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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I've noticed that its definitely a no no to be on here if a male and wed but as a single ! But it seems ok to be a lass and married seeking fun and frolics !

Dont want to stir a Hornets nest or nowt . There be some times a reason maybe not the best but still !

I'm wed and love the wife nut it seems after Children apeard

I'm redundant in the sex department ! The good lady not into woo woo at all !! Must have only had rudey naughty maybe 5 times in the last 4 yrs ! The good lady simply dont like sex finds it dirty and weird unless there's a purpose ! Now here be a problem I'm well horny all the time massively frustrated But so far loyal! No straying !

But we only here once and would love to play! Not that I would run away with another or nowt ! Just like to experiment before I die! Long winded I know . Thoughts please x

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I want some woo woo

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

just wank alot

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By *uriousKinksterMan over a year ago

Loughborough

Wait, so, you're posting this on a swinging site bit claim to be entirely loyal? Not entirely sure that's how it works. If the wife knew you were on here, would she not feel betrayed? Sure, getting laid less than once a year is grim, but a conversation sure beats a used condom when it comes to confessing to your displeasure. Worst case you split amicably 'cos you're no longer compatible, best case you're here on legit grounds to quite reasonably scratch an itch.

Also have you tried swapping out the woo woo for a sex on the beach? Infinitely more delicious.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are women on here who meet married men just few and far between and i know this because a friend of mine prefers married men, i think the problem with your situation is I'm presuming your wife doesnt know your on here and that is cheating which is frowned upon by the majority on here, I was part of a cple and we had a cples profile and my single profile but she knew about every meet and would verify she was ok with it via a phonecall can you do that or alternatively your best option is wait till clubs reopen

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By *eachAndyMan over a year ago

Studland

" I've noticed that its definitely a no no to be on here if a male and wed but as a single ! But it seems ok to be a lass and married seeking fun and frolics !

Dont want to stir a Hornets nest or nowt . There be some times a reason maybe not the best but still !

I'm wed and love the wife nut it seems after Children apeard

But we only here once and would love to play! Not that I would run away with another or nowt ! Just like to experiment before I die! Long winded I know . Thoughts please x"

I get it, single now and never strayed when together.

Recommend you do the same and try some wining and dining and reigniting the fuse. Kids will take priority.... Forever

Good luck to you but try and stay loyal and rebuild her confidence, might be she has some anxiety and confidence issues after kids etc. Recommend that you put all your energy into helping her and no one else for now, if she doesn't want you she'll let you know soon enough and you can move on knowing you've done everything you can.

Hope it works out for you both.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Wait, so, you're posting this on a swinging site bit claim to be entirely loyal? Not entirely sure that's how it works. If the wife knew you were on here, would she not feel betrayed? Sure, getting laid less than once a year is grim, but a conversation sure beats a used condom when it comes to confessing to your displeasure. Worst case you split amicably 'cos you're no longer compatible, best case you're here on legit grounds to quite reasonably scratch an itch.

Also have you tried swapping out the woo woo for a sex on the beach? Infinitely more delicious. "
hate sex on the beach ! Yes I'm here on a swingers site and in my eyes faithful not had any kind of interaction with no humans !

But dont mean to say I'm going to spend the rest of my days sex free well almost ! I dont plan on running away with another at all but I'm not sure I can spend the rest of my existence sex free ! We all have different urges I know but because the other half isnt interested in something your very keen on , does that mean you have to miss out your self for your entire life ?

Kinky sex is one thing love is different isnt it ? Anyhow I haven't strayed but god knows I'd like nookie

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By *uriousKinksterMan over a year ago

Loughborough

Also have you tried swapping out the woo woo for a sex on the beach? Infinitely more delicious. hate sex on the beach ! Yes I'm here on a swingers site and in my eyes faithful not had any kind of interaction with no humans !

Kinky sex is one thing love is different isnt it ? Anyhow I haven't strayed but god knows I'd like nookie"

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

" I've noticed that its definitely a no no to be on here if a male and wed but as a single ! But it seems ok to be a lass and married seeking fun and frolics !

Dont want to stir a Hornets nest or nowt . There be some times a reason maybe not the best but still !

I'm wed and love the wife nut it seems after Children apeard

But we only here once and would love to play! Not that I would run away with another or nowt ! Just like to experiment before I die! Long winded I know . Thoughts please x

I get it, single now and never strayed when together.

Recommend you do the same and try some wining and dining and reigniting the fuse. Kids will take priority.... Forever

Hope it works out for you both.

"
well I kind of like your post thanks but yer definitely not into sex really bless her wasent to much before Kids ! Now that's achieved no matter how much romantic meals n flowers and whatnot happens theres a definite cut off , basically she dont like it seems dirty to her ! But I'm definitely not going to leave her and the kids because I'm not getting sex ! Love them all but we all have the urge !

Think that's why I'm interested in swingers couples and the like ! Just for horny sex where no o e is interested in running off with each other .

