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Why is it when you’re fat?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

People think it’s ok to comment on what you eat ffs? My colleague and I had a cheese scone for lunch and I said it wasn’t cheesy enough and I like a lot of cheese, she said ‘yes you like a lot of everything don’t you ? I saw how much marmalade you had on your toast at breakfast’

Now I don’t want to eat in front of her which will be hard as I don’t finish work until 9 tonight, she’s made me feel like a small child

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By *he Mac LassWoman over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

Cheeky cow.

I haven't had anything like this happen. It isn't common. She's just very insensitive.

Don't take it to heart x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Should of replied 'And cock. I like a lot of that as well.'

Fuck 'em. Eat what you want. Please yourself and no one else (unless it's sex you're doing).

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Cheeky cow.

I haven't had anything like this happen. It isn't common. She's just very insensitive.

Don't take it to heart x"

She was talking about her very overweight daughter a while ago and said ‘yes she’s like you’ !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Cheeky cow.

I haven't had anything like this happen. It isn't common. She's just very insensitive.

Don't take it to heart x"

100%. How rude!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Should of replied 'And cock. I like a lot of that as well.'

Fuck 'em. Eat what you want. Please yourself and no one else (unless it's sex you're doing)."

Wish I’d have thought of that lol x

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

How blinking rude, tell she short of manners!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would have told her to fuck off and mind her own business.

Try not to feel awkward in front of her why should you!

You should say something about it and give the awkward feelings right back.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So rude. Hold your head high. Enjoy it and rise above. Turn on fridge treatment or just tell her I wish you wouldnt make any comments about my eating habits from now on. It was unnecessary and not kind. Sometimes straightforward is best.

Sorry you had to go through it.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple over a year ago

North West

Ummm this is actually workplace bullying, especially if it's aimed at you and not others who have similar weight and if it's something that happens more than once. Report to your line manager - where does she stop at being rude? Weight? Gender? Race?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I would have told her to fuck off and mind her own business.

Try not to feel awkward in front of her why should you!

You should say something about it and give the awkward feelings right back."

Every time she does it I’m a little speechless which isn’t like me at all but I will be ready for it next time!!! X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"People think it’s ok to comment on what you eat ffs? My colleague and I had a cheese scone for lunch and I said it wasn’t cheesy enough and I like a lot of cheese, she said ‘yes you like a lot of everything don’t you ? I saw how much marmalade you had on your toast at breakfast’

Now I don’t want to eat in front of her which will be hard as I don’t finish work until 9 tonight, she’s made me feel like a small child

The only way to deal with these people is to fight fire with fire.

Do not even contemplate being the bigger person. Find her physical weakness and attack straight back.

They won't do it again

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Cheeky cow.

I haven't had anything like this happen. It isn't common. She's just very insensitive.

Don't take it to heart x

She was talking about her very overweight daughter a while ago and said ‘yes she’s like you’ ! "

This is border HR stuff. Wow. What a fucking bitch.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks everyone, I need to be ready for the next comment and fire one straight back ! X

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

And no you're not being a bitch if you answer her back

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Now I don’t want to eat in front of her which will be hard as I don’t finish work until 9 tonight, she’s made me feel like a small child

The only way to deal with these people is to fight fire with fire.

Do not even contemplate being the bigger person. Find her physical weakness and attack straight back.

They won't do it again

Fight sarcasm with sarcasm? What if it makes the other person more competitive or worse upset and report OP for being nasty at workplace? This could fire back. Depends on how it's done.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would have said yes, my form is generous, much like my personality, which is fortunate because a less generous person would have probably told you where to shove your unkind comments, by now!!

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By *otsossieMan over a year ago

Chesterfield

"People think it’s ok to comment on what you eat ffs?"

I nearly got sacked for getting narky with a colleague for commenting upon my lunch.

I didn’t even raise my voice, but apparently “the look in his eyes” made them run off to the toilet and cry.

Seriously though, it’s nobody’s business.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman over a year ago

ashford

U are not at all fat!! Take no notice xx

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By *otsossieMan over a year ago

Chesterfield

"Ummm this is actually workplace bullying, especially if it's aimed at you and not others who have similar weight and if it's something that happens more than once. Report to your line manager - where does she stop at being rude? Weight? Gender? Race? "

I’d agree with this, she’s pushing her issues onto you. And from experience, get the first shot in before they go fully fruitloop.

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By *hunky GentMan over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Just tell that you could lose weight, but she'll always be a bitch.

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By *riar BelisseWoman over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Do you think she did it on purpose? How well do you know her

Some people have very little people skills and cannot see that what they say hurts, maybe explain your feelings to her before jumping In with a retort that she may not understand anyway

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By *inky_couple2020Couple over a year ago

North West

"I would have told her to fuck off and mind her own business.

Try not to feel awkward in front of her why should you!

You should say something about it and give the awkward feelings right back.

Every time she does it I’m a little speechless which isn’t like me at all but I will be ready for it next time!!! X"

If this is a repeated/sustained thing, then it's bullying, pure and simple. Report her to your line manager or HR per company policy. It is unacceptable.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You could have replied "Ohh, I'm big because every time your husband fucks me he brings over a large box of chocolates!"

She probably felt threatened by your very ample bust, and jealous of your very full sex life.

It took me a long time to get to a weight I feel comfortable with. I was motivated by health, rather than vanity. I have had the remarks, the comments, the back talk. Fuck 'em.

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By *teveanddebsCouple over a year ago

Norwich

"Cheeky cow.

I haven't had anything like this happen. It isn't common. She's just very insensitive.

Don't take it to heart x

She was talking about her very overweight daughter a while ago and said ‘yes she’s like you’ ! "

For a bloke the answer to give is "That's because every time I fuck your mum she gives me a biscuit"

I'm sure you could adapt it

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

The thing is she’s actually a really nice lady and I don’t think she thinks she’s doing anything nasty , I will definitely point it out to her next time ! Maybe she has issues with food herself, I’m tempted to crack out my chocolate bar now lol x

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By *eplicant JoWoman over a year ago

Sussex countryside

How nasty! Big hugs for you

I agree with all above, log incidents and reply with a comment back - Something like - "at least I am not rude and bully my work colleagues"

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You could have replied "Ohh, I'm big because every time your husband fucks me he brings over a large box of chocolates!"

