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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Do you like cuddles after you've played? Or does it depend on the person?
Personally I don't play with anyone I haven't already started to build a connection with and cuddles for me are a must along with conversation, giggles and some kind of affection. It seems to put a lot of guys off (I say guys because most women I've spoken to like a cuddle)
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you like cuddles after you've played? Or does it depend on the person?
Personally I don't play with anyone I haven't already started to build a connection with and cuddles for me are a must along with conversation, giggles and some kind of affection. It seems to put a lot of guys off (I say guys because most women I've spoken to like a cuddle)
So what's your thoughts on cuddling, forumites? "
I enjoy the cuddles and pillow talk after, especially as it normally leads to a second round x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definitely depends on the individual and how I’m feeling at the time.
If it’s a meet with a couple that I’ve planned for a while and got to know them then a cuddle is lovely afterwards as long as it’s what they want too
If I’m playing at a club then I’m not generally looking for a connection so I probably wouldn’t. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love cuddles but find that quite a few men avoid them like the plague as they think it'll make me catch feelings or whatever. It's just a cuddle...
As a result have had a couple of cuddle-less meets  |
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I'm built for cuddling, and enjoy it too
Sometimes, depending on how emotional you are, they can be better and more rewarding than the actual sex
And I'll hand my man points back at the door on the way out....  |
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I think cuddles are more important than sex, sometimes it's nice to just cuddle up, watch a film or just cuddle up in bed without having to worry that your getting those cuddles for something else later no strings cuddles you could say  |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"Absolutely essential imo . Yes I had a meet on here years back where there were none but nowadays I like affection as well. I'm hopefully getting cuddles soon x"
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"I like a cuddle. I'm not going to instantly fall in love with any guy who is somewhat nice to me despite what many of them seem to think  . Affection without commitment is entirely possible. "
Quite.
Warm fuzzy after/ before/ during an experience.
Then I take the metaphorical jumper off and any of that attachment hormone stuff that goes with it. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
Cuddling and snuggling is all as much a part of the experience as the sex for me - the thought of "just" having sex leaves me quite cold.
Even back when I went to clubs I enjoyed spending time with people after sex, just laying back and enjoying the moment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m looking to date with a view to a relationship so one off sex isn’t on my to do list. IF I did find myself wanting a one off with someone I wouldn’t spoon or cuddle them after it and would either leave or ask them to leave after the sex.
Cuddling, laughing, spooning, affection, all those things make me get attached to people who simply don’t want any attachment so I’d keep it to the fucking and sexual acts only. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you like cuddles after you've played? Or does it depend on the person?
Personally I don't play with anyone I haven't already started to build a connection with and cuddles for me are a must along with conversation, giggles and some kind of affection. It seems to put a lot of guys off (I say guys because most women I've spoken to like a cuddle)
So what's your thoughts on cuddling, forumites? "
I’m definitely a cuddler, in work and out of work. Whilst sex is fun and I’ll take it when I can get it, nothing beats a cuddle and chat afterwards with someone you have a connection with. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I like a cuddle. I'm not going to instantly fall in love with any guy who is somewhat nice to me despite what many of them seem to think . Affection without commitment is entirely possible. "
Agreed. It's a tad presumptuous isn't it? Yes, sure you've dicked me well but a good dicking isn't enough for me to fall madly in love with you. I'm naturally affectionate and tactile with people I like and those I meet tend to be of similar mentality towards it so it works well for me. |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
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"I’m looking to date with a view to a relationship so one off sex isn’t on my to do list. IF I did find myself wanting a one off with someone I wouldn’t spoon or cuddle them after it and would either leave or ask them to leave after the sex.
Cuddling, laughing, spooning, affection, all those things make me get attached to people who simply don’t want any attachment so I’d keep it to the fucking and sexual acts only. "
Got to say I'm probably the same with a lot of that. I love cuddles but I'd be very wary of being too cuddly with someone I wasn't thinking would be more than just a fuck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m looking to date with a view to a relationship so one off sex isn’t on my to do list. IF I did find myself wanting a one off with someone I wouldn’t spoon or cuddle them after it and would either leave or ask them to leave after the sex.
Cuddling, laughing, spooning, affection, all those things make me get attached to people who simply don’t want any attachment so I’d keep it to the fucking and sexual acts only.
