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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago
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Yeah I know what you mean if you think about it you start to think of all the things you don’t like about yourself but from their perspective they don’t see the flaws you see in yourself and are saying it as in the fact you are unique  |
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"beautiful, in my own way.
What does that even mean?
I am sure the person saying it, thought it was a compliment, but that isnt how it was received.  "
Was there a pause after "beautiful"?
A compliment followed by a qualification always leaves a lingering doubt.
You look great... for your age is another example |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As in non standard beauty? I think that's what they mean by that phrase?"
Beauty is beauty in the eye of the beholder. Standardised beauty is a myth created by marketing folk  Accept the compliment woman! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"beautiful, in my own way.
What does that even mean?
I am sure the person saying it, thought it was a compliment, but that isnt how it was received. "
I thought that was an insult... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its a compliment on your uniqueness, makes you stand out on your own merits never fading into the samey crowd x
Own it gorgeous x"
Not what Urban Dictionary says it is  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"beautiful, in my own way.
What does that even mean?
I am sure the person saying it, thought it was a compliment, but that isnt how it was received. "
Definitely a compliment, but i understand why you night think it's not. You kind of doubt "in my own way" - am I now normal?, am I not beautiful in the conventional way ?
But as others have said , it the uniqueness that this person likes about you - it's a beautiful thing
Besides we are all unique in our own way - for someone to say they think its beautiful, is the biggest compliment
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"beautiful, in my own way.
What does that even mean?
I am sure the person saying it, thought it was a compliment, but that isnt how it was received. "
It means nothing at best... One of those platitudes like "you did your best" or it could be patronising twaddle. |
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There's physical beauty in everyone if your eyes are tuned to it. I don't mean that trite bloody stuff that people trot out though.
I remember sitting with a friend once and thinking how beautiful the curve of her inner thigh was, not in a sexual way but in the same way I'd appreciate a leaf for example. |
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"beautiful, in my own way.
What does that even mean?
I am sure the person saying it, thought it was a compliment, but that isnt how it was received. "
It depends very much on the delivery and context I think.
They might have meant that you are beautiful but not in a classical way. |
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The woman I fell in love with hook, line and sinker was beautiful in her own way. She’s pretty, but it’s when she laughed or had a genuine big smile on her face she made my heart beat faster.
Her face suited smiling and rather than having a horrible laugh as many other people generally do (in my opinion) hers was cute and addictive. It made me want to make her happy and see that smile and hear her laugh.
To others she’s a nice looking lady, too me she’s absolutely beautiful in her own way, that’s very personal for me and why people fall in love with each other and see something more in a person.
So you can be beautiful in a different way to someone else  |
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Some people do mean it as a compliment when they say these things, though they're possibly a little badly worded.
I did have a guy at uni though who told me I wasn't typically attractive but that he thought I was. It was like I was supposed to feel lucky that he did and like a dig that other people probably didn't. He was very manipulative though and was definitely negging me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Some people do mean it as a compliment when they say these things, though they're possibly a little badly worded.
I did have a guy at uni though who told me I wasn't typically attractive but that he thought I was. It was like I was supposed to feel lucky that he did and like a dig that other people probably didn't. He was very manipulative though and was definitely negging me. "
It is, isnt it, like I should be grateful they find me attractive, implying others wont!
Good job I am not insecure about myself.
I replied that it was a compliment until it was qualified |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"beautiful, in my own way.
What does that even mean?
I am sure the person saying it, thought it was a compliment, but that isnt how it was received. "
If they meant it as a compliment then it was.
I love backhanded compliments, they make me laugh. Especially when they mean it. Means a lot more to me than some trite 'you look nice' rubbish.
My favourite was "you're not as fat as you were". 
From a bloke who never says anything nice, it was a massive compliment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm often told this when I've been uncomplimentary about myself. And I think it's often a way of people saying your beautiful even though you don't see it yourself "
I would take it as this too , and you are gorgeous x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"beautiful, in my own way.
What does that even mean?
I am sure the person saying it, thought it was a compliment, but that isnt how it was received. "
i’m sure it was a compliment from your pictures your hot  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Take the compliment, don't over analyse and be happy is my best advice....
Worry when they start calling you bad things, innit..... "
Also, I should add that the first paragraph of my profile pretty much says that if you're "beautiful in your own way" then we should probably talk, so......  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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For me it's not a compliment but it is probably intended as one.
You are either beautiful or not. No need to add a qualifier.
And OP you are beautiful and gorgeous |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think You should overthinking it. Take it as a compliment as I'm sure that was a author's intention. I guess this shows differences between guys and ladies way of processing information. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"beautiful, in my own way.
What does that even mean?
I am sure the person saying it, thought it was a compliment, but that isnt how it was received. "
I think its very easy to overthink or read too much into something. I'd say it was a lovely compliment as we we are all beautiful in our own way.. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Take the compliment, don't over analyse and be happy is my best advice....
Worry when they start calling you bad things, innit.....
Also, I should add that the first paragraph of my profile pretty much says that if you're "beautiful in your own way" then we should probably talk, so...... "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a fairly good idea of what I think is beautiful, what people say is "classical beauty". Comments like that, to me, definitely mean that you don't match up to that idea in some way.
That doesn't mean someone's not attractive, but perhaps not tongue on floor drooling attractive... but then 99% don't fall into that category.
What it can be a sign of, is that despite being aware that someone isn't classically beautiful, there's still something incredibly sexy about them. Beautiful and sexy not being the same thing.
It feels socially unacceptable to say to a woman that she turns you on in an animalistic way, an unshaved pussy being a typical example, that you want her on her knees taking a face full of cum... so you say something a bit more polite sounding... like you're beautiful in your own way. 
So you could find it insulting if you want to be thought of as beautiful when you're making guys have dirty thoughts about you instead. |
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"I'm often told this when I've been uncomplimentary about myself. And I think it's often a way of people saying your beautiful even though you don't see it yourself
I would take it as this too , and you are gorgeous x"
Thank you lovely as are you x |
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