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over a year ago
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"My advice, 2 profiles. One straight, one bi.  "
But why on god's green earth would you want to meet a woman who didn't want to meet YOU, let alone achieve it by deception....?   |
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over a year ago
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"My advice, 2 profiles. One straight, one bi.
But why on god's green earth would you want to meet a woman who didn't want to meet YOU, let alone achieve it by deception....? "
This |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Doesn’t turn me on, doesn’t turn me off.
I would meet a bisexual man.
If I found out I met a ‘straight’ man who had lied and was actually bisexual? I’d be annoyed |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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OP the honest and only answer is some will, some won't - in my experience I've found that the majority of single women on here aren't bothered either way and look at you the person, not your sexuality - the notion that the majority won't meet bi guys is a misconception.
Sure there are some that won't but it's very few. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely no problem with a guy being bi. I do seem to be in a minority though as many women, who happily declare themselves bi, are not happy to meet a man who can see the appeal in either sex.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My advice, 2 profiles. One straight, one bi.
But why on god's green earth would you want to meet a woman who didn't want to meet YOU, let alone achieve it by deception....? "
I think he was joking |
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By *sm81Couple
over a year ago
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"OP the honest and only answer is some will, some won't - in my experience I've found that the majority of single women on here aren't bothered either way and look at you the person, not your sexuality - the notion that the majority won't meet bi guys is a misconception.
Sure there are some that won't but it's very few."
Exactly this, a person being bi would not stop us meeting them |
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"Doesn’t turn me on, doesn’t turn me off.
I would meet a bisexual man.
If I found out I met a ‘straight’ man who had lied and was actually bisexual? I’d be annoyed "
Same here. I've both met and had relationships with bi guys. If I fancy them and they tick the right boxes for me then it makes no difference. I don't think I'd be upset to have met someone who wasn't out as bi as I get how it's not aways easy but if someone went out of their way to keep it from me, especially knowing its not an issue for me then I would be upset as I would feel like I couldn't trust anything else they told me. |
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I wouldn't not meet a guy specifically because he was bi, but I'd not meet a guy if I thought he was hiding his sexuality. There is something very alluring to me about the whole I'm bi and if you don't like it then fuck you attitude though, not sure why  |
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"My advice, 2 profiles. One straight, one bi.
But why on god's green earth would you want to meet a woman who didn't want to meet YOU, let alone achieve it by deception....?
I think he was joking"
I don't think he was. |
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By *i 69Man
over a year ago
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"Doesn’t turn me on, doesn’t turn me off.
I would meet a bisexual man.
If I found out I met a ‘straight’ man who had lied and was actually bisexual? I’d be annoyed "
Men shouldn't lie....I always say I'm bi but can be straight...up to the lady ...or if I'm dreaming ladies lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My advice, 2 profiles. One straight, one bi.
But why on god's green earth would you want to meet a woman who didn't want to meet YOU, let alone achieve it by deception....? "
This. Why would anyone bother? |
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"My advice, 2 profiles. One straight, one bi.
But why on god's green earth would you want to meet a woman who didn't want to meet YOU, let alone achieve it by deception....?
This. Why would anyone bother? "
No idea why, but quite a few people do this |
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By *ndy64hMan
over a year ago
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"Absolutely no problem with a guy being bi. I do seem to be in a minority though as many women, who happily declare themselves bi, are not happy to meet a man who can see the appeal in either sex. "
That is so true, I do find it hard to understand. I'm not many men turn down a woman who declares she is bi. |
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By *ndy64hMan
over a year ago
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"My advice, 2 profiles. One straight, one bi.
But why on god's green earth would you want to meet a woman who didn't want to meet YOU, let alone achieve it by deception....?
This. Why would anyone bother?
No idea why, but quite a few people do this"
I get more messages off so called straight guys, to meet on here than from bi guys. |
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"My advice, 2 profiles. One straight, one bi.
But why on god's green earth would you want to meet a woman who didn't want to meet YOU, let alone achieve it by deception....? "
I couldn't care less to be honest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My advice, 2 profiles. One straight, one bi.
But why on god's green earth would you want to meet a woman who didn't want to meet YOU, let alone achieve it by deception....?
I couldn't care less to be honest. "
About what? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My advice, 2 profiles. One straight, one bi.
But why on god's green earth would you want to meet a woman who didn't want to meet YOU, let alone achieve it by deception....?
