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Bi? Gay? Do you family and friends know?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I am bi. Very few of my friends, and none of my family know. I sometimes think about 'coming out', but at the same time, don't like labels. Pretty sure my dad would not be able to comprehend. Equally as sure that my friends would be cool about it.
Anyone else in, or been in this position? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I came out as bi to my family in my early teens. My mum was fine with it, my grandparents just didn't acknowledge it at all.
I did get a bit of backlash from 'friends' but I'm still glad to be out and proud. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm bi....I've never really "come out" tho.
My friends all know and always have...my family probably suspects but I've never told them just cos I've never had a serious relationship with another woman. If I did, they'd have no issue, wouldn't matter to them so long as I was happy 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm bi....I've never really "come out" tho.
My friends all know and always have...my family probably suspects but I've never told them just cos I've never had a serious relationship with another woman. If I did, they'd have no issue, wouldn't matter to them so long as I was happy
Lu "
I could do written this.
I've never needed to 'come out' anyone that really knows me just always knew. I'm not ashamed of who I am and don't feel a need to hide it. I also know I'm lucky to be surrounded by people that think this way. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm bi....I've never really "come out" tho.
My friends all know and always have...my family probably suspects but I've never told them just cos I've never had a serious relationship with another woman. If I did, they'd have no issue, wouldn't matter to them so long as I was happy
Lu
I could do written this.
I've never needed to 'come out' anyone that really knows me just always knew. I'm not ashamed of who I am and don't feel a need to hide it. I also know I'm lucky to be surrounded by people that think this way. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dont have any family and few friends. Those that have asked have been told the that I am bi...those that dont ask arent interested either way. Its neither a secret or a hail my friends Im bi...it just is  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's impossible to go back in the closet when you're out.
Bisexuality is a myth apparently. If I'm with a man I'm straight. If I'm with a woman I'm lesbian.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I came out to my friends and family in my early teens. Cost me all but a few of my school friends but I made new better friends. My family were really cool with it. Now I would be honest if someone asked but I don't go shouting it from the rooftops either! Mr. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I came out to my friends and family in my early teens. Cost me all but a few of my school friends but I made new better friends. My family were really cool with it. Now I would be honest if someone asked but I don't go shouting it from the rooftops either! Mr. "
Actually... I might shout about it quite a bit on here though   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm pansexual. My parents don't know, they are not accepting of lgbtq. My vanilla life friends know and are OK with it. My work friends don't know."
Which pan are you frying or sauce pan ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm pansexual. My parents don't know, they are not accepting of lgbtq. My vanilla life friends know and are OK with it. My work friends don't know."
pansexual.
i dont know why but when i hear that i think of a mass tefal orgy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think truth is many bisexuals dont have any incentive in "coming out" since the majority seem to just keep same sex partners as shags and the opposite sex for proper relationships.
Unless youre going to introduce your partner to parents etc, whats the point? |
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My son told me when he was in high school that he was bisexual. Initially he was quite upset telling me but when I explained I thought he was maybe gay so being bisexual was only an extra piece of info it seemed to calm him down. He asked me to tell our family as he had told 2 close friends the previous night and wanted to tell the rest of his friends once family knew.
All our family, friends and his friends families have been totally supportive. |
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By *RSTCouple
over a year ago
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I came out to my wife last year, and since then I've told one of my best friends. One just said she already knew.
Have no intention to go 'public' or to tell my family. It won't impact those around me in day to day life, so there's no need to tell them as far as I'm concerned. It may impact who we meet here, so I'm open about it here. X |
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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago
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"I've a conservative family so i know they wouldn't understand. Some things are better left unsaid."
This is me as well. I'm very happy and contented but I seem to have two lifes. Family and friends who have no idea and friends of Alex who obviously aren't bothered.
Its no one else's business anyway |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think truth is many bisexuals dont have any incentive in "coming out" since the majority seem to just keep same sex partners as shags and the opposite sex for proper relationships.
