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There are lots of great guys on here. But there are also a lot of dicks too. But, being a dick isnt gender specific. Women and couples can be too. Just seek out those profiles you want to chat to, who match preferences and ignore the rest x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Controversial....
However, gotta get a few things off my chest. I come across so many women's profiles that have a plethora of rules and regulations that read as if you're trying to get access into Area 51...
So many profiles that read like the following:-
" WOMEN - yes, yes, yes... the dirtier the better. Love a bi female who knows what she's doing"
COUPLES - Always down to play with couples, send me an invite etc etc blah blah
MEN - no cock pics, no speaking to me, do not message me, do not add me as a friend, do not fab any of my pictures, minimum 12 inch BBC please, must be 8 feet tall and above, must live round the corner as not willing to travel... anywhere. Must be single and have the patience of the pope, if I read your message and don't respond.. it's because you're an asshole, if I don't read your message.. it's because you're an asshole and I'm not attracted to you, if I do reply don't respond back otherwise I will delete you, block you etc.
Happy fabbing *rolls eye emoji*
Sorry to rant... it just gets tiresome. It's going to divide a lot of people and I'm sure there are going to be a lot of people (mainly women I'm guessing) who won't agree with this...
but is there anyone on here who kinda feels the same as me??
* NOT ALL SINGLE MEN ARE ARSEHOLES* - Give us a chance
Happy Fabbing (genuinely) \m/ x
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I’ve just started blocking as a means to filter them out |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There are lots of great guys on here. But there are also a lot of dicks too. But, being a dick isnt gender specific. Women and couples can be too. Just seek out those profiles you want to chat to, who match preferences and ignore the rest x"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ironic as you have a list of requirements as well  "
Yes I do however, I will read and respond to any message I get.. even if it's just a polite "thank you".
Everyone has preferences, of course they do, but I'm not a total dick about mine... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t reply to every message and more often than not, I’ll delete the message without even opening it.
And I feel absolutely no guilt about doing so and get no abuse for doing it either. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There are lots of great guys on here. But there are also a lot of dicks too. But, being a dick isnt gender specific. Women and couples can be too. Just seek out those profiles you want to chat to, who match preferences and ignore the rest x"
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A lot of women on here can't respond 'no thank you' to every mail they get. Would you want an inbox full of rejections? Then, there are the guys that ask why, the ones that turn abusive. It's in the FAQ's, no reply means not interested, harsh but delete your sent messages when you send them, dont dwell on them. If you get a reply, happy days, if you dont then the message isnt sitting in your sent folder annoying you x |
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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago
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"Ironic as you have a list of requirements as well
Yes I do however, I will read and respond to any message I get.. even if it's just a polite "thank you".
Everyone has preferences, of course they do, but I'm not a total dick about mine..."
Everyone's definition of a dick is different - you need to not take things too personally on here, contact the ones that you think you will fit in with, block the ones that you think you won't. It really is that simple. |
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"Controversial....
However, gotta get a few things off my chest. I come across so many women's profiles that have a plethora of rules and regulations that read as if you're trying to get access into Area 51...
So many profiles that read like the following:-
" WOMEN - yes, yes, yes... the dirtier the better. Love a bi female who knows what she's doing"
COUPLES - Always down to play with couples, send me an invite etc etc blah blah
MEN - no cock pics, no speaking to me, do not message me, do not add me as a friend, do not fab any of my pictures, minimum 12 inch BBC please, must be 8 feet tall and above, must live round the corner as not willing to travel... anywhere. Must be single and have the patience of the pope, if I read your message and don't respond.. it's because you're an asshole, if I don't read your message.. it's because you're an asshole and I'm not attracted to you, if I do reply don't respond back otherwise I will delete you, block you etc.
Happy fabbing *rolls eye emoji*
Sorry to rant... it just gets tiresome. It's going to divide a lot of people and I'm sure there are going to be a lot of people (mainly women I'm guessing) who won't agree with this...
but is there anyone on here who kinda feels the same as me??
* NOT ALL SINGLE MEN ARE ARSEHOLES* - Give us a chance
Happy Fabbing (genuinely) \m/ x
I’ve just started blocking as a means to filter them out "
I e heard this so much from guys I've had coffee meets with! Think the trouble is there are so many men on here the women get above them selves! Thinking they special where as in reality is just a numbers thing x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ironic as you have a list of requirements as well
Yes I do however, I will read and respond to any message I get.. even if it's just a polite "thank you".
Everyone has preferences, of course they do, but I'm not a total dick about mine...
Everyone's definition of a dick is different - you need to not take things too personally on here, contact the ones that you think you will fit in with, block the ones that you think you won't. It really is that simple."
Yeah I get you. Don't get me wrong, I'm not completely bent out of shape about it.. i just had to rant a little, that's all.
I do and am having decent conversations with a couple of decent people. But my general consensus is there seem to be a lot of woman's profiles where they don't give guys the time of day.
Should have been born a female lol   would have more chance of talking to girls |
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"Controversial....
However, gotta get a few things off my chest. I come across so many women's profiles that have a plethora of rules and regulations that read as if you're trying to get access into Area 51...
So many profiles that read like the following:-
" WOMEN - yes, yes, yes... the dirtier the better. Love a bi female who knows what she's doing"
COUPLES - Always down to play with couples, send me an invite etc etc blah blah
MEN - no cock pics, no speaking to me, do not message me, do not add me as a friend, do not fab any of my pictures, minimum 12 inch BBC please, must be 8 feet tall and above, must live round the corner as not willing to travel... anywhere. Must be single and have the patience of the pope, if I read your message and don't respond.. it's because you're an asshole, if I don't read your message.. it's because you're an asshole and I'm not attracted to you, if I do reply don't respond back otherwise I will delete you, block you etc.
Happy fabbing *rolls eye emoji*
Sorry to rant... it just gets tiresome. It's going to divide a lot of people and I'm sure there are going to be a lot of people (mainly women I'm guessing) who won't agree with this...
but is there anyone on here who kinda feels the same as me??
* NOT ALL SINGLE MEN ARE ARSEHOLES* - Give us a chance
Happy Fabbing (genuinely) \m/ x
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Being a female or couple on here the experience is totally different to what men have.
Some have a list in hope that their bio will be read and if you dont tick the boxes then you won't contact.
Alot of people moan that their messages are just deleted or they are blocked...but site faqs state no reply is a no thankyou and it's impossible to reply no thanks to the amount of messages we get and a reply often ends up with abuse. Believe me I have had lots of abuse but a simple no thanks but good luck..
It's a sad tale as alot of genuinly lovely guys don't get noticed because of the idiots that have ruined it in the past.
Just concentrate on the people that you do match with and leave the rest to their ranty profiles.
Oh and be patient...
Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Controversial....
However, gotta get a few things off my chest. I come across so many women's profiles that have a plethora of rules and regulations that read as if you're trying to get access into Area 51...
So many profiles that read like the following:-
" WOMEN - yes, yes, yes... the dirtier the better. Love a bi female who knows what she's doing"
COUPLES - Always down to play with couples, send me an invite etc etc blah blah
MEN - no cock pics, no speaking to me, do not message me, do not add me as a friend, do not fab any of my pictures, minimum 12 inch BBC please, must be 8 feet tall and above, must live round the corner as not willing to travel... anywhere. Must be single and have the patience of the pope, if I read your message and don't respond.. it's because you're an asshole, if I don't read your message.. it's because you're an asshole and I'm not attracted to you, if I do reply don't respond back otherwise I will delete you, block you etc.
Happy fabbing *rolls eye emoji*
Sorry to rant... it just gets tiresome. It's going to divide a lot of people and I'm sure there are going to be a lot of people (mainly women I'm guessing) who won't agree with this...
but is there anyone on here who kinda feels the same as me??
* NOT ALL SINGLE MEN ARE ARSEHOLES* - Give us a chance
Happy Fabbing (genuinely) \m/ x
Being a female or couple on here the experience is totally different to what men have.
Some have a list in hope that their bio will be read and if you dont tick the boxes then you won't contact.
Alot of people moan that their messages are just deleted or they are blocked...but site faqs state no reply is a no thankyou and it's impossible to reply no thanks to the amount of messages we get and a reply often ends up with abuse. Believe me I have had lots of abuse but a simple no thanks but good luck..
It's a sad tale as alot of genuinly lovely guys don't get noticed because of the idiots that have ruined it in the past.
Just concentrate on the people that you do match with and leave the rest to their ranty profiles.
Oh and be patient...
Good luck"
Thank you so much It's the decent people that make this site worthwhile |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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" OP comments are undeniably true.
I wait for the day when women are persistently chasing for the attention of guys here and sending unsolicited clit pics and "fancy a fuck" messages ."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Tbf - the rules for guys the op posted were actually quite funny "
I see angry profiles as a great filter.
I DON'T WANT TO WASTE MY TIME CHATTING TO ANGRY PEOPLE!!!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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the problem is as far as weve found, alot of men think this site is instashag, its not, swinging is so much more, dont get me wrong weve met some great guys, but also some total idiots, we get loads of messages every day from men who havnt read our profile, and its obviously a copy and past message.
the problem with this, is all men get tared with the same brush.
if you are honest and polite you will get meets, so dont givve up , it does happen, good luck |
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Tell you what OP, I'll post a new picture and you can run my inbox and see how quickly you get bored of replying to the dozens of FAF and "you're gorgeous" messages...not to mention the "but whyyyyyy? I'm better than any of the other men on here" and "well you're an ugly fat slag anyway, I was just being charitable in my last message" messages when you reply with a polite no thanks (or even just read them and don't reply). And that's not even including the ones with the graphic descriptions of exactly what they want to do to you, or the nasty ones telling you that you're rude for not responding in their desired time frame!
I'm quite sure if all men did this they'd see things from a ladies point of _iew pretty quickly 
Personally, I don't even look at my inbox a lot of the time, because it's not worth trawling through the the above and similar to find the one or two messages that may be of interest - if I'm looking to meet I'd rather search and message myself |
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"There are lots of great guys on here. But there are also a lot of dicks too. But, being a dick isnt gender specific. Women and couples can be too. Just seek out those profiles you want to chat to, who match preferences and ignore the rest x
This "
From a woman's point of _iew, I end up ignoring alot of people, even the good ones as I get too many crazy messages  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"the problem is as far as weve found, alot of men think this site is instashag, its not, swinging is so much more, dont get me wrong weve met some great guys, but also some total idiots, we get loads of messages every day from men who havnt read our profile, and its obviously a copy and past message.
the problem with this, is all men get tared with the same brush.
if you are honest and polite you will get meets, so dont givve up , it does happen, good luck"
Thank you I think this hits the nail on the head. I'm not a fan of copy and paste and I carefully read every profile and construct my message accordingly to the profile I'm pursuing.
You're right, ALL guys get painted with the same brush and this is my point... it's not fair for the decent, genuine guys out there who have a lot more to give than the chance they're getting in return. |
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"Tell you what OP, I'll post a new picture and you can run my inbox and see how quickly you get bored of replying to the dozens of FAF and "you're gorgeous" messages...not to mention the "but whyyyyyy? I'm better than any of the other men on here" and "well you're an ugly fat slag anyway, I was just being charitable in my last message" messages when you reply with a polite no thanks (or even just read them and don't reply). And that's not even including the ones with the graphic descriptions of exactly what they want to do to you, or the nasty ones telling you that you're rude for not responding in their desired time frame!
I'm quite sure if all men did this they'd see things from a ladies point of _iew pretty quickly
Personally, I don't even look at my inbox a lot of the time, because it's not worth trawling through the the above and similar to find the one or two messages that may be of interest - if I'm looking to meet I'd rather search and message myself "
yes I do this too... 1 in 10000 are actually ok to answer back to |
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"Tell you what OP, I'll post a new picture and you can run my inbox and see how quickly you get bored of replying to the dozens of FAF and "you're gorgeous" messages...not to mention the "but whyyyyyy? I'm better than any of the other men on here" and "well you're an ugly fat slag anyway, I was just being charitable in my last message" messages when you reply with a polite no thanks (or even just read them and don't reply). And that's not even including the ones with the graphic descriptions of exactly what they want to do to you, or the nasty ones telling you that you're rude for not responding in their desired time frame!
