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Could this be a scammer?
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By *afari69 OP Man
over a year ago
london |
Hi! I recently got chatting to a lady here. After two weeks of chatting, we met for lunch on Monday. The following morning she wrote to me saying that she hadn’t slept the whole night as her husband whom she had separated from had gone off with a new lover and had cleared their bank account and also taken the car she had bought a week ago. Her messages sounded very stressed and she mentioned she had to find £1500 by Saturday (today). She never asked me for any money directly and I didn’t offer anything apart from my support. Over the next two days we chatted about how unfair life was etc.... She even went on to post on her profile a status message announcing that, thanks to fab she had met the most wonderful man ever....and then without any explanation, on Thursday, she blocked me on fab and also on WhatsApp.
I am wondering whether I was the intended victim of a scammer or whether it was just a coincidence that I met her on the eve of her separated husband clearing their bank account.
I was just wondering if anyone else has been asked for money here. I want to make it clear that I wasn’t asked for any money directly. I suspect that she was hoping I would offer some money.
I think she probably realised I wasn’t buying into her sob story so she decided to cut me lose and move on to the next guy. |
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By *kiolo1Couple
over a year ago
Whitland |
Does sound pretty scammy. Creepy. |
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If it was a profile on here you can and should report it |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
Hi op
It does sound suspicious,
I think it's probably good for you that you were blocked, as I bet the hints would have developed into more.
Seems to be many on here asking for money or goods from others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think you have hit the nail on the head
Seems a huge coincidence that her husband clears the bank and takes her car then she needs to find a big sum of cash 
She then declares that she has found a fantastic new man and cuts you out
I think you dodged a bullet there |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People are flakey. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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100% scam. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definitely a scam |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sounds like a scam to me. Looks like you dodged it. Glad you didn't offer any money |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Bullet dodged. |
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By *ornLordMan
over a year ago
Wiltshire and London |
100% scam. Not exactly subtle! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Another vote for a not so subtle scam  |
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By *VineMan
over a year ago
The right place |
Did she expect you to pay for lunch when you met? |
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"Another vote for a not so subtle scam "
I am afraid I must concur. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Scam. Could there have been a second man, one who she meant as 'the most wonderful man ever', who might have been less fortunate than you and dummied up 1500 pounds? You need to keep your head on a swivel these days, scammers are everywhere |
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Did she report the theft of her car to the police ? |
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"Another vote for a not so subtle scam
I am afraid I must concur. "
Gets my vote too. What a shitty thing to do to someone |
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By *afari69 OP Man
over a year ago
london |
I paid for lunch and wasn’t expecting her to pay as I always like to treat a lady.
We had been chatting for two weeks prior but nothing overtly sexy..... my flirting messages were often ignored.... and it was usually just general messages: how is your day going ? Etc
The funny thing is that she ordered two extra desserts as take away to take back home..... she is a live in nurse caring for a very elderly patient and the dessert was for the patient.... or so she says.... |
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By *aver999Couple
over a year ago
East Mids |
Yep go to be a scam, surprised she actually risked meeting you though |
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"I approached the lady....."
Would seem opportunistic of a women you contacted to look st your profile and think mayne I could scan him
What attracted you to her profile |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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1000% scam send them my way till I do what I do best to scammers and play along till they have me all they personally info and then expose them |
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By *afari69 OP Man
over a year ago
london |
She showed me a photo of a white car that she bought the previous week with her money and which her separated husband took back to Spain where he lives. The lady whom I met also lives in Spain but works 6 weeks as a Live in nurse And goes back to Spain for 2 weeks before returning back for another 6 week shift. |
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By *afari69 OP Man
over a year ago
london |
Her profile was well written and her photo was verified. The green flag was showing . She had friends only photos which she showed me and a few days later she unfriended me. When I asked her why , she said I could always ask her if I wanted to see her photos.
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How did her separated husband get the car keys ? |
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By *aver999Couple
over a year ago
East Mids |
So she was separated from her husband but still had a joint account with him and access to the car keys. Why would someone with a husband be a live in carer?
