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Percentage of ‘no reply’

By *ertsguy2000 OP Man over a year ago

hertford

Having been on the end of many ‘no reply’ after sending a message maybe a marker on someone’s profile that gives a percentage of the number of no replies to messges they have been sent could be a good idea.

And yes, I always read a profile, consider if I am someone that the profile is looking for, and not just gender, age, location and sexuality but applying what they have mentioned their preferences are before sending a message.

Now if we could see that fab member ‘A’ only replies to 2% of messages received I think this would help deter the ‘triers’ the ones who cut and past or send one word messages from bothering in the first place. And from the way i understand it that has to be a good thing. I always have the same reason given whenever I say I think it’s rude to not reply, and that’s ‘do you realise how many messages I get, no time to answer them all’. So if this cuts the amount of messages down surely that’s a good thing.

Yes yes I do know it’s in the rules about no reply!!!!

Just think something simple like this would cut down the unwanted messages.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Doubt it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Doubt it"

Great tits!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Doubt it

Great tits!"

I know!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Doubt it

Great tits!

I know!"

Shame about UTD top though lol

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Not sure how you think that would work OP? In fact it would probably have the opposite effect, those ladies that do reply to messages, would get inundated and therefore reply less or would reply less anyway.

Men would still moan that women never reply to messages and would quote statistical "evidence" such as that to justify why a woman was "up her own arse" etc etc

You'd still get those that wouldn't pay any attention to the stat too.

And why should any user have to have a stat against how *they* choose to use the site?

Simple fact of the matter is if men stopped worrying about not getting replies and accepted that is how the site works then everyone would be happy.

Any kind of "scheme" such as yours would exacerbate the problem not help it.

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By *issmorganWoman over a year ago

Calderdale innit

They probably wouldn't even look at it to be fair

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Having been on the end of many ‘no reply’ after sending a message maybe a marker on someone’s profile that gives a percentage of the number of no replies to messges they have been sent could be a good idea.

Yes yes I do know it’s in the rules about no reply!!!!

Just think something simple like this would cut down the unwanted messages."

Look at this another way. How about putting the percentage of messages sent to new accounts on profiles. This would allow people (mostly women I admit) to see who uses a scatter gun "welcome to the site" approach and who is less indiscriminate, that would aid them in their choice of who to respond to

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not sure how you think that would work OP? In fact it would probably have the opposite effect, those ladies that do reply to messages, would get inundated and therefore reply less or would reply less anyway.

Men would still moan that women never reply to messages and would quote statistical "evidence" such as that to justify why a woman was "up her own arse" etc etc

You'd still get those that wouldn't pay any attention to the stat too.

And why should any user have to have a stat against how *they* choose to use the site?

Simple fact of the matter is if men stopped worrying about not getting replies and accepted that is how the site works then everyone would be happy.

Any kind of "scheme" such as yours would exacerbate the problem not help it."
very well put you are right in what you said we get many messages a day most are not worth replying to for various reasons as we don’t have time to answer we simply ignore them it saves getting into ping pong arguments so no we don’t feel we have to justify why we don’t answer all messages

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By *he Yorkshire StripperMan over a year ago

Laceby

Just simply forget you sent a message to someone then if a reply comes back it’s a bonus.

Use this site for your benefit...don’t let the site work against you.

Even if you thought you were that perfect person for someone, there could be thousands of factors why you don’t get a reply.

So just move on and get on with life

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By *enuine MikeMan over a year ago

Guildford

Unfortunately it is what it is and I dont think any sort of alteration to the app will make the foggiest bit of difference.

Keep trying, keep putting in the hours and maybe just maybe you might get that reply you are seeking.

Just dont take it personally.. i used to and it seriously began to affect me. Have a fuck it attitude, play the game, dont take it too seriously and one day you might get to your bonus stage

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If a woman receives 100 messages and respond to 50 she has responded to 50% of messages. If another woman receives 1000 messages and responses to 50 it’s 5%. Both respond to the same amount of messages. Which means the poor sod receiving 100 would be inundated. Just saying...

It’s difficult for guys on here, no doubt. However, the ‘no reply, no thanks’ is the better option.

I also tend to try respond to as many as I can as yes, it’s manners. However, due to the amount of messages, lots tend to go unread unintentionally unless I plan to sit all day attempting to go through them. Impossible!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Doubt it

Great tits!"

