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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Be yourself, if your shy, thats ok!
Just do you and then you will attract the right person! And this site may provide the right person, you never know!
Good luck x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would say find a club(covid permitting) that enjoys something you have a strong interst in. Then with any luck there'll be an attractive single guy and you'll be able to chat away because you both immediately share a common interst 
Good luck too, I hope you find happiness  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't do it. Why do you want to date?
The fear of eternal isolation. And you know, someone who I can fall in love with. "
Overrated. But why would you eternally isolated if you were single? Do you really want to do it or feel like you should be doing it? |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"Proper dating where you only see one person and have married style sex with the light off ? Why would you want to do that.....we go on dates all the time from here "
I can date someone who is up for swinging and adventure surely... Also married style sex as you describe ain’t a bad thing per se! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Are you shy Estella or just joking?
I'd say just get out there and throw yourself into it. Set some dedicated "prospecting" time aside in your day for it too. Chat and go on loads of dates and enjoy expanding your comfort zone.... |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"Don't do it. Why do you want to date?
The fear of eternal isolation. And you know, someone who I can fall in love with.
Overrated. But why would you eternally isolated if you were single? Do you really want to do it or feel like you should be doing it?"
I want to, I think you’re projecting a wee bit. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't do it. Why do you want to date?
The fear of eternal isolation. And you know, someone who I can fall in love with.
Overrated. But why would you eternally isolated if you were single? Do you really want to do it or feel like you should be doing it?
I want to, I think you’re projecting a wee bit. "
Ok. I'll calm down  |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"Are you shy Estella or just joking?
I'd say just get out there and throw yourself into it. Set some dedicated "prospecting" time aside in your day for it too. Chat and go on loads of dates and enjoy expanding your comfort zone...."
Social anxiety through the roof. Walked past the pub at my first Fab secret tea party six times before making it in when I went first time.  |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"Don't do it. Why do you want to date?
The fear of eternal isolation. And you know, someone who I can fall in love with.
Overrated. But why would you eternally isolated if you were single? Do you really want to do it or feel like you should be doing it?
I want to, I think you’re projecting a wee bit.
Ok. I'll calm down "
I take your point, really. Just I would love to meet new people for romance and maybe partnership. |
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By *VineMan
over a year ago
The right place |
"Are you shy Estella or just joking?
I'd say just get out there and throw yourself into it. Set some dedicated "prospecting" time aside in your day for it too. Chat and go on loads of dates and enjoy expanding your comfort zone....
Social anxiety through the roof. Walked past the pub at my first Fab secret tea party six times before making it in when I went first time. "
Wow! I wouldn’t have guessed that.
Where does that come from? |
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By *icearmsMan
over a year ago
KIDLINGTON |
"Use an app like bumble I guess.. at least then you have a bit of controll over contacting your matches.
MrsHotNotts uses bumble, the men are much nicer, but some have profiles here too"
I use bumble.. much better than tinder imo |
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
STOKE ON TRENT |
"What’s your best recommendation to get me back in the “dating” game?
Yikes, I’m shy but need to be proactive.
And yeah yeah get off this site, I know... "
A guy would be happy dating you
X |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I'd say take yourself on a date or two first. That sounds really twee but it will boost your confidence esp if it incorporates some pampering. Take it slowly when messaging and don't rush into anything - be open about yourself and see where things go. I think the type of man you'd seriously consider dating would be emotionally stable/mature and if you said "hey, I have social anxiety, can we take it slow" they'd listen and understand. The good thing is what with everything going on, it wouldn't be weird to suggest a virtual date first and that's somewhere you'd shine. Once you've done that you might feel more comfortable meeting in person. Your wit and your compassion is very likeable Estella.
Oh and the biggest one. Don't overthink it*! Read the message, if not sure ask for clarity but just... be less in your own head.
*yeah 100% rich coming from me and possibly me talking to myself atm. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't do it. Why do you want to date?
The fear of eternal isolation. And you know, someone who I can fall in love with.
