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Do people look for swinging relationships on Fab?
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By *anmol OP Man
over a year ago
Liverpool |
I don't mean meeting someone for sex a few times and then drifting into something more permanent. I mean start off looking for a relationship from the beginning? Does that happen - am I hoping for too much? |
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By *anmol OP Man
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"I'm probably in the minority but I don't think I would want to swing if I got into a relationship. "
Know what you mean. It suns like one of those thongs you start out doing and then deciding on monogamy (came out in a cold sweat typing that word)
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over a year ago
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"I'm probably in the minority but I don't think I would want to swing if I got into a relationship. Know what you mean. It suns like one of those thongs you start out doing and then deciding on monogamy (came out in a cold sweat typing that word)"
I just think if I was in love with someone I would want my body to be theirs only and vice versa. Nothing against swingers obviously, just my personal feelings  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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like all relationships it's good and bad. Can be jealousy if you get with someone who is that way inclined. Or you go too far tge other way and lose interest in each other. Lot of fun in the process though.
I think as long as you get along with the person, are of a similar mindset and have respect for each other... You can work through most things |
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over a year ago
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"I'm probably in the minority but I don't think I would want to swing if I got into a relationship. "
I wouldn't want to swing if I was in a relationship |
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By *_Yeah19Couple
over a year ago
Lincoln |
We didn’t specifically look for a relationship on here, although SSS would have been more likely to as he was single for longer than me. But that’s what it ended up as and we’re getting married next Aug
So it certainly can happen, but I think maybe more common to just drift into it rather than ‘planned’ from the outset.
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"like all relationships it's good and bad. Can be jealousy if you get with someone who is that way inclined. Or you go too far tge other way and lose interest in each other. Lot of fun in the process though.
I think as long as you get along with the person, are of a similar mindset and have respect for each other... You can work through most things"
Totally agree, and it's all down to communication too. I met my chap, and then delved into the swinging world. I can't say it's made our relationship better as I can't see how it can be made better (I'm so lucky to be in a great relationship), nor has it made it worse - but it's certainly fun! We chat about everything, and love talking about (albeit limited) experiences we've had and the great people we've met xx |
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"We didn’t specifically look for a relationship on here, although SSS would have been more likely to as he was single for longer than me. But that’s what it ended up as and we’re getting married next Aug
So it certainly can happen, but I think maybe more common to just drift into it rather than ‘planned’ from the outset.
TB"
Congratulations! |
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By *anmol OP Man
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Hmm I think I would be keen for one...I know I don't want a 'traditional' relationship at least not now! I do want to find someone to enjoy life with, not just sex but have wee adventures with  "
Sharing the adventure is much better than experiencing them on your own. |
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By *anmol OP Man
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"We didn’t specifically look for a relationship on here, although SSS would have been more likely to as he was single for longer than me. But that’s what it ended up as and we’re getting married next Aug
So it certainly can happen, but I think maybe more common to just drift into it rather than ‘planned’ from the outset.
TB"
Congratulations! |
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In my opinion you can't "look" for a relationship, they just happen - I think the best you can do on here is meet people for NSA fun, but stay open to the possibility that if something more happens then you'll go with it and see where it takes you.
That said, I'd never go straight into a swinging relationship, especially with someone from here - I'd want to take some time away from here and establish our bond first, and then come back to swinging as a couple if that's what we both wanted. |
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"In my opinion you can't "look" for a relationship, they just happen - I think the best you can do on here is meet people for NSA fun, but stay open to the possibility that if something more happens then you'll go with it and see where it takes you.
That said, I'd never go straight into a swinging relationship, especially with someone from here - I'd want to take some time away from here and establish our bond first, and then come back to swinging as a couple if that's what we both wanted. "
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"In my opinion you can't "look" for a relationship, they just happen - I think the best you can do on here is meet people for NSA fun, but stay open to the possibility that if something more happens then you'll go with it and see where it takes you.
