I really love my work but sometimes it's heartbreaking.
Held a ladies hand while she passed away this morning. I have done and seen this on many occasions but this one I can't get my head around and I don't know why.
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"I really love my work but sometimes it's heartbreaking.
Held a ladies hand while she passed away this morning. I have done and seen this on many occasions but this one I can't get my head around and I don't know why.
Sorry for putting this on here "
This is something i do often and it breaks my heart but knowing they are now at peace and were well cared for helps a little.x |
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Thank you for your caring and for being with this lady as she passed. I'm sure you comforted her and that her family will be grateful she was in the care of a loving person in her final moments. Hugs  |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"no need to apologise ya dafty.
I can only imagine the comfort you gave her in her final moments. That my darling is priceless "
This! Don't be sorry about letting your feelings be expressed, better to be in the wrong place (not that it is the wrong place) than have them fester and eat from within. |
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Sometimes the most rewarding jobs can be the most emotionally taxing! Obviously difficult in a very different way but I've seen some safeguarding cases lately that have haunted me somewhat so you have my sympathy when it comes to loving your job but sometimes taking it home with you . |
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over a year ago
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Just because you've done it before doesn't make it easier and doesn't mean you have to put on a brave face.
Allow yourself you mourn and cope in your own way. I'm sorry for your loss and hope you feel better soon  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Sorry to hear about your day.
We all have tuff days and if having a vent on here helps you through it go for it. no one here will hold it against you.
Stay safe and I hope you feel better soon |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Awww sweetness. huge hugs and just to say, you're awesome for being there when they needed you, in their final moments, showing some love and compassion xx |
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If you didn't have an emotional response then you shouldn't be doing the job. Its perfectly normal and the best thing is that you are comfortable to express that feeling.
Why that one person? Who knows, sometimes its our personal situation on that day that just makes an extra emotional attachment. Its happened to me and ill never forget that one case, but others I recall less clearly. |
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
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"I really love my work but sometimes it's heartbreaking.
Held a ladies hand while she passed away this morning. I have done and seen this on many occasions but this one I can't get my head around and I don't know why.
Sorry for putting this on here "
Xxxxxxx hugs xxxx
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"I really love my work but sometimes it's heartbreaking.
Held a ladies hand while she passed away this morning. I have done and seen this on many occasions but this one I can't get my head around and I don't know why.
Sorry for putting this on here "
To approach such a scenario without feeling something would be more worrying, no matter how many times you had encountered it.
Being there at the end of someone's life is immeasurably poignant and hopefully would have afforded them some small comfort knowing that they were not alone.
This is perhaps even more important during these difficult times. Please don't feel sorry for sharing something so touching with us all.
Take care.
GK
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"I really love my work but sometimes it's heartbreaking.
Held a ladies hand while she passed away this morning. I have done and seen this on many occasions but this one I can't get my head around and I don't know why.
Sorry for putting this on here "
Thank you for being you...
Can I also thank you for reaching out for support on a site like this it's good to see someany care for you and my throught will be with you take care of you  |
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In their final moments, that lady had someone care when there was nobody else there. Humankind needs more like you. Can I join the many in letting you know how much you and your colleagues are appreciated, admired, and respected.
Don't be afraid to reach out for help. It's not a weakness, it shows strength. |
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"I really love my work but sometimes it's heartbreaking.
Held a ladies hand while she passed away this morning. I have done and seen this on many occasions but this one I can't get my head around and I don't know why.
Sorry for putting this on here "
Don't apologise! That's an incredibly tough thing to have done, and it's natural for it to affect you.
Take it easy, put your feet up and it'll pass. |
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"I really love my work but sometimes it's heartbreaking.
Held a ladies hand while she passed away this morning. I have done and seen this on many occasions but this one I can't get my head around and I don't know why.
Sorry for putting this on here "
People like you are needed in this world for the love and compassion you clearly have, and for that reason I doubt you will ever be comfortable with it.
Send a big comforting hug xx |
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"I really love my work but sometimes it's heartbreaking.
Held a ladies hand while she passed away this morning. I have done and seen this on many occasions but this one I can't get my head around and I don't know why.
Sorry for putting this on here "
Never say sorry for needing to express your feelings.
I have broken my heart over some of the people I've cared for at the end.
It shows we have compassion |
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Thoughts are with you, palliative care can be quite hard, especially when having an attachment with the person. Try to take comfort in knowing you contributed to the persons wellbeing  |
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" In their final moments, that lady had someone care when there was nobody else there. Humankind needs more like you. Can I join the many in letting you know how much you and your colleagues are appreciated, admired, and respected.
Don't be afraid to reach out for help. It's not a weakness, it shows strength."
This, so much this. Xxxxx |
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You my darling are an angel.
I only hope that when it's my time to shuffle off this mortal coil there is someone like you to show me the way.
Stay safe xx |
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"I really love my work but sometimes it's heartbreaking.
Held a ladies hand while she passed away this morning. I have done and seen this on many occasions but this one I can't get my head around and I don't know why.
Sorry for putting this on here "
No reason to be sorry, you are a real human being and I just want to hug you |
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I gently stroked my late wife's arm as she passed away from pancreatic cancer at 47.
We were together 30 years, and as gut wrenchingly heart breaking for me as it was, I now find a great comfort for doing so, (although I still cannot say why I do).
All I know is people such as you are very very special and beautiful souls. To do this sort of thing on a regular basis takes 'Angels'... My daughters were 11, and 16 when we lost her, my eldest daughter is now a palliative care nurse which makes me so very proud.
