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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just had a phone call off a woman who's the wife off a guy that I've met,and exchanged messages,phone calls with
It goes without saying that I didn't know that he was married,they have a 12 month old son and she wanted to give me phone numbers of other women he's been seeing
Ffs why do men do this? I'm just pleased that we only had a coffee,doesn't stop me feeling really bad though |
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Oh that’s just the worst phone call anyone could pick up. I’m betting you didn’t say all you wish you had said either.
Good for her that she took the brave step to call him out but not at your expense! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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always the risk sadly 
ive met what i thought were 2 decent men on here who claimed to be single.. had loads of fun and both had wives.. it really does fucking suck when the truth comes out
given the choice id never have been involved with either of them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just had a phone call off a woman who's the wife off a guy that I've met,and exchanged messages,phone calls with
It goes without saying that I didn't know that he was married,they have a 12 month old son and she wanted to give me phone numbers of other women he's been seeing
Ffs why do men do this? I'm just pleased that we only had a coffee,doesn't stop me feeling really bad though"
...(some) men.
I'm always dubious if profiles state "can't accommodate". |
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That sucks. Sorry you had to go through it. I do have something that will help though. You see i was in your position at one time. The guy was understandably angry and hurt. While she had deleted all messages i did not and i was able to show him i was completely oblivious to the fact he even existed. But to make things better i offered an olive branch so to speak.. I invited him and his "lovely" wife over for a cook out. He accepted. Upon arrival she looked like she had seen a ghost. You could tell she was very uncomfortable. But him and i were laughing and carrying on like we had known each other for years.. Which was part of the ruse. Friends from school recently running into each other. But by the end of the evening evrything was out in the open and they had recently divorced. Him and i still chat and hang out... Not sure whatever happened with her |
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I used to work at a small radio station. I got the job because an old friend was a DJ there. He had married a woman I used to go out with so I felt fairly close to both of them. She was now heavily pregnant expecting their first child. Anyway, I happened to take one of the women I worked with out for a meal. Things were moving along nicely when she said she was in a slight quandary. Turns out part of the reason she accepted my invitation wasn’t that I was dazzlingly handsome but that she wanted to extricate herself from the affair she was having with my friend. Her plan worked, he avoided her and his wife was happy he reduced the amount of evening shifts he worked. He doesn’t know that I know about his fling. |
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Oh darling. No. I bet your heart was in your toes.
You know what, All I ask is for people to be honest and then the woman (in this case) can enter into the agreement with an informed consent/decision. Too much to ask though really isn’t it.
One question though, as I am always intrigued, was she nasty and blame you or ok with you?
I’m so sorry it all happened. You (or her) didn’t deserve that at all xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"That sucks. Sorry you had to go through it. I do have something that will help though. You see i was in your position at one time. The guy was understandably angry and hurt. While she had deleted all messages i did not and i was able to show him i was completely oblivious to the fact he even existed. But to make things better i offered an olive branch so to speak.. I invited him and his "lovely" wife over for a cook out. He accepted. Upon arrival she looked like she had seen a ghost. You could tell she was very uncomfortable. But him and i were laughing and carrying on like we had known each other for years.. Which was part of the ruse. Friends from school recently running into each other. But by the end of the evening evrything was out in the open and they had recently divorced. Him and i still chat and hang out... Not sure whatever happened with her"
Oh she was really lovely,he hadn't deleted my messages so she saw then all,the ones where he said he hated single life etc,
Thank you |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Oh darling. No. I bet your heart was in your toes.
You know what, All I ask is for people to be honest and then the woman (in this case) can enter into the agreement with an informed consent/decision. Too much to ask though really isn’t it.
One question though, as I am always intrigued, was she nasty and blame you or ok with you?
I’m so sorry it all happened. You (or her) didn’t deserve that at all xx"
Honesty is all that I ask to,no she was really lovely and didn't blame at all,she had caught him out before,thank you xx |
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You can ask them at poimt blamk range several times if they are married or seeing someone else and they will tell you know. Of thry are intent on cheating they will do ir. Then get made when you turn detective and find out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I went out with a guy in my 20’s who was separated from his wife. This was genuine as he was introduced to me by friends.
We had been going out for about 3 months and it was my birthday and he bought me a bracelet.
The next day a call came through for me on the phone where I worked. It was his wife ringing up to ask me if I had liked the present he had given me.
She knew all about it and could only have got the phone number from him.
I think I had been used to make her jealous and I was rather angry. They got back together shortly after.
Sometimes cheating couples allow themselves to be caught out to freshen up their marriages.
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Yes you always hope the people who lie will get caught out in the end. Swinging should be about truths but God we have certainly met our fair share of liars, so called friends that in the end make trust very difficult.We are happy now in our own bubble but must be so difficult for singles. |
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By *rsPricklePantsWoman
over a year ago
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I really feel for you op and the guys wife!
years ago I had been talking to a guy using the couples profile with my husband, we had a wife message us having found her husband out I felt really guilty and I had only ever messaged him on here, she was quite civil about it considering. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's probably more common on here the people realise
We went to organised social evening for couples and singles and bumped into an old work colleague.
He was surprised as we were to see each other there
We knew he was a married father and had had an affair with one of the office girls
After a awkward hello he downed his drink and left |
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Years ago (not on FAB) I met a guy who told me he was single.
I took people on face value in those days and believed him.
Yup you've guessed it, he was married.
When I asked him why he lied he actually laughed and said "I'm a man Minnie, men lie".
Particularly if there's free fanny on offer...
I'm older and more cynical now.
Hey ho.
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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It's horrible that men and women deceive others on here like this,
Be honest then people at least have the choice to meet you knowing the potential consequences.
I was chatting to someone years ago and he said he was single, then slipped up one conversation (forgetting what he'd said).
Hope you're OK and you did nothing wrong, it's him who should be ashamed. X |
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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago
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"Just had a phone call off a woman who's the wife off a guy that I've met,and exchanged messages,phone calls with
It goes without saying that I didn't know that he was married,they have a 12 month old son and she wanted to give me phone numbers of other women he's been seeing
Ffs why do men do this? I'm just pleased that we only had a coffee,doesn't stop me feeling really bad though"
I had that last year. It’s not nice at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That’s awful sweetie! I really feel for you 
I’m glad the wife was nice to you about it and that she didn’t blame you for his shitty behaviour... but I can perfectly imagine how you feel. Just try and remember you did nothing wrong here. You were deceived as much as he was trying to deceive his wife.
I’m sending big snuggly hugs your way and hope you feel better soon!! xxx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"That’s awful sweetie! I really feel for you
I’m glad the wife was nice to you about it and that she didn’t blame you for his shitty behaviour... but I can perfectly imagine how you feel. Just try and remember you did nothing wrong here. You were deceived as much as he was trying to deceive his wife.
I’m sending big snuggly hugs your way and hope you feel better soon!! xxx"
Thank you so very much xx |
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