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By *nabelle21 OP Woman over a year ago

B38

Pisses me of when someone may not me popular but comes to the forum for some help, advice and they get attacked belittled and probably won't ever come back because of it. And they only wanted to open a dialogue!

Maybe they don't kmow to draft a question to your tastes!.

The question can be innocuous but something the replies make the op feel like shit!

A harmless question turns to anger and ugliness..that's a sad day for me

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman over a year ago

On a mooch

It unfortunately happens all too much not only with new people to the forum, but those that don’t post frequently; couple that with the different responses a man or a woman would receive for posting the same question, it is an ugly can of worms

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Deep breaths sweetie.

You’re right, sometimes we as people can be horribly over-critical, especially of what we regulars may deem as “stupid questions.”

Maybe we should consider our responses with more care and remember there is a person on the other side of the question.

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman over a year ago

B38

"It unfortunately happens all too much not only with new people to the forum, but those that don’t post frequently; couple that with the different responses a man or a woman would receive for posting the same question, it is an ugly can of worms "

Yes..those are added factors..I didn't think of those

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Pisses me of when someone may not me popular but comes to the forum for some help, advice and they get attacked belittled and probably won't ever come back because of it. And they only wanted to open a dialogue!

Maybe they don't kmow to draft a question to your tastes!.

The question can be innocuous but something the replies make the op feel like shit!

A harmless question turns to anger and ugliness..that's a sad day for me"

No idea how to make it better but I get what you mean.

Evening lovely

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe they don't kmow to draft a question to your tastes!.

The question can be innocuous but something the replies make the op feel like shit!

A harmless question turns to anger and ugliness..that's a sad day for me"

Well said darling

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Pisses me off too. I usually try and stick up for them but get a load of abuse myself. Doesn’t bother me but I agree it’s not fair on them. Also annoys me when people post something and people say “not this again” when they’re new and wouldn’t even know it’s been posted before!

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By *ed-monkeyCouple over a year ago

Hailsham

A reason i took a step away from the fora for a while .... it's not the same man ... you don't know man ... you weren't there

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By * Lexi xWoman over a year ago

stockport

Can be a shitty place.

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By *herubCheeksWoman over a year ago

seaside

Maybe they don't kmow to draft a question to your tastes!.

The question can be innocuous but something the replies make the op feel like shit!

A harmless question turns to anger and ugliness..that's a sad day for me"

Yes I'm new to forums and my post has kicked off for no reason ..I'll think twice if I use again

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I respond to threads but this is exactly why I'd not start a thread, ever.

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman over a year ago

B38

"Deep breaths sweetie.

You’re right, sometimes we as people can be horribly over-critical, especially of what we regulars may deem as “stupid questions.”

Maybe we should consider our responses with more care and remember there is a person on the other side of the question.

For me it is the human on the other. Who needs that land of negativity thrown at them and sometimes it's just to make someone looks clever....but not in my eyes. There is a feeling person under it all. The negativity could be the final straw for them.

It's great to laugh with people but not at them.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman over a year ago

On a mooch

Maybe they don't kmow to draft a question to your tastes!.

The question can be innocuous but something the replies make the op feel like shit!

A harmless question turns to anger and ugliness..that's a sad day for me

Yes I'm new to forums and my post has kicked off for no reason ..I'll think twice if I use again

Don’t let it put you off, but you do unfortunately need a thick skin sometimes

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman over a year ago

B38

Maybe they don't kmow to draft a question to your tastes!.

The question can be innocuous but something the replies make the op feel like shit!

A harmless question turns to anger and ugliness..that's a sad day for me

Well said darling

Hey you..bout time you said hello xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe they don't kmow to draft a question to your tastes!.

The question can be innocuous but something the replies make the op feel like shit!

A harmless question turns to anger and ugliness..that's a sad day for me

Yes I'm new to forums and my post has kicked off for no reason ..I'll think twice if I use again

Please don’t. There just happens to have been a few similar threads lately. You weren’t to know that. Post what you want! And welcome xx

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By *herubCheeksWoman over a year ago

seaside

Maybe they don't kmow to draft a question to your tastes!.

The question can be innocuous but something the replies make the op feel like shit!

A harmless question turns to anger and ugliness..that's a sad day for me

Yes I'm new to forums and my post has kicked off for no reason ..I'll think twice if I use again

Please don’t. There just happens to have been a few similar threads lately. You weren’t to know that. Post what you want! And welcome xx"
. Thank you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe they don't kmow to draft a question to your tastes!.

