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I send first messages from forum threads, games etc. If I like what they've said or if I like their pics/profile. Sometimes I'll get a reply. Worst that can happen is I dont get a reply and I'm no worse off than when I started, but at least I took a chance x |
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over a year ago
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"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??
Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??
Just curious  "
I do not think that looks makes someone out of my league. There are some very clever people on here and THAT may stop me messaging, as I do not want to look stupid?
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over a year ago
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I tend not to message off the back of just how they look. It'd usually be in relation to something they've said that's caught my eye, so I'd just be thinking we have something in common rather than worrying about what league we're in. |
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over a year ago
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Never will think anyone out off my league and I just message if they don’t message back well that’s they loose to be honest with you ask if someone spend a bit off time talking to me you may find I am very nice polite person xx |
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There's no such thing as leagues or hierarchy of body types. However, I would check their profile to see if I'm their usual type - e.g. if they say they have a huge thing for redheads then as a blonde I probably wouldn't bother, likely to end up wasting everyone's time. |
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I'll message somebody if I think there's a possibility of an interesting conversation or if I have something to say to them. We are Fab friends with a few people who could probably get considerably better-looking lovers than us, but it's not about sex, it's about making contact with people who we like knowing. Luke |
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"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??
Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??
Just curious "
Of course I message anyone I like the look of! As long as I meet their preferences, and they’re not hundreds of miles away (in which case I usually just send a wink)  |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??
Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??
Just curious "
I rarely send a first message to anyone unless it's a forum game or I'm feeling particularly devil may care for exactly that reason. Nerves get the better of me every time  |
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"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??
Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??
Just curious
I rarely send a first message to anyone unless it's a forum game or I'm feeling particularly devil may care for exactly that reason. Nerves get the better of me every time "
Be brave beautiful  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??
Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??
Just curious "
Sadly I fall into the former, but that's OK.
I'm wired that I think I'll be bothering them.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??
Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??
Just curious
Sadly I fall into the former, but that's OK.
I'm wired that I think I'll be bothering them.
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That'll be my self deprecating nature.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??
Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??
Just curious "
Only once I texted myself, it was last friday |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All the time especially on the wink who you would fuck threads. Much to my surprise a guy I wanted to wink but didn't for this exact reason winked me first much to my surprise xx |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??
Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??
Just curious
I rarely send a first message to anyone unless it's a forum game or I'm feeling particularly devil may care for exactly that reason. Nerves get the better of me every time
Be brave beautiful "
Hard sometimes  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??
Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??
Just curious
Only once I texted myself, it was last friday "
bada boom. But did they reply? |
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"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??
Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??
Just curious
I rarely send a first message to anyone unless it's a forum game or I'm feeling particularly devil may care for exactly that reason. Nerves get the better of me every time
Be brave beautiful
Hard sometimes "
What’s the worst that could happen? They block you? Just go for it!  |
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"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??
Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??
Just curious
I rarely send a first message to anyone unless it's a forum game or I'm feeling particularly devil may care for exactly that reason. Nerves get the better of me every time
Be brave beautiful
Hard sometimes "
I’ll be your ghost writer if you wish Posh. Lots of fun to be had  |
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It's a combination of liking the look of someone and liking their forum posts. I'm much more likely to message someone from the forum rather than just a random 'my god your photos are fantastic' type message based on new photos. If people think they are out of me league then they're out of mine ') |
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"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??
Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??
Just curious
I rarely send a first message to anyone unless it's a forum game or I'm feeling particularly devil may care for exactly that reason. Nerves get the better of me every time
Be brave beautiful
Hard sometimes
I’ll be your ghost writer if you wish Posh. Lots of fun to be had "
“Hello, I’m NotSoPosh and I will literally shag anything”
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??
Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??
Just curious
I rarely send a first message to anyone unless it's a forum game or I'm feeling particularly devil may care for exactly that reason. Nerves get the better of me every time
Be brave beautiful
Hard sometimes
I’ll be your ghost writer if you wish Posh. Lots of fun to be had "
Ooooh yes please |
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"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??
Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??
Just curious "
There have been the odd few that we have thought are way out of our league, maybe one day we will though...  |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??
Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??
Just curious
I rarely send a first message to anyone unless it's a forum game or I'm feeling particularly devil may care for exactly that reason. Nerves get the better of me every time
Be brave beautiful
Hard sometimes
I’ll be your ghost writer if you wish Posh. Lots of fun to be had
“Hello, I’m NotSoPosh and I will literally shag anything”
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Dude. Harsh. And I've heard that rumour too recently.... |
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"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??
Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??
Just curious
I rarely send a first message to anyone unless it's a forum game or I'm feeling particularly devil may care for exactly that reason. Nerves get the better of me every time
Be brave beautiful
Hard sometimes
I’ll be your ghost writer if you wish Posh. Lots of fun to be had
“Hello, I’m NotSoPosh and I will literally shag anything”
Dude. Harsh. And I've heard that rumour too recently.... "
That’s what Incandescent wrote for me |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??
Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??