I'm quite sure if all men did this they'd see things from a ladies point of _iew pretty quickly
Personally, I don't even look at my inbox a lot of the time, because it's not worth trawling through the the above and similar to find the one or two messages that may be of interest - if I'm looking to meet I'd rather search and message myself "
And they’re just my messages |
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"the problem is as far as weve found, alot of men think this site is instashag, its not, swinging is so much more, dont get me wrong weve met some great guys, but also some total idiots, we get loads of messages every day from men who havnt read our profile, and its obviously a copy and past message.
the problem with this, is all men get tared with the same brush.
if you are honest and polite you will get meets, so dont givve up , it does happen, good luck
Thank you I think this hits the nail on the head. I'm not a fan of copy and paste and I carefully read every profile and construct my message accordingly to the profile I'm pursuing.
You're right, ALL guys get painted with the same brush and this is my point... it's not fair for the decent, genuine guys out there who have a lot more to give than the chance they're getting in return. "
but try wading through all the crazy messages. its like walking through a dense jungle at times. I literally have to hunt for men myself but I think men like to hunt too |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Tell you what OP, I'll post a new picture and you can run my inbox and see how quickly you get bored of replying to the dozens of FAF and "you're gorgeous" messages...not to mention the "but whyyyyyy? I'm better than any of the other men on here" and "well you're an ugly fat slag anyway, I was just being charitable in my last message" messages when you reply with a polite no thanks (or even just read them and don't reply). And that's not even including the ones with the graphic descriptions of exactly what they want to do to you, or the nasty ones telling you that you're rude for not responding in their desired time frame!
I'm quite sure if all men did this they'd see things from a ladies point of _iew pretty quickly
Personally, I don't even look at my inbox a lot of the time, because it's not worth trawling through the the above and similar to find the one or two messages that may be of interest - if I'm looking to meet I'd rather search and message myself "
Interesting and well presented case
I totally get that, I do.. but not all guys are assholes and their advances to you are gonna get lost in the wash.
I'd love to be in a position where my inbox is overflowing like yours.. I'm sure every guy can relate to that.
But funny thing is.. since posting this thread, I've had 12 new people _iew my profile... I'd be lucky if I got x1 new one a day.
Says a lot really doesn't it
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
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"the problem is as far as weve found, alot of men think this site is instashag, its not, swinging is so much more, dont get me wrong weve met some great guys, but also some total idiots, we get loads of messages every day from men who havnt read our profile, and its obviously a copy and past message.
the problem with this, is all men get tared with the same brush.
if you are honest and polite you will get meets, so dont givve up , it does happen, good luck
Thank you I think this hits the nail on the head. I'm not a fan of copy and paste and I carefully read every profile and construct my message accordingly to the profile I'm pursuing.
You're right, ALL guys get painted with the same brush and this is my point... it's not fair for the decent, genuine guys out there who have a lot more to give than the chance they're getting in return.
but try wading through all the crazy messages. its like walking through a dense jungle at times. I literally have to hunt for men myself but I think men like to hunt too"
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"Tell you what OP, I'll post a new picture and you can run my inbox and see how quickly you get bored of replying to the dozens of FAF and "you're gorgeous" messages...not to mention the "but whyyyyyy? I'm better than any of the other men on here" and "well you're an ugly fat slag anyway, I was just being charitable in my last message" messages when you reply with a polite no thanks (or even just read them and don't reply). And that's not even including the ones with the graphic descriptions of exactly what they want to do to you, or the nasty ones telling you that you're rude for not responding in their desired time frame!
I'm quite sure if all men did this they'd see things from a ladies point of _iew pretty quickly
Personally, I don't even look at my inbox a lot of the time, because it's not worth trawling through the the above and similar to find the one or two messages that may be of interest - if I'm looking to meet I'd rather search and message myself
Interesting and well presented case
I totally get that, I do.. but not all guys are assholes and their advances to you are gonna get lost in the wash.
I'd love to be in a position where my inbox is overflowing like yours.. I'm sure every guy can relate to that.
But funny thing is.. since posting this thread, I've had 12 new people _iew my profile... I'd be lucky if I got x1 new one a day.
Says a lot really doesn't it
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And the penny has dropped
A lot of guys that use the forum regularly are what could be classed as successful on here. Why? Because us ladies on here can see their personality, notice their profile without searching, and a forum post gives an easy excuse to send a message |
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Everybody on here has a balance to strike. Ask for too much and don't find anybody suitable, or set no standards and end up with somebody you are not attracted to.
It's up to each individual or couple to decide where on that spectrum they want to put themselves. They should understand and accept the consequences of their decision.
I wouldn't have a gripe about anybody's choice. That's up to them. I would have a gripe about somebody not accepting the result of that choice, or people who think they should have a say in what choice somebody else should make. |
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over a year ago
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I dont understand why someone listing what they want is an issue.
Better that than some check list coming in a 3rd or 4th mail....
Then again I work off the assumption noone wants to fuck me so after that everything is a bonus |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I apologise for the original post, and then removing it.
At the time I posted it... thoughts were fresh but then I removed it because I felt maybe I was being a tad irrational. But then again, it causes great debate. So here is the original post as it was intended:- (shame I can't pin it back to the top)
Controversial....
However, gotta get a few things off my chest. I come across so many women's profiles that have a plethora of rules and regulations that read as if you're trying to get access into Area 51...
So many profiles that read like the following:-
" WOMEN - yes, yes, yes... the dirtier the better. Love a bi female who knows what she's doing"
COUPLES - Always down to play with couples, send me an invite etc etc blah blah
MEN - no cock pics, no speaking to me, do not message me, do not add me as a friend, do not fab any of my pictures, minimum 12 inch BBC please, must be 8 feet tall and above, must live round the corner as not willing to travel... anywhere. Must be single and have the patience of the pope, if I read your message and don't respond.. it's because you're an asshole, if I don't read your message.. it's because you're an asshole and I'm not attracted to you, if I do reply don't respond back otherwise I will delete you, block you etc.
Happy fabbing *rolls eye emoji*
Sorry to rant... it just gets tiresome. It's going to divide a lot of people and I'm sure there are going to be a lot of people (mainly women I'm guessing) who won't agree with this...
but is there anyone on here who kinda feels the same as me??
* NOT ALL SINGLE MEN ARE ARSEHOLES* - Give us a chance
Happy Fabbing (genuinely) \m/ x |
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"Tell you what OP, I'll post a new picture and you can run my inbox and see how quickly you get bored of replying to the dozens of FAF and "you're gorgeous" messages...not to mention the "but whyyyyyy? I'm better than any of the other men on here" and "well you're an ugly fat slag anyway, I was just being charitable in my last message" messages when you reply with a polite no thanks (or even just read them and don't reply). And that's not even including the ones with the graphic descriptions of exactly what they want to do to you, or the nasty ones telling you that you're rude for not responding in their desired time frame!
I'm quite sure if all men did this they'd see things from a ladies point of _iew pretty quickly
Personally, I don't even look at my inbox a lot of the time, because it's not worth trawling through the the above and similar to find the one or two messages that may be of interest - if I'm looking to meet I'd rather search and message myself
Interesting and well presented case
I totally get that, I do.. but not all guys are assholes and their advances to you are gonna get lost in the wash.
I'd love to be in a position where my inbox is overflowing like yours.. I'm sure every guy can relate to that.
But funny thing is.. since posting this thread, I've had 12 new people _iew my profile... I'd be lucky if I got x1 new one a day.
Says a lot really doesn't it
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Interacting on the forums is a good way to attract _iews to your profile, an A good way to allow your personality to shine through.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't say it's fair or unfair.
I would say the same thing to both men and women. If fab is that bad, you can leave. If not stop complaining about guys doing what they do and guys stop complaining about what women do.
All groups have arseholes in them, guys stop complaining about not getting a reply and women stop complaining about there not being able to find any good guys.
That's my rant over for the day. Now why has no one replied to my messages and why are all the guys sending me dick pics! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Tell you what OP, I'll post a new picture and you can run my inbox and see how quickly you get bored of replying to the dozens of FAF and "you're gorgeous" messages...not to mention the "but whyyyyyy? I'm better than any of the other men on here" and "well you're an ugly fat slag anyway, I was just being charitable in my last message" messages when you reply with a polite no thanks (or even just read them and don't reply). And that's not even including the ones with the graphic descriptions of exactly what they want to do to you, or the nasty ones telling you that you're rude for not responding in their desired time frame!
I'm quite sure if all men did this they'd see things from a ladies point of _iew pretty quickly
Personally, I don't even look at my inbox a lot of the time, because it's not worth trawling through the the above and similar to find the one or two messages that may be of interest - if I'm looking to meet I'd rather search and message myself
Interesting and well presented case
I totally get that, I do.. but not all guys are assholes and their advances to you are gonna get lost in the wash.
I'd love to be in a position where my inbox is overflowing like yours.. I'm sure every guy can relate to that.
But funny thing is.. since posting this thread, I've had 12 new people _iew my profile... I'd be lucky if I got x1 new one a day.
Says a lot really doesn't it
And the penny has dropped
A lot of guys that use the forum regularly are what could be classed as successful on here. Why? Because us ladies on here can see their personality, notice their profile without searching, and a forum post gives an easy excuse to send a message "
Noted, and thank you I wasn't being sarcastic either, it was a genuine observation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I apologise for the original post, and then removing it.
At the time I posted it... thoughts were fresh but then I removed it because I felt maybe I was being a tad irrational. But then again, it causes great debate. So here is the original post as it was intended:- (shame I can't pin it back to the top)
Controversial....
However, gotta get a few things off my chest. I come across so many women's profiles that have a plethora of rules and regulations that read as if you're trying to get access into Area 51...
So many profiles that read like the following:-
" WOMEN - yes, yes, yes... the dirtier the better. Love a bi female who knows what she's doing"
COUPLES - Always down to play with couples, send me an invite etc etc blah blah
MEN - no cock pics, no speaking to me, do not message me, do not add me as a friend, do not fab any of my pictures, minimum 12 inch BBC please, must be 8 feet tall and above, must live round the corner as not willing to travel... anywhere. Must be single and have the patience of the pope, if I read your message and don't respond.. it's because you're an asshole, if I don't read your message.. it's because you're an asshole and I'm not attracted to you, if I do reply don't respond back otherwise I will delete you, block you etc.
Happy fabbing *rolls eye emoji*
Sorry to rant... it just gets tiresome. It's going to divide a lot of people and I'm sure there are going to be a lot of people (mainly women I'm guessing) who won't agree with this...
but is there anyone on here who kinda feels the same as me??
* NOT ALL SINGLE MEN ARE ARSEHOLES* - Give us a chance
Happy Fabbing (genuinely) \m/ x"
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"I wouldn't say it's fair or unfair.
I would say the same thing to both men and women. If fab is that bad, you can leave. If not stop complaining about guys doing what they do and guys stop complaining about what women do.
All groups have arseholes in them, guys stop complaining about not getting a reply and women stop complaining about there not being able to find any good guys.
That's my rant over for the day. Now why has no one replied to my messages and why are all the guys sending me dick pics!"
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"the problem is as far as weve found, alot of men think this site is instashag, its not, swinging is so much more, dont get me wrong weve met some great guys, but also some total idiots, we get loads of messages every day from men who havnt read our profile, and its obviously a copy and past message.
the problem with this, is all men get tared with the same brush.
if you are honest and polite you will get meets, so dont givve up , it does happen, good luck
Thank you I think this hits the nail on the head. I'm not a fan of copy and paste and I carefully read every profile and construct my message accordingly to the profile I'm pursuing.
You're right, ALL guys get painted with the same brush and this is my point... it's not fair for the decent, genuine guys out there who have a lot more to give than the chance they're getting in return.
but try wading through all the crazy messages. its like walking through a dense jungle at times. I literally have to hunt for men myself but I think men like to hunt too"
If it's any help if you just untick all your 'looking for' boxes you won't show in searches or who's near and can just do the looking yourself without having to hide your profile. I find it a nice, chilled way to do things. |
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"I apologise for the original post, and then removing it.
