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over a year ago
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"It's earned "
Nah, respect is the default, you lose respect if you act like a jerk. I don’t know the woman at the check out, I treat her with respect cause she’s just doing her job, how would she earn your respect, scanning your items faster ?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It depends which definition of respect you are using.
Respecting the rights and dignity of an individual should be a given.
Respecting what they have achieved, their reputation etc is earned. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I reversed for a bloke I never met, he said thanks, I didn’t know he was going to say thanks, in a world where respect was earned no one would reverse or let anyone out. |
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"I reversed for a bloke I never met, he said thanks, I didn’t know he was going to say thanks, in a world where respect was earned no one would reverse or let anyone out."
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"It depends which definition of respect you are using.
Respecting the rights and dignity of an individual should be a given.
Respecting what they have achieved, their reputation etc is earned."
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"It depends which definition of respect you are using.
Respecting the rights and dignity of an individual should be a given.
Respecting what they have achieved, their reputation etc is earned."
This. People conflate respect. Manners/ affording basic dignity versus deference towards authority. The first is automatic, the second is earned. |
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"It depends which definition of respect you are using.
Respecting the rights and dignity of an individual should be a given.
Respecting what they have achieved, their reputation etc is earned.
This. People conflate respect. Manners/ affording basic dignity versus deference towards authority. The first is automatic, the second is earned."
Oh absolutely. Heard it a lot around Trump... he won't value people as humans (respect) as those humans don't worship and praise (respect) him. |
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"It depends which definition of respect you are using.
Respecting the rights and dignity of an individual should be a given.
Respecting what they have achieved, their reputation etc is earned.
This. People conflate respect. Manners/ affording basic dignity versus deference towards authority. The first is automatic, the second is earned.
Oh absolutely. Heard it a lot around Trump... he won't value people as humans (respect) as those humans don't worship and praise (respect) him."
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"It's earned
So you would be disrespectful to a stranger?
Exactly.
There's a certain amount of respect you have to give everyone to begin with."
How about someone that's murdered alot of people. Do i have to give them respect? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don’t mix up respect with politeness and curtesy. Yes for me, respect has to be earned but I am courteous and polite to strangers  "
Respect has two meanings, one is having due regard for feeling, rights and wishes of others, so yes it means being polite And courteous.
It also means having admiration for someone’s achievements, abilities and qualities, which is the one you’re thinking of. |
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"Don’t mix up respect with politeness and curtesy. Yes for me, respect has to be earned but I am courteous and polite to strangers
Respect has two meanings, one is having due regard for feeling, rights and wishes of others, so yes it means being polite And courteous.
It also means having admiration for someone’s achievements, abilities and qualities, which is the one you’re thinking of. "
Being polite is separate from respect.
Sounds a bit subservient to me.
Who's due regard ? where did you get that from.
I'm an individual aren't you ? |
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"Don’t mix up respect with politeness and curtesy. Yes for me, respect has to be earned but I am courteous and polite to strangers
Respect has two meanings, one is having due regard for feeling, rights and wishes of others, so yes it means being polite And courteous.
It also means having admiration for someone’s achievements, abilities and qualities, which is the one you’re thinking of. "
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"I disagree. Everyone gets my respect until they give me a reason not to, then it’s gone.
Totally agree with this
Sounds a bit subservient to me this way around "
I’m an easy going guy. I give everyone respect and never judge. If they piss me off or is arrogant then my respect goes. |
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"I disagree. Everyone gets my respect until they give me a reason not to, then it’s gone.
Totally agree with this
Sounds a bit subservient to me this way around
I’m an easy going guy. I give everyone respect and never judge. If they piss me off or is arrogant then my respect goes. "
entrusting and you say everyone? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don’t mix up respect with politeness and curtesy. Yes for me, respect has to be earned but I am courteous and polite to strangers
Respect has two meanings, one is having due regard for feeling, rights and wishes of others, so yes it means being polite And courteous.
It also means having admiration for someone’s achievements, abilities and qualities, which is the one you’re thinking of.
Being polite is separate from respect.
Sounds a bit subservient to me.
Who's due regard ? where did you get that from.
I'm an individual aren't you ?"