The question can be innocuous but something the replies make the op feel like shit!

A harmless question turns to anger and ugliness..that's a sad day for me"

I agree, Im relatively new, and must admit after some of the kick offs Iv seen, Im scared to post...

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman over a year ago

B38

"Pisses me off too. I usually try and stick up for them but get a load of abuse myself. Doesn’t bother me but I agree it’s not fair on them. Also annoys me when people post something and people say “not this again” when they’re new and wouldn’t even know it’s been posted before! "

Yes..I hear that too. I bet I've done it! Posted that kind of comment!

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By *ed-monkeyCouple over a year ago

Hailsham

Yes..I hear that too. I bet I've done it! Posted that kind of comment!"

I think we've all done that at some point ... usually indicative of our mood at the time

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman over a year ago

B38

Maybe they don't kmow to draft a question to your tastes!.

The question can be innocuous but something the replies make the op feel like shit!

A harmless question turns to anger and ugliness..that's a sad day for me

No idea how to make it better but I get what you mean.

Evening lovely

Aww evening gorgeous xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes..I hear that too. I bet I've done it! Posted that kind of comment!

I think we've all done that at some point ... usually indicative of our mood at the time"

Missed you! Glad you’re back

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By *ed-monkeyCouple over a year ago

Hailsham

Yes..I hear that too. I bet I've done it! Posted that kind of comment!

I think we've all done that at some point ... usually indicative of our mood at the time

Missed you! Glad you’re back

I may lurk for a bit

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

One of the most annoying things about these forums. Does my head in when someone starts a thread and it's derailed because their new etc. Have found that it's the usual culprits that do as well because they think they're funny

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By *aul1973HullMan over a year ago

East Hull

I have noticed this too. Maybe some forget that there were once newbies too? Maybe some are a bit too tetchy because of real life frustrations and take it out on others? Maybe some try to be amusing but others don't get their sense of humor? Maybe some are just fucktards?

Fortunately I haven't seen the Spelling & Grammar Police do many raids recently, but I still look for red underlined words when I'm typing and correct any mistakes so I don't get lynched.

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By *aul1973HullMan over a year ago

East Hull

"Can be a shitty place.

Fortunately for the most part it's a friendly place & can be very supportive

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have noticed this too. Maybe some forget that there were once newbies too? Maybe some are a bit too tetchy because of real life frustrations and take it out on others? Maybe some try to be amusing but others don't get their sense of humor? Maybe some are just fucktards?

Fortunately I haven't seen the Spelling & Grammar Police do many raids recently, but I still look for red underlined words when I'm typing and correct any mistakes so I don't get lynched."

To be fair I think I have one of those senses of humour a lot don’t get

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By *hilloutMan over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Developing a gator's hide helps. Trust me, I know.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Developing a gator's hide helps. Trust me, I know."

Is that a Yankee saying?

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By *HaRiFMan over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

I'm not saying it's wright but Just to be devil's advocate some times it might be they way someone phrases something that can cause offence or some times it can be asking a question that's been asked so many times that push some people over the edge. Equally Sometimes the responder might not have meant it the way others have read it.

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By *HaRiFMan over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

"I'm not saying it's wright but Just to be devil's advocate some times it might be they way someone phrases something that can cause offence or some times it can be asking a question that's been asked so many times that push some people over the edge. Equally Sometimes the responder might not have meant it the way others have read it.

Right even

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By *hilloutMan over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Developing a gator's hide helps. Trust me, I know.

Is that a Yankee saying?

Straight from the Bayou

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By *edeWoman over a year ago

the abyss

"I respond to threads but this is exactly why I'd not start a thread, ever. "

^ Exactly this!

I've thought about starting one a couple of times but just can't really be bothered with the drama that often occurs

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By *aul1973HullMan over a year ago

East Hull

Fortunately I haven't seen the Spelling & Grammar Police do many raids recently, but I still look for red underlined words when I'm typing and correct any mistakes so I don't get lynched.

To be fair I think I have one of those senses of humour a lot don’t get

You've got a sense of humour?

It's a good job you have a big kind heart to make up for it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe they don't kmow to draft a question to your tastes!.

The question can be innocuous but something the replies make the op feel like shit!

A harmless question turns to anger and ugliness..that's a sad day for me"

Or they make a thread and people think it's ok to start taking the piss, others join in and they end up completely derailing the thread, just no need for it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Fortunately I haven't seen the Spelling & Grammar Police do many raids recently, but I still look for red underlined words when I'm typing and correct any mistakes so I don't get lynched.

