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DO NOT FEEL WORTHLESS

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

This month is like any other month do not let any idiot put you down or bad-mouth you in any way shape or form everyone is beautiful in their own way everyone has got a a asset that they like about themselves and an asset that they don't like about themselves. I just want you all to remember we are God's creatures and I'm not religious in any way

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This month is like any other month do not let any idiot put you down or bad-mouth you in any way shape or form everyone is beautiful in their own way everyone has got a a asset that they like about themselves and an asset that they don't like about themselves. I just want you all to remember we are God's creatures and I'm not religious in any way

Ok Simon will do!!!!

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By *uriouscouple83Couple over a year ago

Worcester

It’s a lovely sentiment, as an ardent atheist however I don’t think of myself as one of gods creatures but more as a product of evolution and the fact that there wasn’t much on TV in the summer of 1982.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Can I be blunt without offending?

Probably not...

I love that there's some focus on mental health here, and I've started several of these kind of threads myself...

But could we maybe not have several in one day?

As someone who does struggle at times and an empath I find it a but triggering to be reminded several times that so many people are having a tough time

To be clear...I don't want these threads to stop...they're great...but do we need more than one at a time?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can I be blunt without offending?

Probably not...

I love that there's some focus on mental health here, and I've started several of these kind of threads myself...

But could we maybe not have several in one day?

As someone who does struggle at times and an empath I find it a but triggering to be reminded several times that so many people are having a tough time

To be clear...I don't want these threads to stop...they're great...but do we need more than one at a time?

I was thinking this but thought better of saying! Maybe there could be a separate forum. I know people are struggling but it’s getting a bit much.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can I be blunt without offending?

Probably not...

I love that there's some focus on mental health here, and I've started several of these kind of threads myself...

But could we maybe not have several in one day?

As someone who does struggle at times and an empath I find it a but triggering to be reminded several times that so many people are having a tough time

To be clear...I don't want these threads to stop...they're great...but do we need more than one at a time?

I was thinking this but thought better of saying! Maybe there could be a separate forum. I know people are struggling but it’s getting a bit much. "

Phew! I'm glad I'm not alone.

I think the threads are awesome! But I'm not sure we need so many at a time.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can I be blunt without offending?

Probably not...

I love that there's some focus on mental health here, and I've started several of these kind of threads myself...

But could we maybe not have several in one day?

As someone who does struggle at times and an empath I find it a but triggering to be reminded several times that so many people are having a tough time

To be clear...I don't want these threads to stop...they're great...but do we need more than one at a time?

I was thinking this but thought better of saying! Maybe there could be a separate forum. I know people are struggling but it’s getting a bit much.

Phew! I'm glad I'm not alone.

I think the threads are awesome! But I'm not sure we need so many at a time."

I agree. They provide support for many people and god knows I’d be the first to message someone who felt really down. But I also come on here for a laugh and sometimes I look in the lounge and it’s literally every other thread.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can I be blunt without offending?

Probably not...

I love that there's some focus on mental health here, and I've started several of these kind of threads myself...

But could we maybe not have several in one day?

As someone who does struggle at times and an empath I find it a but triggering to be reminded several times that so many people are having a tough time

To be clear...I don't want these threads to stop...they're great...but do we need more than one at a time?

I was thinking this but thought better of saying! Maybe there could be a separate forum. I know people are struggling but it’s getting a bit much.

Phew! I'm glad I'm not alone.

I think the threads are awesome! But I'm not sure we need so many at a time.

Someone did put in a request for a Mental Health forum (think its in the Site Feedback Forum).

I don't mind the 'Say something nice to someone' threads as that encourages participation.

I am more likely to add a supportive message when someone posts a 'I'm struggling thread'.

But this is an open forum and I wouldn't discourage anyone from posting what they wanted to when they wanted to.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can I be blunt without offending?

Probably not...

I love that there's some focus on mental health here, and I've started several of these kind of threads myself...

But could we maybe not have several in one day?

As someone who does struggle at times and an empath I find it a but triggering to be reminded several times that so many people are having a tough time

To be clear...I don't want these threads to stop...they're great...but do we need more than one at a time?

