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So, just wanted to express my views over the number of times I have read about fabSWINGERS being a sex site. I'm quite sick of it. I presume the people who refer to it as such have no real experience of swinging or have no clue what swinging actually is. To me, swinging is having a great time with friends. Just happens that I have amazing sex with those friends.
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Is there a defined defintion for a 'Sex Site'?....I don't think there is myself, so if some people see FAB as a 'Sex Site' then that's fair enough for me....
They might say they see adult photos on FAB, they see people meeting for sex on FAB.....and to them that is enough for it to be a 'Sex Site'
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I see fabswingers as a fun pastime for getting to know lots of happy people with whom I would like to enjoy a quality of sexual experiences...
If I had any dissatisfaction with this site... I would leave...
Walk into the nearest pub and be critical... |
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I think there are plenty of other sex sites that market themselves as such. My bugbear with it is that people assume they can get an easy lay out of it. In some cases they may be right, but in a whole heap of cases they are very wrong. Then we get the forums clogged up with attention seeking men complaining they can't get a meet. If they were in the lifestyle they would have no problems getting a meet. Clearly they are just bandwagon jumpers. |
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"I think there are plenty of other sex sites that market themselves as such. My bugbear with it is that people assume they can get an easy lay out of it. In some cases they may be right, but in a whole heap of cases they are very wrong. Then we get the forums clogged up with attention seeking men complaining they can't get a meet. If they were in the lifestyle they would have no problems getting a meet. Clearly they are just bandwagon jumpers. "
Then ignore them?......works for me |
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"I see fabswingers as a fun pastime for getting to know lots of happy people with whom I would like to enjoy a quality of sexual experiences...
If I had any dissatisfaction with this site... I would leave...
Walk into the nearest pub and be critical..."
are you implying that I have a dissatisfaction with this site?!  |
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You are so right. I see the difference from dating sites in as much that most swingers are looking for fun, friendship and frolics we are not fake in anyway pretending to be looking for commitment or life long partners. We know at the outset that our playmates will most likely also have fun with others. So for me it is the three f's Fun, Friendship and Frolics.
"So, just wanted to express my views over the number of times I have read about fabSWINGERS being a sex site. I'm quite sick of it. I presume the people who refer to it as such have no real experience of swinging or have no clue what swinging actually is. To me, swinging is having a great time with friends. Just happens that I have amazing sex with those friends.
How do you see fabswingers?
What do you perceive swinging to be?! "
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"I see fabswingers as a fun pastime for getting to know lots of happy people with whom I would like to enjoy a quality of sexual experiences...
If I had any dissatisfaction with this site... I would leave...
Walk into the nearest pub and be critical... are you implying that I have a dissatisfaction with this site?! "
Nope... I am offering an opinion, without pronoun, in regard to the premis wherein certain persons make reference to this Sex site, which I perceive as a Swingers site and personally draw distinction...
Furthermore, I lean towards the sentiments of Ms Crumpet that I perceive my demenour as soft and cuddly as it is a Sunday...
I do hope that this response clarifies my position... |
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"I have gone months without a meet but not once have I moaned about it on the forums. I use other sites as well so can usually get sorted when I feel the need.  "
Same here, You can't have all your eggs in one basket.
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"I think there are plenty of other sex sites that market themselves as such. My bugbear with it is that people assume they can get an easy lay out of it. In some cases they may be right, but in a whole heap of cases they are very wrong. Then we get the forums clogged up with attention seeking men complaining they can't get a meet. If they were in the lifestyle they would have no problems getting a meet. Clearly they are just bandwagon jumpers. "
Which bandwagon ? |
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" are you implying that I have a dissatisfaction with this site?!
Nope... I am offering an opinion, without pronoun, in regard to the premis wherein certain persons make reference to this Sex site, which I perceive as a Swingers site and personally draw distinction...
Furthermore, I lean towards the sentiments of Ms Crumpet that I perceive my demenour as soft and cuddly as it is a Sunday...
I do hope that this response clarifies my position..."
Love soft and cuddly on a sunday morning! Glad you don't think I am griping about the site. Just some of its' members! |
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"I have gone months without a meet but not once have I moaned about it on the forums. I use other sites as well so can usually get sorted when I feel the need.
Same here, You can't have all your eggs in one basket.
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I learned this lesson from the Spanish bullrings...