She probably felt threatened by your very ample bust, and jealous of your very full sex life.

It took me a long time to get to a weight I feel comfortable with. I was motivated by health, rather than vanity. I have had the remarks, the comments, the back talk. Fuck 'em."
that made me chuckle x

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By *elle xWoman over a year ago

Doire Theas

How rude

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By *otfabcouple2017Couple over a year ago

Nottingham

To answer the question "why is it when your fat people think its OK to comment on what you eat"

I'm the Mr and I regularly work with a large gentleman.

What I'm eating is discussed 10 times more than what he is eating.

So my answer is - People do this to non fat people too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The thing is she’s actually a really nice lady and I don’t think she thinks she’s doing anything nasty , I will definitely point it out to her next time ! Maybe she has issues with food herself, I’m tempted to crack out my chocolate bar now lol x"

I was going to say this. Sounds as if she’s got her own issues as who would watch how much marmalade a colleague has? And... if it’s choccie time then go for it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Very pass remarkable.. Not nice, eat what you want OP as long as you are happy with yourself.. She is clearly not a nice person

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get told I need a good steak dinner, or words to that affect cause I’m slim, I dunno why some people feel the need to critique anyone’s weight, it’s none of their business.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn't worry about, I wouldn't say you are fat at all. Is the lady very skinny? Maybe she has anorexia and sees fat when it's not there.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

Some people think they're being really subtle "for your own good". Little off the cuff comments that if you challenge they act all hurt. It's passive aggressive nonsense.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Looks like she has a weird obsession around other people’s eating habits

tell her to get a hobby

go bird watching instead of condiment watching.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple over a year ago

North West

Sorry, but as a line manager, I can see this is how workplace conflict starts. Low level bullying of one person, who may or may not tolerate it. The perpetrators gets away with it. The next person she bullys then it gets worse because the bully gains confidence. She might generally be a nice person, but nice people do not ridicule others for their weight or food choices. Firing back with smart quips etc just causes potentially more conflict, in my experience.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I get told I need a good steak dinner, or words to that affect cause I’m slim, I dunno why some people feel the need to critique anyone’s weight, it’s none of their business. "

It’s not just weight though it’s anything that’s striking about the person. I get told a lot that I should ‘act and behave more like an Asian woman’ by Asians and ‘you’re nothing like an Asian’ by White people. Some people just have to comment

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

So that's where all the f**cking marmalade went!

- Dave (the male half of us .. obviously)

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

Mind you people quite often comment on what I'm eating. One woman in particular used to sort of pore over my food then say things like "oo look at all your healthy bits" or "you shouldn't be eating all that cream cheese or you'll get fat". I used to go out to my car to eat lunch sometimes to avoid it.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple over a year ago

Cumbria

Now I don’t want to eat in front of her which will be hard as I don’t finish work until 9 tonight, she’s made me feel like a small child

It may be her love for you and she feel making you feel bad will help/motivate you to charge .

It's still very wrong could seriously affect some people it not just rude hope it is intentions badly used..

If not she a cunt.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"I get told I need a good steak dinner, or words to that affect cause I’m slim, I dunno why some people feel the need to critique anyone’s weight, it’s none of their business.

how's an Asian supposed to act?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The most important question, orange or lemon and lime marmalade?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The most important question, orange or lemon and lime marmalade? "

Orange and it was lush lol x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The most important question, orange or lemon and lime marmalade?

Orange and it was lush lol x"

The superior marmalade. I have a mild marmalade obsession that one time a guy I met from here bought marmalade chocolate digestives and they were amazing!

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By *irewolffMan over a year ago

Dublin

I wouldnt comment on anyone's food. Only if they asked me to keep them in check as they want to be healthy and need a mentor as such.

I keep my opinions to myself.

MsD

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You can call people tall who are tall but you can't call someone fat who's 99% of the time a greedy cunt .

I don't get it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Now I don’t want to eat in front of her which will be hard as I don’t finish work until 9 tonight, she’s made me feel like a small child

Childish but, make her a brew then spit in it on the sly. Horrible bastard she is

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The most important question, orange or lemon and lime marmalade?

Orange and it was lush lol x

The superior marmalade. I have a mild marmalade obsession that one time a guy I met from here bought marmalade chocolate digestives and they were amazing! "

Where did he get them from, they sounds like a posh jaffa cake

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The most important question, orange or lemon and lime marmalade?

Orange and it was lush lol x

The superior marmalade. I have a mild marmalade obsession that one time a guy I met from here bought marmalade chocolate digestives and they were amazing!

Where did he get them from, they sounds like a posh jaffa cake"

Mcvities! They do a whole range. I think you can get them in most supermarkets. Go get them, report back here and let me know what you think. Go go go

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You can call people tall who are tall but you can't call someone fat who's 99% of the time a greedy cunt .

I don't get it

No.

Just like I wouldn't openly call you a rude cunt.

Kind regards

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You can call people tall who are tall but you can't call someone fat who's 99% of the time a greedy cunt .

I don't get it

I wouldn’t comment on anyone’s appearance unless it was to give a compliment!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The most important question, orange or lemon and lime marmalade?

Orange and it was lush lol x

The superior marmalade. I have a mild marmalade obsession that one time a guy I met from here bought marmalade chocolate digestives and they were amazing!

Where did he get them from, they sounds like a posh jaffa cake

Mcvities! They do a whole range. I think you can get them in most supermarkets. Go get them, report back here and let me know what you think. Go go go "

Ooooh I need to try those ! X

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By *otfabcouple2017Couple over a year ago

Nottingham

"You can call people tall who are tall but you can't call someone fat who's 99% of the time a greedy cunt .

I don't get it

I wouldn’t comment on anyone’s appearance unless it was to give a compliment!"

Perhaps to some people, being called fat is a compliment

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By *inky_couple2020Couple over a year ago

North West

If we're talking marmalade, Rose's lime marmalade is the best.

