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By *reywolf_18 OP   Man  over a year ago

ayr

Hi, looking to see if I can get some advice to improve my profile. I don't get a lot of views, but want to leave a good impression when someone does look. Any ideas to improve? Interested to hear thoughts on photos, what people do / don't want to see. I've not put anything explicit up there on public.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Bland. Also, you're suggesting that you'd shave your goatee if someone didn't like it... Too accommodating. If someone doesn't like it they're not for you.

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By *reywolf_18 OP   Man  over a year ago

ayr


"Bland. Also, you're suggesting that you'd shave your goatee if someone didn't like it... Too accommodating. If someone doesn't like it they're not for you. "

OK thanks for looking and getting back to me. I'll look at updating it. Honestly I'm not bothered about my goatee but maybe I just shouldn't mention it, just noticed that facial hair is a turn off to some people and wanted them to know it's no big deal to me.

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By *offiaCoolWoman  over a year ago

Kidsgrove

I appreciate the offer of shaving off the goatee. I personally don't like facial hair. I am happy to be a little flexible to someone if they particularly liked a colour of lingerie etc.

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By *ankie303Woman  over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset

"Genuine and discreet", why do you feel the need to say you are genuine? Genuine what exactly?

I'm pretty sure most wouldn't expect you to rock on up shouting "I'm on a fab meet" as loud as poss to the neighbours so again, discreet about what?

Clearly you have found the message filters so not sure why mention your not looking for men or tvs

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By *reywolf_18 OP   Man  over a year ago

ayr


""Genuine and discreet", why do you feel the need to say you are genuine? Genuine what exactly?

I'm pretty sure most wouldn't expect you to rock on up shouting "I'm on a fab meet" as loud as poss to the neighbours so again, discreet about what?

Clearly you have found the message filters so not sure why mention your not looking for men or tvs "

I guess I could word some of that better. Yeah I wanted people to know that I am not going to be a time waster, that I will be reliable. There are a lot of time wasters on here. And I know some people here don't want to advertise what they're doing so I wouldn't approach them in another public scene like a bar / restaurant etc and embarrass them. But maybe I can explain that better leave it to conversation. You're right about the guys, I can remove that.

Thanks for looking and taking the time to reply. It's good getting another perspective

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By *reywolf_18 OP   Man  over a year ago

ayr


"I appreciate the offer of shaving off the goatee. I personally don't like facial hair. I am happy to be a little flexible to someone if they particularly liked a colour of lingerie etc."

Thanks for that, yeah that's exactly what I was going for, happy to be flexible too. I'm not so set in my ways that everything needs to be one way.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

A pic of you fucking a watermelon would be great xx

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By *ax1971Man  over a year ago

St helens

Do you have a sky remote, im sure the ladies love that one op.

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By *nked_kittenWoman  over a year ago

Ankh Morpork


"A pic of you fucking a watermelon would be great xx"

Same could be said for you

Morning

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By *nked_kittenWoman  over a year ago

Ankh Morpork


"Hi, looking to see if I can get some advice to improve my profile. I don't get a lot of views, but want to leave a good impression when someone does look. Any ideas to improve? Interested to hear thoughts on photos, what people do / don't want to see. I've not put anything explicit up there on public. "

Put some more photos up, maybe some clothed ones

Why point out your nice? That’s most peoples default

Profile says nothing about you. Reads the same as most guys who don’t get meets.

I’d read some other male profiles and get some ideas from those.

Least you don’t have that silly disclaimer so that’s something

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I'm no expert but my advice would be more pics and from different angles, personally i wouldnt start your bio saying your looking for a fwb or fuck buddy in first sentence try and sell yourself a bit first i might be wrong but I think that's a little bit off putting and try and inject a little humour into it at the end of the day it's like your cv to cples or women so need to portray your pesonality but best of luck

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By *allySlinkyWoman  over a year ago

Leeds

I think a clothed profile picture would work better for you than a naked one.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I think you need a few more pictures, can be suggestive and don’t need to be personal and maybe a bit more detail about what your kinks are and what you enjoy and a bit of humour goes a long way

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By *emini ManMan  over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

In summary it's not awful, and I've seen a lot worse, but it's alsofairly bland and generic, and much like thousands of other guys profiles on here so won't make you stand out.

I'd also suggest a few more pics would do you no harm.

To look at the specifics of your text:

Your first paragraph kind of contradicts itself, you start off saying you're looking for a FWB/FB but then say it can be "one off" - now of course you can never know someone will become a regular meet until you've had that initial one, but the way it reads conflicts.

The first part of the next paragraph where you describe yourself physically is unnecessary, people can see your height/body type from your profile stats and the pics you have on show, and if they interact with you will be able to get a better idea of your looks from a pic.

Being on-time, clean and nice should surely all be "givens" so no real need to mention them. Know you're trying to give people a sense of you, but there are other ways to do that without stating the obvious - no-one is ever going to say in their profile "I'll always be late, not shower beforehand and might be in a mood" so people will take comments like yours with a pinch of salt.

How can you "make sure" a woman you don't know "cums as much as she wants to"? Some women don't, some women can only do so a specific way etc - so until you've met them you don't know you can make sure of anything like that.

Asking for Fabs of your pics as an indicator of interest is quite naive - if people Fab a pic it means nothing more than they like the pic, so if people think you may be monitoring for Fabs and will message as a result (which is possibly the unwritten message in your statement) they won't do so, so it's kind of counter-productive.

Appreciate all that may read as a bit of a savaging, but would rather give an honest perspective as it won't help you otherwise.

Know it's not easy writing a profile, especially as there is no magic, catch all formula, but generally speaking finding something that helps you stand out, gives a reader a sense of you the person and not only what you're looking for, but what you think you can offer is the way to go.

Try writing it out by hand or in an email to yourself first, read it back and ask yourself if you'd meet you based on what you've written, and be brutally honest. Don't be afraid to look at other, verified, guys profiles for ideas or to get a sense of the kind of thing that might work for you.

Ultimately it's your profile and has to come from you though.

P.S. You might not think you're getting many looks, but a lot of women here look in stealth mode, which doesn't show on "Looked At Me" so you'd never know if they'd looked or not.

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By *reywolf_18 OP   Man  over a year ago

ayr

OK, wow that's given me a lot to think about. Thanks for all the advice, I get that it may come off as savaging, but it's all helpful. I'll have another go at it, and try to take more different photos too. Might have a look at some other profiles for inspiration.

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