Got to say I'm probably the same with a lot of that. I love cuddles but I'd be very wary of being too cuddly with someone I wasn't thinking would be more than just a fuck. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I enjoy a good cuddle and a hug. I've built up decent relationships with previous Fab meets so there's been a friendliness already before we meet. Who *doesn't* enjoy cuddling up to another warm body after a good seeing to? It doesn't mean it means anything romantically |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Aftercare is very important. I'm fine with not cuddling (and have met a few women that don't want that) but I wouldn't consider fucking and leaving unless it was something we agreed in advance. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not bothered one way or another about cuddles, i have as much fun either way. Any cuddles needed for emotional reasons are provided by hubby
I only meet to play in clubs so some are one offs and generally no cuddles, guys i meet more than once are more likely to want/give cuddles. When meeting as a couple we dont cuddle the guy we meet at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m looking to date with a view to a relationship so one off sex isn’t on my to do list. IF I did find myself wanting a one off with someone I wouldn’t spoon or cuddle them after it and would either leave or ask them to leave after the sex.
Cuddling, laughing, spooning, affection, all those things make me get attached to people who simply don’t want any attachment so I’d keep it to the fucking and sexual acts only.
Got to say I'm probably the same with a lot of that. I love cuddles but I'd be very wary of being too cuddly with someone I wasn't thinking would be more than just a fuck. "
I done it with my last meet back in February. A guy from Yorkshire, 5 hour train journey so agreed it would be a one off weekend due to distance, money and obviously now a global pandemic which prevents unnecessary travel!
Treated him like a king, bathed him, washed his hair, cuddled, spooned, kisses, laughs, watching films on sofa. Made me get attached, also he said months later that it made him miss having a girlfriend and now he’s got himself a bird (from up there we he lives!) |
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"Do you like cuddles after you've played? Or does it depend on the person?
Personally I don't play with anyone I haven't already started to build a connection with and cuddles for me are a must along with conversation, giggles and some kind of affection. It seems to put a lot of guys off (I say guys because most women I've spoken to like a cuddle)
So what's your thoughts on cuddling, forumites? "
Cuddles all the way. How can you lie back after having sex and watch Match of the Day without a cuddle.  |
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"Do you like cuddles after you've played? Or does it depend on the person?
Personally I don't play with anyone I haven't already started to build a connection with and cuddles for me are a must along with conversation, giggles and some kind of affection. It seems to put a lot of guys off (I say guys because most women I've spoken to like a cuddle)
So what's your thoughts on cuddling, forumites?
Cuddles all the way. How can you lie back after having sex and watch Match of the Day without a cuddle. "
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It all starts with a kiss and a cuddle, so why wouldn’t it end with one
Personally I’ve never not had a kiss, cuddle, laugh and chat afterwards, or before, for me it’s just all part of the evening. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you like cuddles after you've played? Or does it depend on the person?
Personally I don't play with anyone I haven't already started to build a connection with and cuddles for me are a must along with conversation, giggles and some kind of affection. It seems to put a lot of guys off (I say guys because most women I've spoken to like a cuddle)
So what's your thoughts on cuddling, forumites?
Cuddles all the way. How can you lie back after having sex and watch Match of the Day without a cuddle. "
Hahaha never heard a more true sentence |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you like cuddles after you've played? Or does it depend on the person?
Personally I don't play with anyone I haven't already started to build a connection with and cuddles for me are a must along with conversation, giggles and some kind of affection. It seems to put a lot of guys off (I say guys because most women I've spoken to like a cuddle)
So what's your thoughts on cuddling, forumites? "
Im the same,I only play with someone im connected with so yes like the closeness after.. otherwise it feels empty & robotic.. for me anyway |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do you like cuddles after you've played? Or does it depend on the person?
Personally I don't play with anyone I haven't already started to build a connection with and cuddles for me are a must along with conversation, giggles and some kind of affection. It seems to put a lot of guys off (I say guys because most women I've spoken to like a cuddle)
So what's your thoughts on cuddling, forumites?
Im the same,I only play with someone im connected with so yes like the closeness after.. otherwise it feels empty & robotic.. for me anyway "
Exactly this, I don't do empty and robotic. Makes me feel used and pretty crap. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Aftercare is very important. I'm fine with not cuddling (and have met a few women that don't want that) but I wouldn't consider fucking and leaving unless it was something we agreed in advance."
It is, very important. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I like a cuddle. I'm not going to instantly fall in love with any guy who is somewhat nice to me despite what many of them seem to think . Affection without commitment is entirely possible. "
You hit the nail on the head there Lacey. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So general consensus, I'm not a weirdo for wanting a cuddle before, during or after. Nice to know and I'll definitely be sticking to my guns on that one. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sounds like your demisexual OP. I do like a rapport with the person im sharing my body with. Also cuddles after sex "
What is demisexual? Excuse my ignorance but it's not a term I've ever heard. |
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"I like a cuddle. I'm not going to instantly fall in love with any guy who is somewhat nice to me despite what many of them seem to think . Affection without commitment is entirely possible.