That said, I'd never go straight into a swinging relationship, especially with someone from here - I'd want to take some time away from here and establish our bond first, and then come back to swinging as a couple if that's what we both wanted. "
This ^ |
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By *anmol OP Man
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"In my opinion you can't "look" for a relationship, they just happen - I think the best you can do on here is meet people for NSA fun, but stay open to the possibility that if something more happens then you'll go with it and see where it takes you.
That said, I'd never go straight into a swinging relationship, especially with someone from here - I'd want to take some time away from here and establish our bond first, and then come back to swinging as a couple if that's what we both wanted. "
Take your point - but not so sure. If you both have the same sexual tastes from the start, it can save all that awkwardness around broaching the subject - no? |
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"Hmm I think I would be keen for one...I know I don't want a 'traditional' relationship at least not now! I do want to find someone to enjoy life with, not just sex but have wee adventures with "
Exactly! x |
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"In my opinion you can't "look" for a relationship, they just happen - I think the best you can do on here is meet people for NSA fun, but stay open to the possibility that if something more happens then you'll go with it and see where it takes you.
That said, I'd never go straight into a swinging relationship, especially with someone from here - I'd want to take some time away from here and establish our bond first, and then come back to swinging as a couple if that's what we both wanted.
Take your point - but not so sure. If you both have the same sexual tastes from the start, it can save all that awkwardness around broaching the subject - no?"
I've been on the scene for a long time (started as part of a couple), and while I agree that it's easier to discuss the subject, I have seen far too many people hurt and relationships ending because they weren't "strong" enough as a couple to deal with the emotions that swinging as a couple produces. |
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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago
stockport |
I met my boyfriend in a club a year ago. I never imagined we would still be together.
I certainly wasn’t looking for a relationship but it just happened.
We definitely are not swingers now but definitely exhibitionists.
We wouldn’t share each other ever. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm probably in the minority but I don't think I would want to swing if I got into a relationship. Know what you mean. It suns like one of those thongs you start out doing and then deciding on monogamy (came out in a cold sweat typing that word)
I just think if I was in love with someone I would want my body to be theirs only and vice versa. Nothing against swingers obviously, just my personal feelings "
With you on that one! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Im older this 2nd stint around of fab.
Id be open to dating a bi guy as id find it quite a turn on knowing my other half wanted his fix of cock and me.
Im not actively looking for anything but more open to it |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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It does happen and you're definitely not expecting too much... I do agree with Lily's comment about taking things as they come and not putting pressure on yourself or others too quickly.
My fiance and I met at a swinging social and we took some time away once we realised we were serious (a good year and a bit) to focus on each other and to grow in our relationship. It wasn't until we were at the point where we were both secure and comfortable that we even considered coming back into this sort of thing (loathe to call it a lifestyle  ). My other partner and I... well that's a different dynamic. We were lucky because lockdown happened and that gave us a chance to focus on each other and grow as a couple. Now we're in a place where we are both secure (apart from during my bloody hormone changes  ) and I know that we won't change/our relationship won't nor is he looking to replace/find better. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I joined Fab as an in between relationships option. Haven’t been disappointed with the guys I’ve met but didn’t think of them as a long term thing. However, you never know |
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By *_Yeah19Couple
over a year ago
Lincoln |
"In my opinion you can't "look" for a relationship, they just happen - I think the best you can do on here is meet people for NSA fun, but stay open to the possibility that if something more happens then you'll go with it and see where it takes you.
That said, I'd never go straight into a swinging relationship, especially with someone from here - I'd want to take some time away from here and establish our bond first, and then come back to swinging as a couple if that's what we both wanted.
Take your point - but not so sure. If you both have the same sexual tastes from the start, it can save all that awkwardness around broaching the subject - no?
I've been on the scene for a long time (started as part of a couple), and while I agree that it's easier to discuss the subject, I have seen far too many people hurt and relationships ending because they weren't "strong" enough as a couple to deal with the emotions that swinging as a couple produces. "
It’s the normal, boring family life stuff that tests us more than swinging ever does or has! |
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By *anmol OP Man
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"I joined Fab as an in between relationships option. Haven’t been disappointed with the guys I’ve met but didn’t think of them as a long term thing. However, you never know "
And you're still in between relationships? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve been in the situation where I met someone as a casual basis and it turned into a relationship but although we went to events together we decided to wait till we established our relationship more before we invited others. It was the right thing to do as you need to be in a good secure relationship to invite others in to it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't mean meeting someone for sex a few times and then drifting into something more permanent. I mean start off looking for a relationship from the beginning? Does that happen - am I hoping for too much?"