Overrated. But why would you eternally isolated if you were single? Do you really want to do it or feel like you should be doing it?
I want to, I think you’re projecting a wee bit.
Ok. I'll calm down
I take your point, really. Just I would love to meet new people for romance and maybe partnership. "
I sometimes feel people say stuff because that is what they think they should be doing rather than what they want to be doing.
Being in London I would say try an app. or OKCupid to start with. But I shouldn't stop Fab because you never know you could meet someone from here and you just click.
I get the social anxiety but to help mine I did things like going to a cafe/pub on my own and the cinema. Just to get comfortable with doing something different but without the added pressure of walking into a pub for a full blown social. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are you shy Estella or just joking?
I'd say just get out there and throw yourself into it. Set some dedicated "prospecting" time aside in your day for it too. Chat and go on loads of dates and enjoy expanding your comfort zone....
Social anxiety through the roof. Walked past the pub at my first Fab secret tea party six times before making it in when I went first time. "
Are you better with one on one or busier situations? Maybe guide your potential date on where and how to meet? Like a walk just the two of you if you don't like other ppl and noise, or if you hate the potential awkwardness of one on one then arrange to do an activity or group date to take the pressure off the two of you. Idk but you know yourself better than anyone? I'd totally take you on a date btw, you have beautiful eyes.....!  |
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"What’s your best recommendation to get me back in the “dating” game?
Yikes, I’m shy but need to be proactive.
And yeah yeah get off this site, I know... "
You can’t date unless you look your age!
I’ll lend you some wrinkles - I’m nice like that! |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"I'd say take yourself on a date or two first. That sounds really twee but it will boost your confidence esp if it incorporates some pampering. Take it slowly when messaging and don't rush into anything - be open about yourself and see where things go. I think the type of man you'd seriously consider dating would be emotionally stable/mature and if you said "hey, I have social anxiety, can we take it slow" they'd listen and understand. The good thing is what with everything going on, it wouldn't be weird to suggest a virtual date first and that's somewhere you'd shine. Once you've done that you might feel more comfortable meeting in person. Your wit and your compassion is very likeable Estella.
Oh and the biggest one. Don't overthink it*! Read the message, if not sure ask for clarity but just... be less in your own head.
*yeah 100% rich coming from me and possibly me talking to myself atm."
Sound, sound advice. Much appreciated. |
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"I'd say take yourself on a date or two first. That sounds really twee but it will boost your confidence esp if it incorporates some pampering. Take it slowly when messaging and don't rush into anything - be open about yourself and see where things go. I think the type of man you'd seriously consider dating would be emotionally stable/mature and if you said "hey, I have social anxiety, can we take it slow" they'd listen and understand. The good thing is what with everything going on, it wouldn't be weird to suggest a virtual date first and that's somewhere you'd shine. Once you've done that you might feel more comfortable meeting in person. Your wit and your compassion is very likeable Estella.
Oh and the biggest one. Don't overthink it*! Read the message, if not sure ask for clarity but just... be less in your own head.
*yeah 100% rich coming from me and possibly me talking to myself atm.
Sound, sound advice. Much appreciated."
Ideal compromise: take Meli on a date |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't do it. Why do you want to date?
Why not that's part of life"
But you should be doing it for the right reasons not just because you think you should be doing it. |
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Don't do it. Why do you want to date?
Why not that's part of life
But you should be doing it for the right reasons not just because you think you should be doing it."
What are the reasons? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't do it. Why do you want to date?
Why not that's part of life
But you should be doing it for the right reasons not just because you think you should be doing it."
That should be reason enough, when you think the time is right. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't do it. Why do you want to date?
Why not that's part of life
But you should be doing it for the right reasons not just because you think you should be doing it.
What are the reasons?"
When you feel something is missing
When you want something more
When you don't feel complete
When you don't want to come home to an empty house/flat
When you don't want to sleep alone
When you want to share
When you want to tell someone something funny or how you're day went
When you feel there is more than just this
When you don't want to be alone
... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't do it. Why do you want to date?
