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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I don't want to end up an old man wishing that I did more at the end of my days. I'm almost 40 now and I feel as if I've don't nothing with my life at all. 
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By *G999Man
over a year ago
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"Ask yourselves did you really live life to the full before covid? "
I'm confused 
You've said you felt you've done nothing with your life, yet you're asking people to deeply examine theirs.
I'm not sure what you want, some life coaching, or other people to be in the same situation as you?
No judgement, just confusion.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm making enough of it to make me happy. I guess I could make more of life but there seems little point when I feel so content."
That is good feeling content |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ask yourselves did you really live life to the full before covid?
I'm confused
You've said you felt you've done nothing with your life, yet you're asking people to deeply examine theirs.
I'm not sure what you want, some life coaching, or other people to be in the same situation as you?
No judgement, just confusion. "
I'm not sure either |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Are you?
Are you
OP?
No I feel as if I should be doing more with my life.
Like what what would you like to do xx"
I actually don't know for sure. I have just always wished for a better and more exciting life  |
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Are you?
Are you
OP?
No I feel as if I should be doing more with my life.
Like what what would you like to do xx
I actually don't know for sure. I have just always wished for a better and more exciting life "
Well plan some things and when this virus goes or we have a vaccine do it xx |
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At the moment it's difficult. There have been times when I've made the most of my life and times when I haven't. Certain ages make you think about what you're doing with your life. 40 is one of them, 60 is another.
What do you want to do with your life op? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Are you?
Are you
OP?
No I feel as if I should be doing more with my life.
Like what what would you like to do xx
I actually don't know for sure. I have just always wished for a better and more exciting life
Well plan some things and when this virus goes or we have a vaccine do it xx"
Yes. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"At the moment it's difficult. There have been times when I've made the most of my life and times when I haven't. Certain ages make you think about what you're doing with your life. 40 is one of them, 60 is another.
What do you want to do with your life op?"
I honestly don't know right now. Maybe I should of asked everyone what would you be doing if money was no object and then I would of probably had a different response. |
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"At the moment it's difficult. There have been times when I've made the most of my life and times when I haven't. Certain ages make you think about what you're doing with your life. 40 is one of them, 60 is another.
What do you want to do with your life op?
I honestly don't know right now. Maybe I should of asked everyone what would you be doing if money was no object and then I would of probably had a different response. "
You would have had a very different response but making the most of life isn't always about chucking money about. Constantly wishing you had more actually stops you appreciating what you've already got. All the money in the world isn't going to make it possible to travel widely at the moment for instance |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"At the moment it's difficult. There have been times when I've made the most of my life and times when I haven't. Certain ages make you think about what you're doing with your life. 40 is one of them, 60 is another.
What do you want to do with your life op?
I honestly don't know right now. Maybe I should of asked everyone what would you be doing if money was no object and then I would of probably had a different response.
You would have had a very different response but making the most of life isn't always about chucking money about. Constantly wishing you had more actually stops you appreciating what you've already got. All the money in the world isn't going to make it possible to travel widely at the moment for instance"
Good point. I guess if I can't appreciate what I have in life then I can't appreciate anything. |
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"At the moment it's difficult. There have been times when I've made the most of my life and times when I haven't. Certain ages make you think about what you're doing with your life. 40 is one of them, 60 is another.
What do you want to do with your life op?
I honestly don't know right now. Maybe I should of asked everyone what would you be doing if money was no object and then I would of probably had a different response.
You would have had a very different response but making the most of life isn't always about chucking money about. Constantly wishing you had more actually stops you appreciating what you've already got. All the money in the world isn't going to make it possible to travel widely at the moment for instance
Good point. I guess if I can't appreciate what I have in life then I can't appreciate anything."
It's a useful mind set but not always possible. You said you're coming up to 40, you're going to re evaluate your life and think about where you are and what you'd like to be doing. The truth is that most of us are going along, earning a living and getting by the majority of the time. It is useful if you can identify at least one thing you'd like to do and work towards that tnough. |
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Absolutely. Appreciate the simple things in life that every day can bring.