I was thinking this but thought better of saying! Maybe there could be a separate forum. I know people are struggling but it’s getting a bit much.

Phew! I'm glad I'm not alone.

I think the threads are awesome! But I'm not sure we need so many at a time.

Someone did put in a request for a Mental Health forum (think its in the Site Feedback Forum).

I don't mind the 'Say something nice to someone' threads as that encourages participation.

I am more likely to add a supportive message when someone posts a 'I'm struggling thread'.

But this is an open forum and I wouldn't discourage anyone from posting what they wanted to when they wanted to."

No, I agree...

But if there's a thread open asking everyone their favourite movie, would you start another asking the same question?

I think maybe a long running thread might be a good idea?

People can still start threads about individual problems but I wonder if having several vague mental health threads on the go at once is doing more damage than good?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can I be blunt without offending?

Probably not...

I love that there's some focus on mental health here, and I've started several of these kind of threads myself...

But could we maybe not have several in one day?

As someone who does struggle at times and an empath I find it a but triggering to be reminded several times that so many people are having a tough time

To be clear...I don't want these threads to stop...they're great...but do we need more than one at a time?

I was thinking this but thought better of saying! Maybe there could be a separate forum. I know people are struggling but it’s getting a bit much.

Phew! I'm glad I'm not alone.

I think the threads are awesome! But I'm not sure we need so many at a time.

Someone did put in a request for a Mental Health forum (think its in the Site Feedback Forum).

I don't mind the 'Say something nice to someone' threads as that encourages participation.

I am more likely to add a supportive message when someone posts a 'I'm struggling thread'.

But this is an open forum and I wouldn't discourage anyone from posting what they wanted to when they wanted to.

No, I agree...

But if there's a thread open asking everyone their favourite movie, would you start another asking the same question?

I think maybe a long running thread might be a good idea?

People can still start threads about individual problems but I wonder if having several vague mental health threads on the go at once is doing more damage than good?

I agree with the comments made here

Her x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Don't worry I'm going to be stopping doing forum post anyway

so everyone can have a stress-free day everyday

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Don't worry I'm going to be stopping doing forum post anyway

so everyone can have a stress-free day everyday

No! Don't stop posting!!!

I like your threads

Just would like a few less of the sad ones, that's all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Don't worry I'm going to be stopping doing forum post anyway

so everyone can have a stress-free day everyday

Why? Nobody said that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can I be blunt without offending?

Probably not...

I love that there's some focus on mental health here, and I've started several of these kind of threads myself...

But could we maybe not have several in one day?

As someone who does struggle at times and an empath I find it a but triggering to be reminded several times that so many people are having a tough time

To be clear...I don't want these threads to stop...they're great...but do we need more than one at a time?

I was thinking this but thought better of saying! Maybe there could be a separate forum. I know people are struggling but it’s getting a bit much.

Phew! I'm glad I'm not alone.

I think the threads are awesome! But I'm not sure we need so many at a time.

Someone did put in a request for a Mental Health forum (think its in the Site Feedback Forum).

I don't mind the 'Say something nice to someone' threads as that encourages participation.

I am more likely to add a supportive message when someone posts a 'I'm struggling thread'.

But this is an open forum and I wouldn't discourage anyone from posting what they wanted to when they wanted to.

No, I agree...

But if there's a thread open asking everyone their favourite movie, would you start another asking the same question?

I think maybe a long running thread might be a good idea?

People can still start threads about individual problems but I wonder if having several vague mental health threads on the go at once is doing more damage than good?

Just one ongoing one would be good where people can add supportive messages or say how they are feeling.

I do a 'Mood' one every now and again but rather than start a new one I'm more likely to bump the last one if there's still enough 'space' left on it.

I do agree that vague messages of support don't always help especially if someone is spiralling down or has clinical depression (any positive messages can still be seen as negative if someone is in that position).

But sometimes I think the person posting the positive message is actually asking for help themselves in a small way. It is a tricky one.

A Mental Health forum would be a better solution even if it was just temporary over the current COVID situation.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Honestly wish I'd not said anything now

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Don't worry I'm going to be stopping doing forum post anyway

so everyone can have a stress-free day everyday

No do not stop posting. If it helps you then keep posting. No one on this thread has said anything which is in anyway discouraging you from posting.

