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over a year ago
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"i technically ended it, but then instantly regretted it.. 
Nice to see you back posting. "
Thanks beautiful, nice to see some familiar names still here  x x
Hope you are well x |
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"All you single folks who say you’re single ‘through choice!’
Was it your choice? Or someone else’s?"
It was my choice then and still is now. Not that I have much choice where I live but I still prefer to be single. |
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She ended it, but I'm now thinking I'm too screwed up to be able to give of myself fully to anyone else so I ought to stay single by choice
Because I don't want to put myself or anyone else through the last 12 months again  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"All you single folks who say you’re single ‘through choice!’
Was it your choice? Or someone else’s?
It's actually mine, but I can totally see why you'd ask  "
 I adore you. You’re a catch |
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"All you single folks who say you’re single ‘through choice!’
Was it your choice? Or someone else’s?"
Definitely my choice  and I think it would take someone pretty amazing to make me change my mind. A friend with benefits is all I'm looking for now  |
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My choice, 14 years ago I decided I’d had enough of a defunct marriage and became single, several years ago I met someone and decided I didn’t want to be single anymore but the world had other plans and he passed away, definitely not my choice that time |
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It is/was my choice, I have ended the last two relationships I had and neither lasted 12 months (out of 11 years since divorce).
I think Covid has taught me that it’s okay to be alone. There is someone who fills my thoughts often, but I know that will never be, so I think it’s unfair to approach a relationship with another when my feelings lay elsewhere, nobody should be used to fill a gap (fnar).
I have found it liberating to accept that I am going to be on my own for a long time, probably for ever, yes, sometimes I get a little sad about that, sometimes even scared but there is a peace with it too, a calming of the soul. I am still a good friend, I still care about people and mainly because of that, I don’t get romantically involved with them. |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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"It is/was my choice, I have ended the last two relationships I had and neither lasted 12 months (out of 11 years since divorce).
I think Covid has taught me that it’s okay to be alone. There is someone who fills my thoughts often, but I know that will never be, so I think it’s unfair to approach a relationship with another when my feelings lay elsewhere, nobody should be used to fill a gap (fnar).
I have found it liberating to accept that I am going to be on my own for a long time, probably for ever, yes, sometimes I get a little sad about that, sometimes even scared but there is a peace with it too, a calming of the soul. I am still a good friend, I still care about people and mainly because of that, I don’t get romantically involved with them. "
That's actually exactly how I feel. Nicely put Devon |
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"It is/was my choice, I have ended the last two relationships I had and neither lasted 12 months (out of 11 years since divorce).
I think Covid has taught me that it’s okay to be alone. There is someone who fills my thoughts often, but I know that will never be, so I think it’s unfair to approach a relationship with another when my feelings lay elsewhere, nobody should be used to fill a gap (fnar).
I have found it liberating to accept that I am going to be on my own for a long time, probably for ever, yes, sometimes I get a little sad about that, sometimes even scared but there is a peace with it too, a calming of the soul. I am still a good friend, I still care about people and mainly because of that, I don’t get romantically involved with them. "
I think I'm trying to get to the place where I'm OK with the idea of being alone again, quite possibly for a significant amount of time.
Not there yet, though, annoyingly |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been single a long time now and haven't put any effort into meeting anyone else or have I come across anyone I'd like to be in a relationship with.
I'm not sure if I'm single through choice or not.
I can't see myself in a traditional relationship again to be honest.
I've made my peace with being alone - relationships make me feel mental
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"It is/was my choice, I have ended the last two relationships I had and neither lasted 12 months (out of 11 years since divorce).
I think Covid has taught me that it’s okay to be alone. There is someone who fills my thoughts often, but I know that will never be, so I think it’s unfair to approach a relationship with another when my feelings lay elsewhere, nobody should be used to fill a gap (fnar).
I have found it liberating to accept that I am going to be on my own for a long time, probably for ever, yes, sometimes I get a little sad about that, sometimes even scared but there is a peace with it too, a calming of the soul. I am still a good friend, I still care about people and mainly because of that, I don’t get romantically involved with them.
I think I'm trying to get to the place where I'm OK with the idea of being alone again, quite possibly for a significant amount of time.
Not there yet, though, annoyingly "
It isn’t for everyone Mr Gorilla. The choice should be an active one and not dictated by circumstance or self-esteem. If you still have love to give, then do not close the door on that.
I always advise other singles not to be like me, it is self indulgent and a little selfish. It works for me because that’s the way my head is built, but don’t shut yourself away from your feelings, if that isn’t you. Just take a breather. Being forever single is not taking the easy way out.
Be well Mr Gorilla |
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I'm a better person when Im single as I'm a roamer and need to have independence and freedom, tried a committed mono relationship once and that failed because I felt caged.
So I stick to what I know is good for me and that is loving friendships with men that I occasionally have sex with x |
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I was in unbalanced marriage. It was my choice to leave but perhaps not in the manner I'd hoped.
