back then came true.
What if he wasn't married? Well he was.
What if we met sooner? Well we didn't
What if he was brutally honest? Well he wasn't
I owe myself better than that.
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"At the end of my last relationship there were many, and I thought he was gonna be the one that got away.
He isn't.
I'm his one that got away.
As much as we had good times, there would have been a hint of toxicity and I'd have been second guessing those what ifs even if the ones I wanted back then came true.
What if he wasn't married? Well he was.
What if we met sooner? Well we didn't
What if he was brutally honest? Well he wasn't
I owe myself better than that.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The guy I met on here who turned out to be married (in the cheat sense, not in a swingers sense)
I know in my head that I could never have trusted him yadda yadda yadda, but I've never had a connection like that before or since.
I probably should stop talking to him (we are still friends) as I think while he is on the scene no one else stands a chance....sigh..."
This for me too.
I didn't meet him but I want to 
I no longer talk to him but I want to.
It's so ridiculous I don't even know this man 
I think he was around at a time when I needed someone on my wavelength and I wished it was more.
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"The guy I met on here who turned out to be married (in the cheat sense, not in a swingers sense)
I know in my head that I could never have trusted him yadda yadda yadda, but I've never had a connection like that before or since.
I probably should stop talking to him (we are still friends) as I think while he is on the scene no one else stands a chance....sigh..."
You owe it to yourself to free yourself. |
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Nope, we parted because that was the right thing to do at the time.
Same as quelling my stubbornness and not telling someone to do one so they remained in my life was the right thing to do at that particular moment |
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I always wish i had gone to live in France with my French boyfriend 30years ago. No internet or mobiles in those days to remain in touch although wrote loads of letters. We drifted apart although found each other again several years later so we are now on touch and facebook friends. He has changed and so have i but those lovely memories will always remain.x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely.
What if I'd left my ex sacked off, wouldn't have my beautiful daughter but wouldn't have had to face 4 years of abuse and it still continues even after I left. |
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Yea for sure! The one that always crosses my mind still to this day! Mainly because her nickname is my preferred password of choice haha. She was perfect! I meet her at harcourt sands holiday camp some 16 years ago literally spent Everyday and night of our last week there together exchanged phone numbers to see each other again when we left (way before Facebook) we had spoke on the phone everyday! I crashed my moped the following weekend losing my phone and her in the process! had no way other way of contacting each other! Lauren from potters bar gone but never forgotten! |
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