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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Personally I find people who love themselves totally off putting and unattractive.
We’ve all got our vulnerabilities and that’s what makes us attractive. Thoughts ? ... |
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Depends on what you mean by loving yourself.
A lot of people put on a brave face to the world. Doesn't mean they're arrogant, it means they protect themselves from perceived hostility.
Self regard is healthy to a point. It keeps us stable.
My confidence is bloody hard won. I'm well aware of my vulnerability, but I've battled to overcome it. I am ok as I am. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The best folk are those who know how to love themselves... Think you're talking bout the ones that if they were chocolate they'd eat themselves lol
Different thing  |
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"Ahh but isn't truly loving yourself acknowledging and accepting your vulnerabilities  "
Abso-bloody-lutely.
OP I think you are getting confused between someone being able to love themselves and someone being up their own ass. |
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"Meant as if they’re gods gift to men / women.... I love myself too . And not in a “ look at me “ way . And its taken me a long time to do so too btw "
It's incredibly difficult to know how people really feel about themselves. I find that unrelenting arrogance off-putting, but in many cases I suspect it's a front and we should feel pity, rather than scorn. |
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"To be honest I find low self esteem unattractive."
Most people do. Which is challenging when you have low self esteem. (Which isn't to say you're wrong or doing the wrong thing - just, it makes it hard to escape) |
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"To be honest I find low self esteem unattractive.
Most people do. Which is challenging when you have low self esteem. (Which isn't to say you're wrong or doing the wrong thing - just, it makes it hard to escape)"
Yes I get that  .
I can empathise. |
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I love myself enough to know how I should be treated and what I should accept and allow.
I love myself enough to at times choose me over others.
I love myself enough to know I deserve to look after myself, yet don't always follow the actual self care through.
I love myself enough to treat myself with respect.
I know full well I'm far from faultless, however I do have beautiful qualities (as well as others I'd like to send plummeting to the depths of the ocean)
My looks tho.. I have good days, bad days, catwalk model days and Waynetta Slob days.
By catwalk model, I kinda mean "would tap that" days |
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"To be honest I find low self esteem unattractive.
Most people do. Which is challenging when you have low self esteem. (Which isn't to say you're wrong or doing the wrong thing - just, it makes it hard to escape)
Yes I get that .
I can empathise. "
I'm actually mostly confident these days. I'm just open about my process, I suppose. That I've won this.
I hope others see me showing my psychological working. And, to mix my metaphors horribly, take the ladder I'm throwing down to them. |
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"To be honest I find low self esteem unattractive.
Most people do. Which is challenging when you have low self esteem. (Which isn't to say you're wrong or doing the wrong thing - just, it makes it hard to escape)
Yes I get that .
I can empathise.
I'm actually mostly confident these days. I'm just open about my process, I suppose. That I've won this.
I hope others see me showing my psychological working. And, to mix my metaphors horribly, take the ladder I'm throwing down to them."
I think being open is a good thing. I find it difficult to help my friends with low self esteem simply because they don't believe anything good I say to them |
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"To be honest I find low self esteem unattractive.
Most people do. Which is challenging when you have low self esteem. (Which isn't to say you're wrong or doing the wrong thing - just, it makes it hard to escape)
Yes I get that .
I can empathise.
I'm actually mostly confident these days. I'm just open about my process, I suppose. That I've won this.
I hope others see me showing my psychological working. And, to mix my metaphors horribly, take the ladder I'm throwing down to them.
I think being open is a good thing. I find it difficult to help my friends with low self esteem simply because they don't believe anything good I say to them "
Yeah it's a tough one. Unfortunately they have to do that work themselves, there's no one path, etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My experience is that those that appear confident & vain are often the more insecure amongst us
Many wear a veil
Get to know them, put your pre-conceptions to one side |
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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago
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Slight aside but very relevant. It’s also about who you share your world with. For many years I was made to feel less than and allowed myself to listen.
Over the last three years I’ve removed that person and surrounded myself with people that promote rather than put down. Apart from this COVID that has kept me from many of them, I’ve never felt happier with myself as a human. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I like people who love themselves, it's an attractive trait to have, being comfortable with who you are. Where I draw the line is when people believe that everyone wants them/everyone is looking at them - that sort of line of thinking. It's a tad delusional but I do try and remember that people have issues and maybe it's their way of growing in confidence? Over compensating in a way. |
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By *ooBulMan
over a year ago
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For me .... the hardest thing in my life is to be truly honest with myself and express myself as honestly as I can. But that's the work in progress. kind of awareness and adapting to it the best I can!
Mind you I've got a lifetime to solve that puppy!   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Personally I find people who love themselves totally off putting and unattractive.
We’ve all got our vulnerabilities and that’s what makes us attractive. Thoughts ? ..."
100% agree with you
That’s what makes you stand out |
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