At the time I posted it... thoughts were fresh but then I removed it because I felt maybe I was being a tad irrational. But then again, it causes great debate. So here is the original post as it was intended:- (shame I can't pin it back to the top)
Controversial....
However, gotta get a few things off my chest. I come across so many women's profiles that have a plethora of rules and regulations that read as if you're trying to get access into Area 51...
So many profiles that read like the following:-
" WOMEN - yes, yes, yes... the dirtier the better. Love a bi female who knows what she's doing"
COUPLES - Always down to play with couples, send me an invite etc etc blah blah
MEN - no cock pics, no speaking to me, do not message me, do not add me as a friend, do not fab any of my pictures, minimum 12 inch BBC please, must be 8 feet tall and above, must live round the corner as not willing to travel... anywhere. Must be single and have the patience of the pope, if I read your message and don't respond.. it's because you're an asshole, if I don't read your message.. it's because you're an asshole and I'm not attracted to you, if I do reply don't respond back otherwise I will delete you, block you etc.
Happy fabbing *rolls eye emoji*
Sorry to rant... it just gets tiresome. It's going to divide a lot of people and I'm sure there are going to be a lot of people (mainly women I'm guessing) who won't agree with this...
but is there anyone on here who kinda feels the same as me??
* NOT ALL SINGLE MEN ARE ARSEHOLES* - Give us a chance
Happy Fabbing (genuinely) \m/ x
You seem cheerful in the rest of the thread. Do you feel better for ranting?
I think it's a great rant! "
Yes, I do just had to get it off my chest. It's a shame a personality doesn't come through in a profile.. I'm not a creepy weirdo, not a sex pest... just a normal guy looking for a good time.
I don't bite that hard, unless you want me to. Lol |
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Don’t take the rant profiles personally, it’s often directed to guys who haven’t put in an effort with their messages or profile.
Those guys aren’t doing you any favours by clogging up the women’s inboxes, so your message gets lost amongst the dross.
You’ve put in an effort so hopefully you’ll eventually get some interest, as this post seems to achieved for you
Don’t forget women do look in stealth, so you’ll never actually know how many have checked you out
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"Tell you what OP, I'll post a new picture and you can run my inbox and see how quickly you get bored of replying to the dozens of FAF and "you're gorgeous" messages...not to mention the "but whyyyyyy? I'm better than any of the other men on here" and "well you're an ugly fat slag anyway, I was just being charitable in my last message" messages when you reply with a polite no thanks (or even just read them and don't reply). And that's not even including the ones with the graphic descriptions of exactly what they want to do to you, or the nasty ones telling you that you're rude for not responding in their desired time frame!
I'm quite sure if all men did this they'd see things from a ladies point of _iew pretty quickly
Personally, I don't even look at my inbox a lot of the time, because it's not worth trawling through the the above and similar to find the one or two messages that may be of interest - if I'm looking to meet I'd rather search and message myself
Interesting and well presented case
I totally get that, I do.. but not all guys are assholes and their advances to you are gonna get lost in the wash.
I'd love to be in a position where my inbox is overflowing like yours.. I'm sure every guy can relate to that.
But funny thing is.. since posting this thread, I've had 12 new people _iew my profile... I'd be lucky if I got x1 new one a day.
Says a lot really doesn't it
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You could argue that a lot of men do the same to women by assuming we're all gagging for it and only here to satisfy any random guys needs. We're not and the better men know that. There's always going to be an imbalance but it's how you conduct yourself that's important, ignore profiles you see as ranty, you'd not want to meet them anyway so at least you know upfront their not your type... I reply to most but those I get grief from? I just think phew tf that didn't go further lol x |
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By Capital JayFind posts by Capital Jay Man
just this minute!
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OP - bear in mind guys out number women dramatically here, and men generally have a tendency to bomb their inboxes.
Don't take it personal when you get no replies, like any of us they are only going to reply to ones that appeal to them if the tables were turned. |
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"Tell you what OP, I'll post a new picture and you can run my inbox and see how quickly you get bored of replying to the dozens of FAF and "you're gorgeous" messages...not to mention the "but whyyyyyy? I'm better than any of the other men on here" and "well you're an ugly fat slag anyway, I was just being charitable in my last message" messages when you reply with a polite no thanks (or even just read them and don't reply). And that's not even including the ones with the graphic descriptions of exactly what they want to do to you, or the nasty ones telling you that you're rude for not responding in their desired time frame!
I'm quite sure if all men did this they'd see things from a ladies point of _iew pretty quickly
Personally, I don't even look at my inbox a lot of the time, because it's not worth trawling through the the above and similar to find the one or two messages that may be of interest - if I'm looking to meet I'd rather search and message myself
Interesting and well presented case
I totally get that, I do.. but not all guys are assholes and their advances to you are gonna get lost in the wash.
I'd love to be in a position where my inbox is overflowing like yours.. I'm sure every guy can relate to that.
But funny thing is.. since posting this thread, I've had 12 new people _iew my profile... I'd be lucky if I got x1 new one a day.
Says a lot really doesn't it
You could argue that a lot of men do the same to women by assuming we're all gagging for it and only here to satisfy any random guys needs. We're not and the better men know that. There's always going to be an imbalance but it's how you conduct yourself that's important, ignore profiles you see as ranty, you'd not want to meet them anyway so at least you know upfront their not your type... I reply to most but those I get grief from? I just think phew tf that didn't go further lol x"
Agreed, that's a great way of thinking about it. I guess sometimes I just feel like I'm not getting the necessary responses or genuine attention from profiles I genuinely feel there could be something... but I don't get a look in.
It's tough to make a profile stand out, without it getting swept under the carpet. I mean am I really that unattractive or bland?? lol |
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Noted, and thank you I wasn't being sarcastic either, it was a genuine observation. "
My reply may have had a tinge of sarcasm
But I do understand where you're coming from, and I do genuinely feel for single guys on here because their messages will and do get lost in the deluge of shite in women's inboxes.
Your personality is coming through on this thread OP, so perhaps stick around the forums a while (minus the ranting ) and see if that makes a difference |
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"Tell you what OP, I'll post a new picture and you can run my inbox and see how quickly you get bored of replying to the dozens of FAF and "you're gorgeous" messages...not to mention the "but whyyyyyy? I'm better than any of the other men on here" and "well you're an ugly fat slag anyway, I was just being charitable in my last message" messages when you reply with a polite no thanks (or even just read them and don't reply). And that's not even including the ones with the graphic descriptions of exactly what they want to do to you, or the nasty ones telling you that you're rude for not responding in their desired time frame!
I'm quite sure if all men did this they'd see things from a ladies point of _iew pretty quickly
Personally, I don't even look at my inbox a lot of the time, because it's not worth trawling through the the above and similar to find the one or two messages that may be of interest - if I'm looking to meet I'd rather search and message myself
Interesting and well presented case
I totally get that, I do.. but not all guys are assholes and their advances to you are gonna get lost in the wash.
I'd love to be in a position where my inbox is overflowing like yours.. I'm sure every guy can relate to that.
But funny thing is.. since posting this thread, I've had 12 new people _iew my profile... I'd be lucky if I got x1 new one a day.
Says a lot really doesn't it
You could argue that a lot of men do the same to women by assuming we're all gagging for it and only here to satisfy any random guys needs. We're not and the better men know that. There's always going to be an imbalance but it's how you conduct yourself that's important, ignore profiles you see as ranty, you'd not want to meet them anyway so at least you know upfront their not your type... I reply to most but those I get grief from? I just think phew tf that didn't go further lol x
Agreed, that's a great way of thinking about it. I guess sometimes I just feel like I'm not getting the necessary responses or genuine attention from profiles I genuinely feel there could be something... but I don't get a look in.
It's tough to make a profile stand out, without it getting swept under the carpet. I mean am I really that unattractive or bland?? lol"
Well, you have KAPOW in your text so to me that caught my eye cause I've a batman thing so lol ya just never know what's gonna catch the eye ^^0^^ |
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Who has treated you unfairly op? Everyone is different, including their preferences.
If others break site rules, report them to Admin. Otherwise, everything is a reflection of life, where the fittest adapt and prosper. |
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Noted, and thank you I wasn't being sarcastic either, it was a genuine observation.
My reply may have had a tinge of sarcasm
But I do understand where you're coming from, and I do genuinely feel for single guys on here because their messages will and do get lost in the deluge of shite in women's inboxes.
Your personality is coming through on this thread OP, so perhaps stick around the forums a while (minus the ranting ) and see if that makes a difference "
I'll keep the ranting in check lol not my normal conduction but thank you. I won't be a stranger x |
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It's tough to make a profile stand out, without it getting swept under the carpet. I mean am I really that unattractive or bland?? lol"
Well your personality is shining through on this thread. And trust me you would have had lots more veiws than you think. (Stealth mode for alot of us) lol..
Definatly NOT unattractive or bland..
Keep at it OP.. |
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With about 12 years experience at this lark as both a couple and single, I feel my _iew counts for something,
The scene is tribal, all scenes are and sex is no different. There will be a huge amount of people who come across as rude, thick, arrogant etc, but actually, and frustrating as it is, it just means they're not your people.
Fabswingers brings a cross-section of society together, and we all have varying _iews, ideals, standpoints and dynamics we're working with so finding people you get along with is going to take time and effort.
Rudeness is borne out of experience - the same as pigeon-holing men as being the problem on here. They aren't the sole reason Fabswingers has become a battle-ground of rudeness and abuse, everyone has a responsibility, but everyone has a different experience, all of them valid and noteworthy.
Couples can be VERY entitled on here, and come across as rude & arrogant way more than the men on here. Most of them don't even know they're part of the problem (see demands etc). That said, as a couple it can be very trying, time consuming and downright boring reading all the crappy messages from men. You see the vicious circle appearing...
This is a long winded subject I could go on about all afternoon! |
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Noted, and thank you I wasn't being sarcastic either, it was a genuine observation.
My reply may have had a tinge of sarcasm
But I do understand where you're coming from, and I do genuinely feel for single guys on here because their messages will and do get lost in the deluge of shite in women's inboxes.
Your personality is coming through on this thread OP, so perhaps stick around the forums a while (minus the ranting ) and see if that makes a difference "
Maybe we should have a rant quota for a month? Everyone needs a good rant now and again? |
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"Tell you what OP, I'll post a new picture and you can run my inbox and see how quickly you get bored of replying to the dozens of FAF and "you're gorgeous" messages...not to mention the "but whyyyyyy? I'm better than any of the other men on here" and "well you're an ugly fat slag anyway, I was just being charitable in my last message" messages when you reply with a polite no thanks (or even just read them and don't reply). And that's not even including the ones with the graphic descriptions of exactly what they want to do to you, or the nasty ones telling you that you're rude for not responding in their desired time frame!
I'm quite sure if all men did this they'd see things from a ladies point of _iew pretty quickly
Personally, I don't even look at my inbox a lot of the time, because it's not worth trawling through the the above and similar to find the one or two messages that may be of interest - if I'm looking to meet I'd rather search and message myself
Interesting and well presented case
I totally get that, I do.. but not all guys are assholes and their advances to you are gonna get lost in the wash.
I'd love to be in a position where my inbox is overflowing like yours.. I'm sure every guy can relate to that.
But funny thing is.. since posting this thread, I've had 12 new people _iew my profile... I'd be lucky if I got x1 new one a day.
Says a lot really doesn't it
You could argue that a lot of men do the same to women by assuming we're all gagging for it and only here to satisfy any random guys needs. We're not and the better men know that. There's always going to be an imbalance but it's how you conduct yourself that's important, ignore profiles you see as ranty, you'd not want to meet them anyway so at least you know upfront their not your type... I reply to most but those I get grief from? I just think phew tf that didn't go further lol x
Agreed, that's a great way of thinking about it. I guess sometimes I just feel like I'm not getting the necessary responses or genuine attention from profiles I genuinely feel there could be something... but I don't get a look in.
