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Hi everyone, what do you like or are your expectations for post-meet etiquette?
Do you like/expect a quick 'thanks for having me I had a great time' text after, or are you quite OK with nothing?
Personally, if there's been lots of text chat up to the meet, then nothing after... for maybe days... I think that's a bit rubbish.
Usually if I've spent time with a friend (in normal life not a fab meet), I'd send a quick thank you text and so do most people I know! Is sex exempt from this etiquette?! |
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It depends. First time with someone I will probably follow up, but if we've met half a dozen times I'm not bothered about a thankyou text.
Same with my mates: if it's someone I rarely see I might drop a message saying how good it was to see them and how we must keep in touch (before not seeing them for another year or two), but I have coffee with my best mate every Sunday and it doesn't occur to either of us to text the other to say thanks. We text each other a few times a day anyway. |
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I’m a smother her in affection and send her a bar of galaxy chocolate in the post.
I try and post it the day before the meet so it arrives the morning afterwards. |
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"I’m a smother her in affection and send her a bar of galaxy chocolate in the post.
I try and post it the day before the meet so it arrives the morning afterwards."
And if the meet goes badly it's a perfect apology.
Good thinking, I'm going to start doing that. |
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"I’m a smother her in affection and send her a bar of galaxy chocolate in the post.
I try and post it the day before the meet so it arrives the morning afterwards.
And if the meet goes badly it's a perfect apology.
Good thinking, I'm going to start doing that."
I’m not just a pretty face.
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"I’m a smother her in affection and send her a bar of galaxy chocolate in the post.
I try and post it the day before the meet so it arrives the morning afterwards.
And if the meet goes badly it's a perfect apology.
Good thinking, I'm going to start doing that."
That is a great Idea, for me a simple thank you text is more than sufficient if it went well or not, however if it went superbly then a little voice message might be a better idea |
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I’m a pain in the arse for this. I only meet people I’ve talked to for ages and have some kind of friendship with so if they then said nothing I’d be really pissed off and I’d tell them. I understand that people are busy etc but it’s very easy not to make someone feel like a piece of meat and if you have that understanding beforehand I expect someone to be respectful of that. I suppose it might be different for those that meet more casually, but for me manners cost nothing. |
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"A handwritten thank you card for a good meet, with a LIDL gift card and a signed photo of myself enclosed if they were exceptional
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Gosh you people are dedicated. I need to up my game. Shall I get souvenir tshirts printed? |
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I’d only someone I’ve formed a friendship with, I personally would like the convo to carry on after a meet. It just think it’s polite but then again I always check in on friends outside of fab to see if they got home and just a brief summary of how the night felt and how lovely it was to see them.
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"I’d only someone I’ve formed a friendship with, I personally would like the convo to carry on after a meet. It just think it’s polite but then again I always check in on friends outside of fab to see if they got home and just a brief summary of how the night felt and how lovely it was to see them.
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"I’m a pain in the arse for this. I only meet people I’ve talked to for ages and have some kind of friendship with so if they then said nothing I’d be really pissed off and I’d tell them. I understand that people are busy etc but it’s very easy not to make someone feel like a piece of meat and if you have that understanding beforehand I expect someone to be respectful of that. I suppose it might be different for those that meet more casually, but for me manners cost nothing. "
I totally agree with you and like yourself I tend to have to chat for ages before even wanting to meet someone |
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"I’m a smother her in affection and send her a bar of galaxy chocolate in the post.
I try and post it the day before the meet so it arrives the morning afterwards.
And if the meet goes badly it's a perfect apology.
Good thinking, I'm going to start doing that.
I’m not just a pretty face.
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I’ll meet you just for the galaxy chocolate |
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"Hi everyone, what do you like or are your expectations for post-meet etiquette?
Do you like/expect a quick 'thanks for having me I had a great time' text after, or are you quite OK with nothing?
Personally, if there's been lots of text chat up to the meet, then nothing after... for maybe days... I think that's a bit rubbish.
