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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So we all have friends we drift apart from, right?
My oldest friend and I haven't seen each other for a couple of years, and she text this morning to ask about us getting together for a bit of a double date. I'd love to see her, tho we have drifted apart, we will always be pals and it's always like no time has passed when we get together...
BUT...
A few days ago, her husband, who I've only met once or twice and don't really know liked a random photo of mine on Instagram. What's the issue you say?
Well the pic in question was of my naked self, and it was from over a year ago, so not something that just popped up on his feed...
Now, usually I wouldn't bat an eyelid, means nothing, so he liked a pic? Whatever, but I know she would NOT be happy about it!
I'm not gonna say anything to her about it, I think it's harmless and would upset her necessarily but I'm not sure I wanna agree to a get together with her hubby there too, I'd just feel a bit awkward.
What would you do?
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over a year ago
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Sounds like too much of a coincidence to me. I'd be very suspicious.
Perhaps they are now Swingers and him liking the naked pic was a hint.
I'd meet them but be really wary. Let us know what happens.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sounds like too much of a coincidence to me. I'd be very suspicious.
Perhaps they are now Swingers and him liking the naked pic was a hint.
I'd meet them but be really wary. Let us know what happens. "
 they're definitely not swingers!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do u think your reading to much into this?
He liked your naked pic he hasn't done anything wrong at all ,
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No, he hasn't. I know that. I'm not suggesting he has.
But i also feel awkward knowing she wouldn't be happy about it.
I don't intend to say/do anything about it.
Just curious what others would do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sounds like too much of a coincidence to me. I'd be very suspicious.
Perhaps they are now Swingers and him liking the naked pic was a hint.
I'd meet them but be really wary. Let us know what happens.
they're definitely not swingers!
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How do you know? |
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"Sounds like too much of a coincidence to me. I'd be very suspicious.
Perhaps they are now Swingers and him liking the naked pic was a hint.
I'd meet them but be really wary. Let us know what happens.
they're definitely not swingers!
How do you know?"
That's what I thought too . You just dont know  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sounds like too much of a coincidence to me. I'd be very suspicious.
Perhaps they are now Swingers and him liking the naked pic was a hint.
I'd meet them but be really wary. Let us know what happens.
they're definitely not swingers!
How do you know?"
Well I know what her reaction was when I told her I was a swinger...
We spoke about it at length, she was shocked enough at my single antics but when Jeff and I got together she couldn't wrap her head around how we could love each other and even look at other people. She calls herself a prude...
She wouldn't ever be even open to the idea of swinging. |
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So many possibilities. I'd go and act as if he didn't do it. One sign of inappropriate behaviour and make it clear he's out of order.
The thing is if you have nude pics on the net you can't control who's going to like them and there might be occasions when it's awkward if you meet someone. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm sure most people have done the ol' Facebook stalk and liked a picture from decades ago and later thought "oh crap" haha  "
Absolutely! I know I have  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So many possibilities. I'd go and act as if he didn't do it. One sign of inappropriate behaviour and make it clear he's out of order.
The thing is if you have nude pics on the net you can't control who's going to like them and there might be occasions when it's awkward if you meet someone. "
I write a lot about body positivity online and have a few tasteful nudes on my Instagram feed, nothing pornographic. He may have just been being supportive about the subject matter rather than having a perv.
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"So many possibilities. I'd go and act as if he didn't do it. One sign of inappropriate behaviour and make it clear he's out of order.
The thing is if you have nude pics on the net you can't control who's going to like them and there might be occasions when it's awkward if you meet someone.
I write a lot about body positivity online and have a few tasteful nudes on my Instagram feed, nothing pornographic. He may have just been being supportive about the subject matter rather than having a perv.
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There you go. It sounds like you've just answered your own question |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So many possibilities. I'd go and act as if he didn't do it. One sign of inappropriate behaviour and make it clear he's out of order.
The thing is if you have nude pics on the net you can't control who's going to like them and there might be occasions when it's awkward if you meet someone.
I write a lot about body positivity online and have a few tasteful nudes on my Instagram feed, nothing pornographic. He may have just been being supportive about the subject matter rather than having a perv.
There you go. It sounds like you've just answered your own question "
My question was about how others would respond.
I already know I'm not gonna do anything.
And I'm not fussed why he liked the pic, it's not a big deal, I like lots of pics, doesn't mean owt.