I couldn't care less to be honest.
About what? "
What people think of him |
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"My advice, 2 profiles. One straight, one bi.
But why on god's green earth would you want to meet a woman who didn't want to meet YOU, let alone achieve it by deception....?
I couldn't care less to be honest.
About what?
What people think of him"
No no no, about deceiving someone who doesn't want to meet bi-guys. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My advice, 2 profiles. One straight, one bi.
But why on god's green earth would you want to meet a woman who didn't want to meet YOU, let alone achieve it by deception....?
I couldn't care less to be honest.
About what?
What people think of him
No no no, about deceiving someone who doesn't want to meet bi-guys."
So you'd shag someone out of spite? |
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"My advice, 2 profiles. One straight, one bi.
But why on god's green earth would you want to meet a woman who didn't want to meet YOU, let alone achieve it by deception....?
I couldn't care less to be honest.
About what?
What people think of him
No no no, about deceiving someone who doesn't want to meet bi-guys.
So you'd shag someone out of spite? "
What makes you think it would be out of spite?! It might be "in spite of", but certainly not out of spite! Although, i wouldn't rule it out...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Absolutely no problem with a guy being bi. I do seem to be in a minority though as many women, who happily declare themselves bi, are not happy to meet a man who can see the appeal in either sex.
That is so true, I do find it hard to understand. I'm not many men turn down a woman who declares she is bi."
The double standards disappoint me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My advice, 2 profiles. One straight, one bi.
But why on god's green earth would you want to meet a woman who didn't want to meet YOU, let alone achieve it by deception....?
I couldn't care less to be honest.
About what?
What people think of him
No no no, about deceiving someone who doesn't want to meet bi-guys.
So you'd shag someone out of spite?
What makes you think it would be out of spite?! It might be "in spite of", but certainly not out of spite! Although, i wouldn't rule it out... "
POF spoke for you and said you were joking, so I'm not sure what to believe now.... 
I do however think that being deliberately dishonest and then having sex with someone who otherwise might not have agreed to it does in a way remove their freedom of choice and affect the issue of consent. I'd definitely be uncomfortable about that.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My advice, 2 profiles. One straight, one bi.
But why on god's green earth would you want to meet a woman who didn't want to meet YOU, let alone achieve it by deception....?
I couldn't care less to be honest.
About what?
What people think of him
No no no, about deceiving someone who doesn't want to meet bi-guys.
So you'd shag someone out of spite?
What makes you think it would be out of spite?! It might be "in spite of", but certainly not out of spite! Although, i wouldn't rule it out...
POF spoke for you and said you were joking, so I'm not sure what to believe now....
I do however think that being deliberately dishonest and then having sex with someone who otherwise might not have agreed to it does in a way remove their freedom of choice and affect the issue of consent. I'd definitely be uncomfortable about that.... "
I agree nip...but for arguments sake, should we all have to disclose all our previous partners?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My advice, 2 profiles. One straight, one bi.
But why on god's green earth would you want to meet a woman who didn't want to meet YOU, let alone achieve it by deception....?
I couldn't care less to be honest.
About what?
What people think of him
No no no, about deceiving someone who doesn't want to meet bi-guys.
So you'd shag someone out of spite?
What makes you think it would be out of spite?! It might be "in spite of", but certainly not out of spite! Although, i wouldn't rule it out...
POF spoke for you and said you were joking, so I'm not sure what to believe now....
I do however think that being deliberately dishonest and then having sex with someone who otherwise might not have agreed to it does in a way remove their freedom of choice and affect the issue of consent. I'd definitely be uncomfortable about that....
I agree nip...but for arguments sake, should we all have to disclose all our previous partners?
Lu "
No, not at all, and I personally do not have any issues with bi folk, I've shagged a few! I just think that if you know someone doesn't wish to have sex with you as you are, then respect it and don't pursue them under the cover of a lie....  |
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"My advice, 2 profiles. One straight, one bi.
But why on god's green earth would you want to meet a woman who didn't want to meet YOU, let alone achieve it by deception....?
I couldn't care less to be honest.
About what?
What people think of him
No no no, about deceiving someone who doesn't want to meet bi-guys.
So you'd shag someone out of spite?
What makes you think it would be out of spite?! It might be "in spite of", but certainly not out of spite! Although, i wouldn't rule it out...
POF spoke for you and said you were joking, so I'm not sure what to believe now....