You cant have all your Basques in one exit...;-) |
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" are you implying that I have a dissatisfaction with this site?!
Nope... I am offering an opinion, without pronoun, in regard to the premis wherein certain persons make reference to this Sex site, which I perceive as a Swingers site and personally draw distinction...
Furthermore, I lean towards the sentiments of Ms Crumpet that I perceive my demenour as soft and cuddly as it is a Sunday...
I do hope that this response clarifies my position...
Love soft and cuddly on a sunday morning! Glad you don't think I am griping about the site. Just some of its' members! "
I'm hard, but still cuddly |
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"So, just wanted to express my views over the number of times I have read about fabSWINGERS being a sex site. I'm quite sick of it. I presume the people who refer to it as such have no real experience of swinging or have no clue what swinging actually is. To me, swinging is having a great time with friends. Just happens that I have amazing sex with those friends.
How do you see fabswingers?
What do you perceive swinging to be?! "
Fabswingers is a sex site and people get what they want out of it, judging by the first few lines on your profile it is a chatroom your looking for and not a sex site. Don't understand why your actually having a go at the site tbh. Not being harsh but... |
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Which bandwagon ?"
I mean the 'it's easy to get NSA sex online' bandwagon. It probably is, but surely that what other sites are for, over swinging sites.
As may be obvious I don't see swinging as NSA sex. Clearly we all have differing opinions on this subject, that's just mine! |
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"Is there a defined defintion for a 'Sex Site'?....I don't think there is myself, so if some people see FAB as a 'Sex Site' then that's fair enough for me....
They might say they see adult photos on FAB, they see people meeting for sex on FAB.....and to them that is enough for it to be a 'Sex Site'
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Indeed! Another person wanting to enforce their way!  |
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Fabswingers is a sex site and people get what they want out of it, judging by the first few lines on your profile it is a chatroom your looking for and not a sex site. Don't understand why your actually having a go at the site tbh. Not being harsh but..."
As I stated above I am not "having a go at the site" merely some of it's members and the perception that fabswingers is a sex site not a swingers site.
The reason (not that it's any of your business) that I am not meeting anyone new at present, is because I have enough friends to see on a regular basis to not require anyone new. This, for me, at the moment, is like facebook for swingers. I keep in contact with my friends here. |
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Which bandwagon ?
I mean the 'it's easy to get NSA sex online' bandwagon. It probably is, but surely that what other sites are for, over swinging sites.
As may be obvious I don't see swinging as NSA sex. Clearly we all have differing opinions on this subject, that's just mine! "
How can swinging not be NSA? |
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Which bandwagon ?
I mean the 'it's easy to get NSA sex online' bandwagon. It probably is, but surely that what other sites are for, over swinging sites.
As may be obvious I don't see swinging as NSA sex. Clearly we all have differing opinions on this subject, that's just mine!
How can swinging not be NSA?"
Confused me too. |
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"I see fabswingers as a fun pastime for getting to know lots of happy people with whom I would like to enjoy a quality of sexual experiences...
If I had any dissatisfaction with this site... I would leave...
Walk into the nearest pub and be critical... are you implying that I have a dissatisfaction with this site?!
Nope... I am offering an opinion, without pronoun, in regard to the premis wherein certain persons make reference to this Sex site, which I perceive as a Swingers site and personally draw distinction...
Furthermore, I lean towards the sentiments of Ms Crumpet that I perceive my demenour as soft and cuddly as it is a Sunday...
I do hope that this response clarifies my position..."
Erm, no |
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"I have gone months without a meet but not once have I moaned about it on the forums. I use other sites as well so can usually get sorted when I feel the need.
Same here, You can't have all your eggs in one basket.
I learned this lesson from the Spanish bullrings...
You cant have all your Basques in one exit...;-)"
I cackled like a witch..... a fluffy witch tho ..... x |
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Whatever FAB is, it suits my needs, in that I can find like-minded individuals for friendship and NSA fun with suitable gents.
It beats other "adult" sites for certain.
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Which bandwagon ?
I mean the 'it's easy to get NSA sex online' bandwagon. It probably is, but surely that what other sites are for, over swinging sites.
As may be obvious I don't see swinging as NSA sex. Clearly we all have differing opinions on this subject, that's just mine! "
I know what you are saying. Swinging should be a lifestyle, an open mind, an attitude to sex, a non moralising mode of behaviour that is judgement free.
Oops .. judgement....