Usually if I've spent time with a friend (in normal life not a fab meet), I'd send a quick thank you text and so do most people I know! Is sex exempt from this etiquette?! "
Indeed I’d like to think there’s a rapport initially then leading to friendship/associations in an ideal scenario |
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"A handwritten thank you card for a good meet, with a LIDL gift card and a signed photo of myself enclosed if they were exceptional
Gosh you people are dedicated. I need to up my game. Shall I get souvenir tshirts printed? "
Just red lacy knickers as a calling card |
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"I usually give them their out of 5 stars rating, a little feedback on how to improve etc.
Hahaha no you don’t "
You got me it's usually the other way round, so far 4 meets down, 1 more and I'll have a 5 star rating! |
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"Hi everyone, what do you like or are your expectations for post-meet etiquette?
Do you like/expect a quick 'thanks for having me I had a great time' text after, or are you quite OK with nothing?
Personally, if there's been lots of text chat up to the meet, then nothing after... for maybe days... I think that's a bit rubbish.
Usually if I've spent time with a friend (in normal life not a fab meet), I'd send a quick thank you text and so do most people I know! Is sex exempt from this etiquette?! "
Do you send one ? |
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"Hi everyone, what do you like or are your expectations for post-meet etiquette?
Do you like/expect a quick 'thanks for having me I had a great time' text after, or are you quite OK with nothing?
Personally, if there's been lots of text chat up to the meet, then nothing after... for maybe days... I think that's a bit rubbish.
Usually if I've spent time with a friend (in normal life not a fab meet), I'd send a quick thank you text and so do most people I know! Is sex exempt from this etiquette?! "
I agree it’s bloody rude. |
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"Hi everyone, what do you like or are your expectations for post-meet etiquette?
Do you like/expect a quick 'thanks for having me I had a great time' text after, or are you quite OK with nothing?
Personally, if there's been lots of text chat up to the meet, then nothing after... for maybe days... I think that's a bit rubbish.
Usually if I've spent time with a friend (in normal life not a fab meet), I'd send a quick thank you text and so do most people I know! Is sex exempt from this etiquette?!
Do you send one ?"
i was going to ask this. |
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If someone didn't message me afterwards then I'd be disappointed with myself for misjudging that person as someone i wanted to sleep with.
Not my scene to be treated like that. |
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"As I usually go to them I often get home to find I already have a text but if I don't I usually send one myself and they respond with a similar message. Polite thing to do in my opinion. "
Same..manners make a difference xx |
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"If someone didn't message me afterwards then I'd be disappointed with myself for misjudging that person as someone i wanted to sleep with.
Not my scene to be treated like that."
couldn't you message them? |
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It's takes me a lot of chatting and getting to know some one before I meet,so I'd be more upset that I judged him wrong,if I didn't here from him,and I would surely tell him |
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"If someone didn't message me afterwards then I'd be disappointed with myself for misjudging that person as someone i wanted to sleep with.
Not my scene to be treated like that."
Imagine if the man felt exactly the same???
It could be suggested that many men send a gushing thank you thank you thank you message within half hour
It could be suggested that some women may take such a thank you or prompt contact as needy
It could be suggested some of us wait for our text as its alwsys nice to be appreciated |
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"Hi everyone, what do you like or are your expectations for post-meet etiquette?
Do you like/expect a quick 'thanks for having me I had a great time' text after, or are you quite OK with nothing?
Personally, if there's been lots of text chat up to the meet, then nothing after... for maybe days... I think that's a bit rubbish.
Usually if I've spent time with a friend (in normal life not a fab meet), I'd send a quick thank you text and so do most people I know! Is sex exempt from this etiquette?! "
Manners cost nothing and regardless of how the meet went,a thank you for meeting is always a given ,even if a further meet is never gonna happen . |
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"A handwritten thank you card for a good meet, with a LIDL gift card and a signed photo of myself enclosed if they were exceptional
Gosh you people are dedicated. I need to up my game. Shall I get souvenir tshirts printed? "
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"Hi everyone, what do you like or are your expectations for post-meet etiquette?
Do you like/expect a quick 'thanks for having me I had a great time' text after, or are you quite OK with nothing?
Personally, if there's been lots of text chat up to the meet, then nothing after... for maybe days... I think that's a bit rubbish.
Usually if I've spent time with a friend (in normal life not a fab meet), I'd send a quick thank you text and so do most people I know! Is sex exempt from this etiquette?!
Do you send one ?"
Yes I do. Do you? |
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"Hi everyone, what do you like or are your expectations for post-meet etiquette?