I do however think that being deliberately dishonest and then having sex with someone who otherwise might not have agreed to it does in a way remove their freedom of choice and affect the issue of consent. I'd definitely be uncomfortable about that....
I agree nip...but for arguments sake, should we all have to disclose all our previous partners?
Lu "
Some say won't meet smokers, but what if they find out if their sexual partner had a fag 3 days previous... has their freedom of choice been compromised? Should i care? If i haven't had sex with a man in 3 years, am i still bi? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My advice, 2 profiles. One straight, one bi.
But why on god's green earth would you want to meet a woman who didn't want to meet YOU, let alone achieve it by deception....?
I couldn't care less to be honest.
About what?
What people think of him
No no no, about deceiving someone who doesn't want to meet bi-guys.
So you'd shag someone out of spite?
What makes you think it would be out of spite?! It might be "in spite of", but certainly not out of spite! Although, i wouldn't rule it out...
POF spoke for you and said you were joking, so I'm not sure what to believe now....
I do however think that being deliberately dishonest and then having sex with someone who otherwise might not have agreed to it does in a way remove their freedom of choice and affect the issue of consent. I'd definitely be uncomfortable about that....
I agree nip...but for arguments sake, should we all have to disclose all our previous partners?
Lu
No, not at all, and I personally do not have any issues with bi folk, I've shagged a few! I just think that if you know someone doesn't wish to have sex with you as you are, then respect it and don't pursue them under the cover of a lie.... "
Yeah, I agree
I wouldn't wanna fuck someone who had an issue with my bisexuality |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My advice, 2 profiles. One straight, one bi.
But why on god's green earth would you want to meet a woman who didn't want to meet YOU, let alone achieve it by deception....?
I couldn't care less to be honest.
About what?
What people think of him
No no no, about deceiving someone who doesn't want to meet bi-guys.
So you'd shag someone out of spite?
What makes you think it would be out of spite?! It might be "in spite of", but certainly not out of spite! Although, i wouldn't rule it out...
POF spoke for you and said you were joking, so I'm not sure what to believe now....
I do however think that being deliberately dishonest and then having sex with someone who otherwise might not have agreed to it does in a way remove their freedom of choice and affect the issue of consent. I'd definitely be uncomfortable about that....
I agree nip...but for arguments sake, should we all have to disclose all our previous partners?
Lu
Some say won't meet smokers, but what if they find out if their sexual partner had a fag 3 days previous... has their freedom of choice been compromised? Should i care? If i haven't had sex with a man in 3 years, am i still bi? "
I dunno, I guess that would depend if you're still attracted to men.
It's completely up to you who you disclose your sexual attraction to.
We choose to be open about it for many reasons, one of which is that it filters out those "put off" or not interested in bi folk. But that's just us.
I wouldn't want to trick someone into having sex with me if they otherwise wouldn't...thats a moral issue for me.
Totally understand why some men hide their bisexuality, but I have to be honest and say I don't agree with it personally.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Absolutely no problem with a guy being bi. I do seem to be in a minority though as many women, who happily declare themselves bi, are not happy to meet a man who can see the appeal in either sex.
That is so true, I do find it hard to understand. I'm not many men turn down a woman who declares she is bi. The double standards disappoint me. "
How is this double standards?!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What if i had sex with a woman at a club? Should i warn her that im bi, just in case she turns out to be one of those cunts who blanket ban bi men? Or should i just let her enjoy the moment? "
That's what I was getting at...
No, I don't think you should.
But I also don't think being actively deceitful about it is the way to go either.
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"What if i had sex with a woman at a club? Should i warn her that im bi, just in case she turns out to be one of those cunts who blanket ban bi men? Or should i just let her enjoy the moment?
That's what I was getting at...
No, I don't think you should.
But I also don't think being actively deceitful about it is the way to go either.
Lu "
Jeez! Deceitful!!!??? You ever wonder why there's soo many good looking charming, yet "single" people on fab..?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What if i had sex with a woman at a club? Should i warn her that im bi, just in case she turns out to be one of those cunts who blanket ban bi men? Or should i just let her enjoy the moment?
That's what I was getting at...
No, I don't think you should.
But I also don't think being actively deceitful about it is the way to go either.
Lu
Jeez! Deceitful!!!??? You ever wonder why there's soo many good looking charming, yet "single" people on fab..?! "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My advice, 2 profiles. One straight, one bi.