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By *uke olovingmanMan over a year ago

Gravesend

Sounds like your mate had food envy

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By *a LunaWoman over a year ago

South Wales

Perhaps she’s constantly on a diet and likes to see what others are eating.

Take no notice but if she says owt again ask her to wind her neck in. It’s rude and uncalled for.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

First of all, what an unhappy person she must be to feel the need to make comments like that about anyone else's food choices.

I hope that she can make peace with whatever is making her sad enough that she'd say those things.

Second. Marmalade is 11/10, especially the orange kind, so frankly, anyone who eats it is basically required to put half the jar on a slice of toast to get the full zesty experience

Joking aside, I hope this hasn't gotten to you too much OP, I've had people comment on my food choices too and I know how much it sucks.

Keep your chin up and enjoy your food the way you want to, however makes you happy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You can call people tall who are tall but you can't call someone fat who's 99% of the time a greedy cunt .

I don't get it

No.

Just like I wouldn't openly call you a rude cunt.

Kind regards"

Maybe I'll call people rude cunts who mention me being tall .

Tit for tat

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You can call people tall who are tall but you can't call someone fat who's 99% of the time a greedy cunt .

I don't get it

There's always one

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You can call people tall who are tall but you can't call someone fat who's 99% of the time a greedy cunt .

I don't get it

I wouldn’t comment on anyone’s appearance unless it was to give a compliment!"

I think commenting on a person's height is heightist .

Basically change the fucking record I'm sick of hearing it and calling me Big Man . . Ughhhh

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By *inky_couple2020Couple over a year ago

North West

"You can call people tall who are tall but you can't call someone fat who's 99% of the time a greedy cunt .

I don't get it

No.

Just like I wouldn't openly call you a rude cunt.

Kind regards

Maybe I'll call people rude cunts who mention me being tall .

Tit for tat "

Tall is my first boyfriend, 6ft 8ins. So meh.

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By *ancsduoCouple over a year ago

Morecambe

Tell her it's because you burn loads of calories fighting the urge to smack her in her cheeky mouth

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You can call people tall who are tall but you can't call someone fat who's 99% of the time a greedy cunt .

I don't get it

I wouldn’t comment on anyone’s appearance unless it was to give a compliment!

I think commenting on a person's height is heightist .

Basically change the fucking record I'm sick of hearing it and calling me Big Man . . Ughhhh

So your response is to call fat people greedy cunts? Oh right.

My neighbour clipped the side of my car so now I key all other cars

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I get told I need a good steak dinner, or words to that affect cause I’m slim, I dunno why some people feel the need to critique anyone’s weight, it’s none of their business.

how's an Asian supposed to act?

Don’t ask me, fucked if I know.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You can call people tall who are tall but you can't call someone fat who's 99% of the time a greedy cunt .

I don't get it

There's always one

Unless your overweight and it's usually the whole packet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Now I don’t want to eat in front of her which will be hard as I don’t finish work until 9 tonight, she’s made me feel like a small child

I always get given MORE food! “Your a big lad, have a extra spud” etc...

I still eat it all though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You can call people tall who are tall but you can't call someone fat who's 99% of the time a greedy cunt .

I don't get it

There's always one

Unless your overweight and it's usually the whole packet

You know you don't have to be rude, you can just choose to say nothing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You can call people tall who are tall but you can't call someone fat who's 99% of the time a greedy cunt .

I don't get it

There's always one

Unless your overweight and it's usually the whole packet

You know you don't have to be rude, you can just choose to say nothing. "

Knob heads don't know when to stop speaking.

It's in their DNA.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I actually wouldn’t wait until the next time. When someone pisses me off I rarely react in the moment. I wait, gather my thoughts and approach them in a calm manner and say what I want to say politely and without emotion.

I would go and tell her that you find her comments regarding your weight and your food choices inappropriate and hurtful and ask her to refrain from making comments in future.

If she does it again then she’s a cunt and I’d pull her up there and then.

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By *assing Fancies xCouple over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

Should of headbutted the cheeky cow bag (I joke of course)

I really don't see why people feel the need to do this. When I go to my gym classes every now and again there will be the odd person (in shape) stood taking the piss and making comments behind a larger person's back (I.e "look at that" laughing) its makes my blood boil that people can make nasty comments and take the piss out of someone who is doing nothing more than trying to better themselves.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Should of headbutted the cheeky cow bag (I joke of course)

That’s exactly why I don’t go to the gym ! X

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You can call people tall who are tall but you can't call someone fat who's 99% of the time a greedy cunt .

I don't get it

There's always one

Unless your overweight and it's usually the whole packet

Well you’re a delight aren’t you?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

People pass comments on all shapes and sizes of those who don't necessarily fit the percieved ideal image? Even then someone will pass comment on how they must spend all day in the gym loving themselves?

Its not just 'overweight people ' that get comments.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"I actually wouldn’t wait until the next time. When someone pisses me off I rarely react in the moment. I wait, gather my thoughts and approach them in a calm manner and say what I want to say politely and without emotion.

I would go and tell her that you find her comments regarding your weight and your food choices inappropriate and hurtful and ask her to refrain from making comments in future.

If she does it again then she’s a cunt and I’d pull her up there and then.

Exactly what I was going to say! Don't wait for it to happen again. Make your position clear. She may be just thoughtless, in which case hopefully she will apologise and not do it again, job done. If not, then you may have to take it further.

I'm sorry you've had to deal with this, and with some shitty comments on this thread.

Mrs TMN x

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By *onestjohn1962Man over a year ago

Sheffield

"Should of headbutted the cheeky cow bag (I joke of course)

I think we have all come across this and I have to say that they don’t get away with it if I hear them. They are bullies and make my blood boil. I have always been the same - I try to provoke them so much that they want to hit me. Invariably they chicken out and I humiliate them.

One day I will get battered!

(Please note that I don’t condone violence. It just makes me feel better in the presence of a twat!)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Do you think this person meant to offend you? If so then I'd have asked them to clarify what they meant, but if not then I'd let it go and enjoy eating what you're eating.....