Why not that's part of life
But you should be doing it for the right reasons not just because you think you should be doing it.
What are the reasons?
When you feel something is missing
When you want something more
When you don't feel complete
When you don't want to come home to an empty house/flat
When you don't want to sleep alone
When you want to share
When you want to tell someone something funny or how you're day went
When you feel there is more than just this
When you don't want to be alone
..."
I am nearly crying here  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What’s your best recommendation to get me back in the “dating” game?
Yikes, I’m shy but need to be proactive.
And yeah yeah get off this site, I know... "
watching thread for tips . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't do it. Why do you want to date?
Why not that's part of life
But you should be doing it for the right reasons not just because you think you should be doing it.
What are the reasons?
When you feel something is missing
When you want something more
When you don't feel complete
When you don't want to come home to an empty house/flat
When you don't want to sleep alone
When you want to share
When you want to tell someone something funny or how you're day went
When you feel there is more than just this
When you don't want to be alone
...
I am nearly crying here "
When you want to cook for two (or more?)
When you want to snuggle and watch that romantic film together
When you want someone to tell you you are beautiful
When you see something that would be perfect for him/her
... |
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"Don't do it. Why do you want to date?
Why not that's part of life
But you should be doing it for the right reasons not just because you think you should be doing it.
What are the reasons?
When you feel something is missing
When you want something more
When you don't feel complete
When you don't want to come home to an empty house/flat
When you don't want to sleep alone
When you want to share
When you want to tell someone something funny or how you're day went
When you feel there is more than just this
When you don't want to be alone
...
I am nearly crying here
When you want to cook for two (or more?)
When you want to snuggle and watch that romantic film together
When you want someone to tell you you are beautiful
When you see something that would be perfect for him/her
..."
I want some of that list |
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
STOKE ON TRENT |
"Don't do it. Why do you want to date?
Why not that's part of life
But you should be doing it for the right reasons not just because you think you should be doing it.
What are the reasons?
When you feel something is missing
When you want something more
When you don't feel complete
When you don't want to come home to an empty house/flat
When you don't want to sleep alone
When you want to share
When you want to tell someone something funny or how you're day went
When you feel there is more than just this
When you don't want to be alone
..."
What you on about if a person is lonely they want some one special with them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't do it. Why do you want to date?
Why not that's part of life
But you should be doing it for the right reasons not just because you think you should be doing it.
What are the reasons?
When you feel something is missing
When you want something more
When you don't feel complete
When you don't want to come home to an empty house/flat
When you don't want to sleep alone
When you want to share
When you want to tell someone something funny or how you're day went
When you feel there is more than just this
When you don't want to be alone
...
I am nearly crying here
When you want to cook for two (or more?)
When you want to snuggle and watch that romantic film together
When you want someone to tell you you are beautiful
When you see something that would be perfect for him/her
..."
Pass me the tissues, I am crying now
Its a shame your a bloke, not a shame but you know what I mean  |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
the abyss |
"Don't do it. Why do you want to date?
Why not that's part of life
But you should be doing it for the right reasons not just because you think you should be doing it.
What are the reasons?
When you feel something is missing
When you want something more
When you don't feel complete
When you don't want to come home to an empty house/flat
When you don't want to sleep alone
When you want to share
When you want to tell someone something funny or how you're day went
When you feel there is more than just this
When you don't want to be alone
...
I am nearly crying here
When you want to cook for two (or more?)
When you want to snuggle and watch that romantic film together
When you want someone to tell you you are beautiful
When you see something that would be perfect for him/her
..."
Feel this in my soul |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't do it. Why do you want to date?
Why not that's part of life
But you should be doing it for the right reasons not just because you think you should be doing it.
What are the reasons?
When you feel something is missing
When you want something more
When you don't feel complete
When you don't want to come home to an empty house/flat
When you don't want to sleep alone
When you want to share
When you want to tell someone something funny or how you're day went
When you feel there is more than just this
When you don't want to be alone
...