I's a bit difficult for me to comment cos this bandwagon's been rolling since I jumped on it ....
Sign of the times. Communication changes everything.
I don't believe there is a 'lifestyle' that people CAN follow if they wish.
Witness the 'single men' gagging in clubs. Might as well sign on here for free and gag and get sex.
There is no 'like minded' soul who lives a 'swinging' lifestyle and has a certain 'likemind' that will have sex with them.
All swinging means is- Sex is recreational and as long as relationships are open there is no strict adherence to monogamy.
For me it's a sex site.
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"So, just wanted to express my views over the number of times I have read about fabSWINGERS being a sex site. I'm quite sick of it. I presume the people who refer to it as such have no real experience of swinging or have no clue what swinging actually is. To me, swinging is having a great time with friends. Just happens that I have amazing sex with those friends.
How do you see fabswingers?
What do you perceive swinging to be?! "
It's a sex site. People come here for sex. We have real friends in real life, away from here and we don't want friends from here.
Believe people who see this kind of thing as a social hub should... well, whatever. |
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"So, just wanted to express my views over the number of times I have read about fabSWINGERS being a sex site. I'm quite sick of it. I presume the people who refer to it as such have no real experience of swinging or have no clue what swinging actually is. To me, swinging is having a great time with friends. Just happens that I have amazing sex with those friends.
How do you see fabswingers?
What do you perceive swinging to be?! "
What your perception of the site is doesn't make it others... It suits people what they want it to be, if they see it as a sex site fair play...
It's not a one fits all kind of site...
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On the comment that swinging surely is NSA sex, I refer back to my comment of my relationships with my friends. As I see it, if there is a relationship-thats an attached string! NSA to me is one night s_ands or a one off shag. Not my cup of tea. |
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"So, just wanted to express my views over the number of times I have read about fabSWINGERS being a sex site. I'm quite sick of it. I presume the people who refer to it as such have no real experience of swinging or have no clue what swinging actually is. To me, swinging is having a great time with friends. Just happens that I have amazing sex with those friends.
How do you see fabswingers?
What do you perceive swinging to be?!
What your perception of the site is doesn't make it others... It suits people what they want it to be, if they see it as a sex site fair play...
It's not a one fits all kind of site...
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And that's fine. I asked the question, I was anticipating these kind of answers. Was just wondering if there was anyone out there who felt the same as me. Seems we are in the minority though! |
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"So, just wanted to express my views over the number of times I have read about fabSWINGERS being a sex site. I'm quite sick of it. I presume the people who refer to it as such have no real experience of swinging or have no clue what swinging actually is. To me, swinging is having a great time with friends. Just happens that I have amazing sex with those friends.
How do you see fabswingers?
What do you perceive swinging to be?! "
You need to get out more and stop being concerned over irrelavent and tedious issues. |
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NSA sex means that your not married or courting someone. boyfriend and girlfriend.
the men i see who are on my friends list arent really my friends.
i just see them for sex. |
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I personally do not regard NSA as just one-offs.
To me, it means sexual encounters without emotional attachment.
I can have NSA fun with a gent, walk away and go our separate ways without any hindrance afterwards, may not contact each other for months, then ping an occasional PM to each other to see if we fancy meeting up again for some fun etc...
That's how it works for me, for the small group of gents that I would love to meet up again at Chams whenever I go there.
Just because it is how I operate, does not mean it is wrong.
I do not necessarily agree with how other peeps go about seeking sexual pleasures via FAB or otherwise. However, I would not be so bold to say they are in the wrong.
Each to their own at the end of the day.
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I think the O.P's question is far from tedious.
She is clearly at a stage where she is questioning differing viewpoints.
I joined a 'swingers' site and found myself amongst mainly non swingers but sex getters.
I don't mind saying im on a swingers site. I would mind saying im on a sex site.
The difference matters.
I like sitting under the veil of swinger. |
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"So, just wanted to express my views over the number of times I have read about fabSWINGERS being a sex site. I'm quite sick of it. I presume the people who refer to it as such have no real experience of swinging or have no clue what swinging actually is. To me, swinging is having a great time with friends. Just happens that I have amazing sex with those friends.
How do you see fabswingers?
What do you perceive swinging to be?! "
I agree with you!!
I think of fab as being a place for people to interact and possibly meet up. I agree with the comment about there being some people/ single blokes that see it as a 'sex site' i.e. a place where everyone fucks everyone... And they think that all they have to do is snap their fingers and women will fall at their feet. That is my opinion.