More curious if anyone would've told their friend or like me find the idea of a double date a bit awkward |
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Perhaps they've talked about swinging at home after talking to you and feel it's a way for a possible gentle introduction.
If it was our friends we'd probably be OK with helping out, knowing that we are friends. |
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"Perhaps they've talked about swinging at home after talking to you and feel it's a way for a possible gentle introduction.
If it was our friends we'd probably be OK with helping out, knowing that we are friends. "
Yeah, it's definitely not a swinging thing. |
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"Perhaps they've talked about swinging at home after talking to you and feel it's a way for a possible gentle introduction.
If it was our friends we'd probably be OK with helping out, knowing that we are friends.
Yeah, it's definitely not a swinging thing. "
You never know. She might have shown him your pic. As said, they might be looking to dip their toes into the swinging world. Maybe looking for ideas and advice from someone Who’s done it. |
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"Perhaps they've talked about swinging at home after talking to you and feel it's a way for a possible gentle introduction.
If it was our friends we'd probably be OK with helping out, knowing that we are friends.
Yeah, it's definitely not a swinging thing.
You never know. She might have shown him your pic. As said, they might be looking to dip their toes into the swinging world. Maybe looking for ideas and advice from someone Who’s done it."
I know her. And I know that altho she doesn't judge me for doing it, she doesn't agree with swinging. She doesn't understand it and is not interested in trying it. We've discussed it before. It's definitely not a swinging thing. |
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"So many possibilities. I'd go and act as if he didn't do it. One sign of inappropriate behaviour and make it clear he's out of order.
The thing is if you have nude pics on the net you can't control who's going to like them and there might be occasions when it's awkward if you meet someone.
I write a lot about body positivity online and have a few tasteful nudes on my Instagram feed, nothing pornographic. He may have just been being supportive about the subject matter rather than having a perv.
There you go. It sounds like you've just answered your own question
My question was about how others would respond.
I already know I'm not gonna do anything.
And I'm not fussed why he liked the pic, it's not a big deal, I like lots of pics, doesn't mean owt.
More curious if anyone would've told their friend or like me find the idea of a double date a bit awkward"
I wouldn't tell my friend, there's nothing to tell. You write about body positivity, he liked a photo in connection with that. |
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"Perhaps they've talked about swinging at home after talking to you and feel it's a way for a possible gentle introduction.
If it was our friends we'd probably be OK with helping out, knowing that we are friends.
Yeah, it's definitely not a swinging thing.
You never know. She might have shown him your pic. As said, they might be looking to dip their toes into the swinging world. Maybe looking for ideas and advice from someone Who’s done it.
I know her. And I know that altho she doesn't judge me for doing it, she doesn't agree with swinging. She doesn't understand it and is not interested in trying it. We've discussed it before. It's definitely not a swinging thing."
Give us feed back on how it goes, he might have been a swinger in the past maybe? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So many possibilities. I'd go and act as if he didn't do it. One sign of inappropriate behaviour and make it clear he's out of order.
The thing is if you have nude pics on the net you can't control who's going to like them and there might be occasions when it's awkward if you meet someone.
I write a lot about body positivity online and have a few tasteful nudes on my Instagram feed, nothing pornographic. He may have just been being supportive about the subject matter rather than having a perv.
There you go. It sounds like you've just answered your own question
My question was about how others would respond.
I already know I'm not gonna do anything.
And I'm not fussed why he liked the pic, it's not a big deal, I like lots of pics, doesn't mean owt.
More curious if anyone would've told their friend or like me find the idea of a double date a bit awkward
I wouldn't tell my friend, there's nothing to tell. You write about body positivity, he liked a photo in connection with that. "
Yeah, that's where my mind's at! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Perhaps they've talked about swinging at home after talking to you and feel it's a way for a possible gentle introduction.
If it was our friends we'd probably be OK with helping out, knowing that we are friends.
Yeah, it's definitely not a swinging thing.
You never know. She might have shown him your pic. As said, they might be looking to dip their toes into the swinging world. Maybe looking for ideas and advice from someone Who’s done it.
I know her. And I know that altho she doesn't judge me for doing it, she doesn't agree with swinging. She doesn't understand it and is not interested in trying it. We've discussed it before. It's definitely not a swinging thing.
Give us feed back on how it goes, he might have been a swinger in the past maybe?"
I highly doubt it.
If we go, it will be a meal and drinks with my friend and her hubby, nothing swinging related whatsoever. |
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"So many possibilities. I'd go and act as if he didn't do it. One sign of inappropriate behaviour and make it clear he's out of order.