To be fair I think I have one of those senses of humour a lot don’t get

You've got a sense of humour?

It's a good job you have a big kind heart to make up for it

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By *hisisntpofMan over a year ago

bristol

it can be a good place ,with lots of banter ,even serious issues can be made light of in a nice way ,that should be the way forward

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

Outright abuse and unnecessary negativity is uncalled for. However I've been accused of bullying on a thread once for making a silly comment when I'd previously interacted with the poster and he was actually joining in with my joke. I've also had people get very offended on my behalf in response to silly comments made towards me which are actually jokes between me and the poster. Sometimes context is key. If the poster is clearly upset by the comments however that is of course different.

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By *aul1973HullMan over a year ago

East Hull

"I'm not saying it's right but Just to be devil's advocate some times it might be they way someone phrases something that can cause offence or some times it can be asking a question that's been asked so many times that push some people over the edge. Equally Sometimes the responder might not have meant it the way others have read it.

The written word is the greatest form of mis-communication!

It's so easy to misunderstand something when you cant hear the tone of voice or see the facial expressions of the person writing it, and in the context it was meant.

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By *edeWoman over a year ago

the abyss

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've had horrid comments made on threads ive started before, its not nice. It has put me off starting threads and commenting on lots.

I'm sure some comments if not all are meant in joking way rather than offending the person.

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By *wistedbambi69Woman over a year ago

Somerset

I was taught "If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all"

There are things on here that don't interest me, but I just move on to the next thread. It's easy to do without making someone feel horrible

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Outright abuse and unnecessary negativity is uncalled for. However I've been accused of bullying on a thread once for making a silly comment when I'd previously interacted with the poster and he was actually joining in with my joke. I've also had people get very offended on my behalf in response to silly comments made towards me which are actually jokes between me and the poster. Sometimes context is key. If the poster is clearly upset by the comments however that is of course different. "

Yeah I’ve had this on the secret service. When I know the 2 people involved have banter and they’ll be fine with it but other people have messaged me saying I shouldn’t have posted it! I’m really careful if it’s a bit close to the mark but I usually know who gets on with who and if they’ll be ok with it!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Unfortunately there are far too many people who find themselves amusing while belittling others. It’s not fair on newbies

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Developing a gator's hide helps. Trust me, I know."

Agree but it's a sad fact that anyone should have to - but there are some who seem to take great delight in belittling newbies - they're always banging on about being inclusive but their version of inclusive is between themselves, seen it happen so many times.

It's also interesting to note how different it is dependent not only on how "well known" a poster is, but their gender - a man and a woman could post exactly the same thread, worded the same etc and get entirely different reactions.

Not saying it always happens but it does happen.

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

Exactly. Like the jokes about my imperfect bum

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By *ed-monkeyCouple over a year ago

Hailsham

Always the problem with textual communication ... no intonation so people read something in the manner that they like, not necessarily how it may be intended

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Exactly. Like the jokes about my imperfect bum

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Haha yep! That was one

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By *oachman 9CoolMan over a year ago

derby

"Deep breaths sweetie.

You’re right, sometimes we as people can be horribly over-critical, especially of what we regulars may deem as “stupid questions.”

Maybe we should consider our responses with more care and remember there is a person on the other side of the question.

It's great to laugh with people but not at them."
Yes I do agree with you but If any trolls come along some worst than others their sad sole aim is to disrupt the post and the op to I,ve seen it happen here a lot and elsewhere but you have to try and be prepared for them and the best way to do that is to Ignore them and anyone who leans towards them Ignore them to you have to learn these things unfortuneately confrontation is not the way to go because the trolls and their mates will win never get drawn in ever I know it must be hard at times not to depending on the persons /character/nature but unfortuneately these such places draw them inside and always will do sadly.

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman over a year ago

B38

Some are just too quick to comment negativly without finding if it was meant the way they took it and then answered it.

If your left in doubt about the meaning of a question why not clarify it?.

As for a question that's been asked so many times and may push some people over the edge. Then why be bitter about it. We were all new once thinking we had fresh material when imfact most of it's done to death. Let them find their feet and hopefully have some fun. For me that's what the forums are about

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Always the problem with textual communication ... no intonation so people read something in the manner that they like, not necessarily how it may be intended"

Yep! God the grief I’ve had for posting a certain bearded one’s messages!!

