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Hard limits- What are yours?
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I have been chatting to a lady for a few weeks now and yesterday she asked what my hard limits were. Up until this point I have never thought about or been asked about them. To be honest I didn’t know where to start 
I am quite open minded and am happy to try most things with the right partner but it’s got my head in a spin.
What are your limits?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have a really good think OP, there's nothing wrong with being open to trying anything at all but think about anything your not willing to do at all or even what you may think are small things (they are all important) that you really don't like will class as a hard limit.
As for asking other people's, I find that a really personal question and one I generally only answer if it's someone I'm seriously considering playing with but two of mine are no pee or poo. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always find it curious when I see people have written ‘no limits’ on their profiles. I’m like, surely that can’t be right. Everyone must have some kind of limit (I hope) |
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"I always find it curious when I see people have written ‘no limits’ on their profiles. I’m like, surely that can’t be right. Everyone must have some kind of limit (I hope) "
^ this
Even with an open mind there are things I definitely wouldn’t do, two I can mention is poop and feet play |
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I've done the pee thing to a limited extent (she was on the toilet, I needed to go, aimed between her legs, then aimed for her belly etc, she found it quite erotic) but the other P is a definite no no, don't wanna shame anyone who IS into that, but I just don't get it, nor the throat fucking to vomit thing either, maybe I've just been watching too much extreme porn and nobody really DOES do that, I don't know!
Apart from that and extreme pain (spanking is great, limited experience with paddling, no experience with caning but I think I'd like to try it, giving not receiving btw)
I think that's probably my limits
Sorry for hijacking the thread 
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
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Hard limits is a difficult one depending on your mindset I guess. For some people they will try anything if they have that trusting relationship even if they thought at first it was something they would never do. Limits change and evolve over time so communication is always key  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hard limits is a difficult one depending on your mindset I guess. For some people they will try anything if they have that trusting relationship even if they thought at first it was something they would never do. Limits change and evolve over time so communication is always key "
This is so true. Had some fun experiences I never contemplated before, just had to be the right person  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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PPP are out. Hard no!
Most other things I’ll try once.
I do have a very strong limit about people I choose to sleep beside. I couldn’t sleep next to someone unless I trusted them unconditionally, so that’s a thing for me. |
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"PPP are out. Hard no!
Most other things I’ll try once.
I do have a very strong limit about people I choose to sleep beside. I couldn’t sleep next to someone unless I trusted them unconditionally, so that’s a thing for me. "
Ok, I'll let you sleep on the couch while I take the bed  |
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Off the top of my head - scat, needles, staples, blood, cutting, spitting in the face, ass to mouth, branding, piercing, fisting, extreme penetration, double penetration in the same hole, nappies.
I also have a number of soft limits which are a no in 99% of cases but not a never with the right person. |
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"Never u der stood the term "no limit". But then I was never a fan of mid nineties dance duos... More a rock/goth/metal chick myself.... "
Yeah it's a silly thing to say and often by niave people. No limits? Ok let me chop your arm off then? No didn't think so  . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"PPP are out. Hard no!
Most other things I’ll try once.
I do have a very strong limit about people I choose to sleep beside. I couldn’t sleep next to someone unless I trusted them unconditionally, so that’s a thing for me.
Ok, I'll let you sleep on the couch while I take the bed "
Such a gentleman  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"PPP are out. Hard no!
Most other things I’ll try once.
I do have a very strong limit about people I choose to sleep beside. I couldn’t sleep next to someone unless I trusted them unconditionally, so that’s a thing for me.
Ok, I'll let you sleep on the couch while I take the bed
Such a gentleman "
I'll let you have the duvet though! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"PPP are out. Hard no!
Most other things I’ll try once.
I do have a very strong limit about people I choose to sleep beside. I couldn’t sleep next to someone unless I trusted them unconditionally, so that’s a thing for me.
Ok, I'll let you sleep on the couch while I take the bed
Such a gentleman
I'll let you have the duvet though!"
Fuck off you can curl up at the base of the bed like a good puppy  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"PPP are out. Hard no!
Most other things I’ll try once.
I do have a very strong limit about people I choose to sleep beside. I couldn’t sleep next to someone unless I trusted them unconditionally, so that’s a thing for me.
Ok, I'll let you sleep on the couch while I take the bed
Such a gentleman
I'll let you have the duvet though!
Fuck off you can curl up at the base of the bed like a good puppy "
Kitten showing her claws  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"PPP are out. Hard no!
Most other things I’ll try once.
I do have a very strong limit about people I choose to sleep beside. I couldn’t sleep next to someone unless I trusted them unconditionally, so that’s a thing for me.
Ok, I'll let you sleep on the couch while I take the bed
Such a gentleman
I'll let you have the duvet though!
Fuck off you can curl up at the base of the bed like a good puppy
Kitten showing her claws "
Just for you darling  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mine is having anything up my ass, a partner tried with a finger and I didn't like it.
I also find it hard to sleep beside someone I don't trust implicitly, most of the time I end up wide away and end up trying to have more sex just to pass the time which understandably annoys some partners.
Definitely no PPP! |
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"Limits should always include anything illegal.
Age related or animals at very least.
They shouldn't even be considered tbf, that should be a given"
Indeed but it makes a mockery of saying no limits |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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I assume this is from a sexual context, and so there is no meed to mention cutting hair, providing bank details/PIN’s etc?
Most people have limits, they just haven't experienced or thought of them.
You could search through porn clip websites looking at the titles and activities,
You could look up a BDSM checklist that lists all the kinds of activities and if you like/dislike them (different to the BDSM test people often post to determine their roles),
You could read online erotica to determine your likes and limits
From experience this is what most people we have played with have included in their limits
No poo
No pee
No pain / heavy pain
No marks
No blood
No face slapping
No body punching
No choking
No anal/anal play
No cum play
No blindfolds
No enclosed spaces
No sensory deprivation hoods |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have been chatting to a lady for a few weeks now and yesterday she asked what my hard limits were. Up until this point I have never thought about or been asked about them. To be honest I didn’t know where to start
I am quite open minded and am happy to try most things with the right partner but it’s got my head in a spin.
What are your limits?
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I won’t shag anyone with a English accent.... |
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