It's tough to make a profile stand out, without it getting swept under the carpet. I mean am I really that unattractive or bland?? lol"
just because you think there may be a conection, they might not, and women and couples get loads of messages, and some understandably dont want to spend all day saying no, so they just delete, dont take it personaly, we found the best thing is to get out to socials etc, that way people can make thier own minds up about you, a random message cant do that |
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" Well, you have KAPOW in your text so to me that caught my eye cause I've a batman thing so lol ya just never know what's gonna catch the eye ^^0^^"
"Holy double ended dildo, Batman" |
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it's a swingers site not sluts R us
Have patience, chill and enjoy the banter in the forums.
I can only imagine that Throwing your toys out of the pram never ever made any fab lady want to meet up |
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"[Removed by poster at 30/08/20 12:31:48]
it's a swingers site not sluts R us
Have patience, chill and enjoy the banter in the forums.
I can only imagine that Throwing your toys out of the pram never ever made any fab lady want to meet up"
So many think it is sluts for us. I’ve even found ones that I thought didn’t think that way often do. |
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I feel for you - I know it must get annoying but the numbers are against you without putting a lot of effort in.
I’m not everyone’s cup of tea but I get a lot of attention because I am a single woman. However there is only a very small percentage of men that fit what I am looking for.
So a good percentage are great men who message me but I’m not looking for 20 men - just one. |
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"I feel for you - I know it must get annoying but the numbers are against you without putting a lot of effort in.
I’m not everyone’s cup of tea but I get a lot of attention because I am a single woman. However there is only a very small percentage of men that fit what I am looking for.
So a good percentage are great men who message me but I’m not looking for 20 men - just one."
Same really... but in a woman, not a man lol |
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You seem cheerful in the rest of the thread. Do you feel better for ranting?
I think it's a great rant!
Yes, I do just had to get it off my chest. It's a shame a personality doesn't come through in a profile.. I'm not a creepy weirdo, not a sex pest... just a normal guy looking for a good time.
I don't bite that hard, unless you want me to. Lol"
I never look at profiles, I'm a weirdo.
Just had a look at yours- you're hot and don't come across as creepy or weird. Chin up. |
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A lot of guys seem to make the fundamental mistake that all women on this site are sitting at home just gagging for the first cock to appear in her inbox Just because they are sexy by nature.
Girls receive 100's of messages a day and some 1000's and they have the right to pick and choose who they'd like to chat too.
If they replied to every dick then they'd spent all day just doing that so to trying to minimise unwanted attention is only right by stating who and what they are looking for. If that's not you then its no use crying about it?
I think some guys are lost on the idea of swinging and think all the girls should lay down before them with legs open wide in thanks...
This isn't fabwhores and we outnumber them by 100's to 1 so if you think your going to get a chat or a meet with a "Hey baby its your lucky day..!" attitude then you'll be very disappointed, guess what they already heard that 200 times yesterday along with a few of the classics like "hey, I want to shit on your face in your bath" and "I'm in your area tomorrow, heres a pic of my cock... interested?"
When you realise they are getting texts like that surely you can see you've got to be a little more inventive and respectful
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"Sometimes I also think I’m super unattractive because I hardly get reply. I don’t know why. "
You're a nice looking bloke. Most men don't get replies- don't let it get you down. |
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"A lot of guys seem to make the fundamental mistake that all women on this site are sitting at home just gagging for the first cock to appear in her inbox Just because they are sexy by nature.
Girls receive 100's of messages a day and some 1000's and they have the right to pick and choose who they'd like to chat too.
If they replied to every dick then they'd spent all day just doing that so to trying to minimise unwanted attention is only right by stating who and what they are looking for. If that's not you then its no use crying about it?
I think some guys are lost on the idea of swinging and think all the girls should lay down before them with legs open wide in thanks...
This isn't fabwhores and we outnumber them by 100's to 1 so if you think your going to get a chat or a meet with a "Hey baby its your lucky day..!" attitude then you'll be very disappointed, guess what they already heard that 200 times yesterday along with a few of the classics like "hey, I want to shit on your face in your bath" and "I'm in your area tomorrow, heres a pic of my cock... interested?"
When you realise they are getting texts like that surely you can see you've got to be a little more inventive and respectful
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This is the thing though... I AM being inventive and respectful.
However... I would never shit on your face in the bath. I'm more a shower person
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"Sometimes I also think I’m super unattractive because I hardly get reply. I don’t know why.
You're a nice looking bloke. Most men don't get replies- don't let it get you down. "
Thank you, that's made me feel better x |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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I try and treat people how they treat me here, so I will always reply to a well written message or profile. Sadly I don't get v many of those, I don't meet women so can't comment on them, so my experience is of single men and couples and both have good and bad who don't read profiles and send messages, even when they don't fit what you look for.
Men do often get bad press on here, purely because there are so many and frustration can lead to them sending nasty messages or messages to all in the area etc.
Don't let it put you off, speak to people as people and it will pay off. |
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Well, you have KAPOW in your text so to me that caught my eye cause I've a batman thing so lol ya just never know what's gonna catch the eye ^^0^^
"Holy double ended dildo, Batman""
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"[Removed by poster at 30/08/20 12:31:48]
it's a swingers site not sluts R us
Have patience, chill and enjoy the banter in the forums.
I can only imagine that Throwing your toys out of the pram never ever made any fab lady want to meet up"
Yeah adding to the toy r us brand with the sluts r us was the beginning of the end for the brand. |
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"A lot of guys seem to make the fundamental mistake that all women on this site are sitting at home just gagging for the first cock to appear in her inbox Just because they are sexy by nature.
Girls receive 100's of messages a day and some 1000's and they have the right to pick and choose who they'd like to chat too.
If they replied to every dick then they'd spent all day just doing that so to trying to minimise unwanted attention is only right by stating who and what they are looking for. If that's not you then its no use crying about it?
I think some guys are lost on the idea of swinging and think all the girls should lay down before them with legs open wide in thanks...
This isn't fabwhores and we outnumber them by 100's to 1 so if you think your going to get a chat or a meet with a "Hey baby its your lucky day..!" attitude then you'll be very disappointed, guess what they already heard that 200 times yesterday along with a few of the classics like "hey, I want to shit on your face in your bath" and "I'm in your area tomorrow, heres a pic of my cock... interested?"
When you realise they are getting texts like that surely you can see you've got to be a little more inventive and respectful
This is the thing though... I AM being inventive and respectful.
However... I would never shit on your face in the bath. I'm more a shower person
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Don't try so hard. That usually comes across as pretty lame |
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"A lot of guys seem to make the fundamental mistake that all women on this site are sitting at home just gagging for the first cock to appear in her inbox Just because they are sexy by nature.
Girls receive 100's of messages a day and some 1000's and they have the right to pick and choose who they'd like to chat too.
If they replied to every dick then they'd spent all day just doing that so to trying to minimise unwanted attention is only right by stating who and what they are looking for. If that's not you then its no use crying about it?
I think some guys are lost on the idea of swinging and think all the girls should lay down before them with legs open wide in thanks...
This isn't fabwhores and we outnumber them by 100's to 1 so if you think your going to get a chat or a meet with a "Hey baby its your lucky day..!" attitude then you'll be very disappointed, guess what they already heard that 200 times yesterday along with a few of the classics like "hey, I want to shit on your face in your bath" and "I'm in your area tomorrow, heres a pic of my cock... interested?"
When you realise they are getting texts like that surely you can see you've got to be a little more inventive and respectful
This is the thing though... I AM being inventive and respectful.
However... I would never shit on your face in the bath. I'm more a shower person
"
Lol it wasn't a dig at you OP but a general observation I'm sure your not like that at all.
Posting on threads and chatting on the forums helps, girls can see a little more of what your about in the remarks you make and a better insight to your persona. Some you'll click with and others not so but keep your sense of humour and either response can be fun |
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By *abioMan
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You're right, ALL guys get painted with the same brush and this is my point... it's not fair for the decent, genuine guys out there who have a lot more to give than the chance they're getting in return. "
these are the most frustrating words for me because its not true... thats a kop out! it puts the blame everywhere else rather than looking in the mirror!
you dont affect my chances of meeting like i don't affect yours.....
i think sometimes its a mindset issue where too many people think they are owed just for being here.....
their bodies, their rules... don't like em, move on!!! just because you "think" you meet someones criteria doesn't mean they see it the same way!!!
everyone has their own uniques selling point... you, and you know you best! so why should someone meet you over a.n.other?
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"Ironic as you have a list of requirements as well
Yes I do however, I will read and respond to any message I get.. even if it's just a polite "thank you".
Everyone has preferences, of course they do, but I'm not a total dick about mine..."
The thing is, you might get a few messages. Some people get a few hundred. We have requirements made very clear to people, it's down to them to read them. We can tell whether someone has or not by their own profile before even reading their message - the easiest one being if a single guy is listed as straight. We are not interested in straight guys. They still try it though, usually with the "I'm bi really" routine - again, not interested in those unable to be themselves.
Whenever we put up a new pic or vid we're guaranteed to get a few dozen messages pretty quick. It becomes a chore reading through them all and takes the fun out of the site. Plenty will understand and agree with this. If people are coming to us wanting a bit, at least meet our requirements!! The sad truth is 99% of the time it's single straight guys who don't.
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You're right, ALL guys get painted with the same brush and this is my point... it's not fair for the decent, genuine guys out there who have a lot more to give than the chance they're getting in return.
these are the most frustrating words for me because its not true... thats a kop out! it puts the blame everywhere else rather than looking in the mirror!
you dont affect my chances of meeting like i don't affect yours.....
i think sometimes its a mindset issue where too many people think they are owed just for being here.....
their bodies, their rules... don't like em, move on!!! just because you "think" you meet someones criteria doesn't mean they see it the same way!!!
everyone has their own uniques selling point... you, and you know you best! so why should someone meet you over a.n.other?
the site gives you the tools to make it work... only you know how to unlock that key!"
Actually, it's true for me and other women say the same. Actual real life women on here who I've met in real life.
I start off thinking I'll open up my profile and see who mails. Then after a load of crap disrespectful messages it turns me right off and I don't want to speak to ANY men.
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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Over the years, I have been a dick at times and been fairly sanctioned for it. No one has been unfair to me, I have made my own success on here, I know my self worth and will always conduct myself as an equal. The fawning guys think they need to do to get on is the biggest mistake they can make. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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The thing is OP, as you're finding out, the only person that "ruins" anything for you on here, is you - everyone that joins the site has it within their own disposal to have good experiences from it - without being reliant on the actions of others.
The key is finding the way that works best for you - yes things like profile and pics are key, and the first thing to look at if you're struggling, but it goes way beyond that in reality - the site isn't all about sending messages cold to profiles - there are many other ways to use it, the forums, the chat rooms, attending group socials etc can all be great ways to get to know people and them get to know you.
I've sent precisely 6 unsolicited messages (in 4 years) to people that have taken my interest here, and haven't met a single one of them (although I did get replies from 5) and yet I'm more than happy with my experience of the site, because I found a way to use the site to my advantage rather than me having to work for the site.
Yeah there are *some* out there who don't get it and who do send abuse and totally the wrong type of message, but rather than blaming them, perhaps look at it that you should possibly be thanking them for helping you to stand out - which is the flip side of "idiots ruin it for everyone else" argument.
Yes there is a number imbalance between men and women, but if you take away those who are clueless as to how to approach the site then the number is more balanced, and while that doesn't guarantee anything on its own, if you then factor in finding the right approach, things start to tip in your favour. |
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We have single males blocked from messaging, if we are looking for a single male then we will approach those of interest to us or sometimes briefly turn off the filter. It saves us having to deal with the deluge of unwanted, & often totally inane or inappropriate, messages on a daily basis.
We generally try to respond politely to all messages from couples, but even that isn't always easy as often the messages are generic one liners that don't really encourage a reply let alone an indepth conversation.
I think on Fab it is important to just be true to yourself, forget about what others do, put effort in to messaging people whose profiles seem to be a match for what you are looking for, & have realistic expectations. It takes time, patience and a thick skin, but it can also be a lot of fun.