Sounds a weird setup to be normal. I guess when all you offered was support she cut her losses and moved onto the next potential victim. |
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By *afari69 OP Man
over a year ago
london |
Her separated husband had come the previous week over from Spain to collect the new car and drive it back to Spain |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I paid for lunch and wasn’t expecting her to pay as I always like to treat a lady.
We had been chatting for two weeks prior but nothing overtly sexy..... my flirting messages were often ignored.... and it was usually just general messages: how is your day going ? Etc
The funny thing is that she ordered two extra desserts as take away to take back home..... she is a live in nurse caring for a very elderly patient and the dessert was for the patient.... or so she says...."
Were they 2 different desserts? |
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By *afari69 OP Man
over a year ago
london |
She is a carer in London and spends 6 weeks in London and 2 weeks in Spain where she moved to with her husband many years ago and from whom she is now separated.
Her shifts are 6 weeks work, 2 weeks holiday and it starts all over again. |
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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago
Staffordshire Moorlands |
The saddest thing is that some people actually get taken in by these scammers and conned out of their money |
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By *afari69 OP Man
over a year ago
london |
She is a carer in London and spends 6 weeks in London and 2 weeks in Spain where she moved to with her husband many years ago and from whom she is now separated.
Her shifts are 6 weeks work, 2 weeks holiday and it starts all over again. |
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Is it OK for the very elderly patient to be left alone while she goes out on a lunch date ? |
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By *afari69 OP Man
over a year ago
london |
The dessert was sticky toffee pudding and she consumed one at the table and took two more helpings of the same home. |
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By *afari69 OP Man
over a year ago
london |
She told me her lunch break is 12 to 4pm and there are other carers also involved. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it OK for the very elderly patient to be left alone while she goes out on a lunch date ?"
I'm more concerned about what happens to them while she's in Spain for 2 weeks! 
Let's face it op, it's all bull shit. Now you know how to spot them next time. |
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By *hav02Man
over a year ago
Glasgow/London |
I like to think i can smell a scammer like a bloodhound... If you're thinking her story don't sound right, then she's a scammer until proven otherwise.
Just Be glad you got out early  . There's all sorts of weird people out there.... |
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"Her separated husband had come the previous week over from Spain to collect the new car and drive it back to Spain "
Why are these two gayley flitting between here and Spain during the pandemic
Must have an impact on her ability to nurse no? |
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As a general rule, report anyone asking directly for money or expenses.
Avoid anyone whose story is clearly inconsistent and involves financial hardship . |
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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago
Staffordshire Moorlands |
2 weeks holiday, 6 weeks work, and a 4 hour lunch break?! Dodgy as hell  |
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"Her separated husband had come the previous week over from Spain to collect the new car and drive it back to Spain
Why are these two gayley flitting between here and Spain during the pandemic
Must have an impact on her ability to nurse no? "
So the husband didn't quarantine for 14 days on arrival ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The dessert was sticky toffee pudding and she consumed one at the table and took two more helpings of the same home. "
Did you at least take advantage of the eat out to help out scheme? |
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Deff a scam.... glad you didnt give money stop people for asking for money |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes def a scam and you do sound a bit gullible if I may say.
There was a guy on here offering free massages for women - when I asked him for details he was just a chancer - no training and expected a money gift and a blow job. Ha ha.  |
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By *afari69 OP Man
over a year ago
london |
Yes, the eat out to help out discount was utilised. She offered her nhs card to get a discount but the restaurant said that the eat out to help out discount worked out better value. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"She showed me a photo of a white car that she bought the previous week with her money and which her separated husband took back to Spain where he lives. The lady whom I met also lives in Spain but works 6 weeks as a Live in nurse And goes back to Spain for 2 weeks before returning back for another 6 week shift."