But why on god's green earth would you want to meet a woman who didn't want to meet YOU, let alone achieve it by deception....?
I couldn't care less to be honest.
About what?
What people think of him
No no no, about deceiving someone who doesn't want to meet bi-guys.
So you'd shag someone out of spite?
What makes you think it would be out of spite?! It might be "in spite of", but certainly not out of spite! Although, i wouldn't rule it out...
POF spoke for you and said you were joking, so I'm not sure what to believe now....
I do however think that being deliberately dishonest and then having sex with someone who otherwise might not have agreed to it does in a way remove their freedom of choice and affect the issue of consent. I'd definitely be uncomfortable about that....
I agree nip...but for arguments sake, should we all have to disclose all our previous partners?
Lu
Some say won't meet smokers, but what if they find out if their sexual partner had a fag 3 days previous... has their freedom of choice been compromised? Should i care? If i haven't had sex with a man in 3 years, am i still bi? "
That's an awful comparison Clem. However the answer is still that nobody should ever lie deliberately about themselves just to get sex when the person would otherwise not wish to have sex with them - it's deception! You're bi if you feel bi, it has nothing to do with acting upon your preferences as far as I'm aware. |
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"Doesn’t bother me who else they have had sex with
You should be. They're cursed if they've been near my vagina. "
Doesn’t bother me who else they have had sex with as long as it hasn’t gone near Laceys cursed vageen*
Thank you! I’ve amended it! |
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"Doesn’t bother me who else they have had sex with
You should be. They're cursed if they've been near my vagina.
Doesn’t bother me who else they have had sex with as long as it hasn’t gone near Laceys cursed vageen*
Thank you! I’ve amended it! "
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"Doesn’t bother me who else they have had sex with
You should be. They're cursed if they've been near my vagina.
Doesn’t bother me who else they have had sex with as long as it hasn’t gone near Laceys cursed vageen*
Thank you! I’ve amended it! "
Just fyi, if the vangine is cursed it is pronounced 'voojoo', thanks |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Doesn’t bother me who else they have had sex with
You should be. They're cursed if they've been near my vagina.
Doesn’t bother me who else they have had sex with as long as it hasn’t gone near Laceys cursed vageen*
Thank you! I’ve amended it!
Just fyi, if the vangine is cursed it is pronounced 'voojoo', thanks "
Omg This killed me.
Doesn’t bother me who else they have had sex with as long as it hasn’t gone near Laceys cursed voojoo* |
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"What if i had sex with a woman at a club? Should i warn her that im bi, just in case she turns out to be one of those cunts who blanket ban bi men? Or should i just let her enjoy the moment? "
You should print out your verifications from all profiles and have a track n trace list of everyone you fucked. |
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"What if i had sex with a woman at a club? Should i warn her that im bi, just in case she turns out to be one of those cunts who blanket ban bi men? Or should i just let her enjoy the moment?
You should print out your verifications from all profiles and have a track n trace list of everyone you fucked. "
Can you imagine the paper wastage if we all had to do that?!  |
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"What if i had sex with a woman at a club? Should i warn her that im bi, just in case she turns out to be one of those cunts who blanket ban bi men? Or should i just let her enjoy the moment? "
As one of the c#nts you refer to, I'm not saying I would demand a future partner's sexual orientation before I engaged, but if it's out there on their profile I would decline. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Absolutely no problem with a guy being bi. I do seem to be in a minority though as many women, who happily declare themselves bi, are not happy to meet a man who can see the appeal in either sex.
That is so true, I do find it hard to understand. I'm not many men turn down a woman who declares she is bi. The double standards disappoint me. "
How on earth is it double standards? A bisexual woman will be interested in having sex with other women as well as men.
It doesn't mean that because of that, she has to find the idea of two men having sex with each other appealing.
It's an apples and oranges comparison and therefore can't be double standards. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What if i had sex with a woman at a club? Should i warn her that im bi, just in case she turns out to be one of those cunts who blanket ban bi men? Or should i just let her enjoy the moment?
You should print out your verifications from all profiles and have a track n trace list of everyone you fucked.
Can you imagine the paper wastage if we all had to do that?! "
I think this conversation started because someone was talking about have two profiles with two different sexualities stated. Even fab would ban that, so.....  |
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"Absolutely no problem with a guy being bi. I do seem to be in a minority though as many women, who happily declare themselves bi, are not happy to meet a man who can see the appeal in either sex.
