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"do some men stay in a boring sexless relationship.when women who want to have a good regular sex life remain single for years??"
Fear quite simply the fear of starting again and being alone for some it's just easier to accept what they already know and have |
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"do some men stay in a boring sexless relationship.when women who want to have a good regular sex life remain single for years??"
Maybe just maybe and it’s a big maybe they happen to love their wife’s.
Maybe eh!!!!!
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"do some men stay in a boring sexless relationship.when women who want to have a good regular sex life remain single for years??
Maybe just maybe and it’s a big maybe they happen to love their wife’s.
Maybe eh!!!!!
T"
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"do some men stay in a boring sexless relationship.when women who want to have a good regular sex life remain single for years??
Fear quite simply the fear of starting again and being alone for some it's just easier to accept what they already know and have "
This rings true. My mum has for years said she wants to leave my dad. But was scared she'd not find anything new and that they'd have to sell the house blah blah blah. She probably wouldn't, but my dad would have and could have been happy!  |
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"do some men stay in a boring sexless relationship.when women who want to have a good regular sex life remain single for years??"
Maybe they tell you it's boring and sexless to get a sympathy shag ? |
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Perhaps there is more to their relationship then sex, and they are happy to have a life without regular sex as love, friendship, soul mates etc means more to them.
No one knows but those who are in that situation. |
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"do some men stay in a boring sexless relationship.when women who want to have a good regular sex life remain single for years??"
For me (Luke) it was children. Things came to a head in the relationship in other areas and we split up anyway.
I'm sure it happens the other way round and women end up in sexless relationships when men want sexual relationships but end up single. |
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"do some men stay in a boring sexless relationship.when women who want to have a good regular sex life remain single for years??"
Not sure op, they may have more reasons than sex.
Are you saying that the horny women who enjoy regular sex would rather be married? |
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"Perhaps there is more to their relationship then sex, and they are happy to have a life without regular sex as love, friendship, soul mates etc means more to them.
No one knows but those who are in that situation."
it amazes me that some people seem to think sex is THE most important part of a relationship. |
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"Perhaps there is more to their relationship then sex, and they are happy to have a life without regular sex as love, friendship, soul mates etc means more to them.
No one knows but those who are in that situation.
it amazes me that some people seem to think sex is THE most important part of a relationship. "
It makes me sad. I have an extremely low sex drive, due to medications and my past, and my husband has NEVER complained, never cheated etc etc. Why? Because sex isn’t the most important thing. |
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"I've got no idea what our neighbours sex life is like but the way she treats him I wouldn't stick around. Yet he does. Marriages are held together by many things including rabbits"
How many? |
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"Perhaps there is more to their relationship then sex, and they are happy to have a life without regular sex as love, friendship, soul mates etc means more to them.
No one knows but those who are in that situation.
it amazes me that some people seem to think sex is THE most important part of a relationship.
It makes me sad. I have an extremely low sex drive, due to medications and my past, and my husband has NEVER complained, never cheated etc etc. Why? Because sex isn’t the most important thing. "
Not necessarily, it may be that your libidos are fairly well matched, it may be for a dozen reasons.
Others might not be so fortunate |
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At first I didn’t want my marriage to end, but glad it did now. I understand myself better, aware of my strengths and weaknesses and did a few things I’d have never done within my marriage.
I stayed because it was easy but once the initial hard bit was over, new job and home etc...I love my freedom now.
Not sure if that answers your question Op   |
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"Perhaps there is more to their relationship then sex, and they are happy to have a life without regular sex as love, friendship, soul mates etc means more to them.
No one knows but those who are in that situation.
it amazes me that some people seem to think sex is THE most important part of a relationship.
It makes me sad. I have an extremely low sex drive, due to medications and my past, and my husband has NEVER complained, never cheated etc etc. Why? Because sex isn’t the most important thing.
Not necessarily, it may be that your libidos are fairly well matched, it may be for a dozen reasons.
Others might not be so fortunate "
Not necessarily what?
Our libidos aren’t on the same level. Not even close. |
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"do some men stay in a boring sexless relationship.when women who want to have a good regular sex life remain single for years??
Maybe they tell you it's boring and sexless to get a sympathy shag ? "
Married men don't lie. |
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"do some men stay in a boring sexless relationship.when women who want to have a good regular sex life remain single for years??"
I've never had time for the argument some men use like ' she wouldn't have sex with me so I got someone else.'
What disgusting creatures that makes men.
Sex if very important for happiness but it's not THE most important thing.
Why do people say I'm leaving cos there's no sex anyway ?
Why not just say ..... We don't get on. We are unhappy. Let's call it a day.
Cos really ...... if you were in love and felt loved ...... you wouldn't fuck off for a shufty or ten ..... what ever your gender. |
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"do some men stay in a boring sexless relationship.when women who want to have a good regular sex life remain single for years??
I've never had time for the argument some men use like ' she wouldn't have sex with me so I got someone else.'
What disgusting creatures that makes men.
Sex if very important for happiness but it's not THE most important thing.
Why do people say I'm leaving cos there's no sex anyway ?
Why not just say ..... We don't get on. We are unhappy. Let's call it a day.
Cos really ...... if you were in love and felt loved ...... you wouldn't fuck off for a shufty or ten ..... what ever your gender."
And those that are saying their relationship works even though they have differing sex drives and wouldn't dream of cheating, well, the major difference is openess and communication.
It works because you are making it work, because you're including each other in the discussion, because you realise things are the way they are and arm yourselves with the tools to deal with it rationally and considerately. No pressure.
A breakdown in communication and real communication is 9 times out of 10 the biggest problem. The lack of sex is because you've stopped talking and stopped listening, feel like you don't understand each other or what the other wants, needs or expects.
Fuck going to counselling tho eh, coz that may mean you both need to shoulder responsibility and it's easier to blame the frigid one. |
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