Do you like/expect a quick 'thanks for having me I had a great time' text after, or are you quite OK with nothing?
Personally, if there's been lots of text chat up to the meet, then nothing after... for maybe days... I think that's a bit rubbish.
Usually if I've spent time with a friend (in normal life not a fab meet), I'd send a quick thank you text and so do most people I know! Is sex exempt from this etiquette?!
Do you send one ?
Yes I do. Do you? "
When appropriate absolutely |
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"are we women still expecting men to be grateful to us for having sex with them?"
Well ,thing is ,it's not gonna happen or never will happen unless the lady decides it's gonna happen so tbh in a sort of way in a joint like this , Men should be grateful ...l mean you only have to read on the forums how guys are always saying it's so difficult to get meets |
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"are we women still expecting men to be grateful to us for having sex with them?
Well ,thing is ,it's not gonna happen or never will happen unless the lady decides it's gonna happen so tbh in a sort of way in a joint like this , Men should be grateful ...l mean you only have to read on the forums how guys are always saying it's so difficult to get meets "
Woh
Speak for yourself thanks
I meet on equal terms thank you muchly
I dont need to thank or be thanked for a mutual meeting
A post meet message from me would never be or need to be a thank you nor do I need a thank you |
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"are we women still expecting men to be grateful to us for having sex with them?"
I think we women are expecting to be treated with a bit of courtesy / manners, extended from one human being to another. Especially a sex-partner who you've just been very intimate with. I guess as a couple you have that post-sex 'aftercare' with your partner. Are you saying a little aftercare is too much to expect from a sex partner as a single person? |
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"I’m a smother her in affection and send her a bar of galaxy chocolate in the post.
I try and post it the day before the meet so it arrives the morning afterwards."
Oh that would put an extra smile on my face |
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"Usually send a message to continue the chat we had pre meet or just to make sure the got home ok"
This is it! I always go to their place. So yes, I would expect a message to make sure I got home safely and to thank me for driving over. It's not about them thanking me for sleeping with them. But in that context, I do think if I'm the one driving home, it's nice for them to message me. |
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"are we women still expecting men to be grateful to us for having sex with them?
I think we women are expecting to be treated with a bit of courtesy / manners, extended from one human being to another. Especially a sex-partner who you've just been very intimate with. I guess as a couple you have that post-sex 'aftercare' with your partner. Are you saying a little aftercare is too much to expect from a sex partner as a single person? "
We men also like said courtesy
No one likes to feel used or a notch
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"Usually send a message to continue the chat we had pre meet or just to make sure the got home ok
This is it! I always go to their place. So yes, I would expect a message to make sure I got home safely and to thank me for driving over. It's not about them thanking me for sleeping with them. But in that context, I do think if I'm the one driving home, it's nice for them to message me."
Context is everything |
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"are we women still expecting men to be grateful to us for having sex with them?
Well ,thing is ,it's not gonna happen or never will happen unless the lady decides it's gonna happen so tbh in a sort of way in a joint like this , Men should be grateful ...l mean you only have to read on the forums how guys are always saying it's so difficult to get meets "
well for us sex is a mutual thing, I don't expect anyone to be grateful to me and I wouldn't expect to be grateful to them . If we've had a mutually enjoyable time we can show mutual appreciation surely. This is 2020 not 1950 |
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I always send a message after whether it was a social or sex.
If I dont recieve one in return then it just shows me that they're a twat
It always makes me laugh when they message a week or so later expecting another meet! Ain't happening. I lead them on for a few days and then ghost them. Childish, I know but funny as when they're messages get nasty. |
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I believe the saying 'thanks' is more alluding to the fact you've hosted someone, rather than the sex! I mean to host generally means: clean sheets, tidy up, sort the drinks etc, more clean sheets. I mean you'd thank a mate for hosting an evening wouldn't you?! |
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"are we women still expecting men to be grateful to us for having sex with them?
