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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Do us mere mortal single guys bordering on the fugly line  continue to remain on the site ?
It doesn't give us what we want most of the time, lowers confidence, hear the same excuses, the same ghosting once you start to feel things are moving along, the same yellow box around the unread message and that's even before you request to meet. In short the same old and not speaking for all but I am sure there must be other guys that share the same thoughts. Let me hear some other views.
I share with you my 'hump' for the day. 
Peace and Love  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like the forums and it's helped to boost my confidence. I generally only message off of the back of a forum post so usually get a reply and sometimes it leads to a conversation.
I've even had some women message me first  off of forum posts.
And I came onto the site with low expectations anyway and not really expexting anyone to be interested in me - so anything above that is a bonus.
And yes I've been ghosted and had non-replies but, so far, the pros outweigh the cons. |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
I've had a few conversations with ladies about this subject and its not all about looks.
Yes, they may drool over the fitties and gorgeous guys in threads, but that doesn't mean they'd meet them.
Personality goes a long way with many ladies.
Stay positive and let's face it - if i can get meets, anybody can. |
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"I've had a few conversations with ladies about this subject and its not all about looks.
Yes, they may drool over the fitties and gorgeous guys in threads, but that doesn't mean they'd meet them.
Personality goes a long way with many ladies.
Stay positive and let's face it - if i can get meets, anybody can. "
This!
And a lot of men need to think about how they come across. Some usernames instantly put us off! If your profile is a first impression, make a good one!
CG anyone would be daft to turn down a meet with you!  |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"I've had a few conversations with ladies about this subject and its not all about looks.
Yes, they may drool over the fitties and gorgeous guys in threads, but that doesn't mean they'd meet them.
Personality goes a long way with many ladies.
Stay positive and let's face it - if i can get meets, anybody can.
This!
And a lot of men need to think about how they come across. Some usernames instantly put us off! If your profile is a first impression, make a good one!
CG anyone would be daft to turn down a meet with you! "
My profile may not be the best. I tend to 'try' and use humour.
You, my gorgeous friend, are amazing.
And,- i know - i can't believe it either - everyone should have chunky in their life. Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've had a few conversations with ladies about this subject and its not all about looks.
Yes, they may drool over the fitties and gorgeous guys in threads, but that doesn't mean they'd meet them.
Personality goes a long way with many ladies.
Stay positive and let's face it - if i can get meets, anybody can.
This!
And a lot of men need to think about how they come across. Some usernames instantly put us off! If your profile is a first impression, make a good one!
CG anyone would be daft to turn down a meet with you!
My profile may not be the best. I tend to 'try' and use humour.
You, my gorgeous friend, are amazing.
And,- i know - i can't believe it either - everyone should have chunky in their life. Lol "
I would agree with these sentiments and add the same goes for the forum women the men lust over.
I may make forum comments about them (how hot and desirable they are etc etc) but they are not the ones I'd be necessarily interested in having a meet with. |
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I consider myself fugly.
I stuck around.
Then covid hit.
Because of this I got into a new relationship with Alice
Without covid we may never have crossed paths
Have confidence in yourself what you see as fugly someone else may see as "hot"  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've had a few conversations with ladies about this subject and its not all about looks.
Yes, they may drool over the fitties and gorgeous guys in threads, but that doesn't mean they'd meet them.
Personality goes a long way with many ladies.
Stay positive and let's face it - if i can get meets, anybody can.
This!
And a lot of men need to think about how they come across. Some usernames instantly put us off! If your profile is a first impression, make a good one!
CG anyone would be daft to turn down a meet with you! "
Why would they be daft if they don’t want to meet him?  |
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"I've had a few conversations with ladies about this subject and its not all about looks.
Yes, they may drool over the fitties and gorgeous guys in threads, but that doesn't mean they'd meet them.
Personality goes a long way with many ladies.
Stay positive and let's face it - if i can get meets, anybody can.
This!
And a lot of men need to think about how they come across. Some usernames instantly put us off! If your profile is a first impression, make a good one!
CG anyone would be daft to turn down a meet with you!
Why would they be daft if they don’t want to meet him? "
Because he's an absolutely lovely fella!
Not all meets have to be sexual btw..   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've had a few conversations with ladies about this subject and its not all about looks.
Yes, they may drool over the fitties and gorgeous guys in threads, but that doesn't mean they'd meet them.
Personality goes a long way with many ladies.
Stay positive and let's face it - if i can get meets, anybody can.
This!
And a lot of men need to think about how they come across. Some usernames instantly put us off! If your profile is a first impression, make a good one!
CG anyone would be daft to turn down a meet with you!
Why would they be daft if they don’t want to meet him?
Because he's an absolutely lovely fella!
Not all meets have to be sexual btw.. "
CG is the Boss Man, I miss my chunk after I lost weight |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thanks guys - its nice to know you're appreciated by a few.
How does that feel. Not had that feeling in a very long time
Bring it in fella. I've got a man hug for ya."