Agreed. It's a tad presumptuous isn't it? Yes, sure you've dicked me well but a good dicking isn't enough for me to fall madly in love with you. I'm naturally affectionate and tactile with people I like and those I meet tend to be of similar mentality towards it so it works well for me."
Absolutely the same. I love it when someone is chilled enough with you that you can be cuddley together and hang out. It's so off-putting when they're obviously on edge about anything that isn't putting their dick inside you incase you suddenly propose marriage . If you're both on the same page and discuss your personal boundaries then it's all good! |
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"Sounds like your demisexual OP. I do like a rapport with the person im sharing my body with. Also cuddles after sex
What is demisexual? Excuse my ignorance but it's not a term I've ever heard. "
I'm demisexual. I'd describe it as needing a level of connection to a person to be sexually attracted to them. |
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"I like a cuddle. I'm not going to instantly fall in love with any guy who is somewhat nice to me despite what many of them seem to think . Affection without commitment is entirely possible.
You hit the nail on the head there Lacey. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m very tactile so cuddles before and after is just a natural way for a meet to go, would feel cold if we just got up and left."
Same for me. I'm very tactile too but some seem to find it odd. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sounds like your demisexual OP. I do like a rapport with the person im sharing my body with. Also cuddles after sex
What is demisexual? Excuse my ignorance but it's not a term I've ever heard.
I'm demisexual. I'd describe it as needing a level of connection to a person to be sexually attracted to them. "
Ah okay, makes sense. Thank you xx |
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"I need that down time after....I love cuddles and just taking the whole experience in and chatting.
Saying that though, my meets on here never ended in cuddles
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Have a cyber cuddle from me Gobby |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I need that down time after....I love cuddles and just taking the whole experience in and chatting.
Saying that though, my meets on here never ended in cuddles
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I'll have cuddles with you darling |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So general consensus, I'm not a weirdo for wanting a cuddle before, during or after. Nice to know and I'll definitely be sticking to my guns on that one.
No - you're a cuddly weirdo.
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I'll take that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I need that down time after....I love cuddles and just taking the whole experience in and chatting.
Saying that though, my meets on here never ended in cuddles
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*squeeze* |
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By *B69Woman
over a year ago
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"I’m very tactile so cuddles before and after is just a natural way for a meet to go, would feel cold if we just got up and left.
Same for me. I'm very tactile too but some seem to find it odd. "
I always say I’m like that and if it’s not for them then I wouldn’t meet |
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"I need that down time after....I love cuddles and just taking the whole experience in and chatting.
Saying that though, my meets on here never ended in cuddles
Have a cyber cuddle from me Gobby "
Awww that is very sweet of you thank you
Hugs back |
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"I need that down time after....I love cuddles and just taking the whole experience in and chatting.
Saying that though, my meets on here never ended in cuddles
I'll have cuddles with you darling "
Yay well that would make it so much better.
It’s weird but I felt absolutely crap after, I think the time after is just as important. Maybe it’s something most women need? |
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"I need that down time after....I love cuddles and just taking the whole experience in and chatting.
Saying that though, my meets on here never ended in cuddles
*squeeze*"
Oh I would most definitely squeeze you breathless  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I need that down time after....I love cuddles and just taking the whole experience in and chatting.
Saying that though, my meets on here never ended in cuddles
*squeeze*
Oh I would most definitely squeeze you breathless "
I don't think it would be the hug leaving me breathless |
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I prefer meets with someone I have a connection with so I like being comfortable with touch.
“Sex” is a funny thing, I guess it’s referring to mainly the penetrative part here although I think sex actually includes kissing and touching anyway.
A bit like finding the perfect kisser, you can also find the perfect cuddler too |
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By *ooBulMan
over a year ago
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Cos of social distancing, who wouldn't want a hug/cuddle?
I miss holding hands and kissing too! WTF is that? A distant memory that's what that is!
I love it when you both slide each others hands in one another's jean pocket as you walk along. She's getting a free hand warmer! It's part free grope for us guys and we get a feel of prime botty too! You are also getting a kinda hug too!
