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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I am going to meet a friend this weekend, I have booked my own hotel as she lives near and don't want to make any assumptions. But the conversations are drying up, I am messaging which aren't really getting a reply, until I don't message for a while then she springs into life. I know she may just be busy and trying to reply when she can.. But not really sure if this is a game and seeing how I react. I know people say "if she was interested, she would be interested" advise needed pls. |
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Talk to her and be honest
have a back up activity as well just incase and by that I don't mean another lady 
I plan mine with shopping or places I want to see, so if something does crop up its not a wasted journey |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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If your instinct is telling you something isn't quite right, then it's worth you looking into.
Maybe confirm with the arrangements or ask to speak on the phone or Skype for a little chat.
You could always look at a backup plan, if your hotel isn't cancellable, maybe you could look for a club hosting a social in the area just in case it doesn't work out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a similar thing once, even when I asked her she said it’s all good, then on the day of the meet(hotel booked etc) nothing not a thing then I was blocked  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Haven't asked about the conversations, she drops a message now and again apologising for lack of contact as been very busy, I say no need to apologise. I did ask if she definitely wants me to come down and she confirmed loads of time... Then I will wake up to pics and vids from her.. Very confusing, think I should just go with an open mind and if nothing comes of it. I am in a beautiful part of the world in a hotel with a pool. So no complaints from me. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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"Haven't asked about the conversations, she drops a message now and again apologising for lack of contact as been very busy, I say no need to apologise. I did ask if she definitely wants me to come down and she confirmed loads of time... Then I will wake up to pics and vids from her.. Very confusing, think I should just go with an open mind and if nothing comes of it. I am in a beautiful part of the world in a hotel with a pool. So no complaints from me. "
Yeah, as you’ve already asked her a few times then I’d not ask her anymore else it will look a bit like you’re fussing and could put her off. Vids and messages on wake up is to me a sign she is still interested. So long as you are getting some contact, rather than none, then all is cool.
Hope it goes well  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Haven't asked about the conversations, she drops a message now and again apologising for lack of contact as been very busy, I say no need to apologise. I did ask if she definitely wants me to come down and she confirmed loads of time... Then I will wake up to pics and vids from her.. Very confusing, think I should just go with an open mind and if nothing comes of it. I am in a beautiful part of the world in a hotel with a pool. So no complaints from me.
Yeah, as you’ve already asked her a few times then I’d not ask her anymore else it will look a bit like you’re fussing and could put her off. Vids and messages on wake up is to me a sign she is still interested. So long as you are getting some contact, rather than none, then all is cool.
Hope it goes well "
Much appreciated, worst case I have a nice spar hotel for the weekend. Can't loose really, although a bit of female contact would top it off  x |
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I personally don’t like endless conversations however it’s kind a required until the initial meet arranged to establish trust and getting to know eachother. That’s why I tend to shorten my messages or not message much when plan is certain. Reason is that, I try to keep things to say in messages to the actual meet.
Regardless, everyone is different so I would definitely ask if you feel uncertain  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am going to meet a friend this weekend, I have booked my own hotel as she lives near and don't want to make any assumptions. But the conversations are drying up, I am messaging which aren't really getting a reply, until I don't message for a while then she springs into life. I know she may just be busy and trying to reply when she can.. But not really sure if this is a game and seeing how I react. I know people say "if she was interested, she would be interested" advise needed pls. "
You make the extra effort when your interested or you make excuses when your not |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yeah.. Oh well if it wasn't on my mind: I wouldn't have asked. 1st dip of my toe in the water for a while, not really had the confidence up till now. If it happens it happens, if not well at least I have had the courage to take a chance, which is massive for me. Peace out folks and thank you for your input x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I definitely wouldn’t be sending pics and vids if I wasn’t interested OP , sounds like maybe she genuinely has been busy or isn’t great at keeping in contact consistently? I hope your night goes to plan , nice bum btw  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh I’ve been accused of doing this OP! I don’t think I blow hot and cold, just have a lot going on in my life so don’t always feel like messaging everyday or all sexy. However when I do think of him, he brings a smile to my face and I message straight away. I would never think of not meeting him if and when we arrange something. I do hope your friend is similar and enjoy! |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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That's the trouble with second guessing and overthinking - doubts start to creep in - obviously haven't been party to the conversations OP, and a lot may depend on the connection and chemistry you've built, but from what you've said I think you have to trust what she's told you about being busy especially given the wake up messages and take her at her word. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What do you mean by "friend"? Someone you have met before and are friends with?
Or..."
Its a lady I met on holiday, we didn't speak all day, but kept getting caught passing casual glances. Normally I would break off a stare but couldn't and ended up waving like Forest Gump when he sees lieutenant Dan on his boat (very embarrassing).
I say friend because I don't know what either wants yet? I have been honest and said I am not ready for a relationship, but like the thought of some company...
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I definitely wouldn’t be sending pics and vids if I wasn’t interested OP , sounds like maybe she genuinely has been busy or isn’t great at keeping in contact consistently? I hope your night goes to plan , nice bum btw "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What do you mean by "friend"? Someone you have met before and are friends with?
Or...
Its a lady I met on holiday, we didn't speak all day, but kept getting caught passing casual glances. Normally I would break off a stare but couldn't and ended up waving like Forest Gump when he sees lieutenant Dan on his boat (very embarrassing).
I say friend because I don't know what either wants yet? I have been honest and said I am not ready for a relationship, but like the thought of some company...
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Sounds promising. Hope it goes well. Good luck x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you all for your kind input.
I politely messaged this morning, basically saying if she had changed her mind: that's OK, I am a grown up and am going to stick to my plans as the hotel is nice.
Got a quick reply back saying she hadn't changed her mind, so watch this space x |
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