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By *asilyled1Man over a year ago

ogmore valley

Well said OP. And it’s usually the same ones.but I think more people are getting fed up of it and have started sticking up for them. When I joined there was a hell of a good vibe on here. There still is now to a point,but it pees me off when people are horrible for no reason. So cheers for this forum,peace all. As the saying goes,if you can’t say anything nice don’t say it at all

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

Always the problem with textual communication ... no intonation so people read something in the manner that they like, not necessarily how it may be intended

Yep! God the grief I’ve had for posting a certain bearded one’s messages!!

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They're my favourite

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By *hilloutMan over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Always the problem with textual communication ... no intonation so people read something in the manner that they like, not necessarily how it may be intended

Yep! God the grief I’ve had for posting a certain bearded one’s messages!!

They're my favourite

Whenever I see any that have anuses or bumholes three guesses who they're from

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Always the problem with textual communication ... no intonation so people read something in the manner that they like, not necessarily how it may be intended

Yep! God the grief I’ve had for posting a certain bearded one’s messages!!

They're my favourite

Whenever I see any that have anuses or bumholes three guesses who they're from

My lips are sealed!

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By *wisted999Man over a year ago

North Bucks

Fuck yeah OP. Well done for saying.

Some people are only happy when it rains and want to knock people down.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe they don't kmow to draft a question to your tastes!.

The question can be innocuous but something the replies make the op feel like shit!

A harmless question turns to anger and ugliness..that's a sad day for me

Yes I'm new to forums and my post has kicked off for no reason ..I'll think twice if I use again

Please don’t. There just happens to have been a few similar threads lately. You weren’t to know that. Post what you want! And welcome xx. Thank you

you didn't do/say anything wrong. You aren't responsible for how people interpret what you say x

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

Always the problem with textual communication ... no intonation so people read something in the manner that they like, not necessarily how it may be intended

Yep! God the grief I’ve had for posting a certain bearded one’s messages!!

They're my favourite

Whenever I see any that have anuses or bumholes three guesses who they're from

My lips are sealed!

He said bumholes Nora, not fannies!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Always the problem with textual communication ... no intonation so people read something in the manner that they like, not necessarily how it may be intended

Yep! God the grief I’ve had for posting a certain bearded one’s messages!!

They're my favourite

Whenever I see any that have anuses or bumholes three guesses who they're from

My lips are sealed!

He said bumholes Nora, not fannies! "
haha

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By *hilloutMan over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Always the problem with textual communication ... no intonation so people read something in the manner that they like, not necessarily how it may be intended

Yep! God the grief I’ve had for posting a certain bearded one’s messages!!

They're my favourite

Whenever I see any that have anuses or bumholes three guesses who they're from

My lips are sealed!

He said bumholes Nora, not fannies! "

Perverts the lot of you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Always the problem with textual communication ... no intonation so people read something in the manner that they like, not necessarily how it may be intended

Yep! God the grief I’ve had for posting a certain bearded one’s messages!!

They're my favourite

Whenever I see any that have anuses or bumholes three guesses who they're from

My lips are sealed!

He said bumholes Nora, not fannies!

Perverts the lot of you

I had a good teacher

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Always the problem with textual communication ... no intonation so people read something in the manner that they like, not necessarily how it may be intended

Yep! God the grief I’ve had for posting a certain bearded one’s messages!!

They're my favourite

Whenever I see any that have anuses or bumholes three guesses who they're from

He won't stop sending me pictures of anus's I wouldn't mind but they aren't of his anus!

I know he is conscious and trying to dissuade him from cosmetic surgery on his anus as it's lovely as it is

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

Always the problem with textual communication ... no intonation so people read something in the manner that they like, not necessarily how it may be intended

Yep! God the grief I’ve had for posting a certain bearded one’s messages!!

They're my favourite

Whenever I see any that have anuses or bumholes three guesses who they're from

He won't stop sending me pictures of anus's I wouldn't mind but they aren't of his anus!

I know he is conscious and trying to dissuade him from cosmetic surgery on his anus as it's lovely as it is

So that's what he wanted all those anus pictures for

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman over a year ago

On a mooch

Always the problem with textual communication ... no intonation so people read something in the manner that they like, not necessarily how it may be intended

Yep! God the grief I’ve had for posting a certain bearded one’s messages!!

They're my favourite

Whenever I see any that have anuses or bumholes three guesses who they're from

He won't stop sending me pictures of anus's I wouldn't mind but they aren't of his anus!

I know he is conscious and trying to dissuade him from cosmetic surgery on his anus as it's lovely as it is

So that's what he wanted all those anus pictures for

He wants a smart arse

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Always the problem with textual communication ... no intonation so people read something in the manner that they like, not necessarily how it may be intended

Yep! God the grief I’ve had for posting a certain bearded one’s messages!!

