"What's with the haters, there's many reasons other than just being a so called dirty cheat."
Haters gonna hate.
It's probably best to get on with what you're doing and accept that many people won't like it.
If you were a woman however... |
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"What's with the haters, there's many reasons other than just being a so called dirty cheat.
Haters gonna hate.
It's probably best to get on with what you're doing and accept that many people won't like it.
If you were a woman however..."
I still wouldn't meet |
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I dont see any reason for any swinger to bad mouth another swinger. Surely the idea of swinging is to enjoy and express one's sexuality. It's no bodies business to complain or criticise the way someone else achieves this. |
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"What's with the haters, there's many reasons other than just being a so called dirty cheat.
Haters gonna hate.
It's probably best to get on with what you're doing and accept that many people won't like it.
If you were a woman however...
I still wouldn't meet"
Neither would we but hundreds would.  |
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Because people only ever see the world through their own experiences and are lucky they get to live ignorant. Point is let people live their lives and be happy |
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"What's with the haters, there's many reasons other than just being a so called dirty cheat.
Haters gonna hate.
It's probably best to get on with what you're doing and accept that many people won't like it.
If you were a woman however...
I still wouldn't meet"
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"I dont see any reason for any swinger to bad mouth another swinger. Surely the idea of swinging is to enjoy and express one's sexuality. It's no bodies business to complain or criticise the way someone else achieves this. "
Many forum contributions are either directly or indirectly aimed at criticising people who don't do things their way. |
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"What's with the haters, there's many reasons other than just being a so called dirty cheat."
If your other half doesn't know, then your a cheat. But there are many reasons people do this, each to their own x |
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"Such as Being married but having mutually agreed to seeing others and by coming on here is one avenue. Do I need to name more reasons ???"
You don't need to give any reasons. Never justify, never explain. People will either meet married people or they won't. |
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These threads.... ....I honestly dgaf what ppl do or who they choose to shag, but when they come on looking for sympathy and justification for it and telling others what they should or shouldn't like, usually because they themselves are not getting what they'd like, then they deserve the honest opinion and response they asked for..... 
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If you appear in my inbox and tell me your married and she doesnt know, you're going to hear things you don't want to.
Its my inbox. Its my very valid opinion that its fucking disgusting and you're ruining lives.
THERE IS NO VALID EXCUSE |
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"Such as Being married but having mutually agreed to seeing others and by coming on here is one avenue. Do I need to name more reasons ???"
No but then you don't need to start a thread either just get on and do you,don't look for a pat on the back to say what you're doing is ok because you'll get varying responses.
If your wife/husband agrees then popping in their profile may help. |
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"Such as Being married but having mutually agreed to seeing others and by coming on here is one avenue. Do I need to name more reasons ???"
I don't see this in your profile text on your single profile? Were you just using it as an example to debate or does it apply to you?
If you are married, then I think you're likely to get a better success rate and waste less time (your own and others) by being honest from the offset....   |
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"Such as Being married but having mutually agreed to seeing others and by coming on here is one avenue. Do I need to name more reasons ???"
Just be honest in that and put it on your profile, it allows others to make a decision based upon knowing that..
Fact is some will and some won't, concentrate on those who might perhaps rather than venting.. |
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Also op some who have been the victims of others cheating will have found the whole thing extremely traumatic, empathy is not for everyone but worth bearing in mind before labels like haters are chucked about.. |
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"Also op some who have been the victims of others cheating will have found the whole thing extremely traumatic, empathy is not for everyone but worth bearing in mind before labels like haters are chucked about.."
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This is only my opinion, not scientifically proven fact and I'm not suggesting anything about you personally OP, but I'd guess that there's a much higher chance of a "fake" couple complaining about this sort of thing than a genuine couple, because there is nothing that a "fake" couple could do to reassure ppl. A genuine couple playing separately could just be open about it from the start and prove it with a couple account or reference to their partners single account or an offer to video call with their partner present or all manner of possibilities. It's not difficult really. So surely you can see why folk might be suspicious when reading your profile now?
Maybe just change it up a bit? |
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"It's a debate from unnamed profiles I have seen. Saying if people are married they shouldn't be on here "
People can have their opinion. The fact is that if you legally fit the criteria to be a member of fab that's all you need to join. |
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"What's with the haters, there's many reasons other than just being a so called dirty cheat.
Haters gonna hate.
It's probably best to get on with what you're doing and accept that many people won't like it.
If you were a woman however...
I still wouldn't meet
Neither would we but hundreds would. "
And hundreds meet married men.
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"It's a debate from unnamed profiles I have seen. Saying if people are married they shouldn't be on here "
Everyone has their own opinion and to be fair those options are probably mostly informed by their experiences, so whether pro, neutral or con married lone swingers their valid options.
