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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So. My son prefers girly books.
We have many ‘Thats not my...’ books. They cost £6.99 a pop! We bought some of them second hand, a couple were gifted and we currently have a library pile.
However, we have a problem.
My sons favourite books are ‘Thats not my princess’ ‘Thats not my witch’ and ‘Thats not my mermaid’
I’m not happy with this AT ALL.
How do I peer pressure him into enjoying the other books?
I wanna make sure I get my fucking money’s worth |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My response would be so different if I didn't know you.... 
Sell the books he's not interested in and buy him a princess dress to wear during story time 
Lu  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"These books are amazing! Both mine loved them  bloody expensive though. Charity shops are usually a good shout for books. "
Aye we’ve got a fair few from charity shops! They’re amazing |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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My response would be so different if I didn't know you....
Sell the books he's not interested in and buy him a princess dress to wear during story time
Lu "
Honestly he has a huge basket full of these books and even if the ‘girly’ ones are at the bottom of the basket, he will chuck all the books out to get to the
He makes my heart melt!
He’s getting a wee buggy and doll for his Christmas  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My response would be so different if I didn't know you....
Sell the books he's not interested in and buy him a princess dress to wear during story time
Lu
Honestly he has a huge basket full of these books and even if the ‘girly’ ones are at the bottom of the basket, he will chuck all the books out to get to the
He makes my heart melt!
He’s getting a wee buggy and doll for his Christmas "
He's chuffing adorable!
You're growing him into a wonderful fully grown human Queenie! |
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Don't pressure him
He is emulating his Mum most probably
I believe kids just find their way
My daughter hated dolls and all sorts of girly ness, now she's into hair make up and looking pretty.
He's just tiny, appreciation of any books at that age is a good thing
Enjoy, I kind of miss it, but I have a box of those books in the attic
Jo x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Don't pressure him
He is emulating his Mum most probably
I believe kids just find their way
My daughter hated dolls and all sorts of girly ness, now she's into hair make up and looking pretty.
He's just tiny, appreciation of any books at that age is a good thing
Enjoy, I kind of miss it, but I have a box of those books in the attic
Jo x"
Aw I am letting him enjoy it, I honestly love that he adores his books
The OP was a satire |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i read a shocking statistic years ago that one in 3 children in the uk dont own a book
That must be wrong surely  "
Oh jeez! I hope that's wrong!
All kids should have access to books! |
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"Don't pressure him
He is emulating his Mum most probably
I believe kids just find their way
My daughter hated dolls and all sorts of girly ness, now she's into hair make up and looking pretty.
He's just tiny, appreciation of any books at that age is a good thing
Enjoy, I kind of miss it, but I have a box of those books in the attic
Jo x
Aw I am letting him enjoy it, I honestly love that he adores his books
The OP was a satire "
Sorry lovely, I'm not on the ball this morning
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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the magical day when you go from reading your nipper a book to the day where you take it in turns reading to each other and then its them who read to you 
Im blessed that reading is something that comes natural to my 10yr old..
There was a documentary last night after bake off where adults struggle with reading and writing and my heart goes out to them x |
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By *ab jamesMan
over a year ago
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Any reading is great for young kid's. I'm sure it helps their education get off to a flying start. If he's enjoying any books, you're well on the way. I used to love reading bedtime stories to my son, but he's bigger than me now, and won't let me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i read a shocking statistic years ago that one in 3 children in the uk dont own a book
That must be wrong surely "
One in three children leave primary school unable to read |
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Try some community centres, church/village halls. Some do book swaps, you take a book, read it then return or leave a book of yours , sometimes they have a donation box. Stewarton and dunlop have them. Even the old phone box in lugton has some lol |
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"i read a shocking statistic years ago that one in 3 children in the uk dont own a book
That must be wrong surely
One in three children leave primary school unable to read"
I'm not surprised by this stat. Reading isn't a skill that comes easily to some for various reasons. |
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"i read a shocking statistic years ago that one in 3 children in the uk dont own a book
That must be wrong surely
One in three children leave primary school unable to read
I'm not surprised by this stat. Reading isn't a skill that comes easily to some for various reasons. "
Among my siblings there are two who struggle with reading and two voracious readers who picked it up easily. We all grew up with equal access to books. |
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"So. My son prefers girly books.
We have many ‘Thats not my...’ books. They cost £6.99 a pop! We bought some of them second hand, a couple were gifted and we currently have a library pile.
However, we have a problem.
My sons favourite books are ‘Thats not my princess’ ‘Thats not my witch’ and ‘Thats not my mermaid’
I’m not happy with this AT ALL.