I think we women are expecting to be treated with a bit of courtesy / manners, extended from one human being to another. Especially a sex-partner who you've just been very intimate with. I guess as a couple you have that post-sex 'aftercare' with your partner. Are you saying a little aftercare is too much to expect from a sex partner as a single person? "
No. Are you expecting to receive after care first before you offer it yourself? Isn't sex mutually enjoyable? |
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"I believe the saying 'thanks' is more alluding to the fact you've hosted someone, rather than the sex! I mean to host generally means: clean sheets, tidy up, sort the drinks etc, more clean sheets. I mean you'd thank a mate for hosting an evening wouldn't you?! "
we always send a thank you message if we've been guests, we take host/ess gifts too. |
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"Usually send a message to continue the chat we had pre meet or just to make sure the got home ok"
Yes I have had the same experience and post meet chat is good as I'm very choosy about who I meet in anycase.
If he's a nice guy and we both enjoyed each others company then be rude not to in my opinion |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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As we tend to host, I always ask them to let me know when they get home as well as sending a thank you message.
From an aftercare point of view I check in with them for the next few days to ensure they are feeling ok and not suffering any drop related issues, and then carry on with the chatting. |
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The last lady I played with from here unfortunately seems to have had her number disconnected and we never got the chance to meet again...But she sent me the following thoughtful message the day after :-
' Dear Aloysius,
Thank you for a wonderful time last evening. I must apologise once again for my behaviour. I'm sorry I screamed when I saw your face initially, and subsequently asking you to remove 'that hideous halloween mask', as it being October I mistakenly believed you were wearing one. I also regret drinking your room's mini-bar dry before we got down to play. Likewise sorry for saying 'please tell me you are cold and you're a grower ?' when you undressed, I can only imagine it was the drink talking.
Thank you for agreeing to wear my makeup bag on your face, it was good of you to indulge my fetish and I'm sorry you almost suffocated. Thank you for subsequently allowing me to turn off the lights, as my eyes are very sensitive after alcohol. I'm sorry for asking you 'Is it in yet ?', as you may appreciate my senses become limited in the dark. I can only put it down to the rapturous pleasure you caused me when I shouted 'Thank F##K that's over !' three minutes later, I don't know what came over me...probably you ?
Again I must restate how regrettable it was that I feel asleep during the enthralling cunilingus you performed on me, I must have drifted to another realm of pleasure.
Sorry again about my uncle Tom disturbed us. I was as so surprised when he called to say he was in the corridor outside our room and needed a place to stay for the night. It was so understanding of you to leave so we could catch up. It must seem strange to you that he greeted me by saying 'Hello Chardonnay, it's me Tom, 9 pm ?'...he gets confused and often calls me my sister's name, then panics and states his own name and the time, poor dear.
It was so good of you to go halves on the room Aloysius, and I totally agree it was very bad form of the hotel management to ring me just before you arrived and double the rate to £400 per person. I can assure you I let them know of our mutual annoyance at the front desk next morning, as did Uncle Tim.
Thank you again for a magical 53 minutes, it felt so much longer.
Laquandice x '
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To be honest, I think people can get far too hung-up on whose "responsibility" it is to message first after a meet - what matters if that one person does message, not sending at least one reply is the height of bellendery.
But please don't sit and fume that the other person hasn't sent a message, when neither have you! |
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"The last lady I played with from here unfortunately seems to have had her number disconnected and we never got the chance to meet again...But she sent me the following thoughtful message the day after :-
' Dear Aloysius,
Thank you for a wonderful time last evening. I must apologise once again for my behaviour. I'm sorry I screamed when I saw your face initially, and subsequently asking you to remove 'that hideous halloween mask', as it being October I mistakenly believed you were wearing one. I also regret drinking your room's mini-bar dry before we got down to play. Likewise sorry for saying 'please tell me you are cold and you're a grower ?' when you undressed, I can only imagine it was the drink talking.
Thank you for agreeing to wear my makeup bag on your face, it was good of you to indulge my fetish and I'm sorry you almost suffocated. Thank you for subsequently allowing me to turn off the lights, as my eyes are very sensitive after alcohol. I'm sorry for asking you 'Is it in yet ?', as you may appreciate my senses become limited in the dark. I can only put it down to the rapturous pleasure you caused me when I shouted 'Thank F##K that's over !' three minutes later, I don't know what came over me...probably you ?
Again I must restate how regrettable it was that I feel asleep during the enthralling cunilingus you performed on me, I must have drifted to another realm of pleasure.