Yes, there are things we want to do in life that we can't at the moment, but no point being miserable about it. We will achieve them one day hopefully.
Just enjoy each day. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think once you are doing the simple things that you're able to do in life is making the most of it ...to sort the reality of things from the impractical things is the key... like sorting what you can't do maybe for financial reasons to what you can do financially and practically...and then be like the Nike logo ..JUST DO IT !!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It depends what you have already done in your life OP. I used to think I hadn't done much with my life but looking back now I've done plenty. You've probably done more than you realise.
And making the most of life will mean different things to different people. To some it'll mean travelling to lots of different countries and to others it'll be having a nice garden.
At the moment, for me, making the most of life is helping out with my family, connecting with new people on Fab and reading some interesting books. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think so. I know I'm lucky in many ways, although life has been harder for me at times.
My career is a big focus at the moment and obviously being a mum.
However, my youngest will be 20 in 7 years and I fully intend to be in a position to have many adventures. Travel, perhaps even work abroad for a little while, and generally go a bit wild. |
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I like the quote
"When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life.
When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down 'happy'.
They told me I didn't understand the assignment, and I told them they didn't understand life."
Not everyone can travel, wing walk or bungee jump.
I try to live life and follow my passions but if you can't it can lead people to an unhappy place where they feel they should be doing more with their life.
Being happy is such a great achievement in itself |
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By *ab jamesMan
over a year ago
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Of course I'm living to the full! Even at this time plans are afoot for my next "episode"
How's this? Currently selling up in the UK, looking to buy a large 7/8 bedroom house in Spain. Maybe a swingers b+b! Taking advantage of spains week property market. I'm an atheist, so no heaven and hell for me so I gotta make my life sweet |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I don't know if I am. Sometimes I feel a bit Mrs Dalloway, other days less so. I think sometimes it's okay to just be - this constant striving effort to be the best and live your best life is exhausting. Maybe your best life is enjoying and being content with where you are now, appreciative of all the good in your life and the people to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like the quote
"When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life.
When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down 'happy'.
They told me I didn't understand the assignment, and I told them they didn't understand life."
Not everyone can travel, wing walk or bungee jump.
I try to live life and follow my passions but if you can't it can lead people to an unhappy place where they feel they should be doing more with their life.
Being happy is such a great achievement in itself "
Great post and quote there Sam
Happiness is my only goal in life, that of my family and loved ones and also for myself.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm making enough of it to make me happy. I guess I could make more of life but there seems little point when I feel so content.
That is good feeling content "
I'm content and believe it's a great place to be, so many get caught up in examining their life, hankering after things they don't have, haven't done thinking the Holy grail is to be silly happy all the time. Being content in your life, yourself, is enjoying the moment, living through others perceptions of happiness isn't a life, it's a competition.
It's exhausting.
The here and now is really the only point that matters, enjoy it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me happiness is an abstract concept, it’s like those floaters in your eyes, when you focus your attention on it they drift off, it’s only when you forget about them do they come into view again, I’m not searching happiness, im hoping for contentment. |
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"I like the quote
"When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life.
When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down 'happy'.
They told me I didn't understand the assignment, and I told them they didn't understand life."
Not everyone can travel, wing walk or bungee jump.
I try to live life and follow my passions but if you can't it can lead people to an unhappy place where they feel they should be doing more with their life.
Being happy is such a great achievement in itself
Great post and quote there Sam
Happiness is my only goal in life, that of my family and loved ones and also for myself.
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Thanks for the kind words Sam, have a great Sunday whatever you're doing |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
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There are lots of things I want to do but can't at the moment but I don't think I'm wasting my life. I actually think this time has been good to remind me what I need to be happy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was up until March...couldn t squeeze any more into it, but since then its still squeezed though in a different way....namely WORK! Thats all I ve done and guess its all I ll be doing for some time to come yet..which makes for a dull minded guy. Had maybe 9 days off, possibly less all year...but the upside is its keeping my promise to my girl....to shelter her and keep us warm and fed over the cold dark months ahead.  |
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By *hav02Man
over a year ago
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Yes and no. There have been highs and lows. Perhaps i should have made different choices in the past, but I've grown to be independent as I've learnt that people are generally unreliable.
