Morning fabbers.... have read a couple of threads this morning with great glee.... ive been here (on and off) for about 4 to 5 years I think.
When i got divorced... i felt a sense of freedom... of release. I wasnt interested in relationships... i just wanted to have fun again and feel wanted in a lustful way.. so I jumped on POF Tinder etc etc.... had a laugh or two and then one lady i met told me about this place.
"But Im not a swinger" I said...
"There are people just there for fucking" She replied
I was sold
I created my account and approached it in a way that looking back Im not overly proud of ... i tried to get sex without creating a "bond" with people
The learning curve is steep to begin with. The last 2 years have been a different journey for me (since my return last year) ive made friends, flirted, forumed and gotten to know people...
We are all on a different journey, and our routes will take longer or shorter depending on that... as long as we're all respectful of one another... this place can be whatever you want it to be...
Just keep being kind to each other, give advice instead of scolding and lets all live happily ever after  |
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That's great OP 
Don't get me wrong, casual sex definitely has its place but the way a lot of men approach it is (in my opinion) incredibly off-putting. I was around 19 when tinder first became a thing and did use it for hook ups only for a good few years. But you didn't get bombarded with dicks pics and "fancy a fuck" like you do on here, nor were profiles loaded with dick pics and action shots only. You chose someone based on their overall look, not just their dick size or ability to cum a lot. I have noticed lately that these types of behaviours have filtered down through to mainstream apps, as in you match with someone who says they want to date etc but when you talk to them it's clear they just want NSA, and I've had a few off Bumble (which is meant to be the tame one) even start off with sending me dick pics which just a couple of years ago would never have happened.
I think intimate human interaction is such a minefield at the moment; nobody seems to want anything real or lasting and so in turn they place absolutely no value on sex, emotional or otherwise. Maybe it just takes a good few years of NSA to realise that at some point it gets old? |
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Cheers folks... just had to stick my oar in as its something I think people could learn from and perhaps not make some of the same mistakes I did
Engagement, interaction and patience are all thats required...plus knowing what yoire really looking for... my previous indiscretions were based on making decisions with no prior knowledge |
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"Morning fabbers.... have read a couple of threads this morning with great glee.... ive been here (on and off) for about 4 to 5 years I think.
When i got divorced... i felt a sense of freedom... of release. I wasnt interested in relationships... i just wanted to have fun again and feel wanted in a lustful way.. so I jumped on POF Tinder etc etc.... had a laugh or two and then one lady i met told me about this place.
"But Im not a swinger" I said...
"There are people just there for fucking" She replied
I was sold
I created my account and approached it in a way that looking back Im not overly proud of ... i tried to get sex without creating a "bond" with people
The learning curve is steep to begin with. The last 2 years have been a different journey for me (since my return last year) ive made friends, flirted, forumed and gotten to know people...
We are all on a different journey, and our routes will take longer or shorter depending on that... as long as we're all respectful of one another... this place can be whatever you want it to be...
Just keep being kind to each other, give advice instead of scolding and lets all live happily ever after "
I love this, thanks OP. To use a cliché, we are all on our own "journey" on here, in life, on terms of relationships etc.
Mrs TMN x |
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