I am nearly crying here
When you want to cook for two (or more?)
When you want to snuggle and watch that romantic film together
When you want someone to tell you you are beautiful
When you see something that would be perfect for him/her
...
Pass me the tissues, I am crying now
Its a shame your a bloke, not a shame but you know what I mean "
I'd say 'yes' if I weren't a bloke |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh gosh brave lady, from what Ive read I may be tempted to Bumble one day, still means you have to have the courage to meet someone though, make it somewhere totally unthreatning and neutral maybe, a library or a market, sealife centre or something. Having to sit on a table in a pub/cafe opposite someone and talk could be nerve wracking. Walking and talking could be easier. Good luck. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't do it. Why do you want to date?
Why not that's part of life
But you should be doing it for the right reasons not just because you think you should be doing it.
What are the reasons?
When you feel something is missing
When you want something more
When you don't feel complete
When you don't want to come home to an empty house/flat
When you don't want to sleep alone
When you want to share
When you want to tell someone something funny or how you're day went
When you feel there is more than just this
When you don't want to be alone
...
I am nearly crying here
When you want to cook for two (or more?)
When you want to snuggle and watch that romantic film together
When you want someone to tell you you are beautiful
When you see something that would be perfect for him/her
...
Pass me the tissues, I am crying now
Its a shame your a bloke, not a shame but you know what I mean
I'd say 'yes' if I weren't a bloke "
How can a woman refuse that passion and emotion
you nearly had me searching for engagement rings |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
South Wales |
I don’t know, but I’m watching the thread for some good tips/ideas.
Dating apps may be a good choice now - I think folk have been reflecting on their romantic lives during lockdown and have re-evaluated their needs so they could be choc full of possibilities.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't do it. Why do you want to date?
Why not that's part of life
But you should be doing it for the right reasons not just because you think you should be doing it.
What are the reasons?
When you feel something is missing
When you want something more
When you don't feel complete
When you don't want to come home to an empty house/flat
When you don't want to sleep alone
When you want to share
When you want to tell someone something funny or how you're day went
When you feel there is more than just this
When you don't want to be alone
...
I am nearly crying here
When you want to cook for two (or more?)
When you want to snuggle and watch that romantic film together
When you want someone to tell you you are beautiful
When you see something that would be perfect for him/her
...
Feel this in my soul "
This!!! All this!!
I keep telling myself I'm ok on my own, and I am really, but everything written above is exactly how I feel.
OP, good luck with your search/quest/not sure how to put it, and if I had any advice I would share, but im in exactly the same position. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't do it. Why do you want to date?
Why not that's part of life
But you should be doing it for the right reasons not just because you think you should be doing it.
What are the reasons?
When you feel something is missing
When you want something more
When you don't feel complete
When you don't want to come home to an empty house/flat
When you don't want to sleep alone
When you want to share
When you want to tell someone something funny or how you're day went
When you feel there is more than just this
When you don't want to be alone
...
I am nearly crying here
When you want to cook for two (or more?)
When you want to snuggle and watch that romantic film together
When you want someone to tell you you are beautiful
When you see something that would be perfect for him/her
...
Feel this in my soul
This!!! All this!!
I keep telling myself I'm ok on my own, and I am really, but everything written above is exactly how I feel.
OP, good luck with your search/quest/not sure how to put it, and if I had any advice I would share, but im in exactly the same position. X "
Me too. Great thread and it may prompt me to do something more proactive myself xxx |
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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago
The Land that time forgot (Norfolk) |
"Oh gosh brave lady, from what Ive read I may be tempted to Bumble one day, still means you have to have the courage to meet someone though, make it somewhere totally unthreatning and neutral maybe, a library or a market, sealife centre or something. Having to sit on a table in a pub/cafe opposite someone and talk could be nerve wracking. Walking and talking could be easier. Good luck. Xx"
Any woman who asked me on a first date to a sea life centre I would definitely let take me back to hers after. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't do it. Why do you want to date?