That is so true, I do find it hard to understand. I'm not many men turn down a woman who declares she is bi. The double standards disappoint me.
How on earth is it double standards? A bisexual woman will be interested in having sex with other women as well as men.
It doesn't mean that because of that, she has to find the idea of two men having sex with each other appealing.
It's an apples and oranges comparison and therefore can't be double standards."
Exactly! Same with men. A bisexual man may not be turned on by 2 women together. Same thing. How is that double standards?! |
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"What if i had sex with a woman at a club? Should i warn her that im bi, just in case she turns out to be one of those cunts who blanket ban bi men? Or should i just let her enjoy the moment?
You should print out your verifications from all profiles and have a track n trace list of everyone you fucked.
Can you imagine the paper wastage if we all had to do that?!
I think this conversation started because someone was talking about have two profiles with two different sexualities stated. Even fab would ban that, so..... "
Why would they? They didn't ask me to prove my sexuality when I made a profile. |
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"Absolutely no problem with a guy being bi. I do seem to be in a minority though as many women, who happily declare themselves bi, are not happy to meet a man who can see the appeal in either sex.
That is so true, I do find it hard to understand. I'm not many men turn down a woman who declares she is bi. The double standards disappoint me.
How on earth is it double standards? A bisexual woman will be interested in having sex with other women as well as men.
It doesn't mean that because of that, she has to find the idea of two men having sex with each other appealing.
It's an apples and oranges comparison and therefore can't be double standards.
Exactly! Same with men. A bisexual man may not be turned on by 2 women together. Same thing. How is that double standards?! "
Do you need to be turned on by the thought of someone with all their previous partners to want to have sex with them?
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"What if i had sex with a woman at a club? Should i warn her that im bi, just in case she turns out to be one of those cunts who blanket ban bi men? Or should i just let her enjoy the moment?
You should print out your verifications from all profiles and have a track n trace list of everyone you fucked.
Can you imagine the paper wastage if we all had to do that?!
I think this conversation started because someone was talking about have two profiles with two different sexualities stated. Even fab would ban that, so.....
Why would they? They didn't ask me to prove my sexuality when I made a profile. "
TWO different profiles, ONE person, TWO sexualities. Try it and let me know....? |
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"What if i had sex with a woman at a club? Should i warn her that im bi, just in case she turns out to be one of those cunts who blanket ban bi men? Or should i just let her enjoy the moment?
You should print out your verifications from all profiles and have a track n trace list of everyone you fucked.
Can you imagine the paper wastage if we all had to do that?!
I think this conversation started because someone was talking about have two profiles with two different sexualities stated. Even fab would ban that, so.....
Why would they? They didn't ask me to prove my sexuality when I made a profile. "
No they wouldn’t. I checked with ruggers once. It’s if you have another profile and pretend to be someone else or do it for deceitful purposes. I had 2 once, one just for meeting women. Didn’t tend to use them both at the same time though. |
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"Absolutely no problem with a guy being bi. I do seem to be in a minority though as many women, who happily declare themselves bi, are not happy to meet a man who can see the appeal in either sex.
That is so true, I do find it hard to understand. I'm not many men turn down a woman who declares she is bi. The double standards disappoint me.
How on earth is it double standards? A bisexual woman will be interested in having sex with other women as well as men.
It doesn't mean that because of that, she has to find the idea of two men having sex with each other appealing.
It's an apples and oranges comparison and therefore can't be double standards.
Exactly! Same with men. A bisexual man may not be turned on by 2 women together. Same thing. How is that double standards?!
Do you need to be turned on by the thought of someone with all their previous partners to want to have sex with them?
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How I feel is irrelevant. My point is that it is not double standards. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Absolutely no problem with a guy being bi. I do seem to be in a minority though as many women, who happily declare themselves bi, are not happy to meet a man who can see the appeal in either sex.
That is so true, I do find it hard to understand. I'm not many men turn down a woman who declares she is bi. The double standards disappoint me.
How on earth is it double standards? A bisexual woman will be interested in having sex with other women as well as men.
It doesn't mean that because of that, she has to find the idea of two men having sex with each other appealing.
It's an apples and oranges comparison and therefore can't be double standards.
Exactly! Same with men. A bisexual man may not be turned on by 2 women together. Same thing. How is that double standards?!