Just curious
I rarely send a first message to anyone unless it's a forum game or I'm feeling particularly devil may care for exactly that reason. Nerves get the better of me every time
Be brave beautiful
Hard sometimes
I’ll be your ghost writer if you wish Posh. Lots of fun to be had
“Hello, I’m NotSoPosh and I will literally shag anything”
Dude. Harsh. And I've heard that rumour too recently....
That’s what Incandescent wrote for me "
If only that were true, she's not started yet so that must have been d*unk Posh....  |
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over a year ago
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Hate that term. No such as leagues. How do people know what the other is looking for? I’ve had it said to me by some lovely people and I just don’t get it. If you like someone message them I say. |
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It's a bit different on here, as they spell out what league they want to play in sometimes, over 6ft5 etc. So you know not to message.
But if I meet the requirements then I give it a shot. The worse that can happen is it's deleted. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are some guys on here that are so good looking and girls so pretty that there’s not a cat in hells chance they’re going to fancy me so I admire from a distance, however if I’ve struck up a conversation through the forum I might just be brave enough to send a PM x |
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"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??
Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??
Just curious
I rarely send a first message to anyone unless it's a forum game or I'm feeling particularly devil may care for exactly that reason. Nerves get the better of me every time
Be brave beautiful
Hard sometimes
I’ll be your ghost writer if you wish Posh. Lots of fun to be had
“Hello, I’m NotSoPosh and I will literally shag anything”
Dude. Harsh. And I've heard that rumour too recently....
That’s what Incandescent wrote for me "
Ooooh you looking to be slapped? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know......some girls are ooml......but half the fun is to try.
When you get a cheeky one line response from a heavenly babe......you feel good.
Wish more women (I know you are inundated) would have............a tiny bit more humility!  xx |
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over a year ago
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"Hate that term. No such as leagues. How do people know what the other is looking for? I’ve had it said to me by some lovely people and I just don’t get it. If you like someone message them I say. "
Ok it's more I feel they wouldn't look twice at me |
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"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??
Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??
Just curious
I rarely send a first message to anyone unless it's a forum game or I'm feeling particularly devil may care for exactly that reason. Nerves get the better of me every time "
Really that surprises me |
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"There are some guys on here that are so good looking and girls so pretty that there’s not a cat in hells chance they’re going to fancy me so I admire from a distance, however if I’ve struck up a conversation through the forum I might just be brave enough to send a PM x"
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"Hate that term. No such as leagues. How do people know what the other is looking for? I’ve had it said to me by some lovely people and I just don’t get it. If you like someone message them I say.
Ok it's more I feel they wouldn't look twice at me "
You can’t know that though. Don’t put yourself down. Fair enough if they specify certain things in their profile, ie if they’re looking for slim women or they have the word “dom” in their profile I wouldn’t message them as we wouldn’t be compatible. You never know, it’s worth a try if you like them x |
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Thanks for all your replies peeps . I only asked as although I'm all bravado on here I dont actually think I'm particularly good looking, but at the same time I'm not John Merrick either .
I'm Mr . Average and im always shocked when anyone fancies me |
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I'm supremely confident in my appearance and personality and I don't think anyone is out of my league. Now ppl might have different preferences and that's a different thing. So I'm a black man, have a beard, have dreadlocs and that might not be every woman's cup of tea, and that's ok, but as long as I don't see a woman's preference contradict my characteristics then I'll give it a shot if I'm attracted to her. |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??
Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??
Just curious
I rarely send a first message to anyone unless it's a forum game or I'm feeling particularly devil may care for exactly that reason. Nerves get the better of me every time Really that surprises me "
I'm a surprising kinda lass you know Grumpy.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ive had men message and ive looked at thier profile, seen veris from gorgeous woman and think wtf are they messaging me for "
I feel much the same as you but for an inverse reason.
I am relatively new to FAB...... have had two meets with stunners......but we won't verify one another until later and more socially acceptable. I now get frustrated women pass me by because they see 'no veris'.....but the reality is.......
Strange times to be new to FAB! |
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By *RSTCouple
over a year ago
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"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??
Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??
Just curious "
Absolutely, there have been a few we haven't messaged for that exact reason, yet when it comes to some of the forum games we realise we should have just messaged. We've now a couple of absolutely next level ladies on our friends list. |
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"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??
Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??
Just curious
I rarely send a first message to anyone unless it's a forum game or I'm feeling particularly devil may care for exactly that reason. Nerves get the better of me every time Really that surprises me
I'm a surprising kinda lass you know Grumpy.... "
I've gathered that |
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I sometimes don't message people because I feel I wouldn't be what they are looking for. For example, if they are gym fit, I feel they wouldn't be interested in me.
But that's just me, Mr wouldn't think that way and would be happy to send messages. |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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Someone described my swinging preferences as like an onion
I have the top then I like bits sometimes going down the skin of the onion, some time liked chunks sometimes diced
I laughed but knew what they meant. I tend to meet club people because more or less they are the same type of people, also the chances are we can talk about clubs etc
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Seems like 90%,of the blokes on this thread are not getting responses to messages, making me think that some lucky bloke is getting all the messages, thats just greedy  |
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If you don’t ask you will never know what the answer is; what is the worst that can happen, they say no... at least you’ll know and can move on or enjoy something wonderful
It really is in your hands.... don’t wait, life goes faster than you think ! |
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The one thing that often stops me messaging someone and letting them know im into them is that they don't have tv/ts on their profile.