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Oh I'm resilient and have a thick skin, that doesn't bother me. It was merely just pointing out a general observation shared by many many women... these massive disclaimers putting men off from even sending a message.. I just feel that men were getting a slightly unfair treatment x |
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At the end of the day, women can post what they want on your profiles and as you are already doing so, you can choose whether to engage with them or not based on this. Personally I would say your frustration is put in the wrong place. If I was a guy, I'd be mad at the dickheads of my gender who make life harder for the rest by making women feel they need to be like that. |
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"At the end of the day, women can post what they want on your profiles and as you are already doing so, you can choose whether to engage with them or not based on this. Personally I would say your frustration is put in the wrong place. If I was a guy, I'd be mad at the dickheads of my gender who make life harder for the rest by making women feel they need to be like that. "
Amen to this... |
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Noted, and thank you I wasn't being sarcastic either, it was a genuine observation.
My reply may have had a tinge of sarcasm
But I do understand where you're coming from, and I do genuinely feel for single guys on here because their messages will and do get lost in the deluge of shite in women's inboxes.
Your personality is coming through on this thread OP, so perhaps stick around the forums a while (minus the ranting ) and see if that makes a difference
I'll keep the ranting in check lol not my normal conduction but thank you. I won't be a stranger x"
It gets tiresome when women say " must be single?"
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Oh I'm resilient and have a thick skin, that doesn't bother me. It was merely just pointing out a general observation shared by many many women... these massive disclaimers putting men off from even sending a message.. I just feel that men were getting a slightly unfair treatment x"
Thing is though, how is it "unfair treatment" if someone chooses to have a profile how *they* choose to word it? As a reader of that profile you have two choices - choose to send a message whilst accepting it may not get a reply, or move on to a profile that is more to your taste. So not sure how that is unfair?
Suggesting it is unfair indicates a sense of entitlement in the mix that a reply should be given, or a meet should be arranged?
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OP whoever told you about Fab forgot to mention it’s not a sex site where every woman is desperate to meet YOU.
It’s a swingers site and everyone is hear for their own reason. If that’s “unfair treatment” I’m a monkey’s uncle |
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"Ironic as you have a list of requirements as well
Yes I do however, I will read and respond to any message I get.. even if it's just a polite "thank you".
Everyone has preferences, of course they do, but I'm not a total dick about mine..."
I currently have 253 unread messages. If I posted a picture that would at least double within hours.
I have a job, 3 kids, a puppy and a house to take care of. There is NO WAY that I’ll be able to read and respond to those messages.
I do, however, have what I think is a pleasant profile rather than a shouty one - and I block people as a very last resort. I don’t consider myself impolite for not reading/responding to messages I didn’t ask for in the first place. I read and respond to messages that pique my interest - and occasionally, admittedly a few good ones get missed - but without a fab pa there’s little I can do about that! X |
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"OP whoever told you about Fab forgot to mention it’s not a sex site where every woman is desperate to meet YOU.
It’s a swingers site and everyone is hear for their own reason. If that’s “unfair treatment” I’m a monkey’s uncle "
No I know that, I'm not saying it's a sex site, of course its a swingers site. It encompasses a whole load of different kinks and desires. What I'm getting at though it seems to always be on the majority that the males are the one's dismissed the quickest and have to abide by the rules set by the female... rather than the other way round.
I wonder how many women approach men first with the initial pickup line? It seems the men do the fishing while the women get to select, if at all, who's bait they nibble on. |
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"OP whoever told you about Fab forgot to mention it’s not a sex site where every woman is desperate to meet YOU.
It’s a swingers site and everyone is hear for their own reason. If that’s “unfair treatment” I’m a monkey’s uncle
No I know that, I'm not saying it's a sex site, of course its a swingers site. It encompasses a whole load of different kinks and desires. What I'm getting at though it seems to always be on the majority that the males are the one's dismissed the quickest and have to abide by the rules set by the female... rather than the other way round.
I wonder how many women approach men first with the initial pickup line? It seems the men do the fishing while the women get to select, if at all, who's bait they nibble on. "
In fairness, nobody is stopping men listing their own boundaries. |
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"OP whoever told you about Fab forgot to mention it’s not a sex site where every woman is desperate to meet YOU.
It’s a swingers site and everyone is hear for their own reason. If that’s “unfair treatment” I’m a monkey’s uncle
No I know that, I'm not saying it's a sex site, of course its a swingers site. It encompasses a whole load of different kinks and desires. What I'm getting at though it seems to always be on the majority that the males are the one's dismissed the quickest and have to abide by the rules set by the female... rather than the other way round.
I wonder how many women approach men first with the initial pickup line? It seems the men do the fishing while the women get to select, if at all, who's bait they nibble on. "
A LOT of my meets - probably over 50% if I’m honest - are guys I’ve messaged first. Guys I’ve spotted on the forums, hot photos or ‘who’s local’ - or approached at a club/social.
Sometimes I get politely declined (no-one is everyone’s type) and occasionally I’ve had my message ignored altogether - in which case I’ll just delete it after a couple of days.
I lose not one hot of sleep over it.
As an aside - where women and couples (I agree) can have shouty, demanding profiles - many men have one sentence (still spelled incorrectly) or less of profile text and put zero effort into taking decent pictures. To me both are as bad and both would put me off messaging/replying.
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"OP whoever told you about Fab forgot to mention it’s not a sex site where every woman is desperate to meet YOU.
It’s a swingers site and everyone is hear for their own reason. If that’s “unfair treatment” I’m a monkey’s uncle
No I know that, I'm not saying it's a sex site, of course its a swingers site. It encompasses a whole load of different kinks and desires. What I'm getting at though it seems to always be on the majority that the males are the one's dismissed the quickest and have to abide by the rules set by the female... rather than the other way round.
I wonder how many women approach men first with the initial pickup line? It seems the men do the fishing while the women get to select, if at all, who's bait they nibble on.
A LOT of my meets - probably over 50% if I’m honest - are guys I’ve messaged first. Guys I’ve spotted on the forums, hot photos or ‘who’s local’ - or approached at a club/social.
Sometimes I get politely declined (no-one is everyone’s type) and occasionally I’ve had my message ignored altogether - in which case I’ll just delete it after a couple of days.
I lose not one hot of sleep over it.
As an aside - where women and couples (I agree) can have shouty, demanding profiles - many men have one sentence (still spelled incorrectly) or less of profile text and put zero effort into taking decent pictures. To me both are as bad and both would put me off messaging/replying.
Hope this helps? "
Agreed. Most of my meets I messaged first. Or at least initiated the move from friendly forum chat to more flirtatious and actually meeting. |
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"OP whoever told you about Fab forgot to mention it’s not a sex site where every woman is desperate to meet YOU.
It’s a swingers site and everyone is hear for their own reason. If that’s “unfair treatment” I’m a monkey’s uncle
No I know that, I'm not saying it's a sex site, of course its a swingers site. It encompasses a whole load of different kinks and desires. What I'm getting at though it seems to always be on the majority that the males are the one's dismissed the quickest and have to abide by the rules set by the female... rather than the other way round.
I wonder how many women approach men first with the initial pickup line? It seems the men do the fishing while the women get to select, if at all, who's bait they nibble on.
A LOT of my meets - probably over 50% if I’m honest - are guys I’ve messaged first. Guys I’ve spotted on the forums, hot photos or ‘who’s local’ - or approached at a club/social.
Sometimes I get politely declined (no-one is everyone’s type) and occasionally I’ve had my message ignored altogether - in which case I’ll just delete it after a couple of days.
I lose not one hot of sleep over it.
As an aside - where women and couples (I agree) can have shouty, demanding profiles - many men have one sentence (still spelled incorrectly) or less of profile text and put zero effort into taking decent pictures. To me both are as bad and both would put me off messaging/replying.
Hope this helps?
Agreed. Most of my meets I messaged first. Or at least initiated the move from friendly forum chat to more flirtatious and actually meeting. "
This is all relevant, valuable and constructive input so I thank you all massively... whether agreeable or not, I thank you again x
I believe yes, it's makes sense and is easier to avoid those profiles that you feel you won't get on with but equally... i think the reason why "some" women feel the need to give single men the harder time is probably because of the few that have spoilt it for the many and the numbers game of men massively outweighing the women is naturally going to make the women a bit more guarded and in the defensive.
Either way, there are still nice guys messages getting lost in the inboxes of those who don't even care to open them because of the stigma and reputation that all guys are only after one thing she they way they conduct themselves.. which is a shame for the few that actually do try and are genuine
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Anyone would like to swallow my spunk ? I have a three weeks load and have eaten a lot of pineapple while having a pen into the pineapple.
pen pineapple |
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What about the guys that do getting chatting to women, all nice and friendly and equal back and forth. Then all of a sudden no more replies and no apparent reason given. That's a bummer imo. |
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"What about the guys that do getting chatting to women, all nice and friendly and equal back and forth. Then all of a sudden no more replies and no apparent reason given. That's a bummer imo."
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"Anyone would like to swallow my spunk ? I have a three weeks load and have eaten a lot of pineapple while having a pen into the pineapple.
pen pineapple "
It took me eight months to get that song out of my head you sonofabitch |
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"It's like when you go to choose a puppy innit ......
The whiney ones get left in the pen.
Hit the nail shop n the head, as ever "
How
About the ones who clamber over the pen and chew your shoelaces? |
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"Anyone would like to swallow my spunk ? I have a three weeks load and have eaten a lot of pineapple while having a pen into the pineapple.
pen pineapple
It took me eight months to get that song out of my head you sonofabitch "
Do you have that guy face in your head now ? His smile is so irritating haha |
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"What about the guys that do getting chatting to women, all nice and friendly and equal back and forth. Then all of a sudden no more replies and no apparent reason given. That's a bummer imo."
Preach.... I feel you here too man |
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Please, please please be gentle.... Lol. Its my first time EVER posting! Never been brave enough! ??
I was lucky enough to get a reply from a lady last week, who had no profile pic and no public pics. I liked her profile, so i thought id give it a whirl. Now, admittedly, my profile pic is a bit naff but her response baffled me. She bothered to reply to tell me i needed a better pic. Don't get me wrong, im not whinging, it was nice to get the yellow box! ?? It just seemed a pointless reply from someone with no pic of their own.
Phew.. That was longer that i thought id be.
Remember... Im a forum virgin... Dont hurt me puleeeeeze.... |
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"Please, please please be gentle.... Lol. Its my first time EVER posting! Never been brave enough! ??
I was lucky enough to get a reply from a lady last week, who had no profile pic and no public pics. I liked her profile, so i thought id give it a whirl. Now, admittedly, my profile pic is a bit naff but her response baffled me. She bothered to reply to tell me i needed a better pic. Don't get me wrong, im not whinging, it was nice to get the yellow box! ?? It just seemed a pointless reply from someone with no pic of their own.
Phew.. That was longer that i thought id be.
Remember... Im a forum virgin... Dont hurt me puleeeeeze.... "
Bizarre! Maybe say shall we do a face pic swap u can do it privately in a message? X |
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"Please, please please be gentle.... Lol. Its my first time EVER posting! Never been brave enough! ??
I was lucky enough to get a reply from a lady last week, who had no profile pic and no public pics. I liked her profile, so i thought id give it a whirl. Now, admittedly, my profile pic is a bit naff but her response baffled me. She bothered to reply to tell me i needed a better pic. Don't get me wrong, im not whinging, it was nice to get the yellow box! ?? It just seemed a pointless reply from someone with no pic of their own.
Phew.. That was longer that i thought id be.
Remember... Im a forum virgin... Dont hurt me puleeeeeze.... "
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"Please, please please be gentle.... Lol. Its my first time EVER posting! Never been brave enough! ??
I was lucky enough to get a reply from a lady last week, who had no profile pic and no public pics. I liked her profile, so i thought id give it a whirl. Now, admittedly, my profile pic is a bit naff but her response baffled me. She bothered to reply to tell me i needed a better pic. Don't get me wrong, im not whinging, it was nice to get the yellow box! ?? It just seemed a pointless reply from someone with no pic of their own.
Phew.. That was longer that i thought id be.
Remember... Im a forum virgin... Dont hurt me puleeeeeze.... "
I know what you mean! It's nice just to get the yellow box impromptu and at random. Girls don't know how that feels. There seems to be a disparity between the two sees.. where one is so inundated with messages that they can afford to screen them, ignore them or delete them as if it's an inconvenience or a chor....