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By *eachAndyMan over a year ago

Studland

" I've noticed that its definitely a no no to be on here if a male and wed but as a single ! But it seems ok to be a lass and married seeking fun and frolics !

Dont want to stir a Hornets nest or nowt . There be some times a reason maybe not the best but still !

I'm wed and love the wife nut it seems after Children apeard

But we only here once and would love to play! Not that I would run away with another or nowt ! Just like to experiment before I die! Long winded I know . Thoughts please x

I get it, single now and never strayed when together.

Recommend you do the same and try some wining and dining and reigniting the fuse. Kids will take priority.... Forever

Hope it works out for you both.

well I kind of like your post thanks but yer definitely not into sex really bless her wasent to much before Kids ! Now that's achieved no matter how much romantic meals n flowers and whatnot happens theres a definite cut off , basically she dont like it seems dirty to her ! But I'm definitely not going to leave her and the kids because I'm not getting sex ! Love them all but we all have the urge !

Think that's why I'm interested in swingers couples and the like ! Just for horny sex where no o e is interested in running off with each other ."

Ultimately your call. But maybe try talking things through openly first about your needs and see what she says. You never know but I don't know you or her from Adam so.......

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By *uriousKinksterMan over a year ago

Loughborough

" I've noticed that its definitely a no no to be on here if a male and wed but as a single ! But it seems ok to be a lass and married seeking fun and frolics !

Dont want to stir a Hornets nest or nowt . There be some times a reason maybe not the best but still !

I'm wed and love the wife nut it seems after Children apeard

But we only here once and would love to play! Not that I would run away with another or nowt ! Just like to experiment before I die! Long winded I know . Thoughts please x

I get it, single now and never strayed when together.

Recommend you do the same and try some wining and dining and reigniting the fuse. Kids will take priority.... Forever

Hope it works out for you both.

Think that's why I'm interested in swingers couples and the like ! Just for horny sex where no o e is interested in running off with each other ."

Yeah man, that's entirely understandable, and I'm absolutely not gonna pretend like I can 100% guarantee that after a year of no sex I'd be able to resist an offer elsewhere and... Dare I say this in 2020, it wouldn't exactly come as a surprise. It ain't *right*, but it's at least understandable.

That said, you've *chosen* to be here, presumably of your own free will. If she found out tomorrow she'd probably be devastated. And how would you feel if she said that she'd have been fine with you satisfying the needs she can't or won't meet elsewhere, had you only talked about it with her?

Communication is soooo important. As I said the worst case is she tells you that nothing will change and you can't look elsewhere either. At that point I guess it's time to weigh up priorities, but that may never even happen.

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By *addyBabygirl2020Couple over a year ago

norwich

she still has sexual desire, its human nature, just no longer with you.

So many marriages push on like this for years until one leave or gets caught cheating and leave.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Kinky sex is one thing love is different isnt it ? Anyhow I haven't strayed but god knows I'd like nookie

I mean ultimately its your call right, I'm just some rando on an internet forum. And I absolutely could be wrong. But if I phoned the Mrs now and told her you were here I'd imagine that wouldn't go down well right? But if you express your unhappiness (and shit man, I sympathise a thousand percent - sounds really grim for you right now) maybe you can work it out rather than being the bad guy who goes behind her back? Obvs. none of my business, but you made this post and I'd hate to think anyone was needlessly hurt or upset when a simple(ish) conversation could be all it takes to avoid heartache. "
Hello yes Random forum dude,yes you do make sense for sure I'm also sure she be upset if I was cought watching porn or glancing at another lass dont mean I'm cheating just urges I guess ! There's no way me talking to her is going to make her become the sexual monster I crave ! And yes we have had many of chats about it but when it comes to it bless her I know she ain't into it so there I'm definitely not going to persist @ just role over massively frustrated .

I'm on here for some kind of stimulation with real people not necessarily in the flesh !

Thanks tho you seem a good chap

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"she still has sexual desire, its human nature, just no longer with you.

So many marriages push on like this for years until one leave or gets caught cheating and leave.

Maybe you're right but I'm not sure the good lady never was into sex really think she struggles with it but now we have little people seems like sex has served its purpose !

I'm definitely no flirt type massively shy but definitely have sexual urges ,on the other hand the wife may get frisky now and then but when it actually comes to it she claims up and the moment has gone ! Like you say she might not be into me that way it certainly crossed my mind many times ,but I think she truly just doesn't like sex ! Where as I think I do lots n lots but no way of tying without being the bad man ! I did actually go and see a let's say professional lady once and had a very expensive cup of tea and chat ! Couldn't go through with it at all needless to say the lass was very pretty and whatnot !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ah yes, "loyal" he says, when he's on a swingers website looking to fuck other people beind his wife's back.