They're my favourite

Whenever I see any that have anuses or bumholes three guesses who they're from

He won't stop sending me pictures of anus's I wouldn't mind but they aren't of his anus!

I know he is conscious and trying to dissuade him from cosmetic surgery on his anus as it's lovely as it is

So that's what he wanted all those anus pictures for

Yup, he wants a bumhole op. Shall we have a whip round for a rubber ring post op?

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

Always the problem with textual communication ... no intonation so people read something in the manner that they like, not necessarily how it may be intended

Yep! God the grief I’ve had for posting a certain bearded one’s messages!!

They're my favourite

Whenever I see any that have anuses or bumholes three guesses who they're from

He won't stop sending me pictures of anus's I wouldn't mind but they aren't of his anus!

I know he is conscious and trying to dissuade him from cosmetic surgery on his anus as it's lovely as it is

So that's what he wanted all those anus pictures for

He wants a smart arse

I'll make your arse smart.

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

Always the problem with textual communication ... no intonation so people read something in the manner that they like, not necessarily how it may be intended

Yep! God the grief I’ve had for posting a certain bearded one’s messages!!

They're my favourite

Whenever I see any that have anuses or bumholes three guesses who they're from

He won't stop sending me pictures of anus's I wouldn't mind but they aren't of his anus!

I know he is conscious and trying to dissuade him from cosmetic surgery on his anus as it's lovely as it is

So that's what he wanted all those anus pictures for

Yup, he wants a bumhole op. Shall we have a whip round for a rubber ring post op? "

I have a doughnut shaped cushion that may suffice.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It’s the pedantic responses on threads that do my head in.

Someone uses the word girls and there’s always one saying “We’re women, not girls”

Or someone asks how many people have you slept with and someone will pipe up they’ve had sex with x amount but only slept with y amount.

Petty, pedantic, pointless replies.

And the absolute worse one is when someone says “Can I ask a question?” and the amount of regular forum users who think they’re so bloody clever answering “You already have.”

Grow the fuck up

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s the pedantic responses on threads that do my head in.

Someone uses the word girls and there’s always one saying “We’re women, not girls”

Or someone asks how many people have you slept with and someone will pipe up they’ve had sex with x amount but only slept with y amount.

Petty, pedantic, pointless replies.

And the absolute worse one is when someone says “Can I ask a question?” and the amount of regular forum users who think they’re so bloody clever answering “You already have.”

Grow the fuck up

Hahaha. Omg yes. All this!!

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Annoys me to. So many know it alls, so many sarcastic comments, I'm scared to have an opinion at times!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Annoys me to. So many know it alls, so many sarcastic comments, I'm scared to have an opinion at times! "

Yes I know exactly where your coming from you certainly need a thick skin on here

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By *reatformeatWoman over a year ago

my own bubble

Jesus dont get me started on this one , its fair to say its the same old smart arses most female backed by the white knights and the same mods letting them get away with their bullying. Im very suprised this threads not been deleted to be honest. Give them time they probably not seen it yet

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By *wisted999Man over a year ago

North Bucks

"Jesus dont get me started on this one , its fair to say its the same old smart arses most female backed by the white knights and the same mods letting them get away with their bullying. Im very suprised this threads not been deleted to be honest. Give them time they probably not seen it yet

And when confronted on it (the bullies) act like they are being bullied themselves and deploy the victim card.

The mods do a good job over all. It’s a pretty thankless task to be honest.

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By * Lexi xWoman over a year ago

stockport

It’s the fake behaviour I cannot stand.

The cliques and bullying.

I get ignored quite a bit these days (apart from from the people I know) and that’s fine.

But when you know someone or some people manipulate situations it’s boils my piss.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You're lovely Anabelle....

I think ppl see what they want to see and a lot of folk unfortunately see a threat or a challenge to their position or status. But to me it's pretty obvious if someone is being a knob or not and I would imagine most other folk see that too, so a newbie who sticks at it and isn't a knob will do alright here in the end....

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

And when confronted on it (the bullies) act like they are being bullied themselves and deploy the victim card.

Yep. Just recently I saw an OP leave after asking a question on the fora and getting the same smart arse replies and in jokes by those who are apparently ever so lovely.

