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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi all. I've been a member on here for a few months and I'm really struggling to find anyone to meet. My messages hardly get replied to. Any advice on what to say to the ladies on here as an opening message? I also send a face pic too. Maybe I'm just too ugly haha |
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The single guys tend to outnumber the gals on here so they get bombarded by messages from the likes of us and can afford to be picky. Im fuggly as but have met several people on here over the years, it takes time and patience. Best thing you can do is just be yourself, be polite, friendly and treat folk with respect.
You will tickle someone's fancy at some point. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The single guys tend to outnumber the gals on here so they get bombarded by messages from the likes of us and can afford to be picky. Im fuggly as but have met several people on here over the years, it takes time and patience. Best thing you can do is just be yourself, be polite, friendly and treat folk with respect.
You will tickle someone's fancy at some point."
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"Hi all. I've been a member on here for a few months and I'm really struggling to find anyone to meet. My messages hardly get replied to. Any advice on what to say to the ladies on here as an opening message? I also send a face pic too. Maybe I'm just too ugly haha"
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Hey dude... don’t be disheartened, Fab got more salami than a waitrose deli. Lots of ladies get inundated with messages and bulk Delete them.
Make your profile interesting, just like your messages. Get varied pictures, to attract a lady. Then be yourself.. bullshit gets sniffed out like a fart in a pringles tube 
Remember its engage their mind first , before even thinking of disengaging the bra strap
Good luck  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What others have said.
A flirtatious message with humour yet polite, is far more likely to get my attention than a “how’s u” message.
Also, attach a face pic and not a dick pic to the message. |
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"What others have said.
A flirtatious message with humour yet polite, is far more likely to get my attention than a “how’s u” message.
Also, attach a face pic and not a dick pic to the message."
Hey how's you? Wanna see my cock? |
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"Hey dude... don’t be disheartened, Fab got more salami than a waitrose deli. Lots of ladies get inundated with messages and bulk Delete them.
Make your profile interesting, just like your messages. Get varied pictures, to attract a lady. Then be yourself.. bullshit gets sniffed out like a fart in a pringles tube
Remember its engage their mind first , before even thinking of disengaging the bra strap
Good luck "
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"Hi all. I've been a member on here for a few months and I'm really struggling to find anyone to meet. My messages hardly get replied to. Any advice on what to say to the ladies on here as an opening message? I also send a face pic too. Maybe I'm just too ugly haha"
What do you want to say to them? Presumably you want to say something to them otherwise you wouldn't want to send them a message.
It's a good idea to check you fit what they say they are looking for before messaging.
A good start is "Hello, [use their name(s) from their profile]. I'm [insert name]." Very few people bother with this, amazingly.
Then you can say why you are contacting them. Did you like their photos? Something you saw on their profile? Something they wrote on the forum? Put it in. Explain why you think you might be a good match.
Whatever you do, don't talk about meeting. That's way down the line. There's a big gap between saying hello and deciding to meet that needs filling in with a conversation. Have something to say otherwise you have no conversation and are highly unlikely to ever meet. Don't talk about anything sexual. It's too soon.
Be patient and polite. You have to see this as a long game. Slowly slowly catchy monkey. |
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"Hi all. I've been a member on here for a few months and I'm really struggling to find anyone to meet. My messages hardly get replied to. Any advice on what to say to the ladies on here as an opening message? I also send a face pic too. Maybe I'm just too ugly haha
What do you want to say to them? Presumably you want to say something to them otherwise you wouldn't want to send them a message.
It's a good idea to check you fit what they say they are looking for before messaging.
A good start is "Hello, [use their name(s) from their profile]. I'm [insert name]." Very few people bother with this, amazingly.
Then you can say why you are contacting them. Did you like their photos? Something you saw on their profile? Something they wrote on the forum? Put it in. Explain why you think you might be a good match.
Whatever you do, don't talk about meeting. That's way down the line. There's a big gap between saying hello and deciding to meet that needs filling in with a conversation. Have something to say otherwise you have no conversation and are highly unlikely to ever meet. Don't talk about anything sexual. It's too soon.
Be patient and polite. You have to see this as a long game. Slowly slowly catchy monkey. "
Wait there's a fucking monkey to chase? Game on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What others have said.
A flirtatious message with humour yet polite, is far more likely to get my attention than a “how’s u” message.
Also, attach a face pic and not a dick pic to the message.
Hey how's you? Wanna see my cock?"
You had me at “Hey”  |
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"What others have said.
A flirtatious message with humour yet polite, is far more likely to get my attention than a “how’s u” message.
Also, attach a face pic and not a dick pic to the message.
Hey how's you? Wanna see my cock?
You had me at “Hey” "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well for a start there’s Covid and secondly your profile doesn’t say much..."