(I don't think most ppl get out of bed in the morning wishing to offend, so I'd rather be clear and judge them on their intent)

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By *otfabcouple2017Couple over a year ago

Nottingham

" People pass comments on all shapes and sizes of those who don't necessarily fit the percieved ideal image? Even then someone will pass comment on how they must spend all day in the gym loving themselves?

Its not just 'overweight people ' that get comments."

Exactly

Kind of like how most conventionally attractive people are often branded shallow and narcissistic before a single word is exchanged.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Its not just 'overweight people ' that get comments."

I know and it’s unfair, I have a friend who when he was younger was super slim and people would constantly call him skinny etc and that’s just as unacceptable! I don’t normally let things like that get to me as I’m my own worst critic but today just pissed me off lol x

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Now I don’t want to eat in front of her which will be hard as I don’t finish work until 9 tonight, she’s made me feel like a small child

You commented first. Fair do's you didn't ask for her opinion on how much jam is too much jam but you opened the arena for the topic. She didn't out of the blue just say ..... fuck me you eat a lot.

I empathise with how you felt. I do understand. Those feelings though come from what you already think about yourself. Otherwise her comment wouldn't have touched the sides....

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By *ltrMan over a year ago

sheffield

For the purpose of this Code of Practice the definition of workplace bullying is as follows:

“Workplace Bullying is repeated inappropriate behaviour, direct or indirect, whether verbal, physical or otherwise, conducted by one or more persons against another or others, at the place of work and/or in the course of employment, which could reasonably be regarded as undermining the individual’s right to dignity at work. An isolated incident of the behaviour described in this definition may be an affront to dignity at work but, as a once off incident, is not considered to be bullying.” section 42 1990 Industrial relationship act

just dug this out of my

work placehand book

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By *2000ManMan over a year ago

Worthing

o/p next time buy the biggest cream cake and shove it in her face. She will think twice then!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Do you think she did it on purpose? How well do you know her

Some people have very little people skills and cannot see that what they say hurts, maybe explain your feelings to her before jumping In with a retort that she may not understand anyway"

Spot on. Some of the well intentioned advice above would put the O.P. smack bang into the same category of colleague that people are calling fit to burn and make any case she had one of 6 of one half a dozen of the other.

Most adult first step is talk to her calmly on a one to one.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Do you think she did it on purpose? How well do you know her

Some people have very little people skills and cannot see that what they say hurts, maybe explain your feelings to her before jumping In with a retort that she may not understand anyway

Most adult first step is talk to her calmly on a one to one. "

Like I say she’s a really nice person and I really don’t think she means to be hurtful which is why I haven’t reacted yet , but there’s been a few too many comments now and I will just mention next time that she seems to comment on my eating a lot and why ?! X

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"If we're talking marmalade, Rose's lime marmalade is the best. "

Nah ....... Coopers thick cut marmalade.

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By *ikeC81Man over a year ago

harrow

The next person that mentions I am fat yes I have a bit of a belly

Well when was the last time you ran 15km in a week, cycled over 20km and rowed about 5km

Hmmmmm ok

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It sounds like she doesn't realise she's being insensitive or rude, there are some people like that, very abrupt and rude without quite realising,don't take it to heart

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Now I don’t want to eat in front of her which will be hard as I don’t finish work until 9 tonight, she’s made me feel like a small child

I’m so sorry she said that. Try to remember it’s about her issues, and not yours. Don’t own it.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Do you think she did it on purpose? How well do you know her

Some people have very little people skills and cannot see that what they say hurts, maybe explain your feelings to her before jumping In with a retort that she may not understand anyway

Most adult first step is talk to her calmly on a one to one.

Good for you. I never enjoy confrontation but I never put it off. If I do ..... I don't like myself for allowing stuff to go on when it could have been sorted where no one loses face.

If that doesn't work then you take it further.

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By *uriousAndCuriousCouple over a year ago

Birmingham

I wouldnt take it to heart. Some people dont know how they can hurt people, others dont care. Either way, stuff her!! Xx

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"It sounds like she doesn't realise she's being insensitive or rude, there are some people like that, very abrupt and rude without quite realising,don't take it to heart"

I don't know anyone like that Dash.

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By *uriousAndCuriousCouple over a year ago

Birmingham

I got told by my x that it was ok that I was fat because he loved me anyway even when others wouldnt.

Some people are just complete dicks. Safe to say he got the boot!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It sounds like she doesn't realise she's being insensitive or rude, there are some people like that, very abrupt and rude without quite realising,don't take it to heart

I don't know anyone like that Dash."

Good, it's not a mandatory requirement when living on earth

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By *issmorganWoman over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Some people don't engage their brain before speaking sadly

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thanks everyone, I need to be ready for the next comment and fire one straight back ! X"

Very rude of her! Seen something on Fb yesterday which would be a great comeback:

Unless I'm sat on your face my weight is no concern of yours

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Have you considered telling her to fuck right off?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You could have replied "Ohh, I'm big because every time your husband fucks me he brings over a large box of chocolates!"

..."

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By *otsossieMan over a year ago

Chesterfield

"Have you considered telling her to fuck right off? "

Problem is, as soon as you do this you become the bad guy.

I’ve even tried calmly and levelly explaining why that’s not ok.

Thank fuck for working from home.

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By *ssex_tomMan over a year ago

Chelmsford

OP. I am really sorry that your work colleague made you feel like shit. I had someone comment on how much marmite I put on my toast once but it was days after I ate it. I did wonder why it interested her. She then have a go for me eating a tinned soup cold on a hot day. She was always commentating and if I ate something with a fork she would go and get me a knife. She was disgusted that I ate sardines out of a tin instead of off a plate. Then looked at me like dirt for eating baked beans out of a tin. I just used to purposely eat strange combinations after that. My favourite was the look on her face when I ate a curried pot noodle on toast...

Yummy it was...

Stay strong

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thanks everyone, I need to be ready for the next comment and fire one straight back ! X

Very rude of her! Seen something on Fb yesterday which would be a great comeback:

Unless I'm sat on your face my weight is no concern of yours

I’m using this one!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What the actual fuck. She's a dick and no doubt has an array of her own issues that she puts others down to feel better about Herself.