If a married lone swingers is bothered by varying opinions on here, then maybe they're not at ease with being active on here themselves in their present circumstances. |
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"What's with the haters, there's many reasons other than just being a so called dirty cheat.
Haters gonna hate.
It's probably best to get on with what you're doing and accept that many people won't like it.
If you were a woman however...
I still wouldn't meet
Neither would we but hundreds would.
And hundreds meet married men.
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"I dont see any reason for any swinger to bad mouth another swinger. Surely the idea of swinging is to enjoy and express one's sexuality. It's no bodies business to complain or criticise the way someone else achieves this.
Many forum contributions are either directly or indirectly aimed at criticising people who don't do things their way. "
Disagree a bit with both of you.
No one needs to badmouth anyone. Cheaters and liars do need to realise that they are trying to entice someone into practises that go against their beliefs. Even if upfront when asking you should expect different types of yes's n no's....
Starting threads is calling out the person who called the cheater out.
6 of 1 yada yada in my book. |
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I'm vegan ...... is it okay for you to lie so that I share your ham sandwich ?
Is it okay for my partner to coax a staunch loyal monogamist into a betrayal ?
I'm not saying I judge the married fuckers. I'm saying I question their willingness to involve others and not expect an opinion on it. |
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"I dont see any reason for any swinger to bad mouth another swinger. Surely the idea of swinging is to enjoy and express one's sexuality. It's no bodies business to complain or criticise the way someone else achieves this.
Many forum contributions are either directly or indirectly aimed at criticising people who don't do things their way.
Disagree a bit with both of you.
No one needs to badmouth anyone. Cheaters and liars do need to realise that they are trying to entice someone into practises that go against their beliefs. Even if upfront when asking you should expect different types of yes's n no's....
Starting threads is calling out the person who called the cheater out.
6 of 1 yada yada in my book. "
If it's mutually agreed as he's stated though it's not cheating. |
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"I'm vegan ...... is it okay for you to lie so that I share your ham sandwich ?
Is it okay for my partner to coax a staunch loyal monogamist into a betrayal ?
I'm not saying I judge the married fuckers. I'm saying I question their willingness to involve others and not expect an opinion on it. "
You had to bring ham into it |
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"I dont see any reason for any swinger to bad mouth another swinger. Surely the idea of swinging is to enjoy and express one's sexuality. It's no bodies business to complain or criticise the way someone else achieves this.
Many forum contributions are either directly or indirectly aimed at criticising people who don't do things their way.
Disagree a bit with both of you.
No one needs to badmouth anyone. Cheaters and liars do need to realise that they are trying to entice someone into practises that go against their beliefs. Even if upfront when asking you should expect different types of yes's n no's....
Starting threads is calling out the person who called the cheater out.
6 of 1 yada yada in my book.
If it's mutually agreed as he's stated though it's not cheating. "
He never stated that at the off to be fair to me and I'll always be fair to me.....
He's unfolding rather than upfronting. |
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"I'm vegan ...... is it okay for you to lie so that I share your ham sandwich ?
Is it okay for my partner to coax a staunch loyal monogamist into a betrayal ?
I'm not saying I judge the married fuckers. I'm saying I question their willingness to involve others and not expect an opinion on it.
You had to bring ham into it"
I know. I did hold back .... thought of a bit of egg mary rose...... dithered over some salami .... then straight for slimy pressed pig..... no messin'. |
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"I'm vegan ...... is it okay for you to lie so that I share your ham sandwich ?
Is it okay for my partner to coax a staunch loyal monogamist into a betrayal ?
I'm not saying I judge the married fuckers. I'm saying I question their willingness to involve others and not expect an opinion on it.
You had to bring ham into it
I know. I did hold back .... thought of a bit of egg mary rose...... dithered over some salami .... then straight for slimy pressed pig..... no messin'. "
That used to be my wrestling name |
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"I'm vegan ...... is it okay for you to lie so that I share your ham sandwich ?
Is it okay for my partner to coax a staunch loyal monogamist into a betrayal ?
I'm not saying I judge the married fuckers. I'm saying I question their willingness to involve others and not expect an opinion on it. "
Maybe I'm wrong but I aways judge the messenger aswell as the message.... |
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"I'm vegan ...... is it okay for you to lie so that I share your ham sandwich ?
Is it okay for my partner to coax a staunch loyal monogamist into a betrayal ?
I'm not saying I judge the married fuckers. I'm saying I question their willingness to involve others and not expect an opinion on it.
You had to bring ham into it
I know. I did hold back .... thought of a bit of egg mary rose...... dithered over some salami .... then straight for slimy pressed pig..... no messin'. "
'pressed pig'.. Great name for a rock band or a pub or summet |
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"Such as Being married but having mutually agreed to seeing others and by coming on here is one avenue. Do I need to name more reasons ???"