Whereas the other sex is starved off ANY messages and is grateful just to get one.
As for your situation, as suggested maybe message and see if you can face swap privately? It does seem hypocritical though that she should be giving you beef over your picture when she didn't even have one?
The rights of moral high ground I suppose, huh |
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"Tell you what OP, I'll post a new picture and you can run my inbox and see how quickly you get bored of replying to the dozens of FAF and "you're gorgeous" messages...not to mention the "but whyyyyyy? I'm better than any of the other men on here" and "well you're an ugly fat slag anyway, I was just being charitable in my last message" messages when you reply with a polite no thanks (or even just read them and don't reply). And that's not even including the ones with the graphic descriptions of exactly what they want to do to you, or the nasty ones telling you that you're rude for not responding in their desired time frame!
I'm quite sure if all men did this they'd see things from a ladies point of _iew pretty quickly
Personally, I don't even look at my inbox a lot of the time, because it's not worth trawling through the the above and similar to find the one or two messages that may be of interest - if I'm looking to meet I'd rather search and message myself "
This above is spot on. I have an infinite amount of good energy but feel this site can suck it out of me if I don't strictly control who I spend my time on answering |
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I avoid those profiles too.
I try to keep mine light yet informative.
Sadly, the Dickheads outweigh the gooduns so people feel the need to do this, however, it's the Dickheads that will not read profiles anyway making all the ranty profiles pointless exercise! |
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As genuine guy I do feel that there are a wealth of men who
A. Can’t handle rejection and get nasty
B. Have no patience and get nasty
C. Are simply nasty to start with
D. Have highly unrealistic expectations and believe because they have cock pics, send cock pics and ask seemingly nicely if you would like a fuck. The they should get one. Don’t and then nasty.
In truth women and couples on here get bombarded all day and all night, it must be exhausting and that select minority that can’t this site for what it is ruin it for the genuine guys who do have patience and do not turn nasty as soon as the slightest thing doesn’t go their way.
In a nutshell, don’t get nasty, accept not everyone will be for you, have a bit of goddamn patience or just fuck off... seriously, thin the heard a little.... might help me a bit. |
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As genuine guy I do feel that there are a wealth of men who
A. Can’t handle rejection and get nasty
B. Have no patience and get nasty
C. Are simply nasty to start with
D. Have highly unrealistic expectations and believe because they have cock pics, send cock pics and ask seemingly nicely if you would like a fuck. The they should get one. Don’t and then nasty.
In truth women and couples on here get bombarded all day and all night, it must be exhausting and that select minority that can’t this site for what it is ruin it for the genuine guys who do have patience and do not turn nasty as soon as the slightest thing doesn’t go their way.
In a nutshell, don’t get nasty, accept not everyone will be for you, have a bit of goddamn patience or just fuck off... seriously, thin the heard a little.... might help me a bit. |
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So far, I can honestly say I've had positive outcomes from a lot of the messages I've sent. I've had a few odd encounters. Being blocked whilst mid conversation is weird but the ladies I've spoken to have been really nice. |
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In truth women and couples on here get bombarded all day and all night
That’s not entirely true. Those that do, WANT to be bombarded with messages because the site provides the tools for everybody to limit the amount of messages they get.
It’s an ego boost for them which is fine, though the false complaints about all the messages just makes me |
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"Please, please please be gentle.... Lol. Its my first time EVER posting! Never been brave enough! ??
I was lucky enough to get a reply from a lady last week, who had no profile pic and no public pics. I liked her profile, so i thought id give it a whirl. Now, admittedly, my profile pic is a bit naff but her response baffled me. She bothered to reply to tell me i needed a better pic. Don't get me wrong, im not whinging, it was nice to get the yellow box! ?? It just seemed a pointless reply from someone with no pic of their own.
Phew.. That was longer that i thought id be.
Remember... Im a forum virgin... Dont hurt me puleeeeeze....
I know what you mean! It's nice just to get the yellow box impromptu and at random. Girls don't know how that feels. There seems to be a disparity between the two sees.. where one is so inundated with messages that they can afford to screen them, ignore them or delete them as if it's an inconvenience or a chor....
Whereas the other sex is starved off ANY messages and is grateful just to get one.
As for your situation, as suggested maybe message and see if you can face swap privately? It does seem hypocritical though that she should be giving you beef over your picture when she didn't even have one?
The rights of moral high ground I suppose, huh"
Please be aware that it’s not a case of ‘affording’ to ignore them - it’s a case of not physically having the time to open them all - and therefore glancing through to try to find the ones that MIGHT be worth replying to and MIGHT be worth meeting.
So let’s start - I have five minutes to spare before I walk the pup:
Your profile pic is VITAL!!!!!! I can’t stress this enough! Have a silhouette or a cock pic as your profile and the message is irrelevant - it’s unlikely to get opened. To me the best profile pics are a nice torso pic (Bare if you work out a lot - clothed in a nice suit if you have an ‘average’ body like me!) Or a face pic (if you’re brave enough) that’s smiling/pleasant.
You don’t have to be drop dead gorgeous to get a reply from most ladies - just interesting - and perhaps local enough if they’re looking for local meets - to pique their interest.
The message is also important - longer than ‘hey’ but not an essay - and definitely not a cut and paste.
Personally I put the effort into my profile - so in the message I just send a few recent face/body pics and ask them to get back to me if they’re interested.
My profile I put a LOT of effort into!
If you don’t have a face pic in public - send a face pic with the message - you can always delete it later if you’re worried about privacy.
None of the above will guarantee getting your message read/replied to - but it will give you the best chance possible.
If other ladies/couples (or successful males) wish to add more ‘tips’ to this - please feel free! |
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"In truth women and couples on here get bombarded all day and all night
That’s not entirely true. Those that do, WANT to be bombarded with messages because the site provides the tools for everybody to limit the amount of messages they get.
It’s an ego boost for them which is fine, though the false complaints about all the messages just makes me "
I put up filters set around my preferences and still regularly got for 4 figures in my inbox. It was totally unmanageable. The only way I can manage it is to block all single guys from messaging me. Its not something I wanted to do as I'm mostly looking to meet single guys but having more messages than you can reasonably read is not much more helpful than having none. |
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"Please, please please be gentle.... Lol. Its my first time EVER posting! Never been brave enough! ??
I was lucky enough to get a reply from a lady last week, who had no profile pic and no public pics. I liked her profile, so i thought id give it a whirl. Now, admittedly, my profile pic is a bit naff but her response baffled me. She bothered to reply to tell me i needed a better pic. Don't get me wrong, im not whinging, it was nice to get the yellow box! ?? It just seemed a pointless reply from someone with no pic of their own.
Phew.. That was longer that i thought id be.
Remember... Im a forum virgin... Dont hurt me puleeeeeze....
I know what you mean! It's nice just to get the yellow box impromptu and at random. Girls don't know how that feels. There seems to be a disparity between the two sees.. where one is so inundated with messages that they can afford to screen them, ignore them or delete them as if it's an inconvenience or a chor....
Whereas the other sex is starved off ANY messages and is grateful just to get one.
As for your situation, as suggested maybe message and see if you can face swap privately? It does seem hypocritical though that she should be giving you beef over your picture when she didn't even have one?
The rights of moral high ground I suppose, huh
Please be aware that it’s not a case of ‘affording’ to ignore them - it’s a case of not physically having the time to open them all - and therefore glancing through to try to find the ones that MIGHT be worth replying to and MIGHT be worth meeting.
So let’s start - I have five minutes to spare before I walk the pup:
Your profile pic is VITAL!!!!!! I can’t stress this enough! Have a silhouette or a cock pic as your profile and the message is irrelevant - it’s unlikely to get opened. To me the best profile pics are a nice torso pic (Bare if you work out a lot - clothed in a nice suit if you have an ‘average’ body like me!) Or a face pic (if you’re brave enough) that’s smiling/pleasant.
You don’t have to be drop dead gorgeous to get a reply from most ladies - just interesting - and perhaps local enough if they’re looking for local meets - to pique their interest.
The message is also important - longer than ‘hey’ but not an essay - and definitely not a cut and paste.
Personally I put the effort into my profile - so in the message I just send a few recent face/body pics and ask them to get back to me if they’re interested.
My profile I put a LOT of effort into!
If you don’t have a face pic in public - send a face pic with the message - you can always delete it later if you’re worried about privacy.
None of the above will guarantee getting your message read/replied to - but it will give you the best chance possible.
If other ladies/couples (or successful males) wish to add more ‘tips’ to this - please feel free! "
These are great tips, and ones which I do anyway. I never copy and paste messages.
Could you do me a favour? Take a look at my profile and see if it already adheres to what you have outlined? x many thanks |
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"Please, please please be gentle.... Lol. Its my first time EVER posting! Never been brave enough! ??
I was lucky enough to get a reply from a lady last week, who had no profile pic and no public pics. I liked her profile, so i thought id give it a whirl. Now, admittedly, my profile pic is a bit naff but her response baffled me. She bothered to reply to tell me i needed a better pic. Don't get me wrong, im not whinging, it was nice to get the yellow box! ?? It just seemed a pointless reply from someone with no pic of their own.
Phew.. That was longer that i thought id be.
Remember... Im a forum virgin... Dont hurt me puleeeeeze....
I know what you mean! It's nice just to get the yellow box impromptu and at random. Girls don't know how that feels. There seems to be a disparity between the two sees.. where one is so inundated with messages that they can afford to screen them, ignore them or delete them as if it's an inconvenience or a chor....
Whereas the other sex is starved off ANY messages and is grateful just to get one.
As for your situation, as suggested maybe message and see if you can face swap privately? It does seem hypocritical though that she should be giving you beef over your picture when she didn't even have one?
The rights of moral high ground I suppose, huh
Please be aware that it’s not a case of ‘affording’ to ignore them - it’s a case of not physically having the time to open them all - and therefore glancing through to try to find the ones that MIGHT be worth replying to and MIGHT be worth meeting.
So let’s start - I have five minutes to spare before I walk the pup:
Your profile pic is VITAL!!!!!! I can’t stress this enough! Have a silhouette or a cock pic as your profile and the message is irrelevant - it’s unlikely to get opened. To me the best profile pics are a nice torso pic (Bare if you work out a lot - clothed in a nice suit if you have an ‘average’ body like me!) Or a face pic (if you’re brave enough) that’s smiling/pleasant.
You don’t have to be drop dead gorgeous to get a reply from most ladies - just interesting - and perhaps local enough if they’re looking for local meets - to pique their interest.
The message is also important - longer than ‘hey’ but not an essay - and definitely not a cut and paste.
Personally I put the effort into my profile - so in the message I just send a few recent face/body pics and ask them to get back to me if they’re interested.
My profile I put a LOT of effort into!
If you don’t have a face pic in public - send a face pic with the message - you can always delete it later if you’re worried about privacy.
None of the above will guarantee getting your message read/replied to - but it will give you the best chance possible.
If other ladies/couples (or successful males) wish to add more ‘tips’ to this - please feel free!
These are great tips, and ones which I do anyway. I never copy and paste messages.
Could you do me a favour? Take a look at my profile and see if it already adheres to what you have outlined? x many thanks"
Hope you don't mind me jumping in too. Your face pics are decent but the body ones (other than the butt one) are a bit poorly lit and you could consider the background a bit more (something I learnt over time myself ). They don't all need to be perfect but a couple of really well taken ones really help.
Asfor the text, I'm not sure how I'd feel about being called experienced . The "actually replies" bit can come off a little bitter and the disclaimer at the end is useless but the rest is decent and shows what you want. Much better written than a lot of profiles . |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"What about the guys that do getting chatting to women, all nice and friendly and equal back and forth. Then all of a sudden no more replies and no apparent reason given. That's a bummer imo.
Preach.... I feel you here too man"
i'm guessing people aren't allowed to change their minds then.... or they may have said something thats an "instant turn off"... people have said stuff to me where its gone from a "i'd like to get to know you" to an" no chance!"
again people are not just owed for being here.....
it sounds like a lot of issues are mindset related.....,if you take everything as a "no" until told otherwise... people don't them sweat the small stuff |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Please, please please be gentle.... Lol. Its my first time EVER posting! Never been brave enough! ??
