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Wanting my brother in law more and more
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Since my divorce my brother in law has been really kind to me doing jobs i cant do and mowing my lawn but ive started to look forward to him coming and dressing for the occasion,
He hasn’t shown any interest at all which is just pushing me to be more daring And im scared i will make a fool of myself and get rejected,
There is a twist to it all that when i was 17 he had just started seeing my sister and i was out late,mom was going mad and he came looking for me,i was by the side of a tyre fitters getting fingered and kissed,he called me and said i was in huge trouble,my mom was going mad and that I wasn’t gonna be allowed out again,i was crying and he held me and said he wouldn’t say i was with a boy and he would stick up for me,
I stopped sobbing and he said i was too beautiful to cry and I kissed him,he kissed me back and ran his hand up my thigh over my tights,he then stopped said sorry and its never ever been mentioned again |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If he’s still with your sister then don’t go there. Personally I think there’s some lines you don’t cross and that’s one of them.
If he’s not then it’s different although I’m still not sure I would x |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
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I'm assuming he's ypur brother in law by being married to your sister?
Personally I'd stay well away unless you want to loose her too.
I wonder whether it's not necessarily him that you are liking but the feeling of familiarity and safety?  |
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The first time you were very young and it was a spur of the moment thing which could be forgiven
Now you are almost 60 and possibly feeling a bit lonely after your divorce and with this years lockdown but there is absolutely no excuse for you trying to tempt any married man but your own sisters husband is just dispicable!! I know it takes 2 to tango but the fact you are consciously flirting with him and challenging yourself to tempt him more is wrong on so many levels. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It sounds to me as though you are mistaking his acts of kindness for something else, especially as he hasn't shown an interest in return.
You may be feeling lonely and are reminiscing about your fumble with him when you were both younger.
If you were in your sister's shoes, how would you feel knowing that your sister is going out of her way to attract attention and possibly more from your husband? I can tell you how I would feel... furious!
My advice is to stop flirting and enticing your sister's husband and seek men for yourself.
There's that 'girls code' thing of not going near your friends guys, this is absolutely true for family members men too.
Stay away from him, fantasy is fun but reality comes with consequences.
Take care
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Could you really do that to your sister, I know I couldn’t, just because he is helping you with a few chores you shouldn’t look at it as anything more, throwing yourself at him regardless seems a bit of a selfish move to me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you kissed when you were 17, and he's shown zero interest since, I think you have your answer as to how he feels about you.
And it's your sisters husband !!!! Persue this any further and you'll end up without their help for your odd jobs, and without a sister in your life.
Leave well alone. |
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By *hav02Man
over a year ago
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This is lust. You're emotionally vulnerable and here is someone of familiarity and "trust" that is giving you attention, plus the risk associated gives the adrenaline rush we all naturally desire.
Unless you're ok with destroying your family relationships, take charge and bury these feelings. Not worth the pain. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are two possibilities here.
1. He's playing the long game. Kissed you and touched your leg 42 year ago, then married and probably raised a family with your sister and kept thinking to himself 'I'll won't mention this to Simsy again and one day in about half a century I'll pick up where we left off'.
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2. He's not interested.
I'm inclined to believe option 2...and if you think you can seduce him ?...then there's a strong chance you would be disappointed there too OP.
This is your issue to sort, don't make it his, your sister's or anyone else's. |
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He's not your brother in law. He's your sisters husband.
Don't let loneliness or desperation fool you into thinking that it's okay to disrespect family and their relationships.
Get some self respect.
In short......... Find your own bloke.
Stop accepting offers of help. It'll prevent temptation. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I wont be doing anything or trying to tempt him,as one lady said he hasn’t shown any interest so there’s my answer,
I don’t know why I would think otherwise really my sister is very very attractive |
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"I wont be doing anything or trying to tempt him,as one lady said he hasn’t shown any interest so there’s my answer,
I don’t know why I would think otherwise really my sister is very very attractive "
I'd guess you are too. Maybe you need to boost your self esteem somewhat and then go get em !
Maybe you are stuck in your childhood and just want to take her dollies...
Play outside the family. It's for the best all round. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do think people answering are somewhat kinder than they would be to a bloke who wanted to fuck his sister in law.
Just sayinnnnnnnnnn  "
My advice to a man would be equally as balanced as I gave to this woman.
Her x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No, don't do it. It's your sister. And what happened between the two of you was a very long time ago when you were both young. You've both grown so much since then. If he had have wanted things to progress with you, you would know by now.
It's only going to end in tears. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Turned rather nasty on here now
Let those without a sinful thought cast the first stone"
I don't think it's turned nasty as such with the possible exception of one comment, which even that was based on personal experience by the sound of things, and to be honest I can understand why *some* might say that based on where you have suggested your thoughts *might* have been heading.
As others have said, taking it further would be a mistake, whichever way you look at it, and at best runs the risk of destroying your relationship with your sister and potentially any wider family you may have. |
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As others have said don't go there, it's possible that post divorce and with the lockdown etc that these have affected how you might think about such things..
Given he's family that tells me why he's helping out in this time too..
And don't be too hard on yourself op we are living in strange times .. |
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