Can she really do that during the pandemic?? Surely that’s high risk if she cares for elderly... |
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By *afari69 OP Man
over a year ago
london |
Most men are gullible...... but the important lesson is to be savvy enough to spot a scam or a sob story intended to lure a man into parting with his money. |
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By *afari69 OP Man
over a year ago
london |
You are all correct about nursing, trips to Spain and the pandemic. Perhaps it’s all a lie. But I did see her nhs card. |
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"You are all correct about nursing, trips to Spain and the pandemic. Perhaps it’s all a lie. But I did see her nhs card. "
Maybe card is genuine, but she is not
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"Hi! I recently got chatting to a lady here. After two weeks of chatting, we met for lunch on Monday. The following morning she wrote to me saying that she hadn’t slept the whole night as her husband whom she had separated from had gone off with a new lover and had cleared their bank account and also taken the car she had bought a week ago. Her messages sounded very stressed and she mentioned she had to find £1500 by Saturday (today). She never asked me for any money directly and I didn’t offer anything apart from my support. Over the next two days we chatted about how unfair life was etc.... She even went on to post on her profile a status message announcing that, thanks to fab she had met the most wonderful man ever....and then without any explanation, on Thursday, she blocked me on fab and also on WhatsApp.
I am wondering whether I was the intended victim of a scammer or whether it was just a coincidence that I met her on the eve of her separated husband clearing their bank account.
I was just wondering if anyone else has been asked for money here. I want to make it clear that I wasn’t asked for any money directly. I suspect that she was hoping I would offer some money.
I think she probably realised I wasn’t buying into her sob story so she decided to cut me lose and move on to the next guy. "
Scam City.
Report the profile and spare someone else’s time and money ... literally |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Total scam.
Hate these women....they make it so difficult for us genuine damsels in distress who have been abandoned by our no good husbands with a mountain of debts, 8 kids and and no one to satisfy our insatiable sex drives  |
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"I paid for lunch and wasn’t expecting her to pay as I always like to treat a lady.
We had been chatting for two weeks prior but nothing overtly sexy..... my flirting messages were often ignored.... and it was usually just general messages: how is your day going ? Etc
The funny thing is that she ordered two extra desserts as take away to take back home..... she is a live in nurse caring for a very elderly patient and the dessert was for the patient.... or so she says...."
You just bought her husband dessert. As everyone else says, she’s a scammers. You should report her profile as chances are she’s onto her next victim.
Lou x |
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Now I know the choice of pudding I am thinking she can't be all that bad surely.. 
Yep, sounds well iffy op.. |
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By *afari69 OP Man
over a year ago
london |
I am trying to be objective and the humane side of me wants to give her the benefit of doubt.
I am just sharing my experience and was more interested in finding out if she has done something similar before. She is a new member of 4 mts and had a profile Here before. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm supprised it was a real women. As that's the normal con on here |
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If she was separated, why did she still have a joint bank account ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All the hallmarks of a scam. Just as well you're blocked lucky escape there! |
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"Started out well OP but the further we go into the comments the more it sounds like you are trying to explain and defend her actions  "
And talking about her work in the present tense like it actually exists and isn't just bs. |
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What did she need £1500 by today for ? |
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By *afari69 OP Man
over a year ago
london |
I didn’t ask what she wanted the money for as I didn’t want to sound interested.... |
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By *afari69 OP Man
over a year ago
london |
I am giving as much information as possible in case someone else here has been the victim of the same scammer and been told the same stories about a separated husband, cleared bank account, a missing car, Spain and needing to find £1500 by the weekend....... |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
You'll probably never know the truth of the matter OP and it's "possible" she was on the level and had other reasons for blocking/unfriending - but at face value you were right to be wary and for highlighting this.
There are many people completely taken in by scams like this who lose thousands and thousands of pounds to people who are scammers out to lead you on with tales of woe and false promises of repayment etc - the only thing that surprises me is that in this instance, if it was a scam, that she actually met you, as usually all manner of excuses follow as to why someone can't meet. |
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I suspect their were one or two elements of truth to her story but the whole thing is bound up in lies and an intent to deceive you. Has she disappeared from this and other sites? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What did she need £1500 by today for ?"
She fancied something a more luxurious puddin |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Total scam.
Hate these women....they make it so difficult for us genuine damsels in distress who have been abandoned by our no good husbands with a mountain of debts, 8 kids and and no one to satisfy our insatiable sex drives "
True story  |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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Sounds a scam, report please |
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