I like your threads and I always read them even if I don't make a comment. Everyone has their place on the forum and no one should feel they can't or shouldn't post. Keep going!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Honestly wish I'd not said anything now

If that's what you feel then you should post that. As long as it's within forum rules I don't think anyone should 'moderate' themselves on the forum.

It's why I like the Lounge as it's a good mix of people, attitudes and ideas and, most of the time, healthy disagreement.

I suppose the mods would say if you don't 'like' a post then don't read it and just skip over them. But voicing an opinion or observation should not be discouraged either.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Honestly wish I'd not said anything now

If that's what you feel then you should post that. As long as it's within forum rules I don't think anyone should 'moderate' themselves on the forum.

It's why I like the Lounge as it's a good mix of people, attitudes and ideas and, most of the time, healthy disagreement.

I suppose the mods would say if you don't 'like' a post then don't read it and just skip over them. But voicing an opinion or observation should not be discouraged either."

I'm gonna take a more quiet reserved approach in the forums for a bit.

I never usually mind being outspoken, clearly...but I'm not keen on the way I've been painted to be discouraging anyone from discussing mental health. Anyone who knows me knows I am the last person to do that.

I was merely expressing something that had been making me a bit sad.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Honestly wish I'd not said anything now

If that's what you feel then you should post that. As long as it's within forum rules I don't think anyone should 'moderate' themselves on the forum.

It's why I like the Lounge as it's a good mix of people, attitudes and ideas and, most of the time, healthy disagreement.

I suppose the mods would say if you don't 'like' a post then don't read it and just skip over them. But voicing an opinion or observation should not be discouraged either.

I'm gonna take a more quiet reserved approach in the forums for a bit.

I was merely expressing something that had been making me a bit sad.

I agreed with you. It was me too, not just you. We weren’t discouraging it. I still stick by what I said. Perhaps it was taken the wrong way but that often happens on here unfortunately.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Bless you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Honestly wish I'd not said anything now

If that's what you feel then you should post that. As long as it's within forum rules I don't think anyone should 'moderate' themselves on the forum.

It's why I like the Lounge as it's a good mix of people, attitudes and ideas and, most of the time, healthy disagreement.

I suppose the mods would say if you don't 'like' a post then don't read it and just skip over them. But voicing an opinion or observation should not be discouraged either.

I'm gonna take a more quiet reserved approach in the forums for a bit.

I was merely expressing something that had been making me a bit sad.

Don't stop being outspoken. Things on the internet can sometimes be taken the wrong way. And I don't think anyone has painted you as discouraging anyone from posting about mental health. The forum is for expressing yourself and you shouldn't feel you need to change how you express yourself.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman over a year ago

On a mooch

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman over a year ago

On a mooch

Maybe think why the OP is doing it, maybe it helps him get his thoughts out of his head.

The amount of very similar topics on any given subject, is a daily thing on the forum, no one should be discouraged from posting just because someone has seen enough of something. Just pass over it.

No one might have intended that with their comments here, but it is how it has been taken by the OP

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe think why the OP is doing it, maybe it helps him get his thoughts out of his head.

The amount of very similar topics on any given subject, is a daily thing on the forum, no one should be discouraged from posting just because someone has seen enough of something. Just pass over it.

No one might have intended that with their comments here, but it is how it has been taken by the OP "

So the OP can express his thoughts and feelings, but I shouldn't express mine?

Seems fair

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman over a year ago

On a mooch

"Maybe think why the OP is doing it, maybe it helps him get his thoughts out of his head.

The amount of very similar topics on any given subject, is a daily thing on the forum, no one should be discouraged from posting just because someone has seen enough of something. Just pass over it.

No one might have intended that with their comments here, but it is how it has been taken by the OP

So the OP can express his thoughts and feelings, but I shouldn't express mine?

Seems fair

Do we have the right to tell someone what they can and can’t post about ? No, everyone has the freedom to post a topic of their choosing

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By *otSoPoshWoman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Maybe think why the OP is doing it, maybe it helps him get his thoughts out of his head.