In the spirit of brotherly love, thanks |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I consider myself fugly.
I stuck around.
Then covid hit.
Because of this I got into a new relationship with Alice
Without covid we may never have crossed paths
Have confidence in yourself what you see as fugly someone else may see as "hot" "
When I say fugly. I mean it's how the fab ladies see me. The one's that interest me anyway. I don't believe I am fugly, no oil painting either but would agree with not having a great physique. Confidence is up and down as it must be for many in the current climate. Generally would consider myself confident.
I don't send lots of messages and have kept it to a select few that I feel would be compatible with me. Recently have tried to make myself exclusive just to the one. I notice it always ends the same way whichever approach I take.
Forums and chat rooms are good but honestly feels a bit like groundhog day ever since I joined.
Never expected instant results and have been very strict on SD since lockdown began. The women I start to chat want to keep it on here and never want to engage in a telephone conversation to build a rapport/connection. Seems like a good opportunity lost especially when physical meets are not a top priority for many. Then I guess they must have their reasons for it, me living alone and single don't have a problem talking. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've had a few conversations with ladies about this subject and its not all about looks.
Yes, they may drool over the fitties and gorgeous guys in threads, but that doesn't mean they'd meet them.
Personality goes a long way with many ladies.
Stay positive and let's face it - if i can get meets, anybody can.
This!
And a lot of men need to think about how they come across. Some usernames instantly put us off! If your profile is a first impression, make a good one!
CG anyone would be daft to turn down a meet with you!
Why would they be daft if they don’t want to meet him?
Because he's an absolutely lovely fella!
Not all meets have to be sexual btw.. "
I didn’t say that meets had to be sexual. I still don’t think anyone not wanting to meet someone, whether it’s socially or more is daft.
Just because you think someone is lovely, doesn’t mean everyone else will.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Tinder is better than here for meeting people. "
I have had more luck on POF in the past, never tried tinder.
Meeting is not a priority in the current climate for me. |
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True I'm a BBW but I'm fun bubbly I get lots of offers but I hate rude people .
Sometimes think the gentlemen of the site ( I adore) might need to talk to some direct filth as seems most do like that !! I don't  |
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"I've had a few conversations with ladies about this subject and its not all about looks.
Yes, they may drool over the fitties and gorgeous guys in threads, but that doesn't mean they'd meet them.
Personality goes a long way with many ladies.
Stay positive and let's face it - if i can get meets, anybody can.
This!
And a lot of men need to think about how they come across. Some usernames instantly put us off! If your profile is a first impression, make a good one!
CG anyone would be daft to turn down a meet with you!
Why would they be daft if they don’t want to meet him?
Because he's an absolutely lovely fella!
Not all meets have to be sexual btw..
I didn’t say that meets had to be sexual. I still don’t think anyone not wanting to meet someone, whether it’s socially or more is daft.
Just because you think someone is lovely, doesn’t mean everyone else will.
"
Was a lighthearted comment
Don't worry, not calling you daft .. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've had a few conversations with ladies about this subject and its not all about looks.
Yes, they may drool over the fitties and gorgeous guys in threads, but that doesn't mean they'd meet them.
Personality goes a long way with many ladies.
Stay positive and let's face it - if i can get meets, anybody can.
This!
And a lot of men need to think about how they come across. Some usernames instantly put us off! If your profile is a first impression, make a good one!
CG anyone would be daft to turn down a meet with you!
Why would they be daft if they don’t want to meet him?
Because he's an absolutely lovely fella!
Not all meets have to be sexual btw..
I didn’t say that meets had to be sexual. I still don’t think anyone not wanting to meet someone, whether it’s socially or more is daft.
Just because you think someone is lovely, doesn’t mean everyone else will.
Was a lighthearted comment
Don't worry, not calling you daft .. "
Some good guys could be made to look daft |
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I think we all question why we are here from time to time.
We had a break for a while
Come back and lots of old names are here, few new ones too
Messaging isn't easy, I guess sometimes you miss meeting people as they don't come over right in the first message. Just be yourself. That's all you can be
Jo x |
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"I consider myself fugly.
I stuck around.
Then covid hit.
Because of this I got into a new relationship with Alice
Without covid we may never have crossed paths
Have confidence in yourself what you see as fugly someone else may see as "hot"
When I say fugly. I mean it's how the fab ladies see me. The one's that interest me anyway. I don't believe I am fugly, no oil painting either but would agree with not having a great physique. Confidence is up and down as it must be for many in the current climate. Generally would consider myself confident.
I don't send lots of messages and have kept it to a select few that I feel would be compatible with me. Recently have tried to make myself exclusive just to the one. I notice it always ends the same way whichever approach I take.
Forums and chat rooms are good but honestly feels a bit like groundhog day ever since I joined.
