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Feeling "meh" about sex
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Might be in the minority here but I feel like the longer I go without, the more apathetic I am about having sex again  "
I'd say that's perfectly normal |
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I’m thinking of taking up airfix kits. I need a new hobby and staring down the barrel of another 6 months without, I need something that makes my fingers sticky, have a good stab at doing properly but knowing that ultimately I will end up swearing and disappointed with my results |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can relate.. i went 4 years without.
When i met my now ex, i said to him 'we are fucking' on the 2nd date as simply the longer i left it, the longer i was going to worry about doing it..
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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I may be biased but there is so much more to a fulfilling sex life than penetration.
I have always struggled with keeping interested during and after PIV sex, regardless the person I am with.
If I never had PIV sex again I would not be bothered, but away everything else I enjoy and we have issues. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t feel alone now!
I’ve been on a hiatus (no offence ) from men
I feel sometimes am I ever going to feel like I used too ?!?!?
I know I don’t want to be a nun but there’s no sparkle there anymore
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I don’t feel alone now!
I’ve been on a hiatus (no offence ) from men
I feel sometimes am I ever going to feel like I used too ?!?!?
I know I don’t want to be a nun but there’s no sparkle there anymore
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At such a young age? So why on a swingers site? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t feel alone now!
I’ve been on a hiatus (no offence ) from men
I feel sometimes am I ever going to feel like I used too ?!?!?
I know I don’t want to be a nun but there’s no sparkle there anymore
At such a young age? So why on a swingers site? "
Why am I on a swingers site , it started in about 2010/2011 with the ex ........
I can say fab hasn’t changed much
But I like the banter !  |
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I was celibate from the age of 25 to 35. It was bad for about 12-18 months, but after that I didnt miss it at all and pretty much assumed I'd never have sex again.
Once I did my libido came absolutely roaring back to life, and it was hard to imagine going a day without at least getting myself off.
These are stressful and traumatizing times, it's bound to have an impact. |
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"It's perfectly normal to feel that way and quite healthy too. I think it's a sign that you're fulfilled and happy in other areas of your life"
Sorry to contradict you, but for me the opposite is true - the worse I'm feeling about myself the lower my libido
It's fluctuating wildly at the moment. Sometimes by the minute  |
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Some ways I wish I could feel this way. I get way to temperamental and grumpy without. There is so much more than just wanting sex for me. It’s the thrill, the feeling of hurting the next day, being someone else in that moment. I crave it constantly which can be a real struggle, especially when you burst into tears because you dropped a t’bag on the floor 
Saying that I won’t just sleep with anyone to get that fix, I will suffer till I find the person I know i will have great sex with. |
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"I was celibate from the age of 25 to 35. It was bad for about 12-18 months, but after that I didnt miss it at all and pretty much assumed I'd never have sex again.
Once I did my libido came absolutely roaring back to life, and it was hard to imagine going a day without at least getting myself off.
These are stressful and traumatizing times, it's bound to have an impact."
Absolutely.
We're going through a global trauma. We're all going to handle this differently. |
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I also had a few years of celibacy in my 20s. It wasn't the lack of sex that I found the problem. It was the lack of connection, feeling undesired and undesirable.
This is going on for an unknown and unknowable duration, but it's not that I'm broken, it's that I'm doing my bit for my community. I can handle that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Might be in the minority here but I feel like the longer I go without, the more apathetic I am about having sex again "
Hormones do that to us women.
I love it too.
How long is covid going to last for.
It's hard to think not even a kiss.
I am sure it will return soon op. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks guys, good to know I'm not the only one feeling this way!
I do have moments where I get insanely horny and miss sex (mostly when sex scenes come up on TV lol) but for the most part I don't really feel like I'm missing out that much and just thought that was a bit weird... |
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"Thanks guys, good to know I'm not the only one feeling this way!
I do have moments where I get insanely horny and miss sex (mostly when sex scenes come up on TV lol) but for the most part I don't really feel like I'm missing out that much and just thought that was a bit weird... "
Not weird at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I ever feel horny I open up my profile and the messages from the men of Fab turn me right off sex. "
Hahaha you crack me up 
So true!
No wonder I'm crying for my barren vagina recently |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I know there's the possibility of actual sex then yes I'll be thinking about it and getting horny. When there's not a remote chance of getting it then it doesn't bother me.
When it did and I was horny, watching porn and masturbating lots it just added to the frustration. Stopped watching porn, stopped masturbating. And I used to use masturbating as a brief mood enhancer but the effect of that lessens over time.
I would rather either be having sex (even a bit of sexting with someone) than watching porn/masturbating just for the sake of it. |
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