So now I live the way I want and have done many things because I broke free of dependancy and validation.
Carpe Diem et temet nosce. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Life got better for me when I stopped caring what other people thought of it.
I'm not out to impress anyone.
I don't have a picture in my mind of how it's supposed to be either.
It's a massive weight off my shoulders. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Life got better for me when I stopped caring what other people thought of it.
I'm not out to impress anyone.
I don't have a picture in my mind of how it's supposed to be either.
It's a massive weight off my shoulders."
Yeah this, also when I realised you can walk out of any situation, you don’t like someone’s company get up walk away, not having fun on a night out, walk away, there’s no need to explain yourself to anyone. Also saying no to people, took me along time to realise this, saying ‘No, thanks!’Is fine, If they say why, just say I don’t want to, or it’s not something I will enjoy, no need for excuses, when you don’t worry about what anyone thinking of you then you’re free. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Life got better for me when I stopped caring what other people thought of it.
I'm not out to impress anyone.
I don't have a picture in my mind of how it's supposed to be either.
It's a massive weight off my shoulders."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Life got better for me when I stopped caring what other people thought of it.
I'm not out to impress anyone.
I don't have a picture in my mind of how it's supposed to be either.
It's a massive weight off my shoulders.
Yeah this, also when I realised you can walk out of any situation, you don’t like someone’s company get up walk away, not having fun on a night out, walk away, there’s no need to explain yourself to anyone. Also saying no to people, took me along time to realise this, saying ‘No, thanks!’Is fine, If they say why, just say I don’t want to, or it’s not something I will enjoy, no need for excuses, when you don’t worry about what anyone thinking of you then you’re free. "
It is freedom you're right.
Saying no took me a long time too - I wish I could go back and tell my 20 year old self this  |
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I'd say I'm living the best life I can with what is available to me...I'm content with who and what I have in my life, and those people and things make me happy.
It's nice to sometimes daydream about what are, realistically, unattainable things, but I'm not going to waste time pining for those to the detriment of appreciating and enjoy the wonderful people and things that I already have. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes, it’s not exciting currently but I’ve had a full life so no complaints. "
Life isn't always rock 'n' roll (and that's not a bad thing). Not even French Rock 'n' Roll.
https://youtu.be/meKVDxY8NOE |
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By *G999Man
over a year ago
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"Ask yourselves did you really live life to the full before covid?
I'm confused
You've said you felt you've done nothing with your life, yet you're asking people to deeply examine theirs.
I'm not sure what you want, some life coaching, or other people to be in the same situation as you?
No judgement, just confusion.
I'm not sure either "
Perhaps think about a goal to aim for, something that interests you, somewhere you want to be, something you want to feel, a state of being perhaps?
Consider what will it be like when you get there, how will it look, sound and feel. How motivated are you to get there, wherever there is.
Break that goal down into manageable chunks, stepping stones if you will. Repeat the same process... what's it like when you get there, how does it feel etc..
Write all this stuff down..
Make your stepping stones realistic and achievable... if it's unrealistic you set yourself up to fail and you could well give up too early. Being honest with yourself is important here.
Small incremental wins lead to big changes... solidify your small changes, make them habits, then you don't have to think about them any more and you can move onto the next stepping stone.
It's not easy, it takes hard work, dedication and time to get what you want..
But it's achievable.
Hth |
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"Ask yourselves did you really live life to the full before covid?
I'm confused
You've said you felt you've done nothing with your life, yet you're asking people to deeply examine theirs.
I'm not sure what you want, some life coaching, or other people to be in the same situation as you?
No judgement, just confusion.
I'm not sure either
Perhaps think about a goal to aim for, something that interests you, somewhere you want to be, something you want to feel, a state of being perhaps?
Consider what will it be like when you get there, how will it look, sound and feel. How motivated are you to get there, wherever there is.
Break that goal down into manageable chunks, stepping stones if you will. Repeat the same process... what's it like when you get there, how does it feel etc..
Write all this stuff down..