I was lucky enough to get a reply from a lady last week, who had no profile pic and no public pics. I liked her profile, so i thought id give it a whirl. Now, admittedly, my profile pic is a bit naff but her response baffled me. She bothered to reply to tell me i needed a better pic. Don't get me wrong, im not whinging, it was nice to get the yellow box! ?? It just seemed a pointless reply from someone with no pic of their own.
Phew.. That was longer that i thought id be.
Remember... Im a forum virgin... Dont hurt me puleeeeeze....
I know what you mean! It's nice just to get the yellow box impromptu and at random. Girls don't know how that feels. There seems to be a disparity between the two sees.. where one is so inundated with messages that they can afford to screen them, ignore them or delete them as if it's an inconvenience or a chor....
Whereas the other sex is starved off ANY messages and is grateful just to get one.
As for your situation, as suggested maybe message and see if you can face swap privately? It does seem hypocritical though that she should be giving you beef over your picture when she didn't even have one?
The rights of moral high ground I suppose, huh
Please be aware that it’s not a case of ‘affording’ to ignore them - it’s a case of not physically having the time to open them all - and therefore glancing through to try to find the ones that MIGHT be worth replying to and MIGHT be worth meeting.
So let’s start - I have five minutes to spare before I walk the pup:
Your profile pic is VITAL!!!!!! I can’t stress this enough! Have a silhouette or a cock pic as your profile and the message is irrelevant - it’s unlikely to get opened. To me the best profile pics are a nice torso pic (Bare if you work out a lot - clothed in a nice suit if you have an ‘average’ body like me!) Or a face pic (if you’re brave enough) that’s smiling/pleasant.
You don’t have to be drop dead gorgeous to get a reply from most ladies - just interesting - and perhaps local enough if they’re looking for local meets - to pique their interest.
The message is also important - longer than ‘hey’ but not an essay - and definitely not a cut and paste.
Personally I put the effort into my profile - so in the message I just send a few recent face/body pics and ask them to get back to me if they’re interested.
My profile I put a LOT of effort into!
If you don’t have a face pic in public - send a face pic with the message - you can always delete it later if you’re worried about privacy.
None of the above will guarantee getting your message read/replied to - but it will give you the best chance possible.
If other ladies/couples (or successful males) wish to add more ‘tips’ to this - please feel free!
These are great tips, and ones which I do anyway. I never copy and paste messages.
Could you do me a favour? Take a look at my profile and see if it already adheres to what you have outlined? x many thanks
Hope you don't mind me jumping in too. Your face pics are decent but the body ones (other than the butt one) are a bit poorly lit and you could consider the background a bit more (something I learnt over time myself ). They don't all need to be perfect but a couple of really well taken ones really help.
Asfor the text, I'm not sure how I'd feel about being called experienced . The "actually replies" bit can come off a little bitter and the disclaimer at the end is useless but the rest is decent and shows what you want. Much better written than a lot of profiles . "
Thank you for your input I will look at this and take it under advisement x |
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There are plenty of genuine arseholes on here! Guys that get abusive when turned down or ignored REALLY annoy me! You f.....g morons spoil it for the rest of us!
Guys stop sending so many cock pics!!
Women get loads and loads of messages, guys can we accept they can’t answer us all please?
As it’s been said we (Single guys) are Not all bad. So to those women/couples who get a ton of messages my expert advice is if someone is anything other than polite and respectful then block them, and hopefully that might give the nice handsome fit ones (just like me??) a chance.
I’d like to see fab ban anyone who is abusive, no argument just straight ban. If they get another account then ban that too they will soon get the message. |
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"There are plenty of genuine arseholes on here! Guys that get abusive when turned down or ignored REALLY annoy me! You f.....g morons spoil it for the rest of us!
Guys stop sending so many cock pics!!
Women get loads and loads of messages, guys can we accept they can’t answer us all please?
As it’s been said we (Single guys) are Not all bad. So to those women/couples who get a ton of messages my expert advice is if someone is anything other than polite and respectful then block them, and hopefully that might give the nice handsome fit ones (just like me??) a chance.
I’d like to see fab ban anyone who is abusive, no argument just straight ban. If they get another account then ban that too they will soon get the message."
Ok - so what about abusive women and couples? Or is it just men you want to ban?
IMO no guys ‘spoil it for the rest of you’ - on the contrary - the dickheads make to good ones stand out even more, do they not? |
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"There are plenty of genuine arseholes on here! Guys that get abusive when turned down or ignored REALLY annoy me! You f.....g morons spoil it for the rest of us!
Guys stop sending so many cock pics!!
Women get loads and loads of messages, guys can we accept they can’t answer us all please?
As it’s been said we (Single guys) are Not all bad. So to those women/couples who get a ton of messages my expert advice is if someone is anything other than polite and respectful then block them, and hopefully that might give the nice handsome fit ones (just like me??) a chance.
I’d like to see fab ban anyone who is abusive, no argument just straight ban. If they get another account then ban that too they will soon get the message."
I like this, take a bow son |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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The thing is Fab is really quite simple for all categories of user - they each face their own particular difficulties for sure but ultimately it comes down to a few simple things:
- Know the difference between "making an effort" and "making it an effort" - if you see Fab has hard work, then it probably will be - adopt a more laid back, if it happens it happens attitude whilst making an effort with your profile, pics and interactions and it won't guarantee a thing, but it *will* make your experience better.
- Don't worry about what others are doing, or how they choose to use the site, whether that be people you are trying to attract or those that are your "competition" (more of that in a second) - accept that each and everyone of us will use the site differently, so focus on *your* experience and how *you* use the site, and don't worry how others choose to do so.
- This is not a "competition" the only person you are "competing" against is you - so again focus on you, and your experience, not what others are doing.
- Find the right approach to the site that works for *you* and there are many ways you can do this - from how you set out your stall in your profile, to whether you just blindly send messages to other users or find other ways to get to know people (like the forums and chat rooms etc)
- Try and keep a positive attitude towards the site and other people you hope to attract as much as possible - negativity will rarely, if ever, lead to a meet.
- Accept that you won't be for everyone, nor will everyone be for you - if you think about it, as you go about your day to day real life business you're probably attracted to less than 10% of people you encounter and of those there's probably mutual attraction with less than 10% - same applies to Fab, so it really should be no surprise to be rejected by the majority of users.
- Remember that just because this is a "sex site" it doesn't mean that all the usual moral values of respect, consideration, politeness etc go out the window - if anything they're even more relevant here
Keep all that, and stuff I've forgotten to put, in mind and it won't guarantee a thing, but it will make your experience of the site so much better. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The thing is Fab is really quite simple for all categories of user - they each face their own particular difficulties for sure but ultimately it comes down to a few simple things:
- Know the difference between "making an effort" and "making it an effort" - if you see Fab has hard work, then it probably will be - adopt a more laid back, if it happens it happens attitude whilst making an effort with your profile, pics and interactions and it won't guarantee a thing, but it *will* make your experience better.
- Don't worry about what others are doing, or how they choose to use the site, whether that be people you are trying to attract or those that are your "competition" (more of that in a second) - accept that each and everyone of us will use the site differently, so focus on *your* experience and how *you* use the site, and don't worry how others choose to do so.
- This is not a "competition" the only person you are "competing" against is you - so again focus on you, and your experience, not what others are doing.
- Find the right approach to the site that works for *you* and there are many ways you can do this - from how you set out your stall in your profile, to whether you just blindly send messages to other users or find other ways to get to know people (like the forums and chat rooms etc)
- Try and keep a positive attitude towards the site and other people you hope to attract as much as possible - negativity will rarely, if ever, lead to a meet.
- Accept that you won't be for everyone, nor will everyone be for you - if you think about it, as you go about your day to day real life business you're probably attracted to less than 10% of people you encounter and of those there's probably mutual attraction with less than 10% - same applies to Fab, so it really should be no surprise to be rejected by the majority of users.
- Remember that just because this is a "sex site" it doesn't mean that all the usual moral values of respect, consideration, politeness etc go out the window - if anything they're even more relevant here
Keep all that, and stuff I've forgotten to put, in mind and it won't guarantee a thing, but it will make your experience of the site so much better."
Well said buddy |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Actually meant to add one more...
- Think about what it is you really hope to get from the site - no really think, beyond "to meet people and have sex", think about the kind of experiences you're looking for, the kind of people you'd like to meet, and how you'd like them to see you - and once you have a clear idea in your head, stick to those principles and reflect them in your profile and interactions, adapt as they change |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The thing is Fab is really quite simple for all categories of user - they each face their own particular difficulties for sure but ultimately it comes down to a few simple things:
- Know the difference between "making an effort" and "making it an effort" - if you see Fab has hard work, then it probably will be - adopt a more laid back, if it happens it happens attitude whilst making an effort with your profile, pics and interactions and it won't guarantee a thing, but it *will* make your experience better.
- Don't worry about what others are doing, or how they choose to use the site, whether that be people you are trying to attract or those that are your "competition" (more of that in a second) - accept that each and everyone of us will use the site differently, so focus on *your* experience and how *you* use the site, and don't worry how others choose to do so.
- This is not a "competition" the only person you are "competing" against is you - so again focus on you, and your experience, not what others are doing.
- Find the right approach to the site that works for *you* and there are many ways you can do this - from how you set out your stall in your profile, to whether you just blindly send messages to other users or find other ways to get to know people (like the forums and chat rooms etc)
- Try and keep a positive attitude towards the site and other people you hope to attract as much as possible - negativity will rarely, if ever, lead to a meet.
- Accept that you won't be for everyone, nor will everyone be for you - if you think about it, as you go about your day to day real life business you're probably attracted to less than 10% of people you encounter and of those there's probably mutual attraction with less than 10% - same applies to Fab, so it really should be no surprise to be rejected by the majority of users.
- Remember that just because this is a "sex site" it doesn't mean that all the usual moral values of respect, consideration, politeness etc go out the window - if anything they're even more relevant here
Keep all that, and stuff I've forgotten to put, in mind and it won't guarantee a thing, but it will make your experience of the site so much better."
Brilliant
Especially your first sentence. It all applies to *all* users, not just men. |
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"IMO no guys ‘spoil it for the rest of you’ - on the contrary - the dickheads make to good ones stand out even more, do they not? "
I agree with this so much. The genuine ones, who have put thought and effort into profiles and messages and see if preferences match, stand out more among the 'just ask' fill in later' brigade. Saying that though, I will sometimes answer a 'hi' message if there are nice pics and a profile with humour in it x |
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"The thing is Fab is really quite simple for all categories of user - they each face their own particular difficulties for sure but ultimately it comes down to a few simple things:
- Know the difference between "making an effort" and "making it an effort" - if you see Fab has hard work, then it probably will be - adopt a more laid back, if it happens it happens attitude whilst making an effort with your profile, pics and interactions and it won't guarantee a thing, but it *will* make your experience better.
- Don't worry about what others are doing, or how they choose to use the site, whether that be people you are trying to attract or those that are your "competition" (more of that in a second) - accept that each and everyone of us will use the site differently, so focus on *your* experience and how *you* use the site, and don't worry how others choose to do so.
- This is not a "competition" the only person you are "competing" against is you - so again focus on you, and your experience, not what others are doing.
- Find the right approach to the site that works for *you* and there are many ways you can do this - from how you set out your stall in your profile, to whether you just blindly send messages to other users or find other ways to get to know people (like the forums and chat rooms etc)
- Try and keep a positive attitude towards the site and other people you hope to attract as much as possible - negativity will rarely, if ever, lead to a meet.
- Accept that you won't be for everyone, nor will everyone be for you - if you think about it, as you go about your day to day real life business you're probably attracted to less than 10% of people you encounter and of those there's probably mutual attraction with less than 10% - same applies to Fab, so it really should be no surprise to be rejected by the majority of users.