How do I peer pressure him into enjoying the other books?
I wanna make sure I get my fucking money’s worth "
Tricky one OP. Have you thought about getting rid of all the books and just replacing them with a daily manly handshake? Mr. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So. My son prefers girly books.
We have many ‘Thats not my...’ books. They cost £6.99 a pop! We bought some of them second hand, a couple were gifted and we currently have a library pile.
However, we have a problem.
My sons favourite books are ‘Thats not my princess’ ‘Thats not my witch’ and ‘Thats not my mermaid’
I’m not happy with this AT ALL.
How do I peer pressure him into enjoying the other books?
I wanna make sure I get my fucking money’s worth
Tricky one OP. Have you thought about getting rid of all the books and just replacing them with a daily manly handshake? Mr. "
That might be the only option! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My response would be so different if I didn't know you....
Sell the books he's not interested in and buy him a princess dress to wear during story time
Lu "
good idea, I always wanted a princess dress, but knew I had to conform |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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My response would be so different if I didn't know you....
Sell the books he's not interested in and buy him a princess dress to wear during story time
Lu good idea, I always wanted a princess dress, but knew I had to conform "
I worked in a private nursery, in the toddler room (so 2-3 year olds). A wee boy put on a princess dress, when his dad picked him up from nursery he said ‘look daddy, I’m a fairy!’ And his dad was absolutely fuming, I’ll turn his son gay, how dare I blah blah blah. Put a complaint in against me, that didn’t stick |
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My response would be so different if I didn't know you....
Sell the books he's not interested in and buy him a princess dress to wear during story time
Lu good idea, I always wanted a princess dress, but knew I had to conform
I worked in a private nursery, in the toddler room (so 2-3 year olds). A wee boy put on a princess dress, when his dad picked him up from nursery he said ‘look daddy, I’m a fairy!’ And his dad was absolutely fuming, I’ll turn his son gay, how dare I blah blah blah. Put a complaint in against me, that didn’t stick"
Oh that's sad |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My son used to want to be a ballet dancer much to his fathers delight and he would play with all the girly toys. He’s now a very much lads lad into football and hates when I tell the stories of him pirouetting |
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"My son used to want to be a ballet dancer much to his fathers delight and he would play with all the girly toys. He’s now a very much lads lad into football and hates when I tell the stories of him pirouetting "
My brother adored the huge skirts in our dress up box when we were little. I couldn't be bothered with all that crap.
... That changed |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I never grew out of it, I do ballet, and go to a ladies dance for fitness class, and openly dress as a woman, and am much happier being honest about it, much happier being accepted as being like a woman. |
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My response would be so different if I didn't know you....
Sell the books he's not interested in and buy him a princess dress to wear during story time
Lu good idea, I always wanted a princess dress, but knew I had to conform
I worked in a private nursery, in the toddler room (so 2-3 year olds). A wee boy put on a princess dress, when his dad picked him up from nursery he said ‘look daddy, I’m a fairy!’ And his dad was absolutely fuming, I’ll turn his son gay, how dare I blah blah blah. Put a complaint in against me, that didn’t stick"
That makes me feel sick and angry in equal measures. So very, very sad Mr. |
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"I get manga from amazon second hand, maybe he will like sailor moon, its for people of all ages, its all graphic novel too and easy to follow.
I get them so cheap if you pick the used option. "
He’s one |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i read a shocking statistic years ago that one in 3 children in the uk dont own a book
That must be wrong surely "
I work in a school and its not far off.
I would say probably closer to 1 in 8 but still sad. |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
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"i read a shocking statistic years ago that one in 3 children in the uk dont own a book
That must be wrong surely
I work in a school and its not far off.
I would say probably closer to 1 in 8 but still sad. "
Yikes thats scary - my son had no choice as I read him books like Never-ending Story and Anne of Green Gables for bedtime stories!
Also all my friends kids get at least one book in therir birthday/xmas presents from me |
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By *aver999Couple
over a year ago
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My response would be so different if I didn't know you....
Sell the books he's not interested in and buy him a princess dress to wear during story time
Lu good idea, I always wanted a princess dress, but knew I had to conform
I worked in a private nursery, in the toddler room (so 2-3 year olds). A wee boy put on a princess dress, when his dad picked him up from nursery he said ‘look daddy, I’m a fairy!’ And his dad was absolutely fuming, I’ll turn his son gay, how dare I blah blah blah. Put a complaint in against me, that didn’t stick"
Children don't have any sense of gender at a young age and will play with any toy or read books that catch their attention, it's interacting with their peers and family as they grow up that changes this so I wouldn't worry he'll soon be chucking the girly books to the side. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i read a shocking statistic years ago that one in 3 children in the uk dont own a book
That must be wrong surely
I work in a school and its not far off.