Make your stepping stones realistic and achievable... if it's unrealistic you set yourself up to fail and you could well give up too early. Being honest with yourself is important here.
Small incremental wins lead to big changes... solidify your small changes, make them habits, then you don't have to think about them any more and you can move onto the next stepping stone.
It's not easy, it takes hard work, dedication and time to get what you want..
But it's achievable.
Hth"
This shit is hard. It's probably why so few people do it. |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
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"Ask yourselves did you really live life to the full before covid?
I'm confused
You've said you felt you've done nothing with your life, yet you're asking people to deeply examine theirs.
I'm not sure what you want, some life coaching, or other people to be in the same situation as you?
No judgement, just confusion.
I'm not sure either
Perhaps think about a goal to aim for, something that interests you, somewhere you want to be, something you want to feel, a state of being perhaps?
Consider what will it be like when you get there, how will it look, sound and feel. How motivated are you to get there, wherever there is.
Break that goal down into manageable chunks, stepping stones if you will. Repeat the same process... what's it like when you get there, how does it feel etc..
Write all this stuff down..
Make your stepping stones realistic and achievable... if it's unrealistic you set yourself up to fail and you could well give up too early. Being honest with yourself is important here.
Small incremental wins lead to big changes... solidify your small changes, make them habits, then you don't have to think about them any more and you can move onto the next stepping stone.
It's not easy, it takes hard work, dedication and time to get what you want..
But it's achievable.
Hth"
This is what i've basically done on a professional level with a brilliant outcome. As a result i've reached the pinnacle of my career and take great satisfaction and personal realisation from this |
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By *G999Man
over a year ago
Everywhere & Nowhere |
"Ask yourselves did you really live life to the full before covid?
I'm confused
You've said you felt you've done nothing with your life, yet you're asking people to deeply examine theirs.
I'm not sure what you want, some life coaching, or other people to be in the same situation as you?
No judgement, just confusion.
I'm not sure either
Perhaps think about a goal to aim for, something that interests you, somewhere you want to be, something you want to feel, a state of being perhaps?
Consider what will it be like when you get there, how will it look, sound and feel. How motivated are you to get there, wherever there is.
Break that goal down into manageable chunks, stepping stones if you will. Repeat the same process... what's it like when you get there, how does it feel etc..
Write all this stuff down..
Make your stepping stones realistic and achievable... if it's unrealistic you set yourself up to fail and you could well give up too early. Being honest with yourself is important here.
Small incremental wins lead to big changes... solidify your small changes, make them habits, then you don't have to think about them any more and you can move onto the next stepping stone.
It's not easy, it takes hard work, dedication and time to get what you want..
But it's achievable.
Hth
This shit is hard. It's probably why so few people do it."
Starting is the hardest bit... but asking for help doesn't mean you can't do it yourself. A good coach will help set you on a path, help you to refine the goals, challenge your thinking and keep you accountable. |
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By *G999Man
over a year ago
Everywhere & Nowhere |
"Ask yourselves did you really live life to the full before covid?
I'm confused
You've said you felt you've done nothing with your life, yet you're asking people to deeply examine theirs.
I'm not sure what you want, some life coaching, or other people to be in the same situation as you?
No judgement, just confusion.
I'm not sure either
Perhaps think about a goal to aim for, something that interests you, somewhere you want to be, something you want to feel, a state of being perhaps?
Consider what will it be like when you get there, how will it look, sound and feel. How motivated are you to get there, wherever there is.
Break that goal down into manageable chunks, stepping stones if you will. Repeat the same process... what's it like when you get there, how does it feel etc..
Write all this stuff down..
Make your stepping stones realistic and achievable... if it's unrealistic you set yourself up to fail and you could well give up too early. Being honest with yourself is important here.
Small incremental wins lead to big changes... solidify your small changes, make them habits, then you don't have to think about them any more and you can move onto the next stepping stone.
It's not easy, it takes hard work, dedication and time to get what you want..
But it's achievable.
Hth
This is what i've basically done on a professional level with a brilliant outcome. As a result i've reached the pinnacle of my career and take great satisfaction and personal realisation from this "
Fantastic!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ask yourselves did you really live life to the full before covid?