There are some nice people on here. There are people that respect other people's opinions. There are people that take great delight in putting other people down and being generally rude and/ or abusive.
You asked for other people's thoughts to the statement you made. You didn't say people should bow to you. Ignore the rude ignorant people. They are beyond help. |
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"So, just wanted to express my views over the number of times I have read about fabSWINGERS being a sex site. I'm quite sick of it. I presume the people who refer to it as such have no real experience of swinging or have no clue what swinging actually is. To me, swinging is having a great time with friends. Just happens that I have amazing sex with those friends.
How do you see fabswingers?
What do you perceive swinging to be?!
I agree with you!!
I think of fab as being a place for people to interact and possibly meet up. I agree with the comment about there being some people/ single blokes that see it as a 'sex site' i.e. a place where everyone fucks everyone... And they think that all they have to do is snap their fingers and women will fall at their feet. That is my opinion.
There are some nice people on here. There are people that respect other people's opinions. There are people that take great delight in putting other people down and being generally rude and/ or abusive.
You asked for other people's thoughts to the statement you made. You didn't say people should bow to you. Ignore the rude ignorant people. They are beyond help."
Thank you Scarlet and granny crumpet for actually understanding me and offering your views respectfully, and to all those who have responded in the way I meant for the the original post to spark discussion. To those of you who see my post as tedious or think I have nothing better to do with my time-clearly you are the ones who have nothing better to do than be defamatory! |
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"I think there are plenty of other sex sites that market themselves as such. My bugbear with it is that people assume they can get an easy lay out of it. In some cases they may be right, but in a whole heap of cases they are very wrong. Then we get the forums clogged up with attention seeking men complaining they can't get a meet. If they were in the lifestyle they would have no problems getting a meet. Clearly they are just bandwagon jumpers. "
Have to agree with you bubbilicious, but I (Pork) don't think they are just bandwagon jumpers - I think it's that so many young guys get there 'impression' of Swinging from the proliferation of easy-access porn these days - and porn is NOT Swinging! When I first got into this strange little World over 25yrs ago, Swinging was all about sharing sexual experiences with others - rather like sexual networking. It certainly wasn't just about getting laid.
So, would I call FabSwingers a 'sex-site'? Not in the modern definition of 'sex-site', no. There are plenty of others out there which are, but Fab seems to be able to keep the 'old-fashioned' ideal of what Swinging is about alive and well. And long may it continue..... 
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"I think there are plenty of other sex sites that market themselves as such. My bugbear with it is that people assume they can get an easy lay out of it. In some cases they may be right, but in a whole heap of cases they are very wrong. Then we get the forums clogged up with attention seeking men complaining they can't get a meet. If they were in the lifestyle they would have no problems getting a meet. Clearly they are just bandwagon jumpers.
Have to agree with you bubbilicious, but I (Pork) don't think they are just bandwagon jumpers - I think it's that so many young guys get there 'impression' of Swinging from the proliferation of easy-access porn these days - and porn is NOT Swinging! When I first got into this strange little World over 25yrs ago, Swinging was all about sharing sexual experiences with others - rather like sexual networking. It certainly wasn't just about getting laid.
So, would I call FabSwingers a 'sex-site'? Not in the modern definition of 'sex-site', no. There are plenty of others out there which are, but Fab seems to be able to keep the 'old-fashioned' ideal of what Swinging is about alive and well. And long may it continue.....
PS Perky says 'hear, hear'! "
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"So, just wanted to express my views over the number of times I have read about fabSWINGERS being a sex site. I'm quite sick of it. I presume the people who refer to it as such have no real experience of swinging or have no clue what swinging actually is. To me, swinging is having a great time with friends. Just happens that I have amazing sex with those friends.
How do you see fabswingers?
What do you perceive swinging to be?!
I agree with you!!
I think of fab as being a place for people to interact and possibly meet up. I agree with the comment about there being some people/ single blokes that see it as a 'sex site' i.e. a place where everyone fucks everyone... And they think that all they have to do is snap their fingers and women will fall at their feet. That is my opinion.
There are some nice people on here. There are people that respect other people's opinions. There are people that take great delight in putting other people down and being generally rude and/ or abusive.
You asked for other people's thoughts to the statement you made. You didn't say people should bow to you. Ignore the rude ignorant people. They are beyond help."