God bless you, I pray someone like you will be there for me when my time comes. xxxx |
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"I really love my work but sometimes it's heartbreaking.
Held a ladies hand while she passed away this morning. I have done and seen this on many occasions but this one I can't get my head around and I don't know why.
Sorry for putting this on here "
Hug of support to you OP |
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"I really love my work but sometimes it's heartbreaking.
Held a ladies hand while she passed away this morning. I have done and seen this on many occasions but this one I can't get my head around and I don't know why.
Sorry for putting this on here "
I hear you and I thank you deeply for it.
Last year, I was admitted for a week with the sort of pain that had me begging, shouting and writhing and wanting to die. I even cried out that I didn't understand why with so much pain, was I still alive.
Throughout it all, a third year student nurse clasped my hand in hers and didn't let go. She came down to the floor with me, didn't try to shut me up and understood without words that that contact was the only thing that stopped me from going mad with the pain.
She then sat with me whilst I sobbed with relief when the analgesia kicked in.
Thank you for being that person too, the power of a hand to hold is hugely underestimated and highly emotional.
I hope there's someone to hold your hand right now. |
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"I really love my work but sometimes it's heartbreaking.
Held a ladies hand while she passed away this morning. I have done and seen this on many occasions but this one I can't get my head around and I don't know why.
Sorry for putting this on here
I hear you and I thank you deeply for it.
Last year, I was admitted for a week with the sort of pain that had me begging, shouting and writhing and wanting to die. I even cried out that I didn't understand why with so much pain, was I still alive.
Throughout it all, a third year student nurse clasped my hand in hers and didn't let go. She came down to the floor with me, didn't try to shut me up and understood without words that that contact was the only thing that stopped me from going mad with the pain.
She then sat with me whilst I sobbed with relief when the analgesia kicked in.
Thank you for being that person too, the power of a hand to hold is hugely underestimated and highly emotional.
I hope there's someone to hold your hand right now."
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Thank you all for your kind words today. I still don't think it has sank in yet and I keep replaying a moment over and over again. I take some sort of comfort that she wasn't alone or died in pain. I guess that is what we can all hope for when the time comes.
to you all xx |
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Thank you all for your kind words today. I still don't think it has sank in yet and I keep replaying a moment over and over again. I take some sort of comfort that she wasn't alone or died in pain. I guess that is what we can all hope for when the time comes.
to you all xx"
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"Thank you all for your kind words today. I still don't think it has sank in yet and I keep replaying a moment over and over again. I take some sort of comfort that she wasn't alone or died in pain. I guess that is what we can all hope for when the time comes.
to you all xx"
Absolutely |
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"Thank you all for your kind words today. I still don't think it has sank in yet and I keep replaying a moment over and over again. I take some sort of comfort that she wasn't alone or died in pain. I guess that is what we can all hope for when the time comes.
to you all xx"
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end of life jobs ie hospital / hostels / carehomes can be a very rewarding job ive sat with lots over the years each and everyone brings a tear and sadness as that shows you care the rewarding bit is after when you know you were there doing your job making them as comfortable as can be ... |
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"end of life jobs ie hospital / hostels / carehomes can be a very rewarding job ive sat with lots over the years each and everyone brings a tear and sadness as that shows you care the rewarding bit is after when you know you were there doing your job making them as comfortable as can be ..."
Hat of to all that do this work don't know I could Handel it mentally that is I could do the physical bit but would not cope inside I'm to soft .... |
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"end of life jobs ie hospital / hostels / carehomes can be a very rewarding job ive sat with lots over the years each and everyone brings a tear and sadness as that shows you care the rewarding bit is after when you know you were there doing your job making them as comfortable as can be ...
Hat of to all that do this work don't know I could Handel it mentally that is I could do the physical bit but would not cope inside I'm to soft ...."
you have to be soft and caring soft inside is a good trait to have |
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Oh sweetie *hugs*
It’s such an vital thing to help someone in their final moments and it’s a brave thing to do. It’s never easy, so please take comfort in the knowledge you supported that wee lady in the most vulnerable moments of her life.
You did a good thing. xxx |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
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I'm sorry to hear that, it's never easy to do and is not something I think anyone should get used to doing. In my opinion, when it no longer effects you at all then you are in the wrong job. It often upset me more when I had to sit with a patient whose family wanted to be there but couldn't travel. I guess I felt sad for them.
Sending hugs |
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"I really love my work but sometimes it's heartbreaking.
Held a ladies hand while she passed away this morning. I have done and seen this on many occasions but this one I can't get my head around and I don't know why.
Sorry for putting this on here "
Don't be sorry. You needed to share a sad moment. It shows the caring nature of your job and just how much you care.
It's a truth we all have to accept òne day. Stay caring x
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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I think it's all been said already Sparkle but no need to apologise - it was so obviously from the heart and had touched you, and has touched all of us that have read it too - you provided comfort and dignity to someone in their final moments and that says a lot about you - doesn't matter if it was the first time or the hundredth it's bound to have an effect - just know that you did a lovely thing |
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"I really love my work but sometimes it's heartbreaking.
Held a ladies hand while she passed away this morning. I have done and seen this on many occasions but this one I can't get my head around and I don't know why.
Sorry for putting this on here "
Deafly no need to apologise OP. you’re doing a tough job. I’m sure most people will appreciate it.all the power to you and a BIG well done. Don’t ever let anybody tell you different! |
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