The amount of very similar topics on any given subject, is a daily thing on the forum, no one should be discouraged from posting just because someone has seen enough of something. Just pass over it.

No one might have intended that with their comments here, but it is how it has been taken by the OP

So the OP can express his thoughts and feelings, but I shouldn't express mine?

Seems fair

Do we have the right to tell someone what they can and can’t post about ? No, everyone has the freedom to post a topic of their choosing "

And she didn't tell him what he can and can't post. Merely made a request.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe think why the OP is doing it, maybe it helps him get his thoughts out of his head.

The amount of very similar topics on any given subject, is a daily thing on the forum, no one should be discouraged from posting just because someone has seen enough of something. Just pass over it.

No one might have intended that with their comments here, but it is how it has been taken by the OP

So the OP can express his thoughts and feelings, but I shouldn't express mine?

Seems fair

Do we have the right to tell someone what they can and can’t post about ? No, everyone has the freedom to post a topic of their choosing "

Can you show me where I or anyone else said he couldn't post anything?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe think why the OP is doing it, maybe it helps him get his thoughts out of his head.

The amount of very similar topics on any given subject, is a daily thing on the forum, no one should be discouraged from posting just because someone has seen enough of something. Just pass over it.

No one might have intended that with their comments here, but it is how it has been taken by the OP

So the OP can express his thoughts and feelings, but I shouldn't express mine?

Seems fair

Do we have the right to tell someone what they can and can’t post about ? No, everyone has the freedom to post a topic of their choosing "

Nobody did that though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is going to get all blown out of proportion so I’m going to back out.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is going to get all blown out of proportion so I’m going to back out.

Thank you for your support. I appreciate it!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is going to get all blown out of proportion so I’m going to back out.

Thank you for your support. I appreciate it! "

I agree with you and still do. Like you I wish I’d not said anything which is what I tend to do nowadays anyway. Seems nothing can be said without upsetting someone in some way even unintentionally. x

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman over a year ago

On a mooch

"Maybe think why the OP is doing it, maybe it helps him get his thoughts out of his head.

The amount of very similar topics on any given subject, is a daily thing on the forum, no one should be discouraged from posting just because someone has seen enough of something. Just pass over it.

No one might have intended that with their comments here, but it is how it has been taken by the OP

So the OP can express his thoughts and feelings, but I shouldn't express mine?

Seems fair

Do we have the right to tell someone what they can and can’t post about ? No, everyone has the freedom to post a topic of their choosing

Can you show me where I or anyone else said he couldn't post anything?

You said....

But could we maybe not have several in one day?

If the OP, or anyone else for that matter, chooses to post a thread with a similar topic more than once a day, that is their choosing. Maybe this is their escape to get their thoughts out.

We have similar numerous threads running all the time in the forum, we can all choose to bypass them and ignore if they don’t suit us.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is going to get all blown out of proportion so I’m going to back out.

Thank you for your support. I appreciate it!

It's a shame. I don't like having to censor myself, but seems I'll have to if I'm to continue posting.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe think why the OP is doing it, maybe it helps him get his thoughts out of his head.

The amount of very similar topics on any given subject, is a daily thing on the forum, no one should be discouraged from posting just because someone has seen enough of something. Just pass over it.

No one might have intended that with their comments here, but it is how it has been taken by the OP

So the OP can express his thoughts and feelings, but I shouldn't express mine?

Seems fair

Do we have the right to tell someone what they can and can’t post about ? No, everyone has the freedom to post a topic of their choosing

Can you show me where I or anyone else said he couldn't post anything?

You said....

But could we maybe not have several in one day?

If the OP, or anyone else for that matter, chooses to post a thread with a similar topic more than once a day, that is their choosing. Maybe this is their escape to get their thoughts out.

We have similar numerous threads running all the time in the forum, we can all choose to bypass them and ignore if they don’t suit us.

Oh! So my asking a question is the same as me telling someone they CANNOT post?

My initial comment, I thought, was very clear. I made a point of saying that I support the message and think that the mental health threads are awesome but that I, someone who suffers massively with my mental health, find it quite upsetting having so many reminders in the lounge at once.