Playing devil's advocate here - but i've been in scenario's on here where both couples and single females have taken great offence when i've politely declined to meet them - so please don't tar all with the same brush!
Likewise - when I used to attend clubs (which I no longer do - does that make me a definate 'non-swinger'?) there was a similar mentality about the attendees. Us single guys should be grateful for all that is offered without giving us the option of free will!
So is it a swingers site or a sex site? Although the clue's in the site name - it goes back to what is the definition of a swinger - which is an arguement that will go on for ever!
And i've seen plenty of couples bemoaning the fact they can't get meets with other couples in the forums - so does that make them just sex seeking, 'sex site' users too, rather than disgruntled swingers?
So long as you're using the site with respect of the rest of the FAB population does it matter if you're looking for a one off meet or a lifetime wifeswapping timeshare arrangement?  |
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"So, just wanted to express my views over the number of times I have read about fabSWINGERS being a sex site. I'm quite sick of it. I presume the people who refer to it as such have no real experience of swinging or have no clue what swinging actually is. To me, swinging is having a great time with friends. Just happens that I have amazing sex with those friends.
How do you see fabswingers?
What do you perceive swinging to be?!
I agree with you!!
I think of fab as being a place for people to interact and possibly meet up. I agree with the comment about there being some people/ single blokes that see it as a 'sex site' i.e. a place where everyone fucks everyone... And they think that all they have to do is snap their fingers and women will fall at their feet. That is my opinion.
There are some nice people on here. There are people that respect other people's opinions. There are people that take great delight in putting other people down and being generally rude and/ or abusive.
You asked for other people's thoughts to the statement you made. You didn't say people should bow to you. Ignore the rude ignorant people. They are beyond help.
Playing devil's advocate here - but i've been in scenario's on here where both couples and single females have taken great offence when i've politely declined to meet them - so please don't tar all with the same brush!
Likewise - when I used to attend clubs (which I no longer do - does that make me a definate 'non-swinger'?) there was a similar mentality about the attendees. Us single guys should be grateful for all that is offered without giving us the option of free will!
So is it a swingers site or a sex site? Although the clue's in the site name - it goes back to what is the definition of a swinger - which is an arguement that will go on for ever!
And i've seen plenty of couples bemoaning the fact they can't get meets with other couples in the forums - so does that make them just sex seeking, 'sex site' users too, rather than disgruntled swingers?
So long as you're using the site with respect of the rest of the FAB population does it matter if you're looking for a one off meet or a lifetime wifeswapping timeshare arrangement? "
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Fab Swingers IS a sex site as there are graphic images of people having sex on a high % of the profiles on here. We join sites like these to have sex, friendship is a bonus. |
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I do think some come here on fab think its just a site for fast lane sex and when thay see its not always like that get fed-up as some think it should be easy ... we should be easy pickings as offer it up being on a site like this. |
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"So, just wanted to express my views over the number of times I have read about fabSWINGERS being a sex site. I'm quite sick of it. I presume the people who refer to it as such have no real experience of swinging or have no clue what swinging actually is. To me, swinging is having a great time with friends. Just happens that I have amazing sex with those friends.
How do you see fabswingers?
What do you perceive swinging to be?! "
personally i see it as means to meet like minded people with the primary objective being for sex.
one dictionary definition is:-
"Swinging or (rarely) partner swapping is a non-monogamous behavior, in which singles or partners in a committed relationship engage in sexual activities with others as a recreational or social activity"
therefore to a degree it is a sex site.
i am not on the site to make 'friends' or for more 'normal' social activities.
i go the the pub and see my friends there.
so to answer the OPs question, i see it as primarily a sex site. although i have made friends on here who i have subsequently seen for meets without sex, but that isnt swinging is it?? thats just going out and having a drink..
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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the last time the facebook/sex site discussion came up I wrote the follow....
cant be arse to write it all again so you'll just have to do with the copy/paste version.....
"technically... if you are asking the question in the title of the thread... facebook or sex site... the answer to that is "neither"....
it is a swinging site....... hence fab swingers....
people use it to find sexual partners however they care to... be that thru Socialising or any other means....
it is what seperates how people find suitable people for them.....
the rest I said in my 1st post s_ands... just because I am on a site like this doesn't mean you have to talk about all things swinging 24/7.... 25/8...