The thing is if you have nude pics on the net you can't control who's going to like them and there might be occasions when it's awkward if you meet someone.
I write a lot about body positivity online and have a few tasteful nudes on my Instagram feed, nothing pornographic. He may have just been being supportive about the subject matter rather than having a perv.
There you go. It sounds like you've just answered your own question
My question was about how others would respond.
I already know I'm not gonna do anything.
And I'm not fussed why he liked the pic, it's not a big deal, I like lots of pics, doesn't mean owt.
More curious if anyone would've told their friend or like me find the idea of a double date a bit awkward
I wouldn't tell my friend, there's nothing to tell. You write about body positivity, he liked a photo in connection with that.
Yeah, that's where my mind's at! "
What is it that's making you feel awkward? That he's seen you naked, that he's your friends husband, that you feel there might be a sexual motive? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So many possibilities. I'd go and act as if he didn't do it. One sign of inappropriate behaviour and make it clear he's out of order.
The thing is if you have nude pics on the net you can't control who's going to like them and there might be occasions when it's awkward if you meet someone.
I write a lot about body positivity online and have a few tasteful nudes on my Instagram feed, nothing pornographic. He may have just been being supportive about the subject matter rather than having a perv.
There you go. It sounds like you've just answered your own question
My question was about how others would respond.
I already know I'm not gonna do anything.
And I'm not fussed why he liked the pic, it's not a big deal, I like lots of pics, doesn't mean owt.
More curious if anyone would've told their friend or like me find the idea of a double date a bit awkward
I wouldn't tell my friend, there's nothing to tell. You write about body positivity, he liked a photo in connection with that.
Yeah, that's where my mind's at!
What is it that's making you feel awkward? That he's seen you naked, that he's your friends husband, that you feel there might be a sexual motive?"
Purely knowing my friend wpuld be pissed that he'd looked at and liked a pic of one of her friends naked.
I don't think there's a sexual motive. I'd never assume that of anyone.
If he followed me and often liked my posts I wouldn't have bat an eyelid tbf. But he doesn't follow me. And I'm pretty sure it's the first post he's ever liked, he was clearly having a nosey at my grid as the post was from last year. Might have even been an accidental tap whilst having a nose.
I just know she would be pissed. And I don't like knowing something that would upset her in some way, so I feel awkward about it. |
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"So many possibilities. I'd go and act as if he didn't do it. One sign of inappropriate behaviour and make it clear he's out of order.
The thing is if you have nude pics on the net you can't control who's going to like them and there might be occasions when it's awkward if you meet someone.
I write a lot about body positivity online and have a few tasteful nudes on my Instagram feed, nothing pornographic. He may have just been being supportive about the subject matter rather than having a perv.
There you go. It sounds like you've just answered your own question
My question was about how others would respond.
I already know I'm not gonna do anything.
And I'm not fussed why he liked the pic, it's not a big deal, I like lots of pics, doesn't mean owt.
More curious if anyone would've told their friend or like me find the idea of a double date a bit awkward
I wouldn't tell my friend, there's nothing to tell. You write about body positivity, he liked a photo in connection with that.
Yeah, that's where my mind's at!
What is it that's making you feel awkward? That he's seen you naked, that he's your friends husband, that you feel there might be a sexual motive?
Purely knowing my friend wpuld be pissed that he'd looked at and liked a pic of one of her friends naked.
I don't think there's a sexual motive. I'd never assume that of anyone.
If he followed me and often liked my posts I wouldn't have bat an eyelid tbf. But he doesn't follow me. And I'm pretty sure it's the first post he's ever liked, he was clearly having a nosey at my grid as the post was from last year. Might have even been an accidental tap whilst having a nose.
I just know she would be pissed. And I don't like knowing something that would upset her in some way, so I feel awkward about it."
Got it! I understand why you feel that way, I'd feel awkward too. Are you going? Sorry if you've said already |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So many possibilities. I'd go and act as if he didn't do it. One sign of inappropriate behaviour and make it clear he's out of order.
The thing is if you have nude pics on the net you can't control who's going to like them and there might be occasions when it's awkward if you meet someone.
I write a lot about body positivity online and have a few tasteful nudes on my Instagram feed, nothing pornographic. He may have just been being supportive about the subject matter rather than having a perv.
There you go. It sounds like you've just answered your own question
My question was about how others would respond.