Sorry again about my uncle Tom disturbed us. I was as so surprised when he called to say he was in the corridor outside our room and needed a place to stay for the night. It was so understanding of you to leave so we could catch up. It must seem strange to you that he greeted me by saying 'Hello Chardonnay, it's me Tom, 9 pm ?'...he gets confused and often calls me my sister's name, then panics and states his own name and the time, poor dear.
It was so good of you to go halves on the room Aloysius, and I totally agree it was very bad form of the hotel management to ring me just before you arrived and double the rate to £400 per person. I can assure you I let them know of our mutual annoyance at the front desk next morning, as did Uncle Tim.
Thank you again for a magical 53 minutes, it felt so much longer.
Laquandice x '
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"I like it when they care enough to make sure I got home ok
Exactly this I’d expect this if nothing else and so far it’s always happened"
Common courtesy eh? |
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Wanting someone to thank me for having sex with them sounds absolutely cringeworthy. I don't want it or expect it. If they made an effort hosting or as a visitor they bought a gift etc, thanks for that would be given there and then and I would expect the same in return. If it was a one time only situation I think keeping up a conversation after the event confuses matters. A clean break should be made as you part ways. Whoever has visited should be wished a safe journey home and then that's it. If it's a regular event then contact should continue as before and not regress into a "when can you next open your legs?" situation. |
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"I’m a smother her in affection and send her a bar of galaxy chocolate in the post.
I try and post it the day before the meet so it arrives the morning afterwards."
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For me, I wouldn’t meet someone unless we’d been talking for a while and had really gotten to know each other, so that continuing to talk afterwards is already second nature.
I’d always message after a meet regardless, because I want to make sure whoever I’m with gets home safe etc. since I’d have to care enough about their safety to want to sleep with them!! |
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"Hi everyone, what do you like or are your expectations for post-meet etiquette?
Do you like/expect a quick 'thanks for having me I had a great time' text after, or are you quite OK with nothing?
Personally, if there's been lots of text chat up to the meet, then nothing after... for maybe days... I think that's a bit rubbish.
Usually if I've spent time with a friend (in normal life not a fab meet), I'd send a quick thank you text and so do most people I know! Is sex exempt from this etiquette?! "
I’m happy either way. However personally I like to be a bit chatty but I’m fully aware a lot of women are not as bothered. |
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By *ED00Woman
over a year ago
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I like a lot of you will only meet after I've been chatting a while by messages on here and then on the phone, I cant have sex without some form of connection. Recently I met a guy who prior to meeting, we had been texting and talking every night. We both seemed to want the same thing, a regular FWB without the relationship trappings and had talked about this. He came to mine we had a great night and he stayed over. He talked about making it a regular thing and all was dandy. He left I sent a short text saying how much I had enjoyed his company and looked forward to a rematch. He replied said defo to a rematch. That was 2 wks ago. It's gone from everyday text and calls to no calls and half a dozen text and me feeling annoyed and irritated with myself for having sex with him !! I'm not a confident person but things like this knock my confidence even more. I would much rather he would of said thanks but no thanks than this limbo. Maybe I'm not cut out for this kind of scene. |
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"I’m a smother her in affection and send her a bar of galaxy chocolate in the post.
I try and post it the day before the meet so it arrives the morning afterwards."
Jesus Sam, leave some women for the rest of us |
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"I like a lot of you will only meet after I've been chatting a while by messages on here and then on the phone, I cant have sex without some form of connection. Recently I met a guy who prior to meeting, we had been texting and talking every night. We both seemed to want the same thing, a regular FWB without the relationship trappings and had talked about this. He came to mine we had a great night and he stayed over. He talked about making it a regular thing and all was dandy. He left I sent a short text saying how much I had enjoyed his company and looked forward to a rematch. He replied said defo to a rematch. That was 2 wks ago. It's gone from everyday text and calls to no calls and half a dozen text and me feeling annoyed and irritated with myself for having sex with him !! I'm not a confident person but things like this knock my confidence even more. I would much rather he would of said thanks but no thanks than this limbo. Maybe I'm not cut out for this kind of scene. "
The only way to try and avoid this in the future is by taking sex off the table the first time you meet |
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"I like a lot of you will only meet after I've been chatting a while by messages on here and then on the phone, I cant have sex without some form of connection. Recently I met a guy who prior to meeting, we had been texting and talking every night. We both seemed to want the same thing, a regular FWB without the relationship trappings and had talked about this. He came to mine we had a great night and he stayed over. He talked about making it a regular thing and all was dandy. He left I sent a short text saying how much I had enjoyed his company and looked forward to a rematch. He replied said defo to a rematch. That was 2 wks ago. It's gone from everyday text and calls to no calls and half a dozen text and me feeling annoyed and irritated with myself for having sex with him !! I'm not a confident person but things like this knock my confidence even more. I would much rather he would of said thanks but no thanks than this limbo. Maybe I'm not cut out for this kind of scene.