If she does similar again I'd totally call her on it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm a yoyo. Fat.. not as fat... fat... not as fat...

People only comment when I get not as fat (I'll never be 'slim'!).

Then it's "ooh if you eat that you'll gain weight" or " you need to eat something, you are getting too skinny".

I just smile and agree. Can't be arsed to do anything else, I'm too busy enjoying my food.

If it's really getting to you then definitely say something. Maybe she says it without thinking or someone says the same things to her. X

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By *otSoPoshWoman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Thanks everyone, I need to be ready for the next comment and fire one straight back ! X

Very rude of her! Seen something on Fb yesterday which would be a great comeback:

Unless I'm sat on your face my weight is no concern of yours

I’m using this one!"

Ooh.... I love this one!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The most important question, orange or lemon and lime marmalade?

Orange and it was lush lol x

The superior marmalade. I have a mild marmalade obsession that one time a guy I met from here bought marmalade chocolate digestives and they were amazing! "

I sent someone from here a jar of my homemade marmalade once!

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By *otSoPoshWoman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I would hope you're right and she doesn't realise what she's saying. But I've experienced this from well meaning people, oblivious people and nasty people over the years and it hurts as much no matter who says it. The only way you'll know which she is is by asking her not to comment in future as it hurts you, and that's far easier said that done.

Sending hugs lovely lady xxx

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By *icearmsMan over a year ago

KIDLINGTON

Sorry to hear this op. It can be a horrid experience, I had something similar many years ago and it has stuck with me since.. often get flash backs and how bad it made me feel.

I guess over time we just deal with crap sent our way and put a brave face on it at the time, but deep down it eats away at us. As mentioned above best way to deal with it is either a quick witted reply or the more awkward conversation around not saying it to you.

Either way good luck in dealing with it..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don't think anyone has ever got fat eating to much any way especially not marmalade!!!!! more likely doing to little. You should see the food intake some one training for a iron man contest can put away and most of them are as thin as rakes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm fat and all this thread has done is made me hungry

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

When I was bothered about my weight I used to take anyones remarks to heart

I am going to go against the grain here and say as you started the conversation of how you would have liked more cheese then I don't think that was a bad comment to join in with

Now if this is ongoing and not a one off comment in answer to yours then that is a different thing altogether

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Don't think anyone has ever got fat eating to much any way especially not marmalade!!!!! more likely doing to little. You should see the food intake some one training for a iron man contest can put away and most of them are as thin as rakes "

This really really really is my fave reply ......... cos it's well .......

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

"You can call people tall who are tall but you can't call someone fat who's 99% of the time a greedy cunt .

I don't get it

No.

Just like I wouldn't openly call you a rude cunt.

Kind regards"

Ok lets both keep it civil

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"When I was bothered about my weight I used to take anyones remarks to heart

I am going to go against the grain here and say as you started the conversation of how you would have liked more cheese then I don't think that was a bad comment to join in with

Now if this is ongoing and not a one off comment in answer to yours then that is a different thing altogether"

It surely me saying I liked cheesier scones wasn’t an invitation to her to comment on the rest of my eating? X

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thank you all for your responses and support I really appreciate it

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"When I was bothered about my weight I used to take anyones remarks to heart

I am going to go against the grain here and say as you started the conversation of how you would have liked more cheese then I don't think that was a bad comment to join in with

Now if this is ongoing and not a one off comment in answer to yours then that is a different thing altogether

It surely me saying I liked cheesier scones wasn’t an invitation to her to comment on the rest of my eating? X"

‘But’ surely x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thanks everyone, I need to be ready for the next comment and fire one straight back ! X"

What a boot - It’s tantamount to bullying. See the next time just ask her why she comments so much on your weight and what you eat as she seems to have an awful lot to say on the matter and it makes you uncomfortable.

Nosy crow.

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By *otfabcouple2017Couple over a year ago

Nottingham

You can't out train a bad diet.

Its just not possible.

Its literally all about what you eat.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

She is obviously insecure herself

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Now I don’t want to eat in front of her which will be hard as I don’t finish work until 9 tonight, she’s made me feel like a small child

Let her know she overstepped the mark bullying whether she meant it or not is not acceptable and you can eat what you like its knowone elses business xx

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Jesus ......

I think she should be killed and have done with it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Jesus ......

I think she should be killed and have done with it. "

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

"When I was bothered about my weight I used to take anyones remarks to heart

I am going to go against the grain here and say as you started the conversation of how you would have liked more cheese then I don't think that was a bad comment to join in with

Now if this is ongoing and not a one off comment in answer to yours then that is a different thing altogether

It surely me saying I liked cheesier scones wasn’t an invitation to her to comment on the rest of my eating? X"

You were talking about what you like to eat, she commented about what she saw you eat that morning, I personally don't see anything wrong in that unless she is commenting on your eating all the time or when you are not talking about food in the first place

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Actually thats a pile of potch. If you've ever completed one you'd know that there's all sorts of shapes and sizes participating AND completing the events. Granted they aren't putting in sub 11 hour times but they do it.

You can read all the fitness magazine hype until the cows come home, but it is about what you put in your mouth, like it or not. If you're completing an IM then its pretty important WHAT you put in your mouth.

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

Now I don’t want to eat in front of her which will be hard as I don’t finish work until 9 tonight, she’s made me feel like a small child

Oh wow, you should have stolen her scone and said 'look Karen you miserable bitch, if you don't watch your mouth I'll eat your entire family, now kindly fuck off back to the depths of hell where you belong'.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This annoys the absolute fuck out of me. Along the same lines as the people who think it’s ok to poke you in the belly. Keep your finger to yourself or prepare to lose it dickhead!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"When I was bothered about my weight I used to take anyones remarks to heart

I am going to go against the grain here and say as you started the conversation of how you would have liked more cheese then I don't think that was a bad comment to join in with

Now if this is ongoing and not a one off comment in answer to yours then that is a different thing altogether

It surely me saying I liked cheesier scones wasn’t an invitation to her to comment on the rest of my eating? X

No , in my OP all I said was I like more cheese in my scone

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By *inky_couple2020Couple over a year ago

North West

The obvious answer is eat fruit scones instead

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The obvious answer is eat fruit scones instead

Good point !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You can call people tall who are tall but you can't call someone fat who's 99% of the time a greedy cunt .