I already know I'm not gonna do anything.
And I'm not fussed why he liked the pic, it's not a big deal, I like lots of pics, doesn't mean owt.
More curious if anyone would've told their friend or like me find the idea of a double date a bit awkward
I wouldn't tell my friend, there's nothing to tell. You write about body positivity, he liked a photo in connection with that.
Yeah, that's where my mind's at!
What is it that's making you feel awkward? That he's seen you naked, that he's your friends husband, that you feel there might be a sexual motive?
Purely knowing my friend wpuld be pissed that he'd looked at and liked a pic of one of her friends naked.
I don't think there's a sexual motive. I'd never assume that of anyone.
If he followed me and often liked my posts I wouldn't have bat an eyelid tbf. But he doesn't follow me. And I'm pretty sure it's the first post he's ever liked, he was clearly having a nosey at my grid as the post was from last year. Might have even been an accidental tap whilst having a nose.
I just know she would be pissed. And I don't like knowing something that would upset her in some way, so I feel awkward about it.
Got it! I understand why you feel that way, I'd feel awkward too. Are you going? Sorry if you've said already"
I've not decided yet. I might try and wriggle out of the double date and suggest just us girls go for drinks, I think that'll feel less awkward for me  and means J won't have to socialise when he'd really rather not |
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"So many possibilities. I'd go and act as if he didn't do it. One sign of inappropriate behaviour and make it clear he's out of order.
The thing is if you have nude pics on the net you can't control who's going to like them and there might be occasions when it's awkward if you meet someone.
I write a lot about body positivity online and have a few tasteful nudes on my Instagram feed, nothing pornographic. He may have just been being supportive about the subject matter rather than having a perv.
There you go. It sounds like you've just answered your own question
My question was about how others would respond.
I already know I'm not gonna do anything.
And I'm not fussed why he liked the pic, it's not a big deal, I like lots of pics, doesn't mean owt.
More curious if anyone would've told their friend or like me find the idea of a double date a bit awkward
I wouldn't tell my friend, there's nothing to tell. You write about body positivity, he liked a photo in connection with that.
Yeah, that's where my mind's at!
What is it that's making you feel awkward? That he's seen you naked, that he's your friends husband, that you feel there might be a sexual motive?
Purely knowing my friend wpuld be pissed that he'd looked at and liked a pic of one of her friends naked.
I don't think there's a sexual motive. I'd never assume that of anyone.
If he followed me and often liked my posts I wouldn't have bat an eyelid tbf. But he doesn't follow me. And I'm pretty sure it's the first post he's ever liked, he was clearly having a nosey at my grid as the post was from last year. Might have even been an accidental tap whilst having a nose.
I just know she would be pissed. And I don't like knowing something that would upset her in some way, so I feel awkward about it.
Got it! I understand why you feel that way, I'd feel awkward too. Are you going? Sorry if you've said already
I've not decided yet. I might try and wriggle out of the double date and suggest just us girls go for drinks, I think that'll feel less awkward for me and means J won't have to socialise when he'd really rather not "
Sounds like a plan.
Whatever you do enjoy it |
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"So many possibilities. I'd go and act as if he didn't do it. One sign of inappropriate behaviour and make it clear he's out of order.
The thing is if you have nude pics on the net you can't control who's going to like them and there might be occasions when it's awkward if you meet someone.
I write a lot about body positivity online and have a few tasteful nudes on my Instagram feed, nothing pornographic. He may have just been being supportive about the subject matter rather than having a perv.
There you go. It sounds like you've just answered your own question
My question was about how others would respond.
I already know I'm not gonna do anything.
And I'm not fussed why he liked the pic, it's not a big deal, I like lots of pics, doesn't mean owt.
More curious if anyone would've told their friend or like me find the idea of a double date a bit awkward
I wouldn't tell my friend, there's nothing to tell. You write about body positivity, he liked a photo in connection with that.
Yeah, that's where my mind's at!
What is it that's making you feel awkward? That he's seen you naked, that he's your friends husband, that you feel there might be a sexual motive?
Purely knowing my friend wpuld be pissed that he'd looked at and liked a pic of one of her friends naked.
I don't think there's a sexual motive. I'd never assume that of anyone.
If he followed me and often liked my posts I wouldn't have bat an eyelid tbf. But he doesn't follow me. And I'm pretty sure it's the first post he's ever liked, he was clearly having a nosey at my grid as the post was from last year. Might have even been an accidental tap whilst having a nose.
