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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If it’s a recent ex, I can understand OP. Especially if she left you. The main thing is to understand that it’s over and she is entitled to see whoever she wants to and be chatted up by whoever wants to chat her up.
Take a breath and occupy your time. It’ll get easier with time. X |
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By *went OP Man
over a year ago
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"No offence OP but isn't that a bit hypocritical when you're on a swinging site with the intention of chatting up multiple others?
An ex is an ex."
No offence taken, even though an ex. I still have feelings about her and worry that she’s safe.
It is a bit hypocritical but never like the thought of her with someone else.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Probably won’t be chatting her up as she’ll be sat at a table metres away from anyone else with no human traffic as everyone has to stay at their tables. |
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By *went OP Man
over a year ago
blackpool |
"She’s someone else’s problem now 
I’m single and ready to mingle (after COVID)  "
Yes true, but Doesn’t mean a person doesn’t care.
Some people say they don’t care, but most times if you break it down I bet they still bothered deep down. |
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"No offence OP but isn't that a bit hypocritical when you're on a swinging site with the intention of chatting up multiple others?
An ex is an ex.
No offence taken, even though an ex. I still have feelings about her and worry that she’s safe.
It is a bit hypocritical but never like the thought of her with someone else.
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I understand what that's like to worry if they're safe or not, but there is no point worrying if they don't care about you, as hard as it is you need to concentrate on your own happiness without her  |
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"She’s someone else’s problem now
I’m single and ready to mingle (after COVID)
Yes true, but Doesn’t mean a person doesn’t care.
Some people say they don’t care, but most times if you break it down I bet they still bothered deep down. "
Nope I mean what I say, she’s the Mother of my Children, that cheated on me and left me as a part time Dad.
I have absolutely no feelings for her at all and I keep being nice, to ensure there’s no issues with keeping in contact with my children.
I’m extremely loyal in any relationship but if I’m crossed, goodbye and I won’t look back. If that makes me cold hearted so be it, I won’t lose any sleep over it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This may (unintentionally) seem harsh OP but if you do care for her the wish the best for her in any new relationship she finds, and move on.
Sounds like you're still grieving for the relationship, and that's natural. Give yourself time to grieve. |
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"No offence OP but isn't that a bit hypocritical when you're on a swinging site with the intention of chatting up multiple others?
An ex is an ex.
No offence taken, even though an ex. I still have feelings about her and worry that she’s safe.
It is a bit hypocritical but never like the thought of her with someone else.
I understand what that's like to worry if they're safe or not, but there is no point worrying if they don't care about you, as hard as it is you need to concentrate on your own happiness without her "
Whilst I kinda get the safe sentiment, she's an adult. We must presume she can look after herself. She doesn't need (nor want, one assumes) to be "protected". One person's protection is another's possessiveness. I'm a grown woman and I certainly do not look to my husband for any form of protection or whatever and I'd hate it if he thought I needed/wanted protecting. I'm not a child. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No offence OP but isn't that a bit hypocritical when you're on a swinging site with the intention of chatting up multiple others?
An ex is an ex.
No offence taken, even though an ex. I still have feelings about her and worry that she’s safe.
It is a bit hypocritical but never like the thought of her with someone else.
I understand what that's like to worry if they're safe or not, but there is no point worrying if they don't care about you, as hard as it is you need to concentrate on your own happiness without her
Whilst I kinda get the safe sentiment, she's an adult. We must presume she can look after herself. She doesn't need (nor want, one assumes) to be "protected". One person's protection is another's possessiveness. I'm a grown woman and I certainly do not look to my husband for any form of protection or whatever and I'd hate it if he thought I needed/wanted protecting. I'm not a child. "
If a lion came bounding down the biscuit aisle at Asda you'd probably appreciate it if your hubby lobbed a box of jaffa cakes at his head and knocked it out. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"She’s someone else’s problem now
I’m single and ready to mingle (after COVID)
Yes true, but Doesn’t mean a person doesn’t care.
Some people say they don’t care, but most times if you break it down I bet they still bothered deep down.
Nope I mean what I say, she’s the Mother of my Children, that cheated on me and left me as a part time Dad.
I have absolutely no feelings for her at all and I keep being nice, to ensure there’s no issues with keeping in contact with my children.