The only way to try and avoid this in the future is by taking sex off the table the first time you meet "
That doesn't always work, I had a social first and he still ghosted me after a later sex meet, we had been chatting daily for months, he confessed in a sorry message a month later that he only liked the excitement of the chase |
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When I see this kind of discussion, I am disappointingly reminded that many people on here are just here to get shags.
Mostly I enjoy being part of a community of likeminded souls who enjoy physically exploring and enjoying the bodies (and minds) of people we like, with whom we have developed a connection. Hence my preference for regular playmates. Parties and clubs are different but I still look for a connection of some kind.
Shag and go does not fit well with this!!
Of course we keep talking - we’ve just been about as intimate as you can be with another person so why would we stop chatting? Unless you’ve scored your goal and being a shallow arse you’re heartlessly moving on.
It’s only common decency to make sure someone got home OK. It’s proper adult behaviour to be interested and at least respectful.
Not everyone will share my point of view but then I would be interested in meeting with them anyway!! |
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"I like a lot of you will only meet after I've been chatting a while by messages on here and then on the phone, I cant have sex without some form of connection. Recently I met a guy who prior to meeting, we had been texting and talking every night. We both seemed to want the same thing, a regular FWB without the relationship trappings and had talked about this. He came to mine we had a great night and he stayed over. He talked about making it a regular thing and all was dandy. He left I sent a short text saying how much I had enjoyed his company and looked forward to a rematch. He replied said defo to a rematch. That was 2 wks ago. It's gone from everyday text and calls to no calls and half a dozen text and me feeling annoyed and irritated with myself for having sex with him !! I'm not a confident person but things like this knock my confidence even more. I would much rather he would of said thanks but no thanks than this limbo. Maybe I'm not cut out for this kind of scene.
The only way to try and avoid this in the future is by taking sex off the table the first time you meet
That doesn't always work, I had a social first and he still ghosted me after a later sex meet, we had been chatting daily for months, he confessed in a sorry message a month later that he only liked the excitement of the chase "
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"I like a lot of you will only meet after I've been chatting a while by messages on here and then on the phone, I cant have sex without some form of connection. Recently I met a guy who prior to meeting, we had been texting and talking every night. We both seemed to want the same thing, a regular FWB without the relationship trappings and had talked about this. He came to mine we had a great night and he stayed over. He talked about making it a regular thing and all was dandy. He left I sent a short text saying how much I had enjoyed his company and looked forward to a rematch. He replied said defo to a rematch. That was 2 wks ago. It's gone from everyday text and calls to no calls and half a dozen text and me feeling annoyed and irritated with myself for having sex with him !! I'm not a confident person but things like this knock my confidence even more. I would much rather he would of said thanks but no thanks than this limbo. Maybe I'm not cut out for this kind of scene.
The only way to try and avoid this in the future is by taking sex off the table the first time you meet
That doesn't always work, I had a social first and he still ghosted me after a later sex meet, we had been chatting daily for months, he confessed in a sorry message a month later that he only liked the excitement of the chase "
I’m finding a lot of guys are more into the excitement of the chase... |
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"When I see this kind of discussion, I am disappointingly reminded that many people on here are just here to get shags.
Mostly I enjoy being part of a community of likeminded souls who enjoy physically exploring and enjoying the bodies (and minds) of people we like, with whom we have developed a connection. Hence my preference for regular playmates. Parties and clubs are different but I still look for a connection of some kind.
Shag and go does not fit well with this!!
Of course we keep talking - we’ve just been about as intimate as you can be with another person so why would we stop chatting? Unless you’ve scored your goal and being a shallow arse you’re heartlessly moving on.
It’s only common decency to make sure someone got home OK. It’s proper adult behaviour to be interested and at least respectful.
Not everyone will share my point of view but then I would be interested in meeting with them anyway!!"
I like this |
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By *ED00Woman
over a year ago
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These posts have made me feel so much better. Even though I'm sorry that so many of us do get treated with no or little post meet respect, it's made me let out a huge sigh of relief that it's not just me lol. I shall be taking sex off the table for the first meet.... fingers crossed.... and pulling on my big girl pants and getting over it. Thanks all xxx |
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"are we women still expecting men to be grateful to us for having sex with them?
Well, yeah. But I'm grateful to them for having sex with me too. "
The feeling would be mutual |
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"These posts have made me feel so much better. Even though I'm sorry that so many of us do get treated with no or little post meet respect, it's made me let out a huge sigh of relief that it's not just me lol. I shall be taking sex off the table for the first meet.... fingers crossed.... and pulling on my big girl pants and getting over it. Thanks all xxx"
Quite sensible My kinda Girl |
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"These posts have made me feel so much better. Even though I'm sorry that so many of us do get treated with no or little post meet respect, it's made me let out a huge sigh of relief that it's not just me lol. I shall be taking sex off the table for the first meet.... fingers crossed.... and pulling on my big girl pants and getting over it. Thanks all xxx"
Not just you lovely not at all ..... onwards and upwards xxx |
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By *imis3Woman
over a year ago
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"The last lady I played with from here unfortunately seems to have had her number disconnected and we never got the chance to meet again...But she sent me the following thoughtful message the day after :-
' Dear Aloysius,
Thank you for a wonderful time last evening. I must apologise once again for my behaviour. I'm sorry I screamed when I saw your face initially, and subsequently asking you to remove 'that hideous halloween mask', as it being October I mistakenly believed you were wearing one. I also regret drinking your room's mini-bar dry before we got down to play. Likewise sorry for saying 'please tell me you are cold and you're a grower ?' when you undressed, I can only imagine it was the drink talking.
Thank you for agreeing to wear my makeup bag on your face, it was good of you to indulge my fetish and I'm sorry you almost suffocated. Thank you for subsequently allowing me to turn off the lights, as my eyes are very sensitive after alcohol. I'm sorry for asking you 'Is it in yet ?', as you may appreciate my senses become limited in the dark. I can only put it down to the rapturous pleasure you caused me when I shouted 'Thank F##K that's over !' three minutes later, I don't know what came over me...probably you ?
Again I must restate how regrettable it was that I feel asleep during the enthralling cunilingus you performed on me, I must have drifted to another realm of pleasure.
Sorry again about my uncle Tom disturbed us. I was as so surprised when he called to say he was in the corridor outside our room and needed a place to stay for the night. It was so understanding of you to leave so we could catch up. It must seem strange to you that he greeted me by saying 'Hello Chardonnay, it's me Tom, 9 pm ?'...he gets confused and often calls me my sister's name, then panics and states his own name and the time, poor dear.
It was so good of you to go halves on the room Aloysius, and I totally agree it was very bad form of the hotel management to ring me just before you arrived and double the rate to £400 per person. I can assure you I let them know of our mutual annoyance at the front desk next morning, as did Uncle Tim.
Thank you again for a magical 53 minutes, it felt so much longer.
Laquandice x '
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LMAO
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"Hi everyone, what do you like or are your expectations for post-meet etiquette?
Do you like/expect a quick 'thanks for having me I had a great time' text after, or are you quite OK with nothing?
Personally, if there's been lots of text chat up to the meet, then nothing after... for maybe days... I think that's a bit rubbish.
Usually if I've spent time with a friend (in normal life not a fab meet), I'd send a quick thank you text and so do most people I know! Is sex exempt from this etiquette?! " if you let me meet you and taste your pussy I promise I will text saying thank you. |
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I usually send a quick message if I haven’t got one off them.
But I don’t expect to hear of them much after that... great if you do but it’s all about fun and no drama |
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"As I usually go to them I often get home to find I already have a text but if I don't I usually send one myself and they respond with a similar message. Polite thing to do in my opinion. "
Are you supposed to leave after? |
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