I think it's a shame that people can't post and ask questions that, fair enough, might have been asked before. No thread is truly original, even this one there's been a version of tonks ago. Oh and the bloody "some women/men/people/aliens do, some don't" line. Clearly they want personal opinions and are trying to encourage a conversation on a topic that interests them. Your lines are banal and shitty and a way of shutting the OP down because often the second/third poster sets the tone to a thread.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS over a year ago

Cheshire

My very first post was just an introductory message, basically saying hi. I was immediately taken to task at calling myself a Tgirl and a crossdresser by another Tgirl.

I discovered the block button not long after, as she was quite a popular girl on the forums a few others chipped in as well, so if I remembered that initial thread and the effect it had on me, I always try and be kind to those who are entering the scary world of the forums

I like to think I only really get wound up, with those that deserve it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"green arrow!!!!"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is one of a few reasons I haven’t posted much on the forums lately. It just lost its appeal

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Annoys me to. So many know it alls, so many sarcastic comments, I'm scared to have an opinion at times! "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I never went in the forums much before lockdown but I've started to a bit since.

I have to say I haven't noticed too much negativity in any of the threads that I've been involved in.

In fact compared to what goes on elsewhere online most people here seem very well natured.

This thread is a good example.

Maybe I'm just not going to the right threads or I haven't been here long enough...?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I never went in the forums much before lockdown but I've started to a bit since.

I have to say I haven't noticed too much negativity in any of the threads that I've been involved in.

In fact compared to what goes on elsewhere online most people here seem very well natured.

This thread is a good example.

Maybe I'm just not going to the right threads or I haven't been here long enough...?"

I think you just have a healthy positive outlook! Hold on to it....!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thanks pal we sure need it

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Maybe they don't kmow to draft a question to your tastes!.

The question can be innocuous but something the replies make the op feel like shit!

A harmless question turns to anger and ugliness..that's a sad day for me

Yes I'm new to forums and my post has kicked off for no reason ..I'll think twice if I use again

Welcome to the forum's

And please continue to post and start threads xx

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"I respond to threads but this is exactly why I'd not start a thread, ever. "

Start some never let anyone put you down xx

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By *agneto.Man over a year ago

Bham

Thick skin is definitely needed.

And a love of cake.

And the block button.

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Maybe they don't kmow to draft a question to your tastes!.

The question can be innocuous but something the replies make the op feel like shit!

A harmless question turns to anger and ugliness..that's a sad day for me"

I know what you mean its the same regular posters trying to be clever xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I seldom post or comment now.

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"I seldom post or comment now. "

Why?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I seldom post or comment now.

Why?"

Good comment

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I got ripped by some guys for a question about photography. Called out.. asked for evidence.. assumed I’m inferior.. just because I’m not a regular / in the click.

Think about it every time I hit “post”

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"I seldom post or comment now.

Why?

Good comment

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"I got ripped by some guys for a question about photography. Called out.. asked for evidence.. assumed I’m inferior.. just because I’m not a regular / in the click.

Think about it every time I hit “post”"

Dont

Best thing to do is ignore them and continue to post xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have to say i don't think the forums are as bad as people are making out to be honest.

Yes their are shitty comments and in jokes but on the whole people are friendly.

I will say a lot of recent threads have been the same 8 or 9 people replying to eachother and everyone else ignored.

But genuinely speaking the forums are friendly so anyone reading this and thinking "christ I'm never commenting" join in and fun.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I seldom post or comment now.

Why?

Good comment

Because I start typing a response to certain threads and then think to myself it is best to hit the backspace button.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have to say i don't think the forums are as bad as people are making out to be honest.

Yes their are shitty comments and in jokes but on the whole people are friendly.

I will say a lot of recent threads have been the same 8 or 9 people replying to eachother and everyone else ignored.

But genuinely speaking the forums are friendly so anyone reading this and thinking "christ I'm never commenting" join in and fun. "

This^

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"I have to say i don't think the forums are as bad as people are making out to be honest.

Yes their are shitty comments and in jokes but on the whole people are friendly.

I will say a lot of recent threads have been the same 8 or 9 people replying to eachother and everyone else ignored.

But genuinely speaking the forums are friendly so anyone reading this and thinking "christ I'm never commenting" join in and fun. "

True alot of threads get derailed etc or people turn them Into jokey threads but on the whole the threads are great

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I seldom post or comment now.

Why?

Good comment

Because I start typing a response to certain threads and then think to myself it is best to hit the backspace button.

That's because of whats inside your mind not what others are thinking. Just be you and let them appreciate you.....

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"I seldom post or comment now.

Why?

Good comment

Because I start typing a response to certain threads and then think to myself it is best to hit the backspace button.