Why not that's part of life
But you should be doing it for the right reasons not just because you think you should be doing it.
What are the reasons?
When you feel something is missing
When you want something more
When you don't feel complete
When you don't want to come home to an empty house/flat
When you don't want to sleep alone
When you want to share
When you want to tell someone something funny or how you're day went
When you feel there is more than just this
When you don't want to be alone
...
I am nearly crying here
When you want to cook for two (or more?)
When you want to snuggle and watch that romantic film together
When you want someone to tell you you are beautiful
When you see something that would be perfect for him/her
...
Pass me the tissues, I am crying now
Its a shame your a bloke, not a shame but you know what I mean
I'd say 'yes' if I weren't a bloke
How can a woman refuse that passion and emotion
you nearly had me searching for engagement rings "
There's only one problem with the list when it comes to me - it's not what I want. Or not with just one person.
I'll have a big fat bling bling diamond white gold engagement ring though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't do it. Why do you want to date?
Why not that's part of life
But you should be doing it for the right reasons not just because you think you should be doing it.
What are the reasons?
When you feel something is missing
When you want something more
When you don't feel complete
When you don't want to come home to an empty house/flat
When you don't want to sleep alone
When you want to share
When you want to tell someone something funny or how you're day went
When you feel there is more than just this
When you don't want to be alone
...
I am nearly crying here
When you want to cook for two (or more?)
When you want to snuggle and watch that romantic film together
When you want someone to tell you you are beautiful
When you see something that would be perfect for him/her
...
Pass me the tissues, I am crying now
Its a shame your a bloke, not a shame but you know what I mean
I'd say 'yes' if I weren't a bloke
How can a woman refuse that passion and emotion
you nearly had me searching for engagement rings
There's only one problem with the list when it comes to me - it's not what I want. Or not with just one person.
I'll have a big fat bling bling diamond white gold engagement ring though "
Your a fraud .
You type out all those nice things to touch my heart strings and its not even what you want |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't do it. Why do you want to date?
Why not that's part of life
But you should be doing it for the right reasons not just because you think you should be doing it.
What are the reasons?
When you feel something is missing
When you want something more
When you don't feel complete
When you don't want to come home to an empty house/flat
When you don't want to sleep alone
When you want to share
When you want to tell someone something funny or how you're day went
When you feel there is more than just this
When you don't want to be alone
...
I am nearly crying here
When you want to cook for two (or more?)
When you want to snuggle and watch that romantic film together
When you want someone to tell you you are beautiful
When you see something that would be perfect for him/her
...
Pass me the tissues, I am crying now
Its a shame your a bloke, not a shame but you know what I mean
I'd say 'yes' if I weren't a bloke
How can a woman refuse that passion and emotion
you nearly had me searching for engagement rings
There's only one problem with the list when it comes to me - it's not what I want. Or not with just one person.
I'll have a big fat bling bling diamond white gold engagement ring though
Your a fraud .
You type out all those nice things to touch my heart strings and its not even what you want "
Just trying to let you down gently man. My belongs elsewhere but I didn't have the to tell you that. Now you're making me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't do it. Why do you want to date?
Why not that's part of life
But you should be doing it for the right reasons not just because you think you should be doing it.
What are the reasons?
When you feel something is missing
When you want something more
When you don't feel complete
When you don't want to come home to an empty house/flat
When you don't want to sleep alone
When you want to share
When you want to tell someone something funny or how you're day went
When you feel there is more than just this
When you don't want to be alone
...
I am nearly crying here
When you want to cook for two (or more?)
When you want to snuggle and watch that romantic film together
When you want someone to tell you you are beautiful
When you see something that would be perfect for him/her
...
Pass me the tissues, I am crying now
Its a shame your a bloke, not a shame but you know what I mean
I'd say 'yes' if I weren't a bloke
How can a woman refuse that passion and emotion
you nearly had me searching for engagement rings
There's only one problem with the list when it comes to me - it's not what I want. Or not with just one person.