Never expected instant results and have been very strict on SD since lockdown began. The women I start to chat want to keep it on here and never want to engage in a telephone conversation to build a rapport/connection. Seems like a good opportunity lost especially when physical meets are not a top priority for many. Then I guess they must have their reasons for it, me living alone and single don't have a problem talking."
I never give out my telephone number until after I have met someone socially and thats only if we are likely to be meeting again and even then it's not guaranteed. I can easily build a rapport with someone online. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I consider myself fugly.
I stuck around.
Then covid hit.
Because of this I got into a new relationship with Alice
Without covid we may never have crossed paths
Have confidence in yourself what you see as fugly someone else may see as "hot"
When I say fugly. I mean it's how the fab ladies see me. The one's that interest me anyway. I don't believe I am fugly, no oil painting either but would agree with not having a great physique. Confidence is up and down as it must be for many in the current climate. Generally would consider myself confident.
I don't send lots of messages and have kept it to a select few that I feel would be compatible with me. Recently have tried to make myself exclusive just to the one. I notice it always ends the same way whichever approach I take.
Forums and chat rooms are good but honestly feels a bit like groundhog day ever since I joined.
Never expected instant results and have been very strict on SD since lockdown began. The women I start to chat want to keep it on here and never want to engage in a telephone conversation to build a rapport/connection. Seems like a good opportunity lost especially when physical meets are not a top priority for many. Then I guess they must have their reasons for it, me living alone and single don't have a problem talking.
I never give out my telephone number until after I have met someone socially and thats only if we are likely to be meeting again and even then it's not guaranteed. I can easily build a rapport with someone online."
It never feels like I am chatting to a real person until I hear a voice on the end of a phone. I would never agree to meet until I spoke to the other person. I have my reasons due to a past experience. Most importantly it proves you are genuine. |
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"I consider myself fugly.
I stuck around.
Then covid hit.
Because of this I got into a new relationship with Alice
Without covid we may never have crossed paths
Have confidence in yourself what you see as fugly someone else may see as "hot"
When I say fugly. I mean it's how the fab ladies see me. The one's that interest me anyway. I don't believe I am fugly, no oil painting either but would agree with not having a great physique. Confidence is up and down as it must be for many in the current climate. Generally would consider myself confident.
I don't send lots of messages and have kept it to a select few that I feel would be compatible with me. Recently have tried to make myself exclusive just to the one. I notice it always ends the same way whichever approach I take.
Forums and chat rooms are good but honestly feels a bit like groundhog day ever since I joined.
Never expected instant results and have been very strict on SD since lockdown began. The women I start to chat want to keep it on here and never want to engage in a telephone conversation to build a rapport/connection. Seems like a good opportunity lost especially when physical meets are not a top priority for many. Then I guess they must have their reasons for it, me living alone and single don't have a problem talking.
I never give out my telephone number until after I have met someone socially and thats only if we are likely to be meeting again and even then it's not guaranteed. I can easily build a rapport with someone online.
It never feels like I am chatting to a real person until I hear a voice on the end of a phone. I would never agree to meet until I spoke to the other person. I have my reasons due to a past experience. Most importantly it proves you are genuine. "
I think most people with verifications show that they are genuine |
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"Do us mere mortal single guys bordering on the fugly line continue to remain on the site ?
It doesn't give us what we want most of the time, lowers confidence, hear the same excuses, the same ghosting once you start to feel things are moving along, the same yellow box around the unread message and that's even before you request to meet. In short the same old and not speaking for all but I am sure there must be other guys that share the same thoughts. Let me hear some other views.
I share with you my 'hump' for the day.
Peace and Love "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I consider myself fugly.
I stuck around.
Then covid hit.
Because of this I got into a new relationship with Alice
Without covid we may never have crossed paths
Have confidence in yourself what you see as fugly someone else may see as "hot"
When I say fugly. I mean it's how the fab ladies see me. The one's that interest me anyway. I don't believe I am fugly, no oil painting either but would agree with not having a great physique. Confidence is up and down as it must be for many in the current climate. Generally would consider myself confident.
I don't send lots of messages and have kept it to a select few that I feel would be compatible with me. Recently have tried to make myself exclusive just to the one. I notice it always ends the same way whichever approach I take.
Forums and chat rooms are good but honestly feels a bit like groundhog day ever since I joined.
Never expected instant results and have been very strict on SD since lockdown began. The women I start to chat want to keep it on here and never want to engage in a telephone conversation to build a rapport/connection. Seems like a good opportunity lost especially when physical meets are not a top priority for many. Then I guess they must have their reasons for it, me living alone and single don't have a problem talking.
I never give out my telephone number until after I have met someone socially and thats only if we are likely to be meeting again and even then it's not guaranteed. I can easily build a rapport with someone online.
It never feels like I am chatting to a real person until I hear a voice on the end of a phone. I would never agree to meet until I spoke to the other person. I have my reasons due to a past experience. Most importantly it proves you are genuine.
I think most people with verifications show that they are genuine "
You just said it. Most not all |
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