Seconded

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"If a woman receives 100 messages and respond to 50 she has responded to 50% of messages. If another woman receives 1000 messages and responses to 50 it’s 5%. Both respond to the same amount of messages. Which means the poor sod receiving 100 would be inundated. Just saying...

It’s difficult for guys on here, no doubt. However, the ‘no reply, no thanks’ is the better option.

A very good point

In fact *if* a percentage related statistic were to be given a much better and useful way of doing it would be nicecouple's suggestion of number of messages sent by an individual against how many of those messages received replies.

Not that I personally am in favour of *any* kind of statistics being presented at all - if you "get" the site the current set up works perfectly well.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A better idea would be to have the option of a CAPTCHA code on your profile, with perameters set by the profile owner, including length/ amount of time/ characters/ questions answered to complete and enable a message to be sent.

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By *rNaughtyNickMan over a year ago

Birmingham

99.999999% is about right for the single male on fab

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Filters and block is how you manage messages.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Filters and block is how you manage messages."

I like to get a chat with male and female fabbers off the back of threads so I dont have filters up anymore. When I get messages now from guys asking to 'suck me dry" just delete them

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By *ertsguy2000 OP Man over a year ago

hertford

I think any system / information that helps the way messges are sent / not replied too would help the situation. Certainly needs improving IMO

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"I think any system / information that helps the way messges are sent / not replied too would help the situation. Certainly needs improving IMO"

Why does the current set up need improving though? It's clear and simple - you send a message you either get a reply or you don't.

Any kind of "system" wouldn't change anything or suddenly mean you got all the meets you want.

As I said earlier the only "improvement" that is needed is an acceptance by those that find it frustrating that no reply means no interest, and only sending messages to those they genuinely think they are matched to

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Dear op

As per our profile we reply to every message so that’s us on your 100% new rating scheme but to be honest I wish we didn’t because so many just do not deserve a reply due to the lack of effort they put in.

If it isn’t broke then don’t fix it.

No reply means no thank you!!!!

Best of luck op.

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By *ertsguy2000 OP Man over a year ago

hertford

"Dear op

If it isn’t broke then don’t fix it.

No reply means no thank you!!!!

Best of luck op.

Agree the men that get complained about obviously have to have a look at who and why they message someone, and thank you for being so polite as to reply to messages to you, well at least the ones that warrant a reply at least

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't understand how this will help in anyway.

Some women reply to every message and meet none of them.

Some woman reply to 1 in a 100 and meet or can with half of them.

(This is just a crude example to get my point across)

So i don't see how the stats on how many messages reply to helps in anyway.

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By *nked_kittenWoman over a year ago

Ankh Morpork

The only change to messages I would like would be some indication in the inbox that they are on my friends list or we have been chatting

I just don’t see the messages I want because they are buried

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By *ertsguy2000 OP Man over a year ago

hertford

"I think any system / information that helps the way messges are sent / not replied too would help the situation. Certainly needs improving IMO

Why does the current set up need improving though? It's clear and simple - you send a message you either get a reply or you don't.

Any kind of "system" wouldn't change anything or suddenly mean you got all the meets you want.

I’m curious, you received a well written polite and well considered message from someone who is in your ‘looking for’ category, do you reply or ignore?

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By *ertsguy2000 OP Man over a year ago

hertford

"The only change to messages I would like would be some indication in the inbox that they are on my friends list or we have been chatting

I just don’t see the messages I want because they are buried

That’s a great suggestion

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The only change to messages I would like would be some indication in the inbox that they are on my friends list or we have been chatting

I just don’t see the messages I want because they are buried

That’s a great suggestion"

But we have that with the new inbox system.

You can see who you have messaged before and we have the private note option.

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By *rHotNottsMan over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

We reply to hardly any messages, couples and singles , simply because no effort is made. Won’t ever reply to one liners or cock pics, it’s just spamming

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By *eardsandboobsCouple over a year ago

north of lincoln

"I think any system / information that helps the way messges are sent / not replied too would help the situation. Certainly needs improving IMO

Why does the current set up need improving though? It's clear and simple - you send a message you either get a reply or you don't.

Any kind of "system" wouldn't change anything or suddenly mean you got all the meets you want.

I’m curious, you received a well written polite and well considered message from someone who is in your ‘looking for’ category, do you reply or ignore?"

We wouldn’t reply if the person wasn’t our type. They may think they fit all the boxes but very few do. However if they asked a question regarding something else other than if we were interested then we may reply.