Love the intimate chance of her pressing her chest against mine.... then in for the kiss & and a rub of female botty cheeks "Mr Miyagi Style" (wax on o, wax off o.) I'm off to cool in a cold darkened room!   |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I need my cuddles and I have to wait
Virtual cuddles while you wait for your real ones
Aww thankyou
Cuddles incoming.....
Yes please I need some
I have plenty 
hurry up then please "
I'm trying xx |
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"I need that down time after....I love cuddles and just taking the whole experience in and chatting.
Saying that though, my meets on here never ended in cuddles
*squeeze*
Oh I would most definitely squeeze you breathless
I don't think it would be the hug leaving me breathless "
stop it you...you’re getting me excited |
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"Do you like cuddles after you've played? Or does it depend on the person?
Personally I don't play with anyone I haven't already started to build a connection with and cuddles for me are a must along with conversation, giggles and some kind of affection. It seems to put a lot of guys off (I say guys because most women I've spoken to like a cuddle)
So what's your thoughts on cuddling, forumites? "
I’m a gentle lover. X. Love cuddles and kisses before and after!x |
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If we have got as far as wanting to meet then we would already have an emotional connection with each other, I'm extremely tactile so my hands wouldn't be far from touching him whenever we are together |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
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"If we have got as far as wanting to meet then we would already have an emotional connection with each other, I'm extremely tactile so my hands wouldn't be far from touching him whenever we are together "
I think that is my problem. I need to have a connection with someone and so trying to separate that as just a fwb's etc would be hard. I think deep down I'd always be waiting for them to find somwone better. Think I'm a self sabotager actually |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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Depends on the person. Cuddling is a bonding experience for me so unless you want to marry me and get a mortgage with me then just lay next to me and chat shit and keep your arms down by your side. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it would be strange not to cuddle afterwards. Some people want a connection and to actually like them enough to sleep with them. Kissing, intimacy and affection would be natural.
Although I suppose a club situation would be very differnt? I wouldnt know - Ive never been to one. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I need that down time after....I love cuddles and just taking the whole experience in and chatting.
Saying that though, my meets on here never ended in cuddles
I'll have cuddles with you darling
Yay well that would make it so much better.
It’s weird but I felt absolutely crap after, I think the time after is just as important. Maybe it’s something most women need?"
I feel like that after if I don't get cuddles and affection to some degree. I think there's a term for it but I'm rubbish with these things.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Depends on the person. Cuddling is a bonding experience for me so unless you want to marry me and get a mortgage with me then just lay next to me and chat shit and keep your arms down by your side."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How can you have sex without cuddles? Does not compute. 
My thinking too but apparently it's not for everyone. "
Hey Sparkles..
Cuddles arent for me..
When i was much younger and new to this i would enjoy cuddles but found that id catch feels..
As ive grown older i have just introduced the 'no cuddles' mechanism to kinda protect myself. I might have grown out of that phase, but its there.
I do of course form connections prior to meeting guys, i enjoy banter and casual chat and lots of giggles.. i just don't cuddle. Can still lay next to a guy. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"How can you have sex without cuddles? Does not compute.
My thinking too but apparently it's not for everyone.
Hey Sparkles..
Cuddles arent for me..
When i was much younger and new to this i would enjoy cuddles but found that id catch feels..
As ive grown older i have just introduced the 'no cuddles' mechanism to kinda protect myself. I might have grown out of that phase, but its there.
I do of course form connections prior to meeting guys, i enjoy banter and casual chat and lots of giggles.. i just don't cuddle. Can still lay next to a guy. "
That's fair enough if they aren't for you, I get its not for everyone. I was just curious where other people stood on the subject because I've been made to feel weird about it before and wondered if it was just me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you like cuddles after you've played? Or does it depend on the person?
Personally I don't play with anyone I haven't already started to build a connection with and cuddles for me are a must along with conversation, giggles and some kind of affection. It seems to put a lot of guys off (I say guys because most women I've spoken to like a cuddle)
So what's your thoughts on cuddling, forumites? "
I like a cuddle... chances are, I've built up a rapport with that person so they obviously mean 'something' to me in whatever capacity that follows, there has to be a connection. |
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By *edhead72Man
over a year ago
Cheltenham and Ashby |
In these time of otherwise social distancing, cuddling is more important than ever. Yeah, I know that sounds counter intuitive but if you’ve just been shaggin you really should be fine with a cuddle.
I for one mis cuddles, I’m a single bloke!
Any offers............. |
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"So general consensus, I'm not a weirdo for wanting a cuddle before, during or after. Nice to know and I'll definitely be sticking to my guns on that one. "
Definitely not a weirdo. Cuddles are lovely x |
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