I for one like your input xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have to say i don't think the forums are as bad as people are making out to be honest.

Yes their are shitty comments and in jokes but on the whole people are friendly.

I will say a lot of recent threads have been the same 8 or 9 people replying to eachother and everyone else ignored.

But genuinely speaking the forums are friendly so anyone reading this and thinking "christ I'm never commenting" join in and fun.

True alot of threads get derailed etc or people turn them Into jokey threads but on the whole the threads are great "

You're great!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I seldom post or comment now.

Why?

Good comment

Because I start typing a response to certain threads and then think to myself it is best to hit the backspace button.

Like my life on Facebook. Or emails at work.. and then here where I’m anonymous yet still feel the fear of wrath. It’s BS

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"I have to say i don't think the forums are as bad as people are making out to be honest.

Yes their are shitty comments and in jokes but on the whole people are friendly.

I will say a lot of recent threads have been the same 8 or 9 people replying to eachother and everyone else ignored.

But genuinely speaking the forums are friendly so anyone reading this and thinking "christ I'm never commenting" join in and fun.

True alot of threads get derailed etc or people turn them Into jokey threads but on the whole the threads are great

You're great!

I am I'm stand alone

Unique

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I seldom post or comment now.

Why?

Good comment

Because I start typing a response to certain threads and then think to myself it is best to hit the backspace button.

That's because of whats inside your mind not what others are thinking. Just be you and let them appreciate you.....

No not at all. I am referring to serious threads as well as the fun ones.

Certainly not a woe is me comment. Just feel it best to say nothing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I seldom post or comment now.

Why?

Good comment

Because I start typing a response to certain threads and then think to myself it is best to hit the backspace button.

Like my life on Facebook. Or emails at work.. and then here where I’m anonymous yet still feel the fear of wrath. It’s BS"

What are you really fearing though? Rejection by others who don't know you based in one comment? Isn't everyone else the same with their insecurities? I think staying positive on the forum works wonders, both in outlook and content.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I seldom post or comment now.

Why?

Good comment

Because I start typing a response to certain threads and then think to myself it is best to hit the backspace button.

That's because of whats inside your mind not what others are thinking. Just be you and let them appreciate you.....

No not at all. I am referring to serious threads as well as the fun ones.

Certainly not a woe is me comment. Just feel it best to say nothing

Why? Someone might be waiting for your comment to lift them up or make them feel brave enough to contribute themselves? I get all sorts of pm's like this - just wish more ppl would feel brave enough to put it in public....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have to say i don't think the forums are as bad as people are making out to be honest.

Yes their are shitty comments and in jokes but on the whole people are friendly.

I will say a lot of recent threads have been the same 8 or 9 people replying to eachother and everyone else ignored.

But genuinely speaking the forums are friendly so anyone reading this and thinking "christ I'm never commenting" join in and fun.

This^"

We agreed on something else last week too. Let's not spoil things and make this a habit

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"I seldom post or comment now.

Why?

Good comment

Because I start typing a response to certain threads and then think to myself it is best to hit the backspace button.

That's because of whats inside your mind not what others are thinking. Just be you and let them appreciate you.....

No not at all. I am referring to serious threads as well as the fun ones.

Certainly not a woe is me comment. Just feel it best to say nothing

Your a lucky guy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have to say i don't think the forums are as bad as people are making out to be honest.

Yes their are shitty comments and in jokes but on the whole people are friendly.

I will say a lot of recent threads have been the same 8 or 9 people replying to eachother and everyone else ignored.

But genuinely speaking the forums are friendly so anyone reading this and thinking "christ I'm never commenting" join in and fun.

This^

We agreed on something else last week too. Let's not spoil things and make this a habit

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I seldom post or comment now.

Why?

Good comment

Because I start typing a response to certain threads and then think to myself it is best to hit the backspace button.

Like my life on Facebook. Or emails at work.. and then here where I’m anonymous yet still feel the fear of wrath. It’s BS"

Oh I don't fear the wrath, we can all have differing opinions, that is healthy. I just can't be arsed with the potential wrath. I have other more important things in my life that require my time.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I seldom post or comment now.

Why?

Good comment

Because I start typing a response to certain threads and then think to myself it is best to hit the backspace button.

That's because of whats inside your mind not what others are thinking. Just be you and let them appreciate you.....

No not at all. I am referring to serious threads as well as the fun ones.

Certainly not a woe is me comment. Just feel it best to say nothing

I miss you on the forums. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I seldom post or comment now.

Why?