Do you need to be turned on by the thought of someone with all their previous partners to want to have sex with them?
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No but I can see how someone might be turned off by the thought of a potential partner having engaged in a sexual activity that didn't appeal to them.
Still not double standards though as there is not a direct comparison beyond the, very high level, fact that bisexual people enjoy sexual partners of both genders - once you break that down to male and female bisexuality there is no comparison, ergo no double standards. |
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"Absolutely no problem with a guy being bi. I do seem to be in a minority though as many women, who happily declare themselves bi, are not happy to meet a man who can see the appeal in either sex.
That is so true, I do find it hard to understand. I'm not many men turn down a woman who declares she is bi. The double standards disappoint me.
How on earth is it double standards? A bisexual woman will be interested in having sex with other women as well as men.
It doesn't mean that because of that, she has to find the idea of two men having sex with each other appealing.
It's an apples and oranges comparison and therefore can't be double standards.
Exactly! Same with men. A bisexual man may not be turned on by 2 women together. Same thing. How is that double standards?!
Do you need to be turned on by the thought of someone with all their previous partners to want to have sex with them?
How I feel is irrelevant. My point is that it is not double standards. "
I agree...wouldnt have been the way I'd have put it.
Merely trying to extend the debate...i enjoy a debate |
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It doesn’t matter whatsoever, honestly !
If the people involved are having a good time then why on earth would it matter. I’m Pansexual , who I decide to be attracted to can be influenced in different ways. This is fab .... not pof or tinder. |
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By *ndy64hMan
over a year ago
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"Absolutely no problem with a guy being bi. I do seem to be in a minority though as many women, who happily declare themselves bi, are not happy to meet a man who can see the appeal in either sex.
That is so true, I do find it hard to understand. I'm not many men turn down a woman who declares she is bi. The double standards disappoint me.
How on earth is it double standards? A bisexual woman will be interested in having sex with other women as well as men.
It doesn't mean that because of that, she has to find the idea of two men having sex with each other appealing.
It's an apples and oranges comparison and therefore can't be double standards."
Who said anything about finding the idea of two men having sex appealing.
She's having sex with a bi guy, not watching or partaking in a bi threesome. Just one on one with a guy who is bi. |
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"What if i had sex with a woman at a club? Should i warn her that im bi, just in case she turns out to be one of those cunts who blanket ban bi men? Or should i just let her enjoy the moment?
You should print out your verifications from all profiles and have a track n trace list of everyone you fucked.
Can you imagine the paper wastage if we all had to do that?!
I think this conversation started because someone was talking about have two profiles with two different sexualities stated. Even fab would ban that, so.....
Why would they? They didn't ask me to prove my sexuality when I made a profile.
No they wouldn’t. I checked with ruggers once. It’s if you have another profile and pretend to be someone else or do it for deceitful purposes. I had 2 once, one just for meeting women. Didn’t tend to use them both at the same time though. "
Me too. Or couples and singles profiles looking for different things. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Absolutely no problem with a guy being bi. I do seem to be in a minority though as many women, who happily declare themselves bi, are not happy to meet a man who can see the appeal in either sex.
That is so true, I do find it hard to understand. I'm not many men turn down a woman who declares she is bi. The double standards disappoint me.
How on earth is it double standards? A bisexual woman will be interested in having sex with other women as well as men.
It doesn't mean that because of that, she has to find the idea of two men having sex with each other appealing.
It's an apples and oranges comparison and therefore can't be double standards.
Who said anything about finding the idea of two men having sex appealing.
She's having sex with a bi guy, not watching or partaking in a bi threesome. Just one on one with a guy who is bi."
The key was in the words "the idea of" - you don't have to be doing something to find it a turn off - so for some the idea of a partner that has indulged in something they don't find arousing will be enough.
Either way I still don't see how "double standards" applies in this particular instance?
Just because a woman likes sex with other women, doesn't automatically mean she *has* to like the idea of men having sex with other men, and if it's a big enough turn off for her, is a valid enough reason for her not to want to have sex with men that have.
Not double standards at all |
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I'd be a hypocrite if I wouldn't meet bi guys, being bi myself.
But as others have said, I don't have much respect for liars so I'd be pissed off if I found out a guy had lied to me to get a meet. Having said that though, coming out is a complex thing and nobody owes 'being out' to anyone except themselves. |
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"What if i had sex with a woman at a club? Should i warn her that im bi, just in case she turns out to be one of those cunts who blanket ban bi men? Or should i just let her enjoy the moment?