But life moves on and you learn from your experiences and start your new chapter of life with a bit more depth, character and knowledge... |
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"It isn’t for everyone Mr Gorilla. The choice should be an active one and not dictated by circumstance or self-esteem. If you still have love to give, then do not close the door on that.
I always advise other singles not to be like me, it is self indulgent and a little selfish. It works for me because that’s the way my head is built, but don’t shut yourself away from your feelings, if that isn’t you. Just take a breather. Being forever single is not taking the easy way out.
Be well Mr Gorilla "
Thank you for those kind words. Made me a bit emotional, if I'm honest 
I think I do have something to give but something weird always happens to me whenever I try to get into a relationship, on that like Compersion said above, I somehow feel caged. I need to figure out exactly what it is that works for me, but I also have some other issues to work through first |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It isn’t for everyone Mr Gorilla. The choice should be an active one and not dictated by circumstance or self-esteem. If you still have love to give, then do not close the door on that.
I always advise other singles not to be like me, it is self indulgent and a little selfish. It works for me because that’s the way my head is built, but don’t shut yourself away from your feelings, if that isn’t you. Just take a breather. Being forever single is not taking the easy way out.
Be well Mr Gorilla
Thank you for those kind words. Made me a bit emotional, if I'm honest
I think I do have something to give but something weird always happens to me whenever I try to get into a relationship, on that like Compersion said above, I somehow feel caged. I need to figure out exactly what it is that works for me, but I also have some other issues to work through first "
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"It isn’t for everyone Mr Gorilla. The choice should be an active one and not dictated by circumstance or self-esteem. If you still have love to give, then do not close the door on that.
I always advise other singles not to be like me, it is self indulgent and a little selfish. It works for me because that’s the way my head is built, but don’t shut yourself away from your feelings, if that isn’t you. Just take a breather. Being forever single is not taking the easy way out.
Be well Mr Gorilla
Thank you for those kind words. Made me a bit emotional, if I'm honest
I think I do have something to give but something weird always happens to me whenever I try to get into a relationship, on that like Compersion said above, I somehow feel caged. I need to figure out exactly what it is that works for me, but I also have some other issues to work through first "
You will get there Mr Gorilla, because it sounds like you want too. Good fortune. |
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I'd rather not be, in so much that I'd have preferred things to have worked out and have my dreams come true but...
Life ain't like that tho, and even though I know that not everyone lies, cheats or misleads, the truth is there are more that do than don't, so, for that reason I'm single by choice.
I wish that wasn't the case tho |
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"I'd rather not be, in so much that I'd have preferred things to have worked out and have my dreams come true but...
Life ain't like that tho, and even though I know that not everyone lies, cheats or misleads, the truth is there are more that do than don't, so, for that reason I'm single by choice.
I wish that wasn't the case tho "
I'm sure that if you want, you will find that person that you can trust and be happy with one day.
It's just a shame so many people out there make trusting so difficult.
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"It isn’t for everyone Mr Gorilla. The choice should be an active one and not dictated by circumstance or self-esteem. If you still have love to give, then do not close the door on that.
I always advise other singles not to be like me, it is self indulgent and a little selfish. It works for me because that’s the way my head is built, but don’t shut yourself away from your feelings, if that isn’t you. Just take a breather. Being forever single is not taking the easy way out.
Be well Mr Gorilla
Thank you for those kind words. Made me a bit emotional, if I'm honest
I think I do have something to give but something weird always happens to me whenever I try to get into a relationship, on that like Compersion said above, I somehow feel caged. I need to figure out exactly what it is that works for me, but I also have some other issues to work through first
You will get there Mr Gorilla, because it sounds like you want too. Good fortune. "
Thank you. It's a bit Catch 22, though, as I know who the person I want to be with is, but it's too late. There's too much water under the bridge, and history would probably just repeat itself
And thank you, Sassy, for the hug
Much appreciated  |
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"All you single folks who say you’re single ‘through choice!’
Was it your choice? Or someone else’s?"
Not my choice.. but.. then it has been me choosing to be single for two ish years.. and now I'm single cos noone wants me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Single independent woman.
37 years old,to get married a year later. Independent me paid for all of it
Left him no choice of leaving after an abusive cheating person he turned out to be.
2010 to 2020 single and proud and independent |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"All you single folks who say you’re single ‘through choice!’
Was it your choice? Or someone else’s?"
My last relationship ended badly and it's been 'my choice' to be single
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My choice.
Sometimes I think I might like a relationship, but then I remember I find people exhausting "
I find people exhausting too.
It's getting worse as I get older.
I like nothing more than getting home and shutting the door. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My choice.
Sometimes I think I might like a relationship, but then I remember I find people exhausting
I find people exhausting too.
It's getting worse as I get older.
I like nothing more than getting home and shutting the door."
Exactly the same.
The last of my 5 children left for uni last month and I just feel so content. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My choice.
Sometimes I think I might like a relationship, but then I remember I find people exhausting
I find people exhausting too.
It's getting worse as I get older.
I like nothing more than getting home and shutting the door."
It certainly gets harder as you get older, it’s all different now........dating scares me to death now |
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