As I explained respect has a duel meaning, being polite is not separate from respect, it is encompassed in its meaning, due regard is taken from the Dictionary, I’m going by what the actual word means not By how it is interpreted by someone, respect is nothing about being subservient you’re not bowing before anyone, you’re showing actions that you would like to be shown to you. |
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"We tend to respect everyone from the start unless they have done or do something that doesn't remotely deserve it "
We do tend to do this respect thing far to easily in my opinion. It's almost like a trend |
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"I disagree. Everyone gets my respect until they give me a reason not to, then it’s gone.
Totally agree with this
Sounds a bit subservient to me this way around
I’m an easy going guy. I give everyone respect and never judge. If they piss me off or is arrogant then my respect goes.
entrusting and you say everyone?"
Yes everyone. Unless I know they’re the kind of person I wouldn’t like like a racist or someone who hurts women or something then I wouldn’t give them the time of day and will have no problem telling them why. But other than that yes everyone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Agree OP, it is earned. I'll treat anyone with courtesy and kindness. Which I think is different to respect.
The correct approach i believe "
For once I agree with you  |
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"Don’t mix up respect with politeness and curtesy. Yes for me, respect has to be earned but I am courteous and polite to strangers "
Surely that's because you're respectful of societal cues and expectations, you may not respect that person for "who" they are, but are showing them respect by following the cues based on them being a human. I hope that makes sense... it does in my head.
I'll hold a door open for the person behind me because I respect their right to be treated with good manners, I think it's all the same thing that way.
But I'll respect Kathy Burke because I think she's a marvellous inspiration to women |
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"It's earned
Not always true or do you not give any respect to strangers I know I do.
No i treat people politely and that's nothing to do with respect "
*face palm* |
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"It's earned
Not always true or do you not give any respect to strangers I know I do.
No i treat people politely and that's nothing to do with respect
*face palm*"
Like i said respect isn't just given it's earned
Being polite costs you nothing |
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"It's earned
Not always true or do you not give any respect to strangers I know I do.
No i treat people politely and that's nothing to do with respect
*face palm*
Like i said respect isn't just given it's earned
Being polite costs you nothing "
I loss nothing! being polite
You can loss your respect and respects all day long |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's earned
Not always true or do you not give any respect to strangers I know I do.
No i treat people politely and that's nothing to do with respect
*face palm*
Like i said respect isn't just given it's earned
Being polite costs you nothing "
Yeah, I can see I’m wasting my time here, as I’ve already explained what the Dictionary definition of respect is, but you’ve obviously got your own take. Peace out |
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"It's earned
Not always true or do you not give any respect to strangers I know I do.
No i treat people politely and that's nothing to do with respect
*face palm*
Like i said respect isn't just given it's earned
Being polite costs you nothing
Yeah, I can see I’m wasting my time here, as I’ve already explained what the Dictionary definition of respect is, but you’ve obviously got your own take. Peace out "
Thanks for your time and research
I wish you well with your respects |
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"Don’t mix up respect with politeness and curtesy. Yes for me, respect has to be earned but I am courteous and polite to strangers
Respect has two meanings, one is having due regard for feeling, rights and wishes of others, so yes it means being polite And courteous.
It also means having admiration for someone’s achievements, abilities and qualities, which is the one you’re thinking of. "
Indeed
noun
1.
a feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements.
"the director had a lot of respect for Douglas as an actor"
Similar:
esteem
regard
high regard
high opinion
acclaim
admiration
approbation
approval
appreciation
estimation
favour
popularity
recognition
veneration
awe
reverence
deference
honour
praise
homage
Opposite:
contempt
2.
due regard for the feelings, wishes, or rights of others.
"young people's lack of respect for their parents"
So I'd suggest everyone is correct
It seems respect 1 "feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements".is absolutely an earned accolade
However
Respect 2 "due regard for the feelings, wishes, or rights of others" should be a default
Cant really see the problem ? |
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"Don’t mix up respect with politeness and curtesy. Yes for me, respect has to be earned but I am courteous and polite to strangers
Respect has two meanings, one is having due regard for feeling, rights and wishes of others, so yes it means being polite And courteous.