I would say probably closer to 1 in 8 but still sad.
Yikes thats scary - my son had no choice as I read him books like Never-ending Story and Anne of Green Gables for bedtime stories!
Also all my friends kids get at least one book in therir birthday/xmas presents from me "
I buy books for all friends children. |
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Why would you want to stop him enjoying what he enjoys.
There is no black and white. He may be a masculaine man or he may be the campest of them all, or somewhere in between. But as long as hes happy, thats all that matters. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Too cute!
I miss reading stories with my boys.
Our favourites were the Julia Donaldson books.
Even now my boys still know the words to room on the broom and the gruffallo. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Too cute!
I miss reading stories with my boys.
Our favourites were the Julia Donaldson books.
Even now my boys still know the words to room on the broom and the gruffallo. "
Oh room on the broom! My youngest’s favourite that was |
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By *icearmsMan
over a year ago
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My lad went through a similar thing. Had a pushchairs with a doll.. wore a princess outfit.
We just let it happen and now he hates anything girly. And is like every other teenage boy that doesn't want to wash, or get out of bed..
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By (user no longer on site)
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I love that your getting your son a doll & pram for Christmas. I have a daughter 7years old, I have a few nephews & nieces. My nephews love to come to my house as they get to play with dolls, prams, a kitchen & wear what they want. My brother wouldn't approve but I let them be. They'll soon grow out of it or not but at least they know it's ok to be what they want to be, play how they want, not be judged for doing it either. I think you should just let your son enjoy them & you enjoy the fact that he's actually reading books. My daughter & I have a book obsession it's bad they're every where. We're reading Marge in Charge at the minute & my daughter loves them. She wants a babysitter just like Marge ,she laughs at them I love it !! |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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My son used to sometimes have his hair braided to his head and wear fairy outfits, he's very much a man's man now but he had a really good time dressing up when he was little. For him I think it was just a way of learning about different things and seeing how stuff felt.
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"Honestly, I wouldn't worry, as a child I used to like Bunty especially the bit where you cut out the clothes and dressed the girl with them and I turned out OK "
Amazing response.
You certainly did. He will be what he wants to be. |
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"i read a shocking statistic years ago that one in 3 children in the uk dont own a book
That must be wrong surely
One in three children leave primary school unable to read
I'm not surprised by this stat. Reading isn't a skill that comes easily to some for various reasons.
Among my siblings there are two who struggle with reading and two voracious readers who picked it up easily. We all grew up with equal access to books. "
Similar with my bro. We grew up with books, newspapers, magazines galore. I was/am a bookworm but he never really got the hang and still dislikes reading as an adult in his 30s. Our son was a proper bookworm with varied taste. Our 3yo daughter loves books too, especially nursery rhymes and songs in books. She "reads" them to herself (recites them) and is now pointing out the different letters and what words begin with that letter.
The bit where she reads to us is coming way sooner than I'd planned  |
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"I get manga from amazon second hand, maybe he will like sailor moon, its for people of all ages, its all graphic novel too and easy to follow.
I get them so cheap if you pick the used option.
He’s one "
Read it to him till he's old enough. |
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By *N72TV/TS
over a year ago
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"Honestly, I wouldn't worry, as a child I used to like Bunty especially the bit where you cut out the clothes and dressed the girl with them and I turned out OK "
I was just thinking the same thing  |
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Thats super cute QL!
I love my boy to pieces. He used to wear superhero costumes while pushing a pink pram and dolly around everywhere!
Nail varnish when I did pamper sessions (though this no more)
And will borrow his sister's build a bear bunny and sparkly girly outfits wherever possible to take out and about for the day.
He is seven and is very aware of what is socially 'acceptable' in the confines of his classroom and generally conforms, but outside of school he is much freeer in expressing himself
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"Honestly, I wouldn't worry, as a child I used to like Bunty especially the bit where you cut out the clothes and dressed the girl with them and I turned out OK
I had a long stage of destroying anything vaguely girly that was given to me "
Ummmm me too! I'm still not girly at all |
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"Honestly, I wouldn't worry, as a child I used to like Bunty especially the bit where you cut out the clothes and dressed the girl with them and I turned out OK
I had a long stage of destroying anything vaguely girly that was given to me
Ummmm me too! I'm still not girly at all "
Oh in my case I... got over it? Regressed? Something? Dunno.
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"So. My son prefers girly books.
We have many ‘Thats not my...’ books. They cost £6.99 a pop! We bought some of them second hand, a couple were gifted and we currently have a library pile.