Yeah pretty much I'd say. |
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"In my opinion you can't "look" for a relationship, they just happen - I think the best you can do on here is meet people for NSA fun, but stay open to the possibility that if something more happens then you'll go with it and see where it takes you.
That said, I'd never go straight into a swinging relationship, especially with someone from here - I'd want to take some time away from here and establish our bond first, and then come back to swinging as a couple if that's what we both wanted. "
^^ This |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I joined Fab as an in between relationships option. Haven’t been disappointed with the guys I’ve met but didn’t think of them as a long term thing. However, you never know And you're still in between relationships?"
Yes. Not looking atm |
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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago
stockport |
"It does happen and you're definitely not expecting too much... I do agree with Lily's comment about taking things as they come and not putting pressure on yourself or others too quickly.
My fiance and I met at a swinging social and we took some time away once we realised we were serious (a good year and a bit) to focus on each other and to grow in our relationship. It wasn't until we were at the point where we were both secure and comfortable that we even considered coming back into this sort of thing (loathe to call it a lifestyle ). My other partner and I... well that's a different dynamic. We were lucky because lockdown happened and that gave us a chance to focus on each other and grow as a couple. Now we're in a place where we are both secure (apart from during my bloody hormone changes ) and I know that we won't change/our relationship won't nor is he looking to replace/find better."
Errrrrr Meli!!!! Tell me all!! You have 2 now??   |
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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago
stockport |
"I joined Fab as an in between relationships option. Haven’t been disappointed with the guys I’ve met but didn’t think of them as a long term thing. However, you never know And you're still in between relationships?
Yes. Not looking atm "
I will be pimping at some point though |
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By *anmol OP Man
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"I wasn't looking, but met Jack my other half on here almost 5 years ago, so definitely happens
Here is as good a place as any
Good luck"
How long before you realised you both wanted more of a permanent thing? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I joined Fab as an in between relationships option. Haven’t been disappointed with the guys I’ve met but didn’t think of them as a long term thing. However, you never know And you're still in between relationships?
Yes. Not looking atm
I will be pimping at some point though "
I’m counting on it |
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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago
stockport |
" Errrrrr Meli!!!! Tell me all!! You have 2 now??
Yep!  It wasn't something I ever saw happening and I don't know how they both manage to put up with me but it works well 99.5% of the time. And that 0.5% is just life so I'm very happy and I'm very lucky and I'm very much punching.  "
Show me these men!!!! (PM)  |
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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago
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"I joined Fab as an in between relationships option. Haven’t been disappointed with the guys I’ve met but didn’t think of them as a long term thing. However, you never know And you're still in between relationships?
Yes. Not looking atm
I will be pimping at some point though
I’m counting on it "
Me too!! |
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By *_Yeah19Couple
over a year ago
Lincoln |
"Can't think of a better goal to have someone in your life who adores you and that you play with and have fun and excitement with"
It’s pretty awesome we must admit!
It’s the total openness for us more than the actual swinging. Being able to point out someone hot in the street, or walk in on them wanking and join in rather than scolding Thats worth a million times more than swinging |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Can't think of a better goal to have someone in your life who adores you and that you play with and have fun and excitement with
It’s pretty awesome we must admit!
It’s the total openness for us more than the actual swinging. Being able to point out someone hot in the street, or walk in on them wanking and join in rather than scolding Thats worth a million times more than swinging"
Compersion! |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
"I wasn't looking, but met Jack my other half on here almost 5 years ago, so definitely happens
Here is as good a place as any
Good luck
How long before you realised you both wanted more of a permanent thing?"
After a few weeks , then we took some time away and came back as a couple |
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