You should print out your verifications from all profiles and have a track n trace list of everyone you fucked.
Can you imagine the paper wastage if we all had to do that?!
I think this conversation started because someone was talking about have two profiles with two different sexualities stated. Even fab would ban that, so.....
Why would they? They didn't ask me to prove my sexuality when I made a profile.
TWO different profiles, ONE person, TWO sexualities. Try it and let me know....? "
I guess they could have different names... who knows? |
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What if a guy wants to occasionally dress up in lingerie? Must he have a tv ts cd profile? Or can he have a "normal one" as well? If he can't, does that mean he always has to dress up? Or is banned from meeting people who aren't interested in meeting men who dress? |
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Correct me if im wrong but not all bi guys have received or given anal ,my hubby is bi and we have that anal will only happen if mutually agreed ,so far it hasnt ,He is looking for a trusted regular more so which im happy with ,there are some lovely bi guys out there and we are lucky enough to have met a few ,but as with anything there are liars ,time wasters etc in every group .... |
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"What if a guy wants to occasionally dress up in lingerie? Must he have a tv ts cd profile? Or can he have a "normal one" as well? If he can't, does that mean he always has to dress up? Or is banned from meeting people who aren't interested in meeting men who dress?"
Cross dressing is in interests. Most people probably read those. |
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"My advice, 2 profiles. One straight, one bi.
But why on god's green earth would you want to meet a woman who didn't want to meet YOU, let alone achieve it by deception....?
This "
Haha I’ve contacted couples who’ve been quite rude about Bi men...who then instantly block me so you don’t even get the opportunity to send a polite response.
Fact is many straight men who have many verifications meeting so called straight couples contact me wanting to play Bi.
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"I'd be a hypocrite if I wouldn't meet bi guys, being bi myself.
But as others have said, I don't have much respect for liars so I'd be pissed off if I found out a guy had lied to me to get a meet. Having said that though, coming out is a complex thing and nobody owes 'being out' to anyone except themselves."
The amount of insults I’ve received for being bi from Bi women is in double figures I’m afraid.
So many folk as biased against Bi men.
I feel Bi men as looked upon as if they will jump on anyone or anything.
I actually state it in my profile that I will not just go with anyone ...sad that I have to put that when after all this is supposed to be a swingers site but sadly many see it as a dating site... |
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"Absolutely no problem with a guy being bi. I do seem to be in a minority though as many women, who happily declare themselves bi, are not happy to meet a man who can see the appeal in either sex.
That is so true, I do find it hard to understand. I'm not many men turn down a woman who declares she is bi. The double standards disappoint me. "
I ageee , I’ve received so much negativity from Bi women towards my bisexuality.
It’s deemed that I always want to play Bi and this isn’t true I’ve had mfm with couples and no touched the man sexually and i equally enjoy one to one with women.
My feeling is bi women as seen as cool but Bi men are seen as they will just jump on anything.
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"What if a guy wants to occasionally dress up in lingerie? Must he have a tv ts cd profile? Or can he have a "normal one" as well? If he can't, does that mean he always has to dress up? Or is banned from meeting people who aren't interested in meeting men who dress?
Cross dressing is in interests. Most people probably read those. "
Do they? Most people don't even read profiles! Lmao! |
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"Absolutely no problem with a guy being bi. I do seem to be in a minority though as many women, who happily declare themselves bi, are not happy to meet a man who can see the appeal in either sex.
That is so true, I do find it hard to understand. I'm not many men turn down a woman who declares she is bi. The double standards disappoint me.
How on earth is it double standards? A bisexual woman will be interested in having sex with other women as well as men.
It doesn't mean that because of that, she has to find the idea of two men having sex with each other appealing.
It's an apples and oranges comparison and therefore can't be double standards.
Who said anything about finding the idea of two men having sex appealing.
She's having sex with a bi guy, not watching or partaking in a bi threesome. Just one on one with a guy who is bi.
The key was in the words "the idea of" - you don't have to be doing something to find it a turn off - so for some the idea of a partner that has indulged in something they don't find arousing will be enough.
Either way I still don't see how "double standards" applies in this particular instance?