Plus men outnumber women by dozens to 1 so the odds are always against it. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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OP firstly welcome to the forums
There is no magic catch all formula to be honest - it's more about finding what works for you, but when single men find they are "struggling" here it usually comes down to one, all or a combination of five things, so consider these and apply them to yourself and see if there's anything you can change:
Profile - Is yours a good advert for you? Does it tell people who you are, what you're looking for, or what you think you can offer? Would you meet you based on your profile alone? Remember that a lot of people will look at your profile before even opening a message from you, and will often use that to decide whether the message is worth opening.
Pics - Do you have a good set of pics that show you and your body off well, are they teasing and tasteful? Or blatant, in your face and unappealing?
Approach - Have you found the right approach to the site for you? Are you just blindly sending messages to people in the hope of a reply? Have you considered other ways to get to know people such as the forums and chat rooms, or, when they are running again, group socials and clubs? Have you really thought about what you expect to get from the site and is that reflected in your profile?
Attitude - do you adopt a positive, respectful and considerate attitude at all times, including in things like messages and status updates? Do you accept a polite no thank you graciously?
Expectations - have you got these set right? Do you expect to meet people just for signing up or do you accept that chances of meeting are going to be minimal and set your expectations accordingly?
Really think about all of the above and make changes where you think necessary, they won't guarantee anything but they'll improve your experience of the site no end.
And I can also recommend visiting the profile of Princess Peach and watching some of the "Help for single men" videos she put together a while back - they're spot on and quite funny too - but don't make the mistake of messaging her asking for a shag, the last bloke that did that is still looking for his nadgers so he can have them sewn back on |
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"Hi all. I've been a member on here for a few months and I'm really struggling to find anyone to meet. My messages hardly get replied to. Any advice on what to say to the ladies on here as an opening message? I also send a face pic too. Maybe I'm just too ugly haha"
Looks like you did ok on May 1st! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well if you are finding it difficult to me you've got to remember that we are in a pandemic at the minute so many people will not want to meet even as a social so you just got to grit your teeth so to speak and just wait for it to happen |
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"OP firstly welcome to the forums
There is no magic catch all formula to be honest - it's more about finding what works for you, but when single men find they are "struggling" here it usually comes down to one, all or a combination of five things, so consider these and apply them to yourself and see if there's anything you can change:
Profile - Is yours a good advert for you? Does it tell people who you are, what you're looking for, or what you think you can offer? Would you meet you based on your profile alone? Remember that a lot of people will look at your profile before even opening a message from you, and will often use that to decide whether the message is worth opening.
Pics - Do you have a good set of pics that show you and your body off well, are they teasing and tasteful? Or blatant, in your face and unappealing?
Approach - Have you found the right approach to the site for you? Are you just blindly sending messages to people in the hope of a reply? Have you considered other ways to get to know people such as the forums and chat rooms, or, when they are running again, group socials and clubs? Have you really thought about what you expect to get from the site and is that reflected in your profile?
Attitude - do you adopt a positive, respectful and considerate attitude at all times, including in things like messages and status updates? Do you accept a polite no thank you graciously?
Expectations - have you got these set right? Do you expect to meet people just for signing up or do you accept that chances of meeting are going to be minimal and set your expectations accordingly?
Really think about all of the above and make changes where you think necessary, they won't guarantee anything but they'll improve your experience of the site no end.
And I can also recommend visiting the profile of Princess Peach and watching some of the "Help for single men" videos she put together a while back - they're spot on and quite funny too - but don't make the mistake of messaging her asking for a shag, the last bloke that did that is still looking for his nadgers so he can have them sewn back on "
Something compelled me to check what you'd written!
I'm so glad I did |
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"OP firstly welcome to the forums
There is no magic catch all formula to be honest - it's more about finding what works for you, but when single men find they are "struggling" here it usually comes down to one, all or a combination of five things, so consider these and apply them to yourself and see if there's anything you can change:
Profile - Is yours a good advert for you? Does it tell people who you are, what you're looking for, or what you think you can offer? Would you meet you based on your profile alone? Remember that a lot of people will look at your profile before even opening a message from you, and will often use that to decide whether the message is worth opening.
Pics - Do you have a good set of pics that show you and your body off well, are they teasing and tasteful? Or blatant, in your face and unappealing?
Approach - Have you found the right approach to the site for you? Are you just blindly sending messages to people in the hope of a reply? Have you considered other ways to get to know people such as the forums and chat rooms, or, when they are running again, group socials and clubs? Have you really thought about what you expect to get from the site and is that reflected in your profile?
Attitude - do you adopt a positive, respectful and considerate attitude at all times, including in things like messages and status updates? Do you accept a polite no thank you graciously?
Expectations - have you got these set right? Do you expect to meet people just for signing up or do you accept that chances of meeting are going to be minimal and set your expectations accordingly?
Really think about all of the above and make changes where you think necessary, they won't guarantee anything but they'll improve your experience of the site no end.
And I can also recommend visiting the profile of Princess Peach and watching some of the "Help for single men" videos she put together a while back - they're spot on and quite funny too - but don't make the mistake of messaging her asking for a shag, the last bloke that did that is still looking for his nadgers so he can have them sewn back on "
That’s the handbook of fab at all times |
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