I don't get it

No.

Just like I wouldn't openly call you a rude cunt.

Kind regards"

Buuuuttttttt

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The obvious answer is eat fruit scones instead

But make sure it has lots of jam and cream x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This annoys the absolute fuck out of me. Along the same lines as the people who think it’s ok to poke you in the belly. Keep your finger to yourself or prepare to lose it dickhead!"

I love stroking, does this count?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Now I don’t want to eat in front of her which will be hard as I don’t finish work until 9 tonight, she’s made me feel like a small child

Tell her I'm bigger because every time I fuck your husband he buys me a KFC bucket

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Id have told her how fucking rude she was for a start!

Whatta bitch!

I'd have prolly taken her not cheesey enough scone, inspected it and lobbed it across the room and said..."well I don't like your shitty scone or your shitty attitude...now, fetch bitch"

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"This annoys the absolute fuck out of me. Along the same lines as the people who think it’s ok to poke you in the belly. Keep your finger to yourself or prepare to lose it dickhead!"

It’s definitely not acceptable to poke anyone in the belly! X

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The obvious answer is eat fruit scones instead

But make sure it has lots of jam and cream x"

It has to be clotted cream ! X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This annoys the absolute fuck out of me. Along the same lines as the people who think it’s ok to poke you in the belly. Keep your finger to yourself or prepare to lose it dickhead!

I love stroking, does this count?!

As long as it’s mutual stroking

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Personally .... I’d have stuffed the scone in her mouth or rubbed my belly and looked her right in the eye and said ‘ oh yes’

Cheeky cow

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

"Jesus ......

I think she should be killed and have done with it. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don’t get why people have to be quite so rude?? Why is it anybody else’s business what other people eat? Morons

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By *reat me rightWoman over a year ago

Rotherham

Clearly not a nice person or a decent parent if she A recognised her child is overweight and B talks negatively about them.

As for commenting towards you and your weight - if it were me she would be dismissed tout suite. I answer to nobody and am, let's be blunt here, fat!!! I have little problem with this and, should anyone feel the need to comment to me about my weight/eating habits then, dependent on who they are, I will either ignore them (clearly rude people to comment as such to begin with and therefore not worth the steam of my proverbial) or tell them where to go.

Whoever you are, however much you weigh, dont weigh, exercise, dont exercise etc etc etc then remember - its YOUR life and nobody elses. If you are happy in your own skin then, again to be blunt, fuck them.

I'd also be reporting said person for workplace discrimination/bullying.

Stay strong OP, you are fabulous xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The obvious answer is eat fruit scones instead

But make sure it has lots of jam and cream x

It has to be clotted cream ! X"

Indeed xx

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By *reat me rightWoman over a year ago

Rotherham

And, as my dear old Nana used to say

"If you dont have anything nice to say, then keep thi gob shut lass".

In a world where we can be anything, kindness costs nothing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What a total Bitch,don't let it get to you x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Is she hitting a nerve because you think she had a point though?

Im a dress size 32.. so being honest i only get irke'd by shite like this because i know deep down that person is right and has a point.

I do believe though that slender people also get questioned on their food choices too. Ive a gorgeous size 8 friend and all she gets is 'omg how do you never gain weight'.. and its equally hurtfull.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

"Clearly not a nice person or a decent parent if she A recognised her child is overweight and B talks negatively about them.

I'd also be reporting said person for workplace discrimination/bullying.

Stay strong OP, you are fabulous xx"

How did we get to the woman being a bad parent?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Is she hitting a nerve because you think she had a point though?

Im a dress size 32.. so being honest i only get irke'd by shite like this because i know deep down that person is right and has a point.

I do believe though that slender people also get questioned on their food choices too. Ive a gorgeous size 8 friend and all she gets is 'omg how do you never gain weight'.. and its equally hurtfull.

Of course she hit a nerve , I’m an overweight woman who hates her body so I’m bound to be pissed off but did she have a point? No not really, I had a reasonable amount of marmalade on my two slices of toast for breakfast and a cheese scone that I’d liked to have been a bit cheesier for lunch lol so why would anyone feel the need to comment on that ? Yes I totally agree that it happens the same to slim people too which can be equally upsetting, as I’ve said a couple of times she’s a nice lady and I’m sure she doesn’t mean to offend but I think some people need to think before they speak about other people’s food habits as it can hurt and it can stay with you x

And you are gorgeous by the way

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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I didn't say it wasn't important what you put in your mouth but there is still a lot of if

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You can't out train a bad diet.

Its just not possible.

Its literally all about what you eat. "
No that's true bad diet is a bad diet no one to blame but them selves if there fat through a bad diet what I meant was you can still eat a hell of a lot of food aslong as you burn it off

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would and say here I’m eating again just so I’ve pointed it out before you do! My Nan is like this she asked me if I was carrying twins at Christmas.

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

When people make sly comments I find that the best response is to pretend you don't understand what they mean and have them explain their comment in excruciating detail.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When people make sly comments I find that the best response is to pretend you don't understand what they mean and have them explain their comment in excruciating detail. "

oh i do that all the time too.. its awesome to watch them squirm

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Cheeky fucker...nice to taste what you eat not have it bland

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By *otfabcouple2017Couple over a year ago

Nottingham

"When people make sly comments I find that the best response is to pretend you don't understand what they mean and have them explain their comment in excruciating detail. "

In this instance, I don't think that would have worked particularly well, the lady only said she saw how much marmalade she had on her toast.

I'm not sure how re explaining that would be long winded or excruciating.

And whether hurtful or not, if it's factually accurate that there was alot of marmalade used, then I don't see how explaining that would be excruciating at all.