Good comment

Because I start typing a response to certain threads and then think to myself it is best to hit the backspace button.

That's because of whats inside your mind not what others are thinking. Just be you and let them appreciate you.....

No not at all. I am referring to serious threads as well as the fun ones.

Certainly not a woe is me comment. Just feel it best to say nothing

Your a lucky guy"

That's what I'm trying to say though, we're ALL lucky and we help each other, we just don't all see it.

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"I seldom post or comment now.

Why?

Good comment

Because I start typing a response to certain threads and then think to myself it is best to hit the backspace button.

Like my life on Facebook. Or emails at work.. and then here where I’m anonymous yet still feel the fear of wrath. It’s BS"

Wrath of whom?

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"I seldom post or comment now.

Why?

Good comment

Because I start typing a response to certain threads and then think to myself it is best to hit the backspace button.

That's because of whats inside your mind not what others are thinking. Just be you and let them appreciate you.....

No not at all. I am referring to serious threads as well as the fun ones.

Certainly not a woe is me comment. Just feel it best to say nothing

Your a lucky guy

That's what I'm trying to say though, we're ALL lucky and we help each other, we just don't all see it."

I see it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I seldom post or comment now.

Why?

Good comment

Because I start typing a response to certain threads and then think to myself it is best to hit the backspace button.

That's because of whats inside your mind not what others are thinking. Just be you and let them appreciate you.....

No not at all. I am referring to serious threads as well as the fun ones.

Certainly not a woe is me comment. Just feel it best to say nothing

Lifting comments are a completely different thing and I would post if I felt it would make the person feel better. Most of you who know me would appreciate that is how I work.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I seldom post or comment now.

Why?

Good comment

Because I start typing a response to certain threads and then think to myself it is best to hit the backspace button.

That's because of whats inside your mind not what others are thinking. Just be you and let them appreciate you.....

No not at all. I am referring to serious threads as well as the fun ones.

Certainly not a woe is me comment. Just feel it best to say nothing

Lifting comments are a completely different thing and I would post if I felt it would make the person feel better. Most of you who know me would appreciate that is how I work.

It's not all about lifting, it could maybe just confronting a "mass" clique opinion on occasion and letting others see they don't have to fall in line to get along in the forum. I think individuals succeed long after the groups break down.....

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

So my conclusion just be nice and kind x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I literally AM a smart arse, but I'm also a smart heart and and smart mind too and I love the people. Can't argue with a smart heart because there's no right answer, innit....

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"I literally AM a smart arse, but I'm also a smart heart and and smart mind too and I love the people. Can't argue with a smart heart because there's no right answer, innit....

Your kind x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I seldom post or comment now.

Why?

Good comment

Because I start typing a response to certain threads and then think to myself it is best to hit the backspace button.

Like my life on Facebook. Or emails at work.. and then here where I’m anonymous yet still feel the fear of wrath. It’s BS

Wrath of whom?"

Then.. the others.. the click

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I seldom post or comment now.

Why?

Good comment

Because I start typing a response to certain threads and then think to myself it is best to hit the backspace button.

That's because of whats inside your mind not what others are thinking. Just be you and let them appreciate you.....

No not at all. I am referring to serious threads as well as the fun ones.

Certainly not a woe is me comment. Just feel it best to say nothing

Lifting comments are a completely different thing and I would post if I felt it would make the person feel better. Most of you who know me would appreciate that is how I work.

To be fair since being back I spend a whole lot less time on here.

I normally pop on the nocturnal thread and say hello and that is about it.

It is funny to Witness though how people comment differently when they don't realise who you are.

I will stick to being NoHope for a bit longer

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I seldom post or comment now.

Why?

Good comment

Because I start typing a response to certain threads and then think to myself it is best to hit the backspace button.

Like my life on Facebook. Or emails at work.. and then here where I’m anonymous yet still feel the fear of wrath. It’s BS

Oh I don't fear the wrath, we can all have differing opinions, that is healthy. I just can't be arsed with the potential wrath. I have other more important things in my life that require my time. "

Like cleaning the kettle?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I seldom post or comment now.

Why?

Good comment

Because I start typing a response to certain threads and then think to myself it is best to hit the backspace button.

Like my life on Facebook. Or emails at work.. and then here where I’m anonymous yet still feel the fear of wrath. It’s BS

Oh I don't fear the wrath, we can all have differing opinions, that is healthy. I just can't be arsed with the potential wrath. I have other more important things in my life that require my time.

Like cleaning the kettle?"

Thanks for reminding me that it could do with a descaling.