I like to get to know people before I play.. hence I'm social.. I like to see if I click with them.. that is what works for me...
if you do things a different way.. entirely up to you... but i am not going to knock the way you use the site... just as I would have hoped that you wouldn't critise others for the way they choose to use it.... " |
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"Sometimes things are analysed to death in here so much I forget what I came on here for
Ah yes ive run out of milk"
Sorry - can't help you there!
Wrong equipment!
Try tesco's (although other supermarkets are also available!) |
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
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"Fab Swingers IS a sex site as there are graphic images of people having sex on a high % of the profiles on here. We join sites like these to have sex, friendship is a bonus."
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"Its a sex site. Just take a look at the pictures! Granny its a tedious question when the answer is as plain as the pussy on my face!"
I said I don't find her question tedious.
I'll repeat it again if you need it. |
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over a year ago
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Well, I s'pose I don't feel able to call myself a swinger per se, purely due to me being a single.
But the reason I chose this site above a self proclaimed 'sex site' was 'attitude'
I wanted to be amongst people who had a good attitude to sex and the people they were having sex with ... who didn't see it as a 'conquest' but saw it as shared fun with a 'person' not just a 'fanny' ya know?
I also loved the idea of the socials, I've only managed along to one so far but it was great, superb atmosphere and a chance to mingle and get to know folks.
So, I do see a distinction between 'sex-site' and Swinging site... and it's that distinction that brought me here |
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"Well, I s'pose I don't feel able to call myself a swinger per se, purely due to me being a single.
But the reason I chose this site above a self proclaimed 'sex site' was 'attitude'
I wanted to be amongst people who had a good attitude to sex and the people they were having sex with ... who didn't see it as a 'conquest' but saw it as shared fun with a 'person' not just a 'fanny' ya know?
I also loved the idea of the socials, I've only managed along to one so far but it was great, superb atmosphere and a chance to mingle and get to know folks.
So, I do see a distinction between 'sex-site' and Swinging site... and it's that distinction that brought me here "
That's what I expected but didn't find Fi. |
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"Well, I s'pose I don't feel able to call myself a swinger per se, purely due to me being a single.
But the reason I chose this site above a self proclaimed 'sex site' was 'attitude'
I wanted to be amongst people who had a good attitude to sex and the people they were having sex with ... who didn't see it as a 'conquest' but saw it as shared fun with a 'person' not just a 'fanny' ya know?
I also loved the idea of the socials, I've only managed along to one so far but it was great, superb atmosphere and a chance to mingle and get to know folks.
So, I do see a distinction between 'sex-site' and Swinging site... and it's that distinction that brought me here
That's what I expected but didn't find Fi."
oh 
Well, due to bad timing on my part Granny (back went ) I've not had the chance to explore fully, but I really have met some delightful guys who it's a real pleasure to shoot the breeze with even whilst I've been unable to play.
I'm wondering what you have found? are you disappointed a wee bit? or do you still enjoy being a part of the site? |
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ah, well I hope to get what I want from it eventually too...and maybe some more stuff
I have my back operation this Thursday coming, so hope to be back in the game soon enough, I'm looking forward to getting out to socials with friends
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By (user no longer on site)
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What are these 'sex sites' that people keep referring to?
Presumably they're just sites that offer like minded people the opportunity to meet each other.
Presumably people would still have to tick the boxes of individual attraction and social interaction needed by most who meet remotely?
Presumably some of this leads to ongoing friendships?
Presumably there aren't any sites where everyone has sex with everyone?
To some 'sex' is still a dirty word, to others 'swinging' is a dirtier word, I say the site is just a portal, it allows like minded people to contact each other, nothing more nothing less. How those people choose to use it it their business.
Sex site or Swinging site, call it what you like but don't forget the common denominators of attraction, social interaction and sex in both....whatever veil you choose to wear. |
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over a year ago
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To op .. sorry but for me this site is for finding people that will help master and I get what we want...
We are always up front about our wants.. I rarely even know a play mates name... I rarely meet someone twice... It is totally nsa.. pretty much faceless, nameless fucking....
I do make friends on here... But not for having sex with... They are just friends that happen to know exactly how I am..
I go through profiles looking for people I want to play with... So to me its a bit like shopping.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So, just wanted to express my views over the number of times I have read about fabSWINGERS being a sex site. I'm quite sick of it. I presume the people who refer to it as such have no real experience of swinging or have no clue what swinging actually is. To me, swinging is having a great time with friends. Just happens that I have amazing sex with those friends.