I'm confused
You've said you felt you've done nothing with your life, yet you're asking people to deeply examine theirs.
I'm not sure what you want, some life coaching, or other people to be in the same situation as you?
No judgement, just confusion.
I'm not sure either
Perhaps think about a goal to aim for, something that interests you, somewhere you want to be, something you want to feel, a state of being perhaps?
Consider what will it be like when you get there, how will it look, sound and feel. How motivated are you to get there, wherever there is.
Break that goal down into manageable chunks, stepping stones if you will. Repeat the same process... what's it like when you get there, how does it feel etc..
Write all this stuff down..
Make your stepping stones realistic and achievable... if it's unrealistic you set yourself up to fail and you could well give up too early. Being honest with yourself is important here.
Small incremental wins lead to big changes... solidify your small changes, make them habits, then you don't have to think about them any more and you can move onto the next stepping stone.
It's not easy, it takes hard work, dedication and time to get what you want..
But it's achievable.
Hth"
I agree with this but it also takes motivation and a lot of people are seriously lacking this at the moment. It’s not easy. I’m a positive person but I am really really struggling at the moment. It’s all very well writing it down but without the correct mindset and motivation it can seem impossible x |
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"Ask yourselves did you really live life to the full before covid?
I'm confused
You've said you felt you've done nothing with your life, yet you're asking people to deeply examine theirs.
I'm not sure what you want, some life coaching, or other people to be in the same situation as you?
No judgement, just confusion.
I'm not sure either
Perhaps think about a goal to aim for, something that interests you, somewhere you want to be, something you want to feel, a state of being perhaps?
Consider what will it be like when you get there, how will it look, sound and feel. How motivated are you to get there, wherever there is.
Break that goal down into manageable chunks, stepping stones if you will. Repeat the same process... what's it like when you get there, how does it feel etc..
Write all this stuff down..
Make your stepping stones realistic and achievable... if it's unrealistic you set yourself up to fail and you could well give up too early. Being honest with yourself is important here.
Small incremental wins lead to big changes... solidify your small changes, make them habits, then you don't have to think about them any more and you can move onto the next stepping stone.
It's not easy, it takes hard work, dedication and time to get what you want..
But it's achievable.
Hth
This shit is hard. It's probably why so few people do it.
Starting is the hardest bit... but asking for help doesn't mean you can't do it yourself. A good coach will help set you on a path, help you to refine the goals, challenge your thinking and keep you accountable. "
I've been at it for most of my life
My goals are more existential. I've succeeded beyond anyone's wildest dreams so far. But I'm an optimiser and I'm digging into it and finding more and more to overcome, to achieve. |
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By *G999Man
over a year ago
Everywhere & Nowhere |
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Perhaps think about a goal to aim for, something that interests you, somewhere you want to be, something you want to feel, a state of being perhaps?
Consider what will it be like when you get there, how will it look, sound and feel. How motivated are you to get there, wherever there is.
Break that goal down into manageable chunks, stepping stones if you will. Repeat the same process... what's it like when you get there, how does it feel etc..
Write all this stuff down..
Make your stepping stones realistic and achievable... if it's unrealistic you set yourself up to fail and you could well give up too early. Being honest with yourself is important here.
Small incremental wins lead to big changes... solidify your small changes, make them habits, then you don't have to think about them any more and you can move onto the next stepping stone.
It's not easy, it takes hard work, dedication and time to get what you want..
But it's achievable.
Hth
I agree with this but it also takes motivation and a lot of people are seriously lacking this at the moment. It’s not easy. I’m a positive person but I am really really struggling at the moment. It’s all very well writing it down but without the correct mindset and motivation it can seem impossible x"
Imho the mindset and motivation are directly linked to the goal. If your goals are clear, emotionally powerful and hold enough meaning to you then you can maintain the mindset to succeed. If your goal is there but you're not motivated to do it, what does that tell about your goal?
It would of course be unrealistic to think that "life" won't throw you a curveball from time to time, that's going to happen. Short term incremental goals can be managed to adjust things to give you some modicum of control back.