It also means having admiration for someone’s achievements, abilities and qualities, which is the one you’re thinking of.
Indeed
noun
1.
a feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements.
"the director had a lot of respect for Douglas as an actor"
Similar:
esteem
regard
high regard
high opinion
acclaim
admiration
approbation
approval
appreciation
estimation
favour
popularity
recognition
veneration
awe
reverence
deference
honour
praise
homage
Opposite:
contempt
2.
due regard for the feelings, wishes, or rights of others.
"young people's lack of respect for their parents"
So I'd suggest everyone is correct
It seems respect 1 "feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements".is absolutely an earned accolade
However
Respect 2 "due regard for the feelings, wishes, or rights of others" should be a default
Cant really see the problem ? "
All of this can be obtained by just being polite !
You can't force someone to give you respect and respect costs.. Your dignity, pride, hurt feelings and so on, It's a chance that someone else might share your feelings or pointof view.
While being polite costs you nothing.
Alot of people do tho force to be respected ive noticed .
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"Don’t mix up respect with politeness and curtesy. Yes for me, respect has to be earned but I am courteous and polite to strangers
Respect has two meanings, one is having due regard for feeling, rights and wishes of others, so yes it means being polite And courteous.
It also means having admiration for someone’s achievements, abilities and qualities, which is the one you’re thinking of.
Indeed
noun
1.
a feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements.
"the director had a lot of respect for Douglas as an actor"
Similar:
esteem
regard
high regard
high opinion
acclaim
admiration
approbation
approval
appreciation
estimation
favour
popularity
recognition
veneration
awe
reverence
deference
honour
praise
homage
Opposite:
contempt
2.
due regard for the feelings, wishes, or rights of others.
"young people's lack of respect for their parents"
So I'd suggest everyone is correct
It seems respect 1 "feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements".is absolutely an earned accolade
However
Respect 2 "due regard for the feelings, wishes, or rights of others" should be a default
Cant really see the problem ?
All of this can be obtained by just being polite !
You can't force someone to give you respect and respect costs.. Your dignity, pride, hurt feelings and so on, It's a chance that someone else might share your feelings or pointof view.
While being polite costs you nothing.
Alot of people do tho force to be respected ive noticed .
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Have you missed definition 2
They are synonyms?
The word polite and respect 2 are interchangeable
I think what you meant was
Many people think we all should
Respect (def 2) others
I agree
Some people think respect (def 1) is earned by demeanor and action
I agree
They are the same spelt word for 2 different emotions
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"Don’t mix up respect with politeness and curtesy. Yes for me, respect has to be earned but I am courteous and polite to strangers
Respect has two meanings, one is having due regard for feeling, rights and wishes of others, so yes it means being polite And courteous.
It also means having admiration for someone’s achievements, abilities and qualities, which is the one you’re thinking of.
Indeed
noun
1.
a feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements.
"the director had a lot of respect for Douglas as an actor"
Similar:
esteem
regard
high regard
high opinion
acclaim
admiration
approbation
approval
appreciation
estimation
favour
popularity
recognition
veneration
awe
reverence
deference
honour
praise
homage
Opposite:
contempt
2.
due regard for the feelings, wishes, or rights of others.
"young people's lack of respect for their parents"
So I'd suggest everyone is correct
It seems respect 1 "feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements".is absolutely an earned accolade
However
Respect 2 "due regard for the feelings, wishes, or rights of others" should be a default
Cant really see the problem ?
All of this can be obtained by just being polite !
You can't force someone to give you respect and respect costs.. Your dignity, pride, hurt feelings and so on, It's a chance that someone else might share your feelings or pointof view.
While being polite costs you nothing.
Alot of people do tho force to be respected ive noticed .
Have you missed definition 2
They are synonyms?
The word polite and respect 2 are interchangeable
I think what you meant was
Many people think we all should
Respect (def 2) others
I agree
Some people think respect (def 1) is earned by demeanor and action
I agree
They are the same spelt word for 2 different emotions
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Indeed they are and confusing to many
I know the reason why but i shall not get into that today
All i shall say is that east of the planet is certainly different to the west in way of thinking
Thanks for the research |
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