Just because a woman likes sex with other women, doesn't automatically mean she *has* to like the idea of men having sex with other men, and if it's a big enough turn off for her, is a valid enough reason for her not to want to have sex with men that have.
Not double standards at all "
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By *llesmere OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester |
"It doesn’t matter whatsoever, honestly !
If the people involved are having a good time then why on earth would it matter. I’m Pansexual , who I decide to be attracted to can be influenced in different ways. This is fab .... not pof or tinder. "
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By *llesmere OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester |
"I'd be a hypocrite if I wouldn't meet bi guys, being bi myself.
But as others have said, I don't have much respect for liars so I'd be pissed off if I found out a guy had lied to me to get a meet. Having said that though, coming out is a complex thing and nobody owes 'being out' to anyone except themselves."
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By *llesmere OP Man
over a year ago
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"Correct me if im wrong but not all bi guys have received or given anal ,my hubby is bi and we have that anal will only happen if mutually agreed ,so far it hasnt ,He is looking for a trusted regular more so which im happy with ,there are some lovely bi guys out there and we are lucky enough to have met a few ,but as with anything there are liars ,time wasters etc in every group ...."
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By *llesmere OP Man
over a year ago
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"My advice, 2 profiles. One straight, one bi.
But why on god's green earth would you want to meet a woman who didn't want to meet YOU, let alone achieve it by deception....?
This
Haha I’ve contacted couples who’ve been quite rude about Bi men...who then instantly block me so you don’t even get the opportunity to send a polite response.
Fact is many straight men who have many verifications meeting so called straight couples contact me wanting to play Bi.
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Your not alone I've had exactly the same responce |
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"Doesn’t turn me on, doesn’t turn me off.
I would meet a bisexual man.
If I found out I met a ‘straight’ man who had lied and was actually bisexual? I’d be annoyed "
If a guy’s meeting a girl why would he need to mention if he’s bi or not? In which case he’s not lying he’s just not telling you irrelevant stuff. |
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"Doesn’t turn me on, doesn’t turn me off.
I would meet a bisexual man.
If I found out I met a ‘straight’ man who had lied and was actually bisexual? I’d be annoyed
If a guy’s meeting a girl why would he need to mention if he’s bi or not? In which case he’s not lying he’s just not telling you irrelevant stuff. "
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By *ndy64hMan
over a year ago
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"My advice, 2 profiles. One straight, one bi.
But why on god's green earth would you want to meet a woman who didn't want to meet YOU, let alone achieve it by deception....?
This
Haha I’ve contacted couples who’ve been quite rude about Bi men...who then instantly block me so you don’t even get the opportunity to send a polite response.
Fact is many straight men who have many verifications meeting so called straight couples contact me wanting to play Bi.
Your not alone I've had exactly the same responce"
That's for certain, I find it quite strange that people seem to think Bi men are something weird or greedy. I've been bisexual most of my life, I've been married 3 times, and until my last marriage broke down i hadn't been with another man, other than once when I was 19. Now I'm living a bisexual life, and seeing men. That doesn't mean I don't enjoy sex with women, or want a woman's company, but like I say in my profile, I'm not going to leap on your partner/husband just because I'm bisexual. If you don't find me attractive that's fine, but I don't think sexuality should be an issue in this day and age. Maybe I'm wrong in my way of thinking, but I'd rather be up front and truthful, than live a lie. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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There's an awful lot of nuances, thought processes and stigmas involved around male bisexuality, just as many around female bisexuality but in many different ways.
In direct answer to the OP; some will, some won't.
Regarding deception and meeting someone who 'won't meet' bi guys, there is an element of consent to be answered on this point. If she doesn't ask, as in a club, then there's no concern but if she directly states her desire not to meet bi guys and she's directly deceived, then that sounds to me like potential consent withdrawal.
Not matter the 'whataboutism' or finger pointing, if you deceive to gain consent then you are committing sexual assault. |
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"There's an awful lot of nuances, thought processes and stigmas involved around male bisexuality, just as many around female bisexuality but in many different ways.
In direct answer to the OP; some will, some won't.
Regarding deception and meeting someone who 'won't meet' bi guys, there is an element of consent to be answered on this point. If she doesn't ask, as in a club, then there's no concern but if she directly states her desire not to meet bi guys and she's directly deceived, then that sounds to me like potential consent withdrawal.
Not matter the 'whataboutism' or finger pointing, if you deceive to gain consent then you are committing sexual assault. "
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