By the way what is a self important fucktard ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We reply to hardly any messages, couples and singles , simply because no effort is made. Won’t ever reply to one liners or cock pics, it’s just spamming "

Agreed plus if they read my Profile they would know they are unlikely to get a reply.

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By *heslimoneMan over a year ago

Deeside

"We reply to hardly any messages, couples and singles , simply because no effort is made. Won’t ever reply to one liners or cock pics, it’s just spamming

Agreed plus if they read my Profile they would know they are unlikely to get a reply. "

Not even if i show you my willy?

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By *rHotNottsMan over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"I think any system / information that helps the way messges are sent / not replied too would help the situation. Certainly needs improving IMO

Why does the current set up need improving though? It's clear and simple - you send a message you either get a reply or you don't.

Any kind of "system" wouldn't change anything or suddenly mean you got all the meets you want.

I’m curious, you received a well written polite and well considered message from someone who is in your ‘looking for’ category, do you reply or ignore?"

If we get this we will reply , even if they are no match and obviously haven’t read our profile. We send messages regularly without reading profiles and nearly always get replies even offers from people who don’t match. What’s important is the content of a message

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple over a year ago

Cumbria

"Having been on the end of many ‘no-reply’ after sending a message may be a marker on someone’s profile that gives a percentage of the number of no replies to messages they have been sent could be a good idea.

Now if we could see that fab member ‘A’ only replies to 2% of messages received I think this would help deter the ‘triers’ the ones who cut and past or send one-word messages from bothering in the first place. And from the way I understand it, that has to be a good thing. I always have the same reason given whenever I say I think it’s rude to not reply, and that’s ‘do you realise how many messages I get, no time to answer them all’. So if this cuts the number of messages down surely that’s a good thing.

Yes yes, I do know it’s in the rules about no reply!!!!

Just think something simple like this would cut down the unwanted messages."

Maybe increase replies by reading Profiles properly before sending messages...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We reply to hardly any messages, couples and singles , simply because no effort is made. Won’t ever reply to one liners or cock pics, it’s just spamming

Agreed plus if they read my Profile they would know they are unlikely to get a reply.

Not even if i show you my willy?

Especially if you show your willy.

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By *rHotNottsMan over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"We reply to hardly any messages, couples and singles , simply because no effort is made. Won’t ever reply to one liners or cock pics, it’s just spamming

Agreed plus if they read my Profile they would know they are unlikely to get a reply.

Not even if i show you my willy?

Haha.... instant delete and forgive the first time then it’s a block

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By *heslimoneMan over a year ago

Deeside

"We reply to hardly any messages, couples and singles , simply because no effort is made. Won’t ever reply to one liners or cock pics, it’s just spamming

Agreed plus if they read my Profile they would know they are unlikely to get a reply.

Not even if i show you my willy?

Especially if you show your willy.

Maybe if i show you someone else's?

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By *ent in BlackMan over a year ago

Silsden

It’s difficult for guys on here, no doubt. However, the ‘no reply, no thanks’ is the better option.

This is the perfect answer really.

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By *rHotNottsMan over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

It’s difficult for guys on here, no doubt. However, the ‘no reply, no thanks’ is the better option.

This is the perfect answer really."

Really do you reply to spam ?

We want our time to write good replies to the ones that matter , and polite no thank you to the ones who deserve a reply. The ones who send a cock and say “how you doing” or similar nonesemse or anything vulgar will never in a million years get a reply

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"I think any system / information that helps the way messges are sent / not replied too would help the situation. Certainly needs improving IMO

Why does the current set up need improving though? It's clear and simple - you send a message you either get a reply or you don't.

Any kind of "system" wouldn't change anything or suddenly mean you got all the meets you want.

I’m curious, you received a well written polite and well considered message from someone who is in your ‘looking for’ category, do you reply or ignore?"

If in *my opinion* (not that of the sender) the message was worthy of a reply then I would reply - but you know full well the majority of the messages that don't get replies are not of that quality.

Either way there is no "system" that will stop the undesirable kind of messages being sent - but I don't see them as an inhibitor to my own interactions on here.

Ultimately as a single guy on here you have everything within your own hands to maximise your experience of the site - no systems are needed, it's up to each of us as individuals to find ways to make it work for us, not expect the site to do it.