I wasn't rude. I wasn't telling anyone what they can or cannot, or should or shouldn't do.

I was expressing an opinion!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There’s a twat thread going if anyone wants to join

Just to chill out a bit perhaps

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There’s a twat thread going if anyone wants to join

Just to chill out a bit perhaps

Finally! A thread for me!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is going to get all blown out of proportion so I’m going to back out.

Thank you for your support. I appreciate it!

It's a shame. I don't like having to censor myself, but seems I'll have to if I'm to continue posting. "

And I don't think you said anything wrong. Just voiced your opinion.

But as Nora has said this will get blown out of all proportion so best to let this thread drop.

Don't censor yourself. As long as it's within forum rules you can post what you want. You can't do much about how others on the internet interprete what you say.

Keep posting.

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By *otSoPoshWoman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"This is going to get all blown out of proportion so I’m going to back out.

Thank you for your support. I appreciate it!

It's a shame. I don't like having to censor myself, but seems I'll have to if I'm to continue posting.

And I don't think you said anything wrong. Just voiced your opinion.

But as Nora has said this will get blown out of all proportion so best to let this thread drop.

Don't censor yourself. As long as it's within forum rules you can post what you want. You can't do much about how others on the internet interprete what you say.

Keep posting."

Exactly what he said Lu....

Don't censor and don't stop posting.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is going to get all blown out of proportion so I’m going to back out.

Thank you for your support. I appreciate it!

It's a shame. I don't like having to censor myself, but seems I'll have to if I'm to continue posting.

And I don't think you said anything wrong. Just voiced your opinion.

But as Nora has said this will get blown out of all proportion so best to let this thread drop.

Don't censor yourself. As long as it's within forum rules you can post what you want. You can't do much about how others on the internet interprete what you say.

Keep posting.

Exactly what he said Lu....

Don't censor and don't stop posting."

Thank you both!

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman over a year ago

On a mooch

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman over a year ago

On a mooch

"Maybe think why the OP is doing it, maybe it helps him get his thoughts out of his head.

The amount of very similar topics on any given subject, is a daily thing on the forum, no one should be discouraged from posting just because someone has seen enough of something. Just pass over it.

No one might have intended that with their comments here, but it is how it has been taken by the OP

So the OP can express his thoughts and feelings, but I shouldn't express mine?

Seems fair

Do we have the right to tell someone what they can and can’t post about ? No, everyone has the freedom to post a topic of their choosing

Can you show me where I or anyone else said he couldn't post anything?

You said....

But could we maybe not have several in one day?

If the OP, or anyone else for that matter, chooses to post a thread with a similar topic more than once a day, that is their choosing. Maybe this is their escape to get their thoughts out.

We have similar numerous threads running all the time in the forum, we can all choose to bypass them and ignore if they don’t suit us.

Oh! So my asking a question is the same as me telling someone they CANNOT post?

I wasn't rude. I wasn't telling anyone what they can or cannot, or should or shouldn't do.

I was expressing an opinion!

I never suggested you were rude. However your words have been taken literally by the OP, not your fault, but I still think to suggest to someone not to post similar threads more than once a day isn’t right.

We’ll have to agree to disagree on how this has been read, as you seem upset and that was not my intention with my opinion

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe think why the OP is doing it, maybe it helps him get his thoughts out of his head.

The amount of very similar topics on any given subject, is a daily thing on the forum, no one should be discouraged from posting just because someone has seen enough of something. Just pass over it.

No one might have intended that with their comments here, but it is how it has been taken by the OP

So the OP can express his thoughts and feelings, but I shouldn't express mine?

Seems fair

Do we have the right to tell someone what they can and can’t post about ? No, everyone has the freedom to post a topic of their choosing

Can you show me where I or anyone else said he couldn't post anything?

You said....

But could we maybe not have several in one day?

If the OP, or anyone else for that matter, chooses to post a thread with a similar topic more than once a day, that is their choosing. Maybe this is their escape to get their thoughts out.

We have similar numerous threads running all the time in the forum, we can all choose to bypass them and ignore if they don’t suit us.

