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People on Fab you know dilemma?
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Has anyone found people on here that they know that didn’t know they were into this and then met with them? And did it work?
I as a Dominant has been contacted by a couple to meet with the female who is Sub and I know them but I didn’t know they were into this lifestyle and I’m positive they don’t know I am either.
I certainly would enjoy meeting with her but should I take the opportunity? |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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How is you know its them and they dont know its you? Did they send you photos?
As you are in a D/s relationship I would assume you appreciate consent as well as the need for open and honest communication are key to a healthy dynamic.
With this in mind I would ensure they know its you before considering moving forward.
The other consideration is around what happens with your sibling if it goes wrong?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That would be pretty awkward if you turned up on their front doorstep and they were like we are expecting someone else. Cough you're not expecting anyone else we are who you are expecting  |
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"How is you know its them and they dont know its you? Did they send you photos?
As you are in a D/s relationship I would assume you appreciate consent as well as the need for open and honest communication are key to a healthy dynamic.
With this in mind I would ensure they know its you before considering moving forward.
The other consideration is around what happens with your sibling if it goes wrong?
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Yes they provide pics and me sending mine is the next step.
I certainly do appreciate being honest and open and think the relationship with my sister is something that is too close to home probably  |
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Yes they provide pics and me sending mine is the next step.
Don't you think they will be wondering why it is taking you so long to send a pic ?"
No as they are looking into a few scenarios at the moment that a pic would ruin. |
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"That would be pretty awkward if you turned up on their front doorstep and they were like we are expecting someone else. Cough you're not expecting anyone else we are who you are expecting "
I am leaning towards not meeting and just being honest and explaining I know them and how I do may become awkward. |
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Yes they provide pics and me sending mine is the next step.
Don't you think they will be wondering why it is taking you so long to send a pic ?
No as they are looking into a few scenarios at the moment that a pic would ruin."
Then you should walk away from it. It's really unfair to enter into something like this aware that you know them while they don't. If it was me and I discovered I'd be quite angry. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yes they provide pics and me sending mine is the next step.
Don't you think they will be wondering why it is taking you so long to send a pic ?
No as they are looking into a few scenarios at the moment that a pic would ruin.
Then you should walk away from it. It's really unfair to enter into something like this aware that you know them while they don't. If it was me and I discovered I'd be quite angry."
This. They need to be on the same page as you. If your plans would be ruined by a photo (presumably anonymity is key), then their friend's brother rocking up is also going to ruin it.
If you tell them up front, they might still be into it, or they might not. If you don't tell them, they will almost certainly be furious. |
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Yes they provide pics and me sending mine is the next step.
Don't you think they will be wondering why it is taking you so long to send a pic ?
No as they are looking into a few scenarios at the moment that a pic would ruin.
Then you should walk away from it. It's really unfair to enter into something like this aware that you know them while they don't. If it was me and I discovered I'd be quite angry.
This. They need to be on the same page as you. If your plans would be ruined by a photo (presumably anonymity is key), then their friend's brother rocking up is also going to ruin it.
If you tell them up front, they might still be into it, or they might not. If you don't tell them, they will almost certainly be furious."
At the moment their scenarios are firm, if was then there would be no question about having the conversation before progressing but after seeing the comments (which ty everyone) it’s as I expected that it’s all very twisted and tangled for it to even turn out worth it. |
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