You and your Mrs would be able to do a nice controlled experiment with your single profiles and document your respective success rates
You can then hypothesise on what the data is telling you |
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"These threads.... ....I honestly dgaf what ppl do or who they choose to shag, but when they come on looking for sympathy and justification for it and telling others what they should or shouldn't like, usually because they themselves are not getting what they'd like, then they deserve the honest opinion and response they asked for.....
Good luck OP "
This...... seriously if you’re married you fill your boots. Married people are free to cheat and people are free not to meet you because you’re a married person that cheats. |
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"If you appear in my inbox and tell me your married and she doesnt know, you're going to hear things you don't want to.
Its my inbox. Its my very valid opinion that its fucking disgusting and you're ruining lives.
THERE IS NO VALID EXCUSE"
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"What about people that are not married seeing someone and possibly also living with someone or being engaged ?? These people don't get signalled out ?? "
what
Married is short hand for in a relationship of any kind where the other person isn't aware of your extra curricular activities.
The partner unaware people who get the least stick are the ones who just keep quiet about it. |
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''I'm not saying I judge the married fuckers.....''
Oh Flirty ..... are you ... are you really ?"
I can be Granny C... once I've put aside my chronic shyness and lack of self-confidence, worries about the size of my penis, overwhelming reliance on white-knight pretence and agreeing with everything any woman on here says just for the whiff of the merest possibility of getting laid....then yes...I can deliver a cliché'ed chat up line as good as the next sex obsessed frustrated thinly veiled independent strong woman-hater....given the right window between arse-licking generic messages and my next bout of resentment fuelled torridly abusive posts directed at all the uppity cruel women on here who won't answer my messages and sleep with me because they have the audacity to practice free will and even though their on a sex site still reserve the right to be discerning about who they sleep with on here...if anybody  ....oh, but getting back to the nub of your question Granny C...
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"And now for the second debate why no reply if not including face picture isn't that like judging a book by it's cover ??? "
Yes, I admit I judge a book by its cover when it comes to casual sex. Is that wrong? |
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"And now for the second debate why no reply if not including face picture isn't that like judging a book by it's cover ???
Yes, I admit I judge a book by its cover when it comes to casual sex. Is that wrong?"
Am just doing debates about things I see a lot of on peoples profiles next debate will be about people putting why can't people read profiles? |
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"And now for the second debate why no reply if not including face picture isn't that like judging a book by it's cover ???
Yes, I admit I judge a book by its cover when it comes to casual sex. Is that wrong?
Am just doing debates about things I see a lot of on peoples profiles next debate will be about people putting why can't people read profiles?"
I was debating by asking you a question  |
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''I'm not saying I judge the married fuckers.....''
Oh Flirty ..... are you ... are you really ?
I can be Granny C... once I've put aside my chronic shyness and lack of self-confidence, worries about the size of my penis, overwhelming reliance on white-knight pretence and agreeing with everything any woman on here says just for the whiff of the merest possibility of getting laid....then yes...I can deliver a cliché'ed chat up line as good as the next sex obsessed frustrated thinly veiled independent strong woman-hater....given the right window between arse-licking generic messages and my next bout of resentment fuelled torridly abusive posts directed at all the uppity cruel women on here who won't answer my messages and sleep with me because they have the audacity to practice free will and even though their on a sex site still reserve the right to be discerning about who they sleep with on here...if anybody ....oh, but getting back to the nub of your question Granny C...
'How you doin'?' "
Well after reading that Flirty , I am doing mighty fine. It made me chuckle.....
I didn't mean are you Flirty Flirty. I meant are you Married Flirty. |
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Haters gonna hate.
It's probably best to get on with what you're doing and accept that many people won't like it.
If you were a woman however...
I still wouldn't meet"
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''I'm not saying I judge the married fuckers.....''
Oh Flirty ..... are you ... are you really ?
I can be Granny C... once I've put aside my chronic shyness and lack of self-confidence, worries about the size of my penis, overwhelming reliance on white-knight pretence and agreeing with everything any woman on here says just for the whiff of the merest possibility of getting laid....then yes...I can deliver a cliché'ed chat up line as good as the next sex obsessed frustrated thinly veiled independent strong woman-hater....given the right window between arse-licking generic messages and my next bout of resentment fuelled torridly abusive posts directed at all the uppity cruel women on here who won't answer my messages and sleep with me because they have the audacity to practice free will and even though their on a sex site still reserve the right to be discerning about who they sleep with on here...if anybody ....oh, but getting back to the nub of your question Granny C...
'How you doin'?'
Well after reading that Flirty , I am doing mighty fine. It made me chuckle.....
I didn't mean are you Flirty Flirty. I meant are you Married Flirty. "
Oh ! I see. No Granny C, but I was once and all seemed fine... until she stumbled into Specsavers during a free sight and hearing test promotion  |
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