Yes we do have several similar threads running at once and yes we can choose to ignore them but at the same time, it's an open forum and as long as it's within the rules, anyone can post anything they wish. Which means that, Lu is entitled to express how she is feeling the same as everyone else. It's just a request, she didn't ask anyone to stop posting at any point.

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By *aul1973HullMan over a year ago

East Hull

"Honestly wish I'd not said anything now

I totally understood what you said, I suffer from poor mental health and the fab forums is literally my only contact with the outside world

I come on here to take my mind off my own problems, and to read/contribute to the more light hearted threads in an attempt to feel 'normal', but I do read the MH threads and I have noticed there has been an increase in them in recent months, there's a fine line between them reassuring me that I'm not alone & them making me feel even more depressed. The people on here are a wonderfully supportive lot and I'm more likely to 'reach out' on here than anywhere else.

On the subject of having a dedicated MH section in the forums, it does sound like a great idea in theory, however I suspect that people will be less likely to use it because they have to intentionally go to the MH section which could be 'dark', as opposed to the 'light' of the Lounge where people are comfortable with the other forumites and more willing to open up, the same would apply for those who give support... if you're in a happy place mentally you're gonna avoid the sadness within a MH section & stay in the Lounge. That's my view anyway and others may see it differently.

Maybe a regular 'Mental Health #5436' thread in the Lounge would be a solution? But that would require somebody devoted to keeping it going. would it work... I dont know, threads regularly go off at a tangent (just like this one has) and comments from those asking for help or just saying how helpless they feel would get lost amongst the other conversations that will develop.

If I had the solutions to life's problems I wouldn't be rambling and getting brain ache trying to explain, so I'm gonna stop typing now and get back to my cuppa & have a cig

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe think why the OP is doing it, maybe it helps him get his thoughts out of his head.

The amount of very similar topics on any given subject, is a daily thing on the forum, no one should be discouraged from posting just because someone has seen enough of something. Just pass over it.

No one might have intended that with their comments here, but it is how it has been taken by the OP

So the OP can express his thoughts and feelings, but I shouldn't express mine?

Seems fair

Do we have the right to tell someone what they can and can’t post about ? No, everyone has the freedom to post a topic of their choosing

Can you show me where I or anyone else said he couldn't post anything?

You said....

But could we maybe not have several in one day?

If the OP, or anyone else for that matter, chooses to post a thread with a similar topic more than once a day, that is their choosing. Maybe this is their escape to get their thoughts out.

We have similar numerous threads running all the time in the forum, we can all choose to bypass them and ignore if they don’t suit us.

Oh! So my asking a question is the same as me telling someone they CANNOT post?

I wasn't rude. I wasn't telling anyone what they can or cannot, or should or shouldn't do.

I was expressing an opinion!

We’ll have to agree to disagree on how this has been read, as you seem upset and that was not my intention with my opinion "

Surely the only way I can avoid that is by never expressing an opinion?

I can't not stick up for myself when someone is making me out to be or have done something that isn't true.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe think why the OP is doing it, maybe it helps him get his thoughts out of his head.

The amount of very similar topics on any given subject, is a daily thing on the forum, no one should be discouraged from posting just because someone has seen enough of something. Just pass over it.

No one might have intended that with their comments here, but it is how it has been taken by the OP

So the OP can express his thoughts and feelings, but I shouldn't express mine?

Seems fair

Do we have the right to tell someone what they can and can’t post about ? No, everyone has the freedom to post a topic of their choosing

Can you show me where I or anyone else said he couldn't post anything?

You said....

But could we maybe not have several in one day?

If the OP, or anyone else for that matter, chooses to post a thread with a similar topic more than once a day, that is their choosing. Maybe this is their escape to get their thoughts out.

We have similar numerous threads running all the time in the forum, we can all choose to bypass them and ignore if they don’t suit us.

Thank You!

I'm glad some of you could see the intent in my post.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You’re not required to read every thread or comment on them. A lot of people are facing difficulties atm so my view is let them have their say even if it is similar to previous threads.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You’re not required to read every thread or comment on them. A lot of people are facing difficulties atm so my view is let them have their say even if it is similar to previous threads. "

Jeezus!!!!