If i knkw them from chats on the forums then this is out of the window though as I'll realise they're fine with me as i am however I look |
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Oh I really hate the whole hierarchy bullcrap.
Nope no such thing as out of your league!
People who believe themselves better than others -attractive or not- is such an ugly trait anyway I personally wouldn't want to go there no matter how 'fit' |
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"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??
Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??
Just curious "
I dont think like that because I only fuck hotties, and for some unknown reason, they like me! Probably my bj skills! |
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A lot of the time I don't have the energy as it seems I have to carry the convo...which can get a bit laborious. I have a fluctuating sense of self worth when it comes to sex. In a way I've never felt good enough in that way, so I guess I feel out of a lot of people's leagues in that sense. However I am a good conversationist, though I often find I have different tastes and a lot of the time I struggle to indulge in my tastes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i dont message full stop.
most have a poor opinion of single men and i see no point in being message 3000 of the day.
if someone wants to find me they will.
no worries. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Before I rejoined the site, I used to message those I was interested in. Most messages were read and that was the end of that.
This time around has been a bit of the same! So I’ve held off |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just because people dont reply att all...no matter if you read profile or wherever..or excuses or accident bulk deleted by mistake or sorry but cant reply to everyone..always excuses so no point... |
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"If you don’t ask you will never know what the answer is; what is the worst that can happen, they say no... at least you’ll know and can move on or enjoy something wonderful
It really is in your hands.... don’t wait, life goes faster than you think !"
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over a year ago
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"Always what's the worse that could happen we're are adults on here "
Very true, However I am very respectful in messages and I have had some horrific stuff back from couples who are obnoxious and rude. Puts you off |
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can I just say it doesn't matter how you look in comparison to someone, I have a crazy connection with someone who is a 10 and I'm like a 4 in comparison. But just how we are, things we have in common and sexually, same wave length. I feel so lucky, its been over 2 years and I wasn't brave enough to meet him, but we have built up something so good in that time. Don't put leagues in your way! My confidence is so low, incredibly so and I talk myself out of everything. But this one time it worked out |
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"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??
Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??
Just curious "
Don't think anyone is outta anyone's league here in this joint ,l think everyone is here to fulfill what they're here for..BUT ..I think the thing is when it comes to choices it works the other way round ,in that people aren't attracted to others for whatever reason which makes them not interested ,if that makes any sense .as in guys will always send messages to ladies because it's the site it is even if they know the chances of getting a reply are zilch so it's the lady that decides that the guy isn't in her league ,the same way a guy won't send a message to a lady he's not interested in which means he's deciding that the lady isn't in his league .. so that's how l think the "outta their league " situation works here , the recipient of the Message decides.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is no league as far as I’m concerned. We all have our types and I’ll message a woman or couples based mainly on what they state in their profile.....after all we all look like shite the morning after dont we!?! |
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"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??
Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??
Just curious "
With woman yes I think a lot of them are out of my league. |
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We used to be like that. However, we will message people if their profile and photos pique our interest and there’s nothing more intriguing than a well written message to get the flutters going. We are no beauty contest winners, but what’s the worst that can happen. We have made plenty of friends on here of whom some we will play with and others not. This lifestyle is about the socialisation, openness as well as the fun and games... |
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"I message when I like the look of people or I have something I want to say in private. I don't believe in leagues."
There are no leagues or beauty contests with us either. However that said, there have been times when we’ve chatted with some really attractive couples that we just didn’t feel a spark with. We’ve got to feel that there’s a vibe, looks are important as well as good banter and chit chat but importantly, we have to feel that vibe |
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I try to be brave but I regularly feel like there are better guys than me on here which can leave me feeling like I've little to no chance with my message. So sometimes and sometimes no |
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"I try to be brave but I regularly feel like there are better guys than me on here which can leave me feeling like I've little to no chance with my message. So sometimes and sometimes no "
Its hard for single guys to be fair there is a lot of competition however you should always try because not every couple is looking for the one with the biggest cock or the one with the six pack and muscles we tend to find they are the type of guys who let you down or have no personality what so ever |
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"I try to be brave but I regularly feel like there are better guys than me on here which can leave me feeling like I've little to no chance with my message. So sometimes and sometimes no
Its hard for single guys to be fair there is a lot of competition however you should always try because not every couple is looking for the one with the biggest cock or the one with the six pack and muscles we tend to find they are the type of guys who let you down or have no personality what so ever "
Hey....take it easy on us muscle bound fools |
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"I try to be brave but I regularly feel like there are better guys than me on here which can leave me feeling like I've little to no chance with my message. So sometimes and sometimes no
Its hard for single guys to be fair there is a lot of competition however you should always try because not every couple is looking for the one with the biggest cock or the one with the six pack and muscles we tend to find they are the type of guys who let you down or have no personality what so ever
Hey....take it easy on us muscle bound fools "
(only applys to some not all) |
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