Whilst I'm sure there alot of merit to your idea, I think it would most likely lend itself to end poorly if this particular case handled as you describe.

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"When people make sly comments I find that the best response is to pretend you don't understand what they mean and have them explain their comment in excruciating detail.

In this instance, I don't think that would have worked particularly well, the lady only said she saw how much marmalade she had on her toast.

I'm not sure how re explaining that would be long winded or excruciating.

And whether hurtful or not, if it's factually accurate that there was alot of marmalade used, then I don't see how explaining that would be excruciating at all.

Whilst I'm sure there alot of merit to your idea, I think it would most likely lend itself to end poorly if this particular case handled as you describe. "

What's wrong with lots of marmalade?

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By *ambanCouple over a year ago

kingswinford

You don't have to be aggressive to be assertive but sometimes you just need to tell people like her to fuck right off!

The cheeky cow!

Why is it that some insensitive people feel they have the right to say such hurtful things?

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By *otfabcouple2017Couple over a year ago

Nottingham

"When people make sly comments I find that the best response is to pretend you don't understand what they mean and have them explain their comment in excruciating detail.

In this instance, I don't think that would have worked particularly well, the lady only said she saw how much marmalade she had on her toast.

I'm not sure how re explaining that would be long winded or excruciating.

And whether hurtful or not, if it's factually accurate that there was alot of marmalade used, then I don't see how explaining that would be excruciating at all.

Whilst I'm sure there alot of merit to your idea, I think it would most likely lend itself to end poorly if this particular case handled as you describe.

What's wrong with lots of marmalade? "

Nothing

I love marmalade

But if someone says "wow, that's alot of marmalade of your toast!"

And I reply "What do you mean by that?"

I don't envisage their next response to feel difficult/painful/excruciating for them.

It's a good tactic, but not in this case

NO MARMALADE WAS HARMED IN THE MAKING OF THIS POST

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When people make sly comments I find that the best response is to pretend you don't understand what they mean and have them explain their comment in excruciating detail.

In this instance, I don't think that would have worked particularly well, the lady only said she saw how much marmalade she had on her toast.

I'm not sure how re explaining that would be long winded or excruciating.

And whether hurtful or not, if it's factually accurate that there was alot of marmalade used, then I don't see how explaining that would be excruciating at all.

Whilst I'm sure there alot of merit to your idea, I think it would most likely lend itself to end poorly if this particular case handled as you describe.

What's wrong with lots of marmalade?

Nothing

I love marmalade

But if someone says "wow, that's alot of marmalade of your toast!"

And I reply "What do you mean by that?"

I don't envisage their next response to feel difficult/painful/excruciating for them.

It's a good tactic, but not in this case

NO MARMALADE WAS HARMED IN THE MAKING OF THIS POST "
got to say marmalade is not nice what's with having bits of peel in it!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’d put more on next time right in front of her and keep saying how lovely it is....I can’t stand people who comment on what you’re eating

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"When people make sly comments I find that the best response is to pretend you don't understand what they mean and have them explain their comment in excruciating detail.

In this instance, I don't think that would have worked particularly well, the lady only said she saw how much marmalade she had on her toast.

I'm not sure how re explaining that would be long winded or excruciating.

And whether hurtful or not, if it's factually accurate that there was alot of marmalade used, then I don't see how explaining that would be excruciating at all.

Whilst I'm sure there alot of merit to your idea, I think it would most likely lend itself to end poorly if this particular case handled as you describe.

What's wrong with lots of marmalade?

Nothing

I love marmalade

But if someone says "wow, that's alot of marmalade of your toast!"

And I reply "What do you mean by that?"

I don't envisage their next response to feel difficult/painful/excruciating for them.

It's a good tactic, but not in this case

NO MARMALADE WAS HARMED IN THE MAKING OF THIS POST "

Either they have to say there's nothing wrong with it (but then look odd for pointing it out) or tell you why they're judging you for your marmalade consumption

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Now I don’t want to eat in front of her which will be hard as I don’t finish work until 9 tonight, she’s made me feel like a small child

Insensitive and rude- eat what you like and like what you eat

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"I’d put more on next time right in front of her and keep saying how lovely it is....I can’t stand people who comment on what you’re eating

Omg yes!! Mound on the marmalade while maintaining intense eye contact

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By *otfabcouple2017Couple over a year ago

Nottingham

"You don't have to be aggressive to be assertive but sometimes you just need to tell people like her to fuck right off!

The cheeky cow!

Why is it that some insensitive people feel they have the right to say such hurtful things? "

Since the op had said she likes alot of cheese to the lady in question, when the lady in question responded she probably didn't intend to be offensive, just a playful comment.

If I said to my buddy, "id like more of this tequila, I really like it"

And he replied "you like everything, I saw you nail 4 whisky this morning"

I wouldn't take offense, or even think he meant to offend me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’d put more on next time right in front of her and keep saying how lovely it is....I can’t stand people who comment on what you’re eating

Omg yes!! Mound on the marmalade while maintaining intense eye contact

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Then start eating it off the knife

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

She obviously has her own issues.

Don't let her get to you but if she does it again ask her why it's her business how much you eat x

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"I’d put more on next time right in front of her and keep saying how lovely it is....I can’t stand people who comment on what you’re eating

Omg yes!! Mound on the marmalade while maintaining intense eye contact

Then start eating it off the knife

Go all out and just scoop it out the jar

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By *otfabcouple2017Couple over a year ago

Nottingham

"When people make sly comments I find that the best response is to pretend you don't understand what they mean and have them explain their comment in excruciating detail.

In this instance, I don't think that would have worked particularly well, the lady only said she saw how much marmalade she had on her toast.

I'm not sure how re explaining that would be long winded or excruciating.

And whether hurtful or not, if it's factually accurate that there was alot of marmalade used, then I don't see how explaining that would be excruciating at all.

Whilst I'm sure there alot of merit to your idea, I think it would most likely lend itself to end poorly if this particular case handled as you describe.

What's wrong with lots of marmalade?

Nothing

I love marmalade

But if someone says "wow, that's alot of marmalade of your toast!"