Why is it ok for one person to express themselves but not another?!

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman over a year ago

On a mooch

"Maybe think why the OP is doing it, maybe it helps him get his thoughts out of his head.

The amount of very similar topics on any given subject, is a daily thing on the forum, no one should be discouraged from posting just because someone has seen enough of something. Just pass over it.

No one might have intended that with their comments here, but it is how it has been taken by the OP

So the OP can express his thoughts and feelings, but I shouldn't express mine?

Seems fair

Do we have the right to tell someone what they can and can’t post about ? No, everyone has the freedom to post a topic of their choosing

Can you show me where I or anyone else said he couldn't post anything?

You said....

But could we maybe not have several in one day?

If the OP, or anyone else for that matter, chooses to post a thread with a similar topic more than once a day, that is their choosing. Maybe this is their escape to get their thoughts out.

We have similar numerous threads running all the time in the forum, we can all choose to bypass them and ignore if they don’t suit us.

Oh! So my asking a question is the same as me telling someone they CANNOT post?

I wasn't rude. I wasn't telling anyone what they can or cannot, or should or shouldn't do.

I was expressing an opinion!

We’ll have to agree to disagree on how this has been read, as you seem upset and that was not my intention with my opinion

Surely the only way I can avoid that is by never expressing an opinion?

I can't not stick up for myself when someone is making me out to be or have done something that isn't true. "

We can all express opinions but may be mindful of how they are expressed.

My original post didn’t quote you, just referenced a few voices on this thread and other threads that have popped up over the last couple of months.

The OP has taken it a certain way and that was what I was referencing

As said before we can all choose to bypass threads that don’t interest us, if their was a filter system to remove threads you don’t want to see that would be great, but there isn’t.

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By * and R cple4Couple over a year ago

swansea

"You’re not required to read every thread or comment on them. A lot of people are facing difficulties atm so my view is let them have their say even if it is similar to previous threads. "

This

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By *iscean_dreamMan over a year ago

Llanelli

If someone isn't interested in a thread then just don't click on it or comment.

Everyone here is allowed to post anything within the rules and write their thoughts etc

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe think why the OP is doing it, maybe it helps him get his thoughts out of his head.

The amount of very similar topics on any given subject, is a daily thing on the forum, no one should be discouraged from posting just because someone has seen enough of something. Just pass over it.

No one might have intended that with their comments here, but it is how it has been taken by the OP

So the OP can express his thoughts and feelings, but I shouldn't express mine?

Seems fair

Do we have the right to tell someone what they can and can’t post about ? No, everyone has the freedom to post a topic of their choosing

Can you show me where I or anyone else said he couldn't post anything?

You said....

But could we maybe not have several in one day?

If the OP, or anyone else for that matter, chooses to post a thread with a similar topic more than once a day, that is their choosing. Maybe this is their escape to get their thoughts out.

We have similar numerous threads running all the time in the forum, we can all choose to bypass them and ignore if they don’t suit us.

Oh! So my asking a question is the same as me telling someone they CANNOT post?

I wasn't rude. I wasn't telling anyone what they can or cannot, or should or shouldn't do.

I was expressing an opinion!

We’ll have to agree to disagree on how this has been read, as you seem upset and that was not my intention with my opinion

Surely the only way I can avoid that is by never expressing an opinion?

I can't not stick up for myself when someone is making me out to be or have done something that isn't true.

We can all express opinions but may be mindful of how they are expressed.

My original post didn’t quote you, just referenced a few voices on this thread and other threads that have popped up over the last couple of months.

The OP has taken it a certain way and that was what I was referencing

As said before we can all choose to bypass threads that don’t interest us, if their was a filter system to remove threads you don’t want to see that would be great, but there isn’t. "

But it did interest me. It made me sad. Therefore I expressed this.

But I am somehow wrong for doing so...i should've just said nothing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If someone isn't interested in a thread then just don't click on it or comment.

Everyone here is allowed to post anything within the rules and write their thoughts etc "

Do none of you realise how ironic it is that you're all rabbiting on about how people should be able to say and post what they want whilst shaming someone for sharing their feelings on a thread about feelings?