I'll have a big fat bling bling diamond white gold engagement ring though
Your a fraud .
You type out all those nice things to touch my heart strings and its not even what you want
Just trying to let you down gently man. My belongs elsewhere but I didn't have the to tell you that. Now you're making me "
Already over it. I knew it was all b/s |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"What’s your best recommendation to get me back in the “dating” game?
Yikes, I’m shy but need to be proactive.
And yeah yeah get off this site, I know... "
I think it's going to be harder now than ever for anyone who is trying to find a partner past their 20s. And for those of us with social anxiety and self issues I fear it'll be almost impossible.
I'm sorry, that's not very helpful.
I would say that dating apps and sites do seem to be the way forward these days, even if they're just the initial introduction. If the person you're looking for is on those and on here, well then, it means you have one more thing in common.
The only real advice I have is to be patient, spend as much time with virtual as you feel you need and if they're the right one they'll be fine with that. And when it comes to actually meeting, something like a film or theatre is a bad plan for the first few dates. You'll either be sat there wishing you were elsewhere because it feels awkward, or sat there wishing you could talk through it.
Tailor your date to the weather and the options around you. What do you like to do and where do you like to go? Make it your choice and then you'll be more comfortable there.
And do let me know if this advice works, I was given it when I was in your situation and I never had the balls to even get on the apps. Don't be like me beautiful lady, there is someone out there you will love and who will treat you as you deserve. |
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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago
Peterborough |
"What’s your best recommendation to get me back in the “dating” game?
Yikes, I’m shy but need to be proactive.
And yeah yeah get off this site, I know... "
Flirt with someone you like in the forms, then build up a rapport both on a sexual side on your FAB inbox, then when it's right build up a vanilla relationship on your normal email.
This is how me and my partner Miss Devil, got together in October 2018, been her weekend hubby ever since. We still want to play with others, in the future.
We need to get rid of this damn virus once and for all.
Good luck and happy hunting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh gosh brave lady, from what Ive read I may be tempted to Bumble one day, still means you have to have the courage to meet someone though, make it somewhere totally unthreatning and neutral maybe, a library or a market, sealife centre or something. Having to sit on a table in a pub/cafe opposite someone and talk could be nerve wracking. Walking and talking could be easier. Good luck. Xx
Any woman who asked me on a first date to a sea life centre I would definitely let take me back to hers after."
hurrah I knew it would work. |
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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago
Peterborough |
On the radio today, can't remember which station a heard a counsellor say this: "Don't ask to be rescued, go and offer some help, as being the rescuer is a good way of being in control and does amazing things to your ego." Hiss, hiss, hiss, is the sound of me trying to re inflate your ego.
The help could be choosing what to do around your neck of the woods, some advice from your own nerdy soap box or even something you are qualified in. Help, like this is so long as it's genuine will be the glue to a good relationship. I should know...no more wheel chair, frame or crutches for Her and no more happy pills for Him. Still not out of the woods yet, just leaning on the outer trees for a rest. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
I've tried for two years to date, and they have all been liars!
Personally I don't understand how a man can not strike up a conversation with a woman, it genuinely baffles me how a 40 year old man, can say no more than 'Hi' so I responded with 'Hi' back even though I said I wouldn't and nothing! So what next? I have no idea lol personally I think it is a waste of time  |
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By *icearmsMan
over a year ago
KIDLINGTON |
"Oh gosh brave lady, from what Ive read I may be tempted to Bumble one day, still means you have to have the courage to meet someone though, make it somewhere totally unthreatning and neutral maybe, a library or a market, sealife centre or something. Having to sit on a table in a pub/cafe opposite someone and talk could be nerve wracking. Walking and talking could be easier. Good luck. Xx"
I use bumble and tbh have had many a good conversation and then coffee dates etc. I think these apps will continue to be more popular and as you say just go at your own speed.
Any one decent will chat and wait, and will meet somewhere that you feel comfortable with.
Good luck to you all out there.. dating can be enjoyable... |
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