- Remember that just because this is a "sex site" it doesn't mean that all the usual moral values of respect, consideration, politeness etc go out the window - if anything they're even more relevant here
Keep all that, and stuff I've forgotten to put, in mind and it won't guarantee a thing, but it will make your experience of the site so much better.
Brilliant
Especially your first sentence. It all applies to *all* users, not just men. "
If I see Gemini Man posting, I’ll know there’s a common sense approach to his point and agree loved the ‘all’ perspective |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Brilliant
Especially your first sentence. It all applies to *all* users, not just men. "
I did it deliberately - too much is made of men being the bad guys, the victims, the ones who have a hard time - reality is each and every user has their own difficulties and while those difficulties may differ depending which camp you belong to, the high level answers to those difficulties are largely the same. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We try to reply to everyone even if it's just a polite "not for us" but lots of guys are ass holes the good ones are appreciated "
That's wonderful I always try to respond to every message I'm sent... even the guys (even though my profile says straight)
I even messaged a guy just to compliment him on his Shibari rope tying technique in his pictures. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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...reality is each and every user has their own difficulties and while those difficulties may differ depending which camp you belong to, the high level answers to those difficulties are largely the same."
I agree with everything Gemini Man says. You need to find your own way of using the site and to make if fun for you.
At times it's going to be frustrating especially as a new user. And you might get twinges of jealousy as you figure out some users are meeting and having fun (but you have also got to think that they have probably already been active for years on here and have already built up contacts/friends).
I am basically starting from scratch on here and am putting myself out there for the first time in quite a few years. Nerve wracking, exciting and interesting.
I have a rough idea of what I want and have been tweaking my profile to convey that - the longer I'm here what I do and don't want comes more into focus.
I'm not a fuck&go guy and, even if it was just a one-off meet, I would still like some connection so it might take that bit longer to find people with a similar attitude.
But I enjoy the forums and putting up threads and commenting on other posts. And I've been enjoying chatting through PM to some people as well.
COVID for new users will make things doubly frustrating as their are no organised socials to go to - hopefully some of this might change for next year (I would be interested in attending a forum social) and some people I might really connect with may not be meeting at all - so not active on the site. At the moment I'd be quite happy with a local social meet just for a real world verification.
One last thing to remember is that no one here is obliged to interact with you. Put yourself out there, interact with others and you never know who or what might be just around the cornet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You get what you sign up for when you meet FAB. Not everyone will reply, take it as a polite no if they don’t. Women and couples are far more inundated with messages than guys especially from needy people who bombard and can get abusive.
Unfortunately the minority make it harder , (not in the erect sense unfortunately), for the genuine guys on here.
There are so many cool ladies, couples and guys on here, focus on them, and most importantly respect what people want and don’t want.
Love my time here on FAB, wouldn’t change it.
Stay cool people x |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Unfortunately the minority make it harder , (not in the erect sense unfortunately), for the genuine guys on here.
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Agree with all you say, except this - whilst I agree that sometimes the ladies and couples can be so inundated with dross that they may miss a message or similar - I'd actually argue that the dross helps the guys that do "get" it stand out, not necessarily in the instance of that one message that gets missed, but overall.
In the four years I've been on here, only one person has "made things harder" for me, and that's me - how other guys act is of no consequence to me at all.
I think the problem for a lot of single guys that sign up to the site is they see it as being *only* about getting meets and having sex, and whilst that is the underlying principle of the site for most users, focussing on that and that alone is a route to frustration - whereas see meeting and sex as the cherry on top and the perspective changes somewhat. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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Is this another man whiny post ? I thought we’d had today’s already.
Here’s the solution, guys, close down all your old accounts where you got caught, this will rebalance the male to female ratio and the women will become less picky and shag anyone that offers |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get more attention and find dating apps more useful for meeting than Fab.
This place isn’t great for men unless you’re part of a couple or are a black guy with a BBC.
Better off trying your luck on Tinder. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I am much more about the connection... there has to be a pure spark and common interest etc. As you say, the rest is a cherry ontop. I like the idea of just being in the company of someone I connect with.
Much more about quality than quantity. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Is this another man whiny post ? I thought we’d had today’s already.
Here’s the solution, guys, close down all your old accounts where you got caught, this will rebalance the male to female ratio and the women will become less picky and shag anyone that offers "
No, it wasn't actually. It was just me having a flippant and comedic rant and observation to get something off my chest.. of which I feel much better about today |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"I get more attention and find dating apps more useful for meeting than Fab.
This place isn’t great for men unless you’re part of a couple or are a black guy with a BBC.
Better off trying your luck on Tinder."
I'm the polar opposite of a "black guy with a BBC" in fact I'm a "no more than average 55 year old whose cock size is immaterial but is neither big nor small" and yet I am more than happy with my Fab experience which has more than exceeded my expectations....so how do you explain that one? And that's a genuine question, not a humble brag. |
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I come in to using this site with my eyes wide open(I have a couples profile too). Apart from the fact we are restricted due to covid, my search filters knock out 80% of women in my area that use the site. Then you take out the women that I am not attracted to takes away 50% of the remaining available women. Then that leaves me with around 10% just from my filters alone.
Then you take out the women that specifically want black males only which in South London seems to be about 50% that will openly say so.
Then from what remains you subtract the women that specify height or vwe or won't meet married men, and that leaves me with about 0.0001% of users I can message. Of those remaining women I message I may not meet things that they want which they didn't put in there profile or I may just not be attractive enough for them. And then even if there was a female that was left after all that they may just simply get a better offer. All I can hope that over covid restrictions 2 things happen, 1 that my efforts to improve my physical health improves my attractiveness, 2 that it puts of men that don't have patience and the number of men on the site decreases |
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"I get more attention and find dating apps more useful for meeting than Fab.
This place isn’t great for men unless you’re part of a couple or are a black guy with a BBC.
Better off trying your luck on Tinder."
Presumably you take the trouble to have a profile picture on dating apps? |
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"Is this another man whiny post ? I thought we’d had today’s already.
Here’s the solution, guys, close down all your old accounts where you got caught, this will rebalance the male to female ratio and the women will become less picky and shag anyone that offers
No, it wasn't actually. It was just me having a flippant and comedic rant and observation to get something off my chest.. of which I feel much better about today "
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"I come in to using this site with my eyes wide open(I have a couples profile too). Apart from the fact we are restricted due to covid, my search filters knock out 80% of women in my area that use the site. Then you take out the women that I am not attracted to takes away 50% of the remaining available women. Then that leaves me with around 10% just from my filters alone.
Then you take out the women that specifically want black males only which in South London seems to be about 50% that will openly say so.
Then from what remains you subtract the women that specify height or vwe or won't meet married men, and that leaves me with about 0.0001% of users I can message. Of those remaining women I message I may not meet things that they want which they didn't put in there profile or I may just not be attractive enough for them. And then even if there was a female that was left after all that they may just simply get a better offer. All I can hope that over covid restrictions 2 things happen, 1 that my efforts to improve my physical health improves my attractiveness, 2 that it puts of men that don't have patience and the number of men on the site decreases"
sounds like we all totally fooked.. patience is a virtue |
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"I get more attention and find dating apps more useful for meeting than Fab.
This place isn’t great for men unless you’re part of a couple or are a black guy with a BBC.
Better off trying your luck on Tinder."
I get more sex on that swipe right site which is easy as I don't get any sex on here |
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"I come in to using this site with my eyes wide open(I have a couples profile too). Apart from the fact we are restricted due to covid, my search filters knock out 80% of women in my area that use the site. Then you take out the women that I am not attracted to takes away 50% of the remaining available women. Then that leaves me with around 10% just from my filters alone.
Then you take out the women that specifically want black males only which in South London seems to be about 50% that will openly say so.
Then from what remains you subtract the women that specify height or vwe or won't meet married men, and that leaves me with about 0.0001% of users I can message. Of those remaining women I message I may not meet things that they want which they didn't put in there profile or I may just not be attractive enough for them. And then even if there was a female that was left after all that they may just simply get a better offer. All I can hope that over covid restrictions 2 things happen, 1 that my efforts to improve my physical health improves my attractiveness, 2 that it puts of men that don't have patience and the number of men on the site decreases
sounds like we all totally fooked.. patience is a virtue "
No just playing the the numbers game. If I get a response then I'm lucky but I know that I have ticked enough boxes to not disappoint |
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Unfortunately the minority make it harder , (not in the erect sense unfortunately), for the genuine guys on here.
Agree with all you say, except this - whilst I agree that sometimes the ladies and couples can be so inundated with dross that they may miss a message or similar - I'd actually argue that the dross helps the guys that do "get" it stand out, not necessarily in the instance of that one message that gets missed, but overall.
In the four years I've been on here, only one person has "made things harder" for me, and that's me - how other guys act is of no consequence to me at all.
I think the problem for a lot of single guys that sign up to the site is they see it as being *only* about getting meets and having sex, and whilst that is the underlying principle of the site for most users, focussing on that and that alone is a route to frustration - whereas see meeting and sex as the cherry on top and the perspective changes somewhat."
Agree with this. My main focus is on the forums and having a some regular users whom I enjoy messaging/chatting with. Success with that so far.
I will occasionally cold message if someone catches my eyes but most of those I regularly message have been off of the back of forum posts.
Anything else beyond that at the moment will be a bonus. |
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Unfortunately the minority make it harder , (not in the erect sense unfortunately), for the genuine guys on here.
Agree with all you say, except this - whilst I agree that sometimes the ladies and couples can be so inundated with dross that they may miss a message or similar - I'd actually argue that the dross helps the guys that do "get" it stand out, not necessarily in the instance of that one message that gets missed, but overall.
In the four years I've been on here, only one person has "made things harder" for me, and that's me - how other guys act is of no consequence to me at all.
I think the problem for a lot of single guys that sign up to the site is they see it as being *only* about getting meets and having sex, and whilst that is the underlying principle of the site for most users, focussing on that and that alone is a route to frustration - whereas see meeting and sex as the cherry on top and the perspective changes somewhat.
Agree with this. My main focus is on the forums and having a some regular users whom I enjoy messaging/chatting with. Success with that so far.
I will occasionally cold message if someone catches my eyes but most of those I regularly message have been off of the back of forum posts.
Anything else beyond that at the moment will be a bonus."
Virtually spot on. I would be lying if I said I didn't join with the express intention of meeting women, but I also like chatting to likeminded people and trying to make friends. I use the forums to chat to people and broaden my outlook. I do intend to meet people if the situation presents its self but as a male half of a open couple i am aware of my limitations. Any meets that may come in the future are a bonus and if i make a new friend then even better. |
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"I get more attention and find dating apps more useful for meeting than Fab.
This place isn’t great for men unless you’re part of a couple or are a black guy with a BBC.
Better off trying your luck on Tinder.
I get more sex on that swipe right site which is easy as I don't get any sex on here "
Imo most of the dating sites have the bulk of people from here as well. I come across so many on the fish site especially.
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I get where the OP is coming from. However, I’m sure the women and couples on here just get too many messages off us guys. For example, I starting reading the forum one comment at a time then it bored after 10 minutes and went to the bottom to send this message lol. I have sent long messages that relate to the persons profile with what they are “looking for” but get no reply. I don’t take it to heart I just move on and try and strike up a conversation with someone else. You could send 100 messages and only get 1 reply and even with that 1 reply it’s not a guaranteed meet. Just enjoy the site and see where it leads. I’ve had good meets and bad. Messed about and lied to but just keep my head up and carry on. |
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"I get more attention and find dating apps more useful for meeting than Fab.
This place isn’t great for men unless you’re part of a couple or are a black guy with a BBC.
Better off trying your luck on Tinder.
Presumably you take the trouble to have a profile picture on dating apps? "
Yep - loads. |
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"I get more attention and find dating apps more useful for meeting than Fab.
This place isn’t great for men unless you’re part of a couple or are a black guy with a BBC.
Better off trying your luck on Tinder.
Presumably you take the trouble to have a profile picture on dating apps?
Yep - loads."
Exactly. How could you expect any success on here without pictures? |
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" Exactly. How could you expect any success on here without pictures? "
Well I’m Asian so I don’t expect success on Fab given the sheer number of profiles actively stating ‘no Asians’... |
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