And I reply "What do you mean by that?"

I don't envisage their next response to feel difficult/painful/excruciating for them.

It's a good tactic, but not in this case

NO MARMALADE WAS HARMED IN THE MAKING OF THIS POST

Either they have to say there's nothing wrong with it (but then look odd for pointing it out) or tell you why they're judging you for your marmalade consumption

. "

No I think I'd look odd for saying that

Shes merely elaborating upon a point I made, for me to then ask what's wrong with it, would make me look the jerk, and like I lack the understanding of the context of the comments in the conversation.

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By *otfabcouple2017Couple over a year ago

Nottingham

"I’d put more on next time right in front of her and keep saying how lovely it is....I can’t stand people who comment on what you’re eating

Er... Yeah that'll teach her

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By *inky_couple2020Couple over a year ago

North West

"I’d put more on next time right in front of her and keep saying how lovely it is....I can’t stand people who comment on what you’re eating

Er... Yeah that'll teach her

The point is, how much marmalade someone else puts on their toast is none of anyone else's business. The minute she starts questioning the amount of marmalade, she oversteps the mark. Who is she to decide how much of something a colleague should eat? It is treating the other person like a child. So, if the OP wanted to ladle the whole damn pot on and lick the spoon, that would be her perogative and person B should keep her nose out.

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By *ig_eric_tionMan over a year ago

IPSWICH

You could remark that the more time you spend spreading marmalade on your toast the less time you have to spend looking at her face.

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By *otfabcouple2017Couple over a year ago

Nottingham

"I’d put more on next time right in front of her and keep saying how lovely it is....I can’t stand people who comment on what you’re eating

Er... Yeah that'll teach her

She didn't just come out with it out of the blue

The op said she liked alot of cheese, to which she replied you also like also of marmalade

She was in NO WAY trying to police the amount of marmalade used in that statement, simply stating an observed fact.

There's nothing negative about it

It may have appeared negative if the lady just walked over and made that statement, but she didnt, she responded to op stating she likes alot of cheese.

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By *erynaughtyMan over a year ago

Derby

Some people just can’t help themselves. I want ladies to be more curvy, so much sexier in my eyes. I have a friend on here who is fabulous and sexy with it but she always worries what others think or what their expectation is. Last time we had a social she asked if she should have a salad or a MaccyD for lunch, I was straight with her...have a MaccyD and be proud of your amazing body. All curvy ladies should embrace their bodies, we love to know you are out there

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There is a bit of an epidemic nowadays of fat people though.

Unhealthy as well.

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"There is a bit of an epidemic nowadays of fat people though.

Unhealthy as well."

There's also an epidemic of judgmental people.

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"I’d put more on next time right in front of her and keep saying how lovely it is....I can’t stand people who comment on what you’re eating

Er... Yeah that'll teach her

She didn't just come out with it out of the blue

The op said she liked alot of cheese, to which she replied you also like also of marmalade

She was in NO WAY trying to police the amount of marmalade used in that statement, simply stating an observed fact.

There's nothing negative about it

It may have appeared negative if the lady just walked over and made that statement, but she didnt, she responded to op stating she likes alot of cheese.

I find watching how much of something a work mate eats pretty creepy to be honest. I'd ask her why she's watching me eat.

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By *innie The MinxWoman over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Similar has happened before in my place of work.

Some people say things unthinkingly but others definitely feel they have a right to make snide comments about what other people are (or aren't eating).

I think my comeback would have been "Blimey there's nothing wrong with your eyesight is there, but it's a shame about your manners, you rude cow!"

Bat it right back.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’d put more on next time right in front of her and keep saying how lovely it is....I can’t stand people who comment on what you’re eating

Er... Yeah that'll teach her

She didn't just come out with it out of the blue

The op said she liked alot of cheese, to which she replied you also like also of marmalade

She was in NO WAY trying to police the amount of marmalade used in that statement, simply stating an observed fact.

There's nothing negative about it

It may have appeared negative if the lady just walked over and made that statement, but she didnt, she responded to op stating she likes alot of cheese.

Ok just to reiterate my OP said -

So I said the scone wasn’t cheesey enough not that I eat tonnes of cheese and the amount of marmalade wasn’t specified it was just her judging the amount of marmalade I had on my toast which I’d like to say was an average amount ! But as we were chatting about the merits of the cheese scone there was no need for her to mention any marmalade, in my opinion

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By *otfabcouple2017Couple over a year ago

Nottingham

"I’d put more on next time right in front of her and keep saying how lovely it is....I can’t stand people who comment on what you’re eating

Er... Yeah that'll teach her

She didn't just come out with it out of the blue

The op said she liked alot of cheese, to which she replied you also like also of marmalade

She was in NO WAY trying to police the amount of marmalade used in that statement, simply stating an observed fact.

There's nothing negative about it

It may have appeared negative if the lady just walked over and made that statement, but she didnt, she responded to op stating she likes alot of cheese.

I find watching how much of something a work mate eats pretty creepy to be honest. I'd ask her why she's watching me eat. "

Perhaps op also mentions food on other occasions like she did this time, making it a focal point,hence the lady taking notice of it.

It does stand to reason given the op,

Again many people comment on the food I eat often.

Since i got in shape, I cut for summer every year so for past 5 years I spend half the year talking about my diet.

And I never bring it up. Its actually very dull for me, so I get no enjoyment from talking about it.

Like I initially stated, people talking about other people eating habits is NOT specific to fat people, we all get it.

I'm sure fat people are often the target of ridicule when it comes to their diet, but it's not exclusive to fat people. And in some cases, extremely obese people are that way because of extremely poor and glutinous diet.

People are just intrigued by other people's eating habits.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There is a bit of an epidemic nowadays of fat people though.

Unhealthy as well.

There's also an epidemic of judgmental people. "

There is. I'm just stating my opinion. My weight fluctuates up and down. Sometimes I'm really heavy and sometimes ripped due to being a competitive bodybuilder.

No one gets fat behind their own backs. We do it to ourselves

Everyone is constantly judging others around them. Same with women on Fab judging men harshly when they themselves look terrible

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