However, we have a problem.
My sons favourite books are ‘Thats not my princess’ ‘Thats not my witch’ and ‘Thats not my mermaid’
I’m not happy with this AT ALL.
How do I peer pressure him into enjoying the other books?
I wanna make sure I get my fucking money’s worth "
Threats on the safety and wellbeing of his favourite cuddly toy always seems to work. Start reading them boy books or Mr floppy ears get it! (Or something of that nature). Granted I'll probably never win parent of the year award.
Or just let the kid be who they want to be a keep the unused books in good condition for a better price on ebay. Either/or I suppose. |
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I think children of both genders learn from a very early age what is expected of you to conform to your gender role. And society will put you in to blue or pink, accordingly, and either action man or barbie according to your birth sex. When I was at school in the 1970s early 1980s,there was no mention of lgbt issues, and if there was it was always negative. At least now it's opening up thoughts and options. It's still far more acceptable for a girl to be a tomboy, than a boy to be feminine. These rules are very ingrained in people's psychology, which is why parents panic when their children defy gender norms. Think they should let the child have both male and female toys and clothes, so he could be a princess one day and a soldier the next, rather than hitting the roof cos little Johnny wants to be a princess. |
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"I think children of both genders learn from a very early age what is expected of you to conform to your gender role. And society will put you in to blue or pink, accordingly, and either action man or barbie according to your birth sex. When I was at school in the 1970s early 1980s,there was no mention of lgbt issues, and if there was it was always negative. At least now it's opening up thoughts and options. It's still far more acceptable for a girl to be a tomboy, than a boy to be feminine. These rules are very ingrained in people's psychology, which is why parents panic when their children defy gender norms. Think they should let the child have both male and female toys and clothes, so he could be a princess one day and a soldier the next, rather than hitting the roof cos little Johnny wants to be a princess. "
I saw a story where a female journalist got death threats because she let her toddler son have a tutu FFS.
It's just bizarre. If Billy wants a tutu let him have a tutu. So what? |
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"Why would you want to stop him enjoying what he enjoys.
There is no black and white. He may be a masculaine man or he may be the campest of them all, or somewhere in between. But as long as hes happy, thats all that matters."
It’s not real bro |
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"Thats super cute QL!
I love my boy to pieces. He used to wear superhero costumes while pushing a pink pram and dolly around everywhere!
Nail varnish when I did pamper sessions (though this no more)
And will borrow his sister's build a bear bunny and sparkly girly outfits wherever possible to take out and about for the day.
He is seven and is very aware of what is socially 'acceptable' in the confines of his classroom and generally conforms, but outside of school he is much freeer in expressing himself
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Too cute!
I miss reading stories with my boys.
Our favourites were the Julia Donaldson books.
Even now my boys still know the words to room on the broom and the gruffallo. "
We loooooove Julia Donaldson books |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My response would be so different if I didn't know you....
Sell the books he's not interested in and buy him a princess dress to wear during story time
Lu
Honestly he has a huge basket full of these books and even if the ‘girly’ ones are at the bottom of the basket, he will chuck all the books out to get to the
He makes my heart melt!
He’s getting a wee buggy and doll for his Christmas "
Parenting done right  . M x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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My response would be so different if I didn't know you....
Sell the books he's not interested in and buy him a princess dress to wear during story time
Lu
Honestly he has a huge basket full of these books and even if the ‘girly’ ones are at the bottom of the basket, he will chuck all the books out to get to the
He makes my heart melt!
He’s getting a wee buggy and doll for his Christmas
Parenting done right . M x "
Thank you
I’m not sure if people have clicked that my post is satire. I bloody love how babies and young children don’t gender anything. It’s amazing. My baba has a few ‘girly’ clothing - a pair of harem trousers covered in rainbows, clouds, sunshine’s etc. And rainbow leggings, a pink jumper, and a lot more. Who cares?! He looks cute as hell |
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My response would be so different if I didn't know you....
Sell the books he's not interested in and buy him a princess dress to wear during story time
Lu
Honestly he has a huge basket full of these books and even if the ‘girly’ ones are at the bottom of the basket, he will chuck all the books out to get to the
He makes my heart melt!
He’s getting a wee buggy and doll for his Christmas
Parenting done right . M x
Thank you
I’m not sure if people have clicked that my post is satire. I bloody love how babies and young children don’t gender anything. It’s amazing. My baba has a few ‘girly’ clothing - a pair of harem trousers covered in rainbows, clouds, sunshine’s etc. And rainbow leggings, a pink jumper, and a lot more. Who cares?! He looks cute as hell"
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