How do you see fabswingers?
What do you perceive swinging to be?! "
reckon yours is spot on. |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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How do you see fabswingers?
We see it as a way to help us meet with people that we are attracted to. Whether that be for social or sexual encounters (or both)
Sometimes we end up meeting people on a regular basis and building friendships and sometimes (for whatever reason) it is a one off.
Sex site or swinging site....surely they are both pretty much the same thing just dressed up different.
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over a year ago
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"Its a sex site. Just take a look at the pictures! Granny its a tedious question when the answer is as plain as the pussy on my face!
I said I don't find her question tedious.
I'll repeat it again if you need it."
I will say it again it's a sex site! It's where people come to engage I recreational sex. The very small minority that form relationships are very lucky in so far as they have met a like minded person and will either commit to monogamy or carry on having sex with others. I think some are trying to convince themselves they are better than those who frequent sex sites! |
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over a year ago
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i think its what you make it
I have made some great friends off here, i have also had many one offs, i dont always want to become friends with everyone i meet and with some i just want sex from them and wont meet them again where as with others i have known them years and its still a pleasure to meet
i dont think swinging has to mean you make friends and have regular meets, i think you can just do one offs and still be a swinger |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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We use the site to meet people for sex....it is NSA sex for us as we have no emotional attachment to the people we meet.
We don't socialise with the people we meet unless we are meeting for sex.....ie we don't call them inbetween meets or meet them to do vanilla things....it is just plain old NSA sex.
So techinally we meet people for sex on a site that lets us meet people for sex. |
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ive been doing this for 11 years now and in all that time there has only been one couple i have met that i would class as true friends, who have been to my house and i have met away from swinging things
Sometimes you meet people you like as true friends, other than that i also dont meet people out sie of swinging that i meet thro swinging, tho i class a lot i have met thro here as friends there are two types of friends to me, swinging and none swinging friends and i dont treat the two the same |
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By *andsCouple
over a year ago
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"PS technically you are not classed as a swinger by lots of swingers as you are a single woman."
primarily this is a sex site, people may use it for different reasons but it is about the sex first and foremost. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"PS technically you are not classed as a swinger by lots of swingers as you are a single woman.
primarily this is a sex site, people may use it for different reasons but it is about the sex first and foremost."
I agree people use it for how they want to....but not sure why my post about something else was quoted |
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By *andsCouple
over a year ago
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"PS technically you are not classed as a swinger by lots of swingers as you are a single woman.
primarily this is a sex site, people may use it for different reasons but it is about the sex first and foremost.
I agree people use it for how they want to....but not sure why my post about something else was quoted "
I have no idea why that happened either, it will teach me to preview in future lol x |
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"Its a sex site. Just take a look at the pictures! Granny its a tedious question when the answer is as plain as the pussy on my face!
I said I don't find her question tedious.
I'll repeat it again if you need it. I will say it again it's a sex site! It's where people come to engage I recreational sex. The very small minority that form relationships are very lucky in so far as they have met a like minded person and will either commit to monogamy or carry on having sex with others. I think some are trying to convince themselves they are better than those who frequent sex sites! "
I never asked you if it was a sex site or not.
I said...
I don't find the O.P's question tedious. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm here for sex...the social side is an added bonus. I could live without the social side of the site as I have friendships in the 'real' world, but without the sex FAB would soon disappear off my favourites list.
I have tried other sites but do prefer this one despite the occasional time waster and bunny boiler as there is more variation on what people want...all without a relationship or another meet being expected, but allowed should it be wanted. Not sure what that defines the site as, and not sure I'm bothered so long as I'm getting what I want from it - as selfish as that may sound! x |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"PS technically you are not classed as a swinger by lots of swingers as you are a single woman.
primarily this is a sex site, people may use it for different reasons but it is about the sex first and foremost.
I agree people use it for how they want to....but not sure why my post about something else was quoted
I have no idea why that happened either, it will teach me to preview in future lol x"
lol confusion all round |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Facebook is a site for me to virtual mix with friends.
Where as Fabswingers is a site I can mix in a virtual way with friends with a heavy dose of sex attached.
Swinging is about having friends with benefits so to speak.
A site aimed at meeting for sex, be that with the addition of making friends beyond or not IS a sex site.
And I have many years of swinging behind me. |
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