Talk. To. Her. And if she's really not interested in changing the way things are, or allowing you to see other people with her knowledge, then it might be best for you both just to end it since you are no longer compatible and it's obviously a deal breaker for you, or you wouldn't be here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" I've noticed that its definitely a no no to be on here if a male and wed but as a single ! But it seems ok to be a lass and married seeking fun and frolics !

Dont want to stir a Hornets nest or nowt . There be some times a reason maybe not the best but still !

I'm wed and love the wife nut it seems after Children apeard

But we only here once and would love to play! Not that I would run away with another or nowt ! Just like to experiment before I die! Long winded I know . Thoughts please x

I get it, single now and never strayed when together.

Recommend you do the same and try some wining and dining and reigniting the fuse. Kids will take priority.... Forever

Hope it works out for you both.

Think that's why I'm interested in swingers couples and the like ! Just for horny sex where no o e is interested in running off with each other ."

If you have a high sex drive and she never was interested in sex even when you were first together without kids.... why did you marry her?

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By *AYENCouple over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Tell your wife you need intimacy. If she doesn't want to get it sorted with you, perhaps by seeking professional help, then tell her you'll get it elsewhere. At least them you won't be cheating.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Tell your wife you need intimacy. If she doesn't want to get it sorted with you, perhaps by seeking professional help, then tell her you'll get it elsewhere. At least them you won't be cheating."

Sexual black mail is really horny! Fuck me or I will fuck someone else.

Forcing someone to fuck them when they don't want to. I'm sure there's a word for that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Jeez talk to your wife, make her aware its something that is part of you, and you feel you need a release. She may surprise you.

We talk alot, im married, she knows everything, currently talking to someone who would like to be my sub, creating awareness of boundaries before we meet.

If you have it in you to go behind her you have it in you to talk to her.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ah yes, "loyal" he says, when he's on a swingers website looking to fuck other people beind his wife's back.

This...a lot of people are put off by cheaters. Yes you all have your reasons. It seems from your responses you've already decided and are looking for justification/backup. You're already cheating by being here and actively looking. Some will be OK with that, some won't

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Get on with it and stop looking for validation.

No one is going to give you a round of applause or feel sorry for you because your not getting any.

All this post is doing is making me sad for your wife and kids.

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By *AYENCouple over a year ago

Lincolnshire

"Tell your wife you need intimacy. If she doesn't want to get it sorted with you, perhaps by seeking professional help, then tell her you'll get it elsewhere. At least them you won't be cheating.

Sexual black mail is really horny! Fuck me or I will fuck someone else.

Forcing someone to fuck them when they don't want to. I'm sure there's a word for that."

You obviously think it's better to cheat than try to sort the problem.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Get on with it and stop looking for validation.

No one is going to give you a round of applause or feel sorry for you because your not getting any.

All this post is doing is making me sad for your wife and kids."

Validation..thats the word I was looking for not justification...

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By *opsy RogersWoman over a year ago

London

So what you're saying OP is that as long as you don't leave her and your children AND have sex with someone else without her knowledge, she would think that's better than just leaving? Cheating is more acceptable than ending the relationship?

Have I got that right?

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By *omer47Man over a year ago

leigh

Wouldn't it be the same for a married woman betraying her husband if she's on here?, but I suppose that's OK as long as the male, female or couple the married female is meeting ain't bothered. It's still cheating and having double standards.

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By *opsy RogersWoman over a year ago

London

I've just seen that you don't want to meet women that are cheating on their partners OP, what are your thoughts about that?

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By *inky_couple2020Couple over a year ago

North West

How much do you help at home? We've got a little lass, and I do a lot with her. I've definitely had less sex with N, not because I find her less attractive (because she's not, she's bloody gorgeous) but because by the time I've got up in the middle of the night, taken little one to nursery, made tea, bathed and helped N put the little one to bed I'm knackered! The opposite applies - N works insanely hard and sometimes she's not in the mood either.

But by talking, we're both aware and we make time where we can in order to have sexy time together.

TL;DR - communication is key

Mr KC

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

Kinky sex is one thing love is different isnt it ? Anyhow I haven't strayed but god knows I'd like nookie"

I'd rather a partner of mine did go off with someone else instead of making me look a fucking idiot by lying to me, trying to decieve me, sticking his cock in someone else and then getting back in my bed at night like nothing happened.

If I wasn't sexual for whatever reason and he was, yet still loved me and wanted to remain with me in a relationship that was respecrful and without deciet, I'd probably be OK with him paying a "professional" as it's means to an end for the actual problem.

I can understand the desire for intimacy, however intimacy can come in many forms and that includes the small stuff lkke hand holding.

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By *partharmonyCouple over a year ago

Ruislip

You have my sympathy, OP. I (Luke) was in a sexless relationship for 12 years. My wife told me to go and get it somewhere else because I wasn't going to get it from her, so I was in a very fortunate position.

I'm afraid I can't offer you much advice but I feel for you. Just keep being a good husband to her and hang in there. Sometimes relationship counselling can help.

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