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By *ertsguy2000 OP Man over a year ago

hertford

"I think any system / information that helps the way messges are sent / not replied too would help the situation. Certainly needs improving IMO

Why does the current set up need improving though? It's clear and simple - you send a message you either get a reply or you don't.

Any kind of "system" wouldn't change anything or suddenly mean you got all the meets you want.

I’m curious, you received a well written polite and well considered message from someone who is in your ‘looking for’ category, do you reply or ignore?

By the way what is a self important fucktard ? "

I’ll let you draw your own conclusions

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By *ertsguy2000 OP Man over a year ago

hertford

"I think any system / information that helps the way messges are sent / not replied too would help the situation. Certainly needs improving IMO

Why does the current set up need improving though? It's clear and simple - you send a message you either get a reply or you don't.

Any kind of "system" wouldn't change anything or suddenly mean you got all the meets you want.

I’m curious, you received a well written polite and well considered message from someone who is in your ‘looking for’ category, do you reply or ignore?

If in *my opinion* (not that of the sender) the message was worthy of a reply then I would reply - but you know full well the majority of the messages that don't get replies are not of that quality.

Either way there is no "system" that will stop the undesirable kind of messages being sent - but I don't see them as an inhibitor to my own interactions on here.

I have no idea what the majority of messages contain and wouldn’t assume as to what they contain, If there’s one thing I have learned from this place is to expect the unexpected.

Any system that fails to improve, to move forward will soon become obsolete and be replaced by an improved service. Since my limited time on fab I have seen many changes and improvements, the addition of videos being one that springs to mind, something that has proved particularly popular judging by the number of videos posted, that wouldn’t have happened if as you suggest no requirements for changes. I find it an odd suggestion.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A better idea would be to have the option of a CAPTCHA code on your profile, with perameters set by the profile owner, including length/ amount of time/ characters/ questions answered to complete and enable a message to be sent."
sounds like an e interview

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By *eardsandboobsCouple over a year ago

north of lincoln

"I think any system / information that helps the way messges are sent / not replied too would help the situation. Certainly needs improving IMO

Why does the current set up need improving though? It's clear and simple - you send a message you either get a reply or you don't.

Any kind of "system" wouldn't change anything or suddenly mean you got all the meets you want.

I’m curious, you received a well written polite and well considered message from someone who is in your ‘looking for’ category, do you reply or ignore?

By the way what is a self important fucktard ?

I’ll let you draw your own conclusions

Do you think someone that doesn’t reply to your message is a self important fucktard ? And if so doesn’t that go against what your first profile paragraph says about being polite and well mannered.

Also what do you do if a gay guy messages you with a well thought out message. ? Even though your profile says no messages from them? If you got 100 messages from guys but only 1 from a woman that you replied to then your percentage would be 1%

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think that it wouldent be very representative of the bigger picture... Somone may get 500 messages a day and open and reply to 250 of them and show 50% chance of replying and at the same time somone could get two messages ignore one and show 50% reply but you'd be more likely to get a reply from the first person than the second

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

We're not talking here about general system/site improvements though - but your suggestion for some kind of statistical point of reference as an indicator of whether someone is going to reply or not and it's a "system" such as that which is unnecessary and hardly an "odd suggestion" to suggest it isn't.

As I said it's quite simple - you send a message, you either get a reply or you don't - nothing more is needed.

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By *ertsguy2000 OP Man over a year ago

hertford

"I think any system / information that helps the way messges are sent / not replied too would help the situation. Certainly needs improving IMO

Why does the current set up need improving though? It's clear and simple - you send a message you either get a reply or you don't.

Any kind of "system" wouldn't change anything or suddenly mean you got all the meets you want.

I’m curious, you received a well written polite and well considered message from someone who is in your ‘looking for’ category, do you reply or ignore?

By the way what is a self important fucktard ?

I’ll let you draw your own conclusions

I would delete your message if I were you, it’s against the rules

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By *ertsguy2000 OP Man over a year ago

hertford

As I said it's quite simple - you send a message, you either get a reply or you don't - nothing more is needed."

It was a suggestion for something that the site could improve on, quite simple.

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

As I said it's quite simple - you send a message, you either get a reply or you don't - nothing more is needed.

It was a suggestion for something that the site could improve on, quite simple."

It was and nothing wrong with that - but as has been shown would be counter-productive and probably have the reverse effect to what you were hoping for - a far better one would be nicecouple's one from further up.

Either way I stand by what I said about not thinking it necessary, and just accepting that no reply = no interest works perfectly well.

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