I’m extremely loyal in any relationship but if I’m crossed, goodbye and I won’t look back. If that makes me cold hearted so be it, I won’t lose any sleep over it "
I don't think it's cold hearted to hide bad feelings for your ex to protect your relationship with your kids. |
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"No offence OP but isn't that a bit hypocritical when you're on a swinging site with the intention of chatting up multiple others?
An ex is an ex.
No offence taken, even though an ex. I still have feelings about her and worry that she’s safe.
It is a bit hypocritical but never like the thought of her with someone else.
I understand what that's like to worry if they're safe or not, but there is no point worrying if they don't care about you, as hard as it is you need to concentrate on your own happiness without her
Whilst I kinda get the safe sentiment, she's an adult. We must presume she can look after herself. She doesn't need (nor want, one assumes) to be "protected". One person's protection is another's possessiveness. I'm a grown woman and I certainly do not look to my husband for any form of protection or whatever and I'd hate it if he thought I needed/wanted protecting. I'm not a child.
If a lion came bounding down the biscuit aisle at Asda you'd probably appreciate it if your hubby lobbed a box of jaffa cakes at his head and knocked it out. X"
But he'd do the same for any other person in firing line of said lion, as would I for him and others. Yes, I'd like him to treat me as a human being (which he does). I dislike the whole "man must protect woman" trope. Why does the world not ask about women protecting men? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No offence OP but isn't that a bit hypocritical when you're on a swinging site with the intention of chatting up multiple others?
An ex is an ex.
No offence taken, even though an ex. I still have feelings about her and worry that she’s safe.
It is a bit hypocritical but never like the thought of her with someone else.
I understand what that's like to worry if they're safe or not, but there is no point worrying if they don't care about you, as hard as it is you need to concentrate on your own happiness without her
Whilst I kinda get the safe sentiment, she's an adult. We must presume she can look after herself. She doesn't need (nor want, one assumes) to be "protected". One person's protection is another's possessiveness. I'm a grown woman and I certainly do not look to my husband for any form of protection or whatever and I'd hate it if he thought I needed/wanted protecting. I'm not a child.
If a lion came bounding down the biscuit aisle at Asda you'd probably appreciate it if your hubby lobbed a box of jaffa cakes at his head and knocked it out. X
But he'd do the same for any other person in firing line of said lion, as would I for him and others. Yes, I'd like him to treat me as a human being (which he does). I dislike the whole "man must protect woman" trope. Why does the world not ask about women protecting men? "
Not a chance I'd lose my jaffa cakes. The lion could eat my man. |
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"No offence OP but isn't that a bit hypocritical when you're on a swinging site with the intention of chatting up multiple others?
An ex is an ex.
No offence taken, even though an ex. I still have feelings about her and worry that she’s safe.
It is a bit hypocritical but never like the thought of her with someone else.
I understand what that's like to worry if they're safe or not, but there is no point worrying if they don't care about you, as hard as it is you need to concentrate on your own happiness without her
Whilst I kinda get the safe sentiment, she's an adult. We must presume she can look after herself. She doesn't need (nor want, one assumes) to be "protected". One person's protection is another's possessiveness. I'm a grown woman and I certainly do not look to my husband for any form of protection or whatever and I'd hate it if he thought I needed/wanted protecting. I'm not a child.
If a lion came bounding down the biscuit aisle at Asda you'd probably appreciate it if your hubby lobbed a box of jaffa cakes at his head and knocked it out. X
But he'd do the same for any other person in firing line of said lion, as would I for him and others. Yes, I'd like him to treat me as a human being (which he does). I dislike the whole "man must protect woman" trope. Why does the world not ask about women protecting men?
Not a chance I'd lose my jaffa cakes. The lion could eat my man. "
If that works best for you, marvellous. Oh, you have crumbs down your top, just an FYI |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My ex moved out and within days I had a text from a friend asking for my ex’s number as they were interested...
they’re welcome to each other.
Some friend  "
Yep.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a cliche but give it time.
You will move on and will have your own life.
I wish my ex the best now - but when we first split up I needed to know what he was doing etc .. it's destructive behaviour that will get you nowhere.
Trust me it gets better and you will care less  |
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