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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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When I compliment the women at work about their hair, make-up and clothes I feel that I am making a positive observation with no sexual meaning to it at all, but when I go to a pub or social gathering and I receive the same kind of compliments from strange men I immediately think they are gay / bi and they just want a quick shag. Am I wrong to think that, and is that mostly what women think as well when men give them compliments, which for them are innocently made, but not innocently received? Can simple compliments be wrongly interpreted as a request for sex? Kind of worried that I've made many compliments to women and men over the years and if they got the wrong end of the stick because of it e.g. flirting with them for sex, when it was just an observation of how good they look and appreciation of the effort they made to look presentable at work. I guess the same goes for men with men. Can a guy compliment another guy without getting mixed signals? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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One time I complimented my boss about his age and his suit. He felt kind of embarrassed because everyone in the office could hear me say it, and there was a long silence, so to break the tension I told him that I was a terrible judge of character, which I think he took as an insult. A few days later I was transferred to another department. I think it was just a coincidence, but I often wondered if my compliment had backfired.
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I think If they can tell it’s a genuine compliment then it’s fine really. I understand the comment about thinking a guy is gay/bi if he compliments you, but I also think you can compliment someone who’s attractive but, that you are not sexually attracted to them.  |
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I sent my compliments to the chef in a restaurant over the weekend... turns out it was a boy chef.
How embarrassing 
Should’ve just stuck to complimenting the waiter  |
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Women can compliment each other without any issues arising. Blokes, well, lets say it can be awkward.
I had a muse, many years ago. To say she was attractive was like saying the surface of the sun was warm. I had one particular photograph of this lady, and when it was digitally project at an exhibition, there was an aching groan from the audience, and some of the loudest gasps and words of appreciation were from women. Now, had that been an image of a guy, who would have been considered as attractive, I don't think the guys in the audience would have been as appreciative of the image.
Just the way it goes sometimes. |
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