I just know she would be pissed. And I don't like knowing something that would upset her in some way, so I feel awkward about it.
Got it! I understand why you feel that way, I'd feel awkward too. Are you going? Sorry if you've said already
I've not decided yet. I might try and wriggle out of the double date and suggest just us girls go for drinks, I think that'll feel less awkward for me and means J won't have to socialise when he'd really rather not
Sounds like a plan.
Whatever you do enjoy it "
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"So many possibilities. I'd go and act as if he didn't do it. One sign of inappropriate behaviour and make it clear he's out of order.
The thing is if you have nude pics on the net you can't control who's going to like them and there might be occasions when it's awkward if you meet someone.
I write a lot about body positivity online and have a few tasteful nudes on my Instagram feed, nothing pornographic. He may have just been being supportive about the subject matter rather than having a perv.
There you go. It sounds like you've just answered your own question
My question was about how others would respond.
I already know I'm not gonna do anything.
And I'm not fussed why he liked the pic, it's not a big deal, I like lots of pics, doesn't mean owt.
More curious if anyone would've told their friend or like me find the idea of a double date a bit awkward
I wouldn't tell my friend, there's nothing to tell. You write about body positivity, he liked a photo in connection with that.
Yeah, that's where my mind's at!
What is it that's making you feel awkward? That he's seen you naked, that he's your friends husband, that you feel there might be a sexual motive?
Purely knowing my friend wpuld be pissed that he'd looked at and liked a pic of one of her friends naked.
I don't think there's a sexual motive. I'd never assume that of anyone.
If he followed me and often liked my posts I wouldn't have bat an eyelid tbf. But he doesn't follow me. And I'm pretty sure it's the first post he's ever liked, he was clearly having a nosey at my grid as the post was from last year. Might have even been an accidental tap whilst having a nose.
I just know she would be pissed. And I don't like knowing something that would upset her in some way, so I feel awkward about it."
If it's your IG is she one of your followers? If so she may well see he has liked it, as it shows that.
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"So many possibilities. I'd go and act as if he didn't do it. One sign of inappropriate behaviour and make it clear he's out of order.
The thing is if you have nude pics on the net you can't control who's going to like them and there might be occasions when it's awkward if you meet someone.
I write a lot about body positivity online and have a few tasteful nudes on my Instagram feed, nothing pornographic. He may have just been being supportive about the subject matter rather than having a perv.
There you go. It sounds like you've just answered your own question
My question was about how others would respond.
I already know I'm not gonna do anything.
And I'm not fussed why he liked the pic, it's not a big deal, I like lots of pics, doesn't mean owt.
More curious if anyone would've told their friend or like me find the idea of a double date a bit awkward
I wouldn't tell my friend, there's nothing to tell. You write about body positivity, he liked a photo in connection with that.
Yeah, that's where my mind's at!
What is it that's making you feel awkward? That he's seen you naked, that he's your friends husband, that you feel there might be a sexual motive?
Purely knowing my friend wpuld be pissed that he'd looked at and liked a pic of one of her friends naked.
I don't think there's a sexual motive. I'd never assume that of anyone.
If he followed me and often liked my posts I wouldn't have bat an eyelid tbf. But he doesn't follow me. And I'm pretty sure it's the first post he's ever liked, he was clearly having a nosey at my grid as the post was from last year. Might have even been an accidental tap whilst having a nose.
I just know she would be pissed. And I don't like knowing something that would upset her in some way, so I feel awkward about it.
If it's your IG is she one of your followers? If so she may well see he has liked it, as it shows that.
Jo x"
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"Didn’t know you could have naked pics on Instagram. Thought the nipples had to be covered and definitely no fanny on show. "
You can be naked without showing your nips or froo to the camera |
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"Thought Instagram didn’t allow full nudity 
My nipples and foof aren't showing "
I put the wrong emoji. Didn’t mean to wink. Meant to put the puzzled face 
Anyway you’ve answered my next comment.
I wouldn’t think too much of it.
I have people’s partners inboxing me on Facebook and I have to remind them that I know their partners and not interested in drama. |
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If she is your friend and you haven't seen her for a long time if it's just the both of you I would say go for it. If the guy has actually liked any of your pictures you are a good looking woman and I'm sure many guys will be clicking that like button at the end of the day day if you're not attracted to him in that way and you're going to see your friend that's all that matters |
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