Unless youre going to introduce your partner to parents etc, whats the point?"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I accidentally came out as bi to two of my “best pals” who then told everyone and tried to slag me for it thankfully no one really believed them or tbh I would’ve lost most friends and family |
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"I accidentally came out as bi to two of my “best pals” who then told everyone and tried to slag me for it thankfully no one really believed them or tbh I would’ve lost most friends and family "
That’s such a shame as you like what you like it doesn’t change you as a person.
My son was lucky as nobody changed their views on him although probably most people thought he was gay so being bisexual was just a side we hadn’t thought of. Most of his best friends are female so maybe that made a difference but our whole family support him and it hasn’t made a difference.
They aren’t really good friends if they acted that way though xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I didn’t believe my parents would ever accept me. (They divorced when I was very young)
Mum is trying really hard to.
Dad told me he’d always be my father. That floored me.
Two weeks later he told me he wanted sex with me!!!!!! 
I no longer have him living in my annexe. He’s in a nursing home. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm bisexual and I'm not out to anyone, except those I've met
I work in construction and its still a very 'manly' place to work
I've no idea how my workmates would react if I came out
But I'm pretty sure there would be comments made and the some graffiti on the toilet walls about the cocklover on the site
So for now I'm quite happy to keep it as it is
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm Bi - I had a 4 year relationship with a woman in my 20's that my family chose not to acknowledge or talk about.
And were silently celebrating when I then went on to a relationship with a man like my bisexuality had gone away 
My friends know and take me as I am.
I no longer have any family left to disappoint so if I ever have a relationship again their gender won't be an issue.
My sex life on the other hand is my business. |
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"I think truth is many bisexuals dont have any incentive in "coming out" since the majority seem to just keep same sex partners as shags and the opposite sex for proper relationships.
Unless youre going to introduce your partner to parents etc, whats the point?"
This is a good point. Unless I'm lucky enough to find a long term relationship, why tell my family about my fun.
Though I think the random hook-ups involved would be more distressing than the gender of my partner's.
Most of my friends know that I swing with all genders. |
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I’m bi but I’ve never told anyone (apart from discreet meets ive had).... I don’t know I haven’t come out as my friends and family would have no issue with it, think I’ve just had it as a secret so long I’m used to it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It seems there's a difference on here with some people who are just sexually bi (just having sex with both sexes) and those who want relationships with both sexes.
As I don't want to date guys I don't tell anyone I'm bi as I don't think anyone needs to know where I stick my cock :p |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm Bi, my closest friends know and that's about it. It's not something I choose to keep secret, but it isn't something I shout about either.
My sex life and preferences is nobody's business but mine at the end of the day |
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I am attracted to masculine men.
Due to my religion and local culture (south east asian), I only crossdress and meet other men when I am in the UK/Ireland/ Europe.
I don't crossdress or even get involve in any gay activities back in where I reside and live.
I believe that living both worlds ( as a man in my country and TV in the UK/Europe) completes me better and I am very contented.
I am able to be who I really am but at the same time, respect my religious, family, social and cultural norm and expectations. |
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No. What is the reason to have a "sexual minority status" for the sake of nothing? Why should someone consider themselves different from the majority while they don't know what others like?
Why should we fall into the trap of invented categories? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never had an open dialogue with my family about anything, let alone sex. Both my parents were sexually very repressed, and other people in my family were helplessly homophobic. I grew up not sharing my private life with them, and when I realised I was bi nothing changed. But since I moved to Brighton I've been out to everyone else but family. |
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By *RSTCouple
over a year ago
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Both bi, but only a very select few know. It's not that we actively look for same sex fun. We're just comfortable with it if the opportunity came up.
There's no need to 'come out' to family and friends. As far as they are concerned we're a 'normal' married couple. |
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"I came out as bi to my family in my early teens. My mum was fine with it, my grandparents just didn't acknowledge it at all.
I did get a bit of backlash from 'friends' but I'm still glad to be out and proud. "
Why would/should you get a backlash from these so called 'friends',whats it got to do with them?
Why should people have to come out about there sexuality,do heterosexuals come out about there's,No they dont,i dont get it?  |
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