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over a year ago
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"I’ve just had a lovely long weekend with close family but I’m craving my own space. I love being with people I like but it really drains me. I’m introverted. "
Sounds nice. At least not a hermit  |
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By *Vine OP Man
over a year ago
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"I’ve just had a lovely long weekend with close family but I’m craving my own space. I love being with people I like but it really drains me. I’m introverted.
Sounds nice. At least not a hermit "
No! I’m very sociable and people often think I’m extrovert but I’m not. |
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When I did the Myers Briggs test thing I got 51% introvert and 49% extrovert which makes sense to me. I need a balance. I come across quite extroverted in social situations and I go stir crazy if I'm alone too much but I also find lots of socialising draining and need so much time on my own. |
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"When I did the Myers Briggs test thing I got 51% introvert and 49% extrovert which makes sense to me. I need a balance. I come across quite extroverted in social situations and I go stir crazy if I'm alone too much but I also find lots of socialising draining and need so much time on my own. "
Yup, that's me too! |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"When I did the Myers Briggs test thing I got 51% introvert and 49% extrovert which makes sense to me. I need a balance. I come across quite extroverted in social situations and I go stir crazy if I'm alone too much but I also find lots of socialising draining and need so much time on my own. "
That sounds about right for me too although with different nuances - socially I can be quite introverted until I'm comfortable but then an extroverted side kicks in. I crave both being given time on my own and being sociable too |
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By *Vine OP Man
over a year ago
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"When I did the Myers Briggs test thing I got 51% introvert and 49% extrovert which makes sense to me. I need a balance. I come across quite extroverted in social situations and I go stir crazy if I'm alone too much but I also find lots of socialising draining and need so much time on my own.
That sounds about right for me too although with different nuances - socially I can be quite introverted until I'm comfortable but then an extroverted side kicks in. I crave both being given time on my own and being sociable too "
The only problem with Myers Briggs is that it’s completely meaningless. It was made up by a mother and daughter in the 1940s loosely based on Carl Jung’s work. Neither of the women had any psychological training. It’s widely dismissed by most psychologists and yet HR departments love it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Ambivert. I’m on the cusp of introversion and extroversion. I was more extroverted when younger but personal crises and development shifted me to be more reflective and introspective. I am situationally introverted and extroverted, however I need much more time alone to recharge my batteries. I have fewer ‘mates‘ and a very, very small number of people I would consider a good friend.
However many of the things I do involve being extroverted and I enjoy them, but need more time to recover after these days. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"When I did the Myers Briggs test thing I got 51% introvert and 49% extrovert which makes sense to me. I need a balance. I come across quite extroverted in social situations and I go stir crazy if I'm alone too much but I also find lots of socialising draining and need so much time on my own.
That sounds about right for me too although with different nuances - socially I can be quite introverted until I'm comfortable but then an extroverted side kicks in. I crave both being given time on my own and being sociable too
The only problem with Myers Briggs is that it’s completely meaningless. It was made up by a mother and daughter in the 1940s loosely based on Carl Jung’s work. Neither of the women had any psychological training. It’s widely dismissed by most psychologists and yet HR departments love it. "
Oh I'm no fan of those things either - my agreement was more with Lacey's summary comments than the tests, which whenever I do them I rarely agree with their output and seems to vary wildly dependent on the test |
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By *Vine OP Man
over a year ago
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"When I did the Myers Briggs test thing I got 51% introvert and 49% extrovert which makes sense to me. I need a balance. I come across quite extroverted in social situations and I go stir crazy if I'm alone too much but I also find lots of socialising draining and need so much time on my own.
That sounds about right for me too although with different nuances - socially I can be quite introverted until I'm comfortable but then an extroverted side kicks in. I crave both being given time on my own and being sociable too
The only problem with Myers Briggs is that it’s completely meaningless. It was made up by a mother and daughter in the 1940s loosely based on Carl Jung’s work. Neither of the women had any psychological training. It’s widely dismissed by most psychologists and yet HR departments love it.
Oh I'm no fan of those things either - my agreement was more with Lacey's summary comments than the tests, which whenever I do them I rarely agree with their output and seems to vary wildly dependent on the test"
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Depends who I'm with and where I am. If I'm with new people or in a new situation I can be quite introverted. I shake with nerves, but I also chat utter bollocks so that can come across sometimes as confidence.
When I'm with family and friends I'm very extroverted x |
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"When I did the Myers Briggs test thing I got 51% introvert and 49% extrovert which makes sense to me. I need a balance. I come across quite extroverted in social situations and I go stir crazy if I'm alone too much but I also find lots of socialising draining and need so much time on my own. "
i just tried a 10 question Myers Briggs test and got 10% Extroverted and 90% Introverted, some of the questions weren't relevant to me tho as the asked about socialising with others & exercise , neither had "I dont" as an option. im deffo 100% introverted. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When I did the Myers Briggs test thing I got 51% introvert and 49% extrovert which makes sense to me. I need a balance. I come across quite extroverted in social situations and I go stir crazy if I'm alone too much but I also find lots of socialising draining and need so much time on my own.