Finding what type of motivator you respond best to can aid you also.
A push motivator is perhaps something you want to avoid, a state you don't want to be in, for example "if I don't do x, I'm going to be here in the same position next month, year, 10 years"
Pull motivators draw you to a desired state e.g. "If I do x, it'll mean I can provide a better life for my kids"
People naturally respond strongly to one or another depending on the goal, it could be worth experimenting to see how you get on? |
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OK, wierd one.
I think phrases like making the most of life do more harm than good depending on your mindset/frame of mind/mood.
I think it can guilt us into feeling lazy or not good enough.
It's more about wants to me, and whether those wants are worth the sacrifices and pitfalls to get there. I want a holiday abroad at some point, but do I want it enough to take on a second job to get it? Nah. I'm already knackered and stressed enough with the one I have.
I'd love to grow old with someone, but do I want it enough to put myself through the heartache and drama of going through the wrong people to find the right one? Do I fuck.
Our wants and needs change, but being content with what you have ..... that's living your best life as far as I'm concerned. Anything else is focussing on what you don't have instead of what you do and being appreciative of the little things.
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"OK, wierd one.
I think phrases like making the most of life do more harm than good depending on your mindset/frame of mind/mood.
I think it can guilt us into feeling lazy or not good enough.
It's more about wants to me, and whether those wants are worth the sacrifices and pitfalls to get there. I want a holiday abroad at some point, but do I want it enough to take on a second job to get it? Nah. I'm already knackered and stressed enough with the one I have.
I'd love to grow old with someone, but do I want it enough to put myself through the heartache and drama of going through the wrong people to find the right one? Do I fuck.
Our wants and needs change, but being content with what you have ..... that's living your best life as far as I'm concerned. Anything else is focussing on what you don't have instead of what you do and being appreciative of the little things.
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It can be overwhelming, too. There are so many issues to fix, so many things to do. I sometimes find myself paralysed by the enormity of everything I want to be able to do, how much I want to help.
I'm always going to be better off targeting my efforts. |
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"OK, wierd one.
I think phrases like making the most of life do more harm than good depending on your mindset/frame of mind/mood.
I think it can guilt us into feeling lazy or not good enough.
It's more about wants to me, and whether those wants are worth the sacrifices and pitfalls to get there. I want a holiday abroad at some point, but do I want it enough to take on a second job to get it? Nah. I'm already knackered and stressed enough with the one I have.
I'd love to grow old with someone, but do I want it enough to put myself through the heartache and drama of going through the wrong people to find the right one? Do I fuck.
Our wants and needs change, but being content with what you have ..... that's living your best life as far as I'm concerned. Anything else is focussing on what you don't have instead of what you do and being appreciative of the little things.
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My only goal is to wake up alive again tomorrow. After being asleep and unaware for a few hours and hopefully I won't remember any dreams I had. |
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By *G999Man
over a year ago
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"OK, wierd one.
I think phrases like making the most of life do more harm than good depending on your mindset/frame of mind/mood.
I think it can guilt us into feeling lazy or not good enough.
It's more about wants to me, and whether those wants are worth the sacrifices and pitfalls to get there. I want a holiday abroad at some point, but do I want it enough to take on a second job to get it? Nah. I'm already knackered and stressed enough with the one I have.
I'd love to grow old with someone, but do I want it enough to put myself through the heartache and drama of going through the wrong people to find the right one? Do I fuck.
Our wants and needs change, but being content with what you have ..... that's living your best life as far as I'm concerned. Anything else is focussing on what you don't have instead of what you do and being appreciative of the little things.
It can be overwhelming, too. There are so many issues to fix, so many things to do. I sometimes find myself paralysed by the enormity of everything I want to be able to do, how much I want to help.
I'm always going to be better off targeting my efforts. "
This...
Breaking down into small achievable goals helps to maintain focus and clarity, mitigating the feelings of being overwhelmed.
Small steps, big wins |
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"OK, wierd one.
I think phrases like making the most of life do more harm than good depending on your mindset/frame of mind/mood.
I think it can guilt us into feeling lazy or not good enough.
It's more about wants to me, and whether those wants are worth the sacrifices and pitfalls to get there. I want a holiday abroad at some point, but do I want it enough to take on a second job to get it? Nah. I'm already knackered and stressed enough with the one I have.
I'd love to grow old with someone, but do I want it enough to put myself through the heartache and drama of going through the wrong people to find the right one? Do I fuck.
Our wants and needs change, but being content with what you have ..... that's living your best life as far as I'm concerned. Anything else is focussing on what you don't have instead of what you do and being appreciative of the little things.
It can be overwhelming, too. There are so many issues to fix, so many things to do. I sometimes find myself paralysed by the enormity of everything I want to be able to do, how much I want to help.
I'm always going to be better off targeting my efforts.
This...
Breaking down into small achievable goals helps to maintain focus and clarity, mitigating the feelings of being overwhelmed.
Small steps, big wins "
Problem is when your small goals relate to 20 different things at once  |
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Perhaps think about a goal to aim for, something that interests you, somewhere you want to be, something you want to feel, a state of being perhaps?
Consider what will it be like when you get there, how will it look, sound and feel. How motivated are you to get there, wherever there is.
Break that goal down into manageable chunks, stepping stones if you will. Repeat the same process... what's it like when you get there, how does it feel etc..
Write all this stuff down..
Make your stepping stones realistic and achievable... if it's unrealistic you set yourself up to fail and you could well give up too early. Being honest with yourself is important here.
Small incremental wins lead to big changes... solidify your small changes, make them habits, then you don't have to think about them any more and you can move onto the next stepping stone.
It's not easy, it takes hard work, dedication and time to get what you want..
But it's achievable.
Hth"
This sounds like it's a copy and paste from a self help book.
It means well but I zoned out halfway through as it was like reading an instruction manual.
Sorry |
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Yes, I think so. Always trying to improve myself physically and mentally, career in service, always encouraging and pushing others that I care about.
Oh and always trying to perfect the perfect dick pic |
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By *G999Man
over a year ago
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Problem is when your small goals relate to 20 different things at once "
Which ones are the most important?
Which ones are the most immediate?
Can you prioritise them?
If the answer is "all of them" are equally important and immediate, I'd ask if that's really honest and if so, then maybe planning could be a short term goal. |
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Problem is when your small goals relate to 20 different things at once
Which ones are the most important?
Which ones are the most immediate?
Can you prioritise them?
If the answer is "all of them" are equally important and immediate, I'd ask if that's really honest and if so, then maybe planning could be a short term goal. "
Oh that's my current work in progress. I'm on it. I know from a lifetime of this shit what I'm like. And that it breaks me |
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This sounds like it's a copy and paste from a self help book.
It means well but I zoned out halfway through as it was like reading an instruction manual.
Sorry "
No apology required madam.
I wouldn't expect everyone to take something from what's been written, but if one person finds any piece of it useful, then I'm happy with that. |
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I thought I was, but I lost a colleague and friend on Friday and it’s made me realise how quickly life can be taken away and is making me question whether this is the life I really want.
Some soul searching ahead I think. |
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"I thought I was, but I lost a colleague and friend on Friday and it’s made me realise how quickly life can be taken away and is making me question whether this is the life I really want.
Some soul searching ahead I think."
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Yes I always do no matter what is going on around me.
I'm very flexible and can adapt to any new situations quickly.
I'm not scared of change and always up for a challenge. I'm a mature man now but there's still plenty of life in me yet. |
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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago
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I try. Sometimes I do a good job, others not so much. But I am in control of what I do and when and that is the best position I can be in.
Sometimes it’s not always possible to live my life purely for me. Sometimes my joy is elsewhere. The constraints of my daughter, other family and friends (who I love loads obviously), my job (which I love) and finances (and generally we don’t do so bad) always come first. Even if I may prefer to be doing something else at a particular time.
Things I would be doing that really are part of who I am, I haven’t done this year (I tend to spend my summers at music festivals for example). I’m feeling the pain of missing those this year (and fear for next year too).
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