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How much of connection with a person do you base on looks?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I mean, you have to be slightly attracted to someone for any kind of relationship to go any further.
But do you find people grow on you?
What’s your stance? |
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I think people can definitely grow on you, as the personality shines through, so that you're suddenly taken aback and look at them anew but there needs to be some sort of attraction there in the first place
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They absolutely grow on me. There can be some that I think mmm not bad then I get talking to them and it turns into wow he’s the hottest man I’ve ever seen.
Or just as likely, he’s not- after a conversation...nope! |
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"I'm shallow...if I don't fancy someone instantly then I'm never going to. If I like their personality then we'll be friends, but we won't ever be getting jiggy. "
couldn't have put our feelings about it better ourselves   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm shallow...if I don't fancy someone instantly then I'm never going to. If I like their personality then we'll be friends, but we won't ever be getting jiggy. "
This for me too. Once I meet someone I’ve usually talked to them for a while so have an idea of personality. If I don’t get that grrrrrr when I meet them it won’t be happening. I don’t think it’s shallow though. Quite happy to be friends, which to be honest has happened more than anything else on here which is an added bonus. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm shallow...if I don't fancy someone instantly then I'm never going to. If I like their personality then we'll be friends, but we won't ever be getting jiggy.
This for me too. Once I meet someone I’ve usually talked to them for a while so have an idea of personality. If I don’t get that grrrrrr when I meet them it won’t be happening. I don’t think it’s shallow though. Quite happy to be friends, which to be honest has happened more than anything else on here which is an added bonus. "
What do you think makes that grrrr happen though? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm shallow...if I don't fancy someone instantly then I'm never going to. If I like their personality then we'll be friends, but we won't ever be getting jiggy. "
Same here. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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"People's both grows and shrinks on me depending on what I come to discover about them as a person."
This for me too.
And it takes a lot for someone to grow on me, yet I can go off someone pretty quickly. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
Attraction for me comes in different forms...there can be that immediate attraction to how someone looks but nothing more, it's usually fleeting.
Then there's an attraction that grows over time as you get to know someone that may be more personality based, but doesn't mean you don't find them physically attractive, and this is usually longer lasting and more meaningful.
Then there have been others where attraction hasn't been immediate either physically or personality wise but has developed over time.
I find it really difficult on here to make a snap decision based on looks alone and often hold back until I get to know someone a little because of it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I mean, you have to be slightly attracted to someone for any kind of relationship to go any further.
But do you find people grow on you?
What’s your stance?"
Yes people can grow on me as I find out more about them, I can also go off of them for the same reason. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends solely on the chemistry built through chats and meets. Even people I wouldn't necessarily consider "my type" could easily be changed through their personality. |
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By *latinumkittenWoman
over a year ago
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I've fancied people I've never met (or seen) based on our online/phone interactions.
I've superficially fancied people based on their physical appearance.
I put more faith in the former.
Critical physical feature: eyes (I can't describe what I look for, but I know in an instant if it's yes or no)
Bonus points: deportment, along with having a similar outlook on life, verbal expression and sense of adventure |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm shallow...if I don't fancy someone instantly then I'm never going to. If I like their personality then we'll be friends, but we won't ever be getting jiggy.
This for me too. Once I meet someone I’ve usually talked to them for a while so have an idea of personality. If I don’t get that grrrrrr when I meet them it won’t be happening. I don’t think it’s shallow though. Quite happy to be friends, which to be honest has happened more than anything else on here which is an added bonus.
What do you think makes that grrrr happen though?"
Can’t explain it. You just look at them and you just know. Happened twice to me on here. Although both those times I was certain it would. |
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A lot of it is physical attraction for me - especially on this site. But that doesn't mean drop dead gorgeous. Nice eyes, smile and a little bit of banter is what it takes.
In RL, quite often people grow on me as I get to know them better |
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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago
north and south |
"A lot of it is physical attraction for me - especially on this site. But that doesn't mean drop dead gorgeous. Nice eyes, smile and a little bit of banter is what it takes.
In RL, quite often people grow on me as I get to know them better "
I think we can miss so many Qualities from people by just going by the looks , it happened to me a lady sent pictures of her friend as she was conscious of her looks and she was a real Diamond of a lady great personality great in bed and great all-round person and 15 years later we are still friends today , So look Beyond looks I would say , But am pass my best now lol |
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"A drop dead hot person can be good to look at but if there’s no personality it’s not going anywhere need a connection "
This There definitely has to be a connection for me to want to get naked with anyone |
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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago
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"A drop dead hot person can be good to look at but if there’s no personality it’s not going anywhere need a connection
This There definitely has to be a connection for me to want to get naked with anyone "
But what makes me laugh you only ever want to meet the Swinger once no strings so surely it’s about meeting something away from the norm something you’re never going to Experience before experience before , I Agree I like a connection I like the banter the good sense of humour and Sexy ladies bottom all sizes all shapes |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I need my mind stimulating n there’s needs to be a connection, but if the only conversation he can hold is sex talk n sexual promises then I can quickly get bored  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm shallow...if I don't fancy someone instantly then I'm never going to. If I like their personality then we'll be friends, but we won't ever be getting jiggy. "
I dont think that's shallow. Honest and clear. |
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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago
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"I'm shallow...if I don't fancy someone instantly then I'm never going to. If I like their personality then we'll be friends, but we won't ever be getting jiggy.
I dont think that's shallow. Honest and clear. "
Look how Beautiful twisted Bambi is and there’s not a chance in hell that I 5 foot eight guy like me is ever going to meet somebody as beautiful as she is because she is 6 foot plus so I say hi let’s have a party for allsorts lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm shallow...if I don't fancy someone instantly then I'm never going to. If I like their personality then we'll be friends, but we won't ever be getting jiggy.
I dont think that's shallow. Honest and clear. Look how Beautiful twisted Bambi is and there’s not a chance in hell that I 5 foot eight guy like me is ever going to meet somebody as beautiful as she is because she is 6 foot plus so I say hi let’s have a party for allsorts lol "
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"A drop dead hot person can be good to look at but if there’s no personality it’s not going anywhere need a connection
This There definitely has to be a connection for me to want to get naked with anyone But what makes me laugh you only ever want to meet the Swinger once no strings so surely it’s about meeting something away from the norm something you’re never going to Experience before experience before , I Agree I like a connection I like the banter the good sense of humour and Sexy ladies bottom all sizes all shapes "
I don't quite understand what you are saying...but it does say on my profile I'm looking for someone I can have a friendship with and go to clubs with, not just meet for a few hours of sex once a month. It says nothing about only meeting once  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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People definitely grow on you. There has to be an initial attraction for sure, but that attraction grows the more I talk and get comfortable with the woman |
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"People definitely grow on you. There has to be an initial attraction for sure, but that attraction grows the more I talk and get comfortable with the woman "
Exactly this
I find that when I connect with someone, I tend to find them more attractive than when we first start chatting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"People definitely grow on you. There has to be an initial attraction for sure, but that attraction grows the more I talk and get comfortable with the woman
Exactly this
I find that when I connect with someone, I tend to find them more attractive than when we first start chatting. "
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and personality. Then if we vibe, all good