That sounds about right for me too although with different nuances - socially I can be quite introverted until I'm comfortable but then an extroverted side kicks in. I crave both being given time on my own and being sociable too
The only problem with Myers Briggs is that it’s completely meaningless. It was made up by a mother and daughter in the 1940s loosely based on Carl Jung’s work. Neither of the women had any psychological training. It’s widely dismissed by most psychologists and yet HR departments love it. "
The test has been scientifically updated many times and links closely to Jung’s work. Academics are constantly scrutinising it and that’s why it’s so damn expensive (there are free identical ones). Psychologists focusing on workplace synergy rate it highly and that’s why the HR lot do to. Remember, it shows the working you, not the personal you.  |
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By *Vine OP Man
over a year ago
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"When I did the Myers Briggs test thing I got 51% introvert and 49% extrovert which makes sense to me. I need a balance. I come across quite extroverted in social situations and I go stir crazy if I'm alone too much but I also find lots of socialising draining and need so much time on my own.
That sounds about right for me too although with different nuances - socially I can be quite introverted until I'm comfortable but then an extroverted side kicks in. I crave both being given time on my own and being sociable too
The only problem with Myers Briggs is that it’s completely meaningless. It was made up by a mother and daughter in the 1940s loosely based on Carl Jung’s work. Neither of the women had any psychological training. It’s widely dismissed by most psychologists and yet HR departments love it.
The test has been scientifically updated many times and links closely to Jung’s work. Academics are constantly scrutinising it and that’s why it’s so damn expensive (there are free identical ones). Psychologists focusing on workplace synergy rate it highly and that’s why the HR lot do to. Remember, it shows the working you, not the personal you. "
I’ve taken it a few times and got different results each time. Each time the description of my type is full of Barnham statements. I don’t put much stock in it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ve just had a lovely long weekend with close family but I’m craving my own space. I love being with people I like but it really drains me. I’m introverted.
Sounds nice. At least not a hermit
No! I’m very sociable and people often think I’m extrovert but I’m not. "
This can be me, I can be sociable for a while but cant wait until I can run off and go home or somewhere alone. |
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By *Vine OP Man
over a year ago
The right place |
"I’ve just had a lovely long weekend with close family but I’m craving my own space. I love being with people I like but it really drains me. I’m introverted.
Sounds nice. At least not a hermit
No! I’m very sociable and people often think I’m extrovert but I’m not.
This can be me, I can be sociable for a while but cant wait until I can run off and go home or somewhere alone. "
I’m a bit fan of the french exit! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ve just had a lovely long weekend with close family but I’m craving my own space. I love being with people I like but it really drains me. I’m introverted.
Sounds nice. At least not a hermit
No! I’m very sociable and people often think I’m extrovert but I’m not.
This can be me, I can be sociable for a while but cant wait until I can run off and go home or somewhere alone.
I’m a bit fan of the french exit! "
Ive never heard it called that before. They're all too busy chatting look, best to just slip away  |
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By *Vine OP Man
over a year ago
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"I’ve just had a lovely long weekend with close family but I’m craving my own space. I love being with people I like but it really drains me. I’m introverted.
Sounds nice. At least not a hermit
No! I’m very sociable and people often think I’m extrovert but I’m not.
This can be me, I can be sociable for a while but cant wait until I can run off and go home or somewhere alone.
I’m a bit fan of the french exit!
Ive never heard it called that before. They're all too busy chatting look, best to just slip away "
That’s exactly what it is. |
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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago
Craggy Island |
"Introvert. I pushed all my friends away and now when I feel like doing something and be adventurous I have nobody to do it with  "
I go on my own and make new and better friends. X
From a fellow introvert. |
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By *antrelWoman
over a year ago
Birmingham/Cardiff |
"I'm a socially inept introvert but definitely come out of my shell when relaxed. I'm the quiet one in the corner who finishes the night right in the centre of the fun  "
Haha this sounds like me but I’m an ambivert. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve taken it a few times and got different results each time. Each time the description of my type is full of Barnham statements. I don’t put much stock in it. "
I always did say you were an outlier |
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By *Vine OP Man
over a year ago
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I’ve taken it a few times and got different results each time. Each time the description of my type is full of Barnham statements. I don’t put much stock in it.
I always did say you were an outlier "
 that’s true. I’m generally a bit a a sceptic too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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An introvert's introvert.
Very introspective, prefer my own company or that of close family. Quiet in large gatherings (usually studying everyone else). Happy with silence. Can become more talkative/excitable on a one to one once I feel comfortable with the person. Comfortable in my own skin. Quite self-contained. Don't always open up. Can overthink. Know my moods.
Did I say I was quite introspective? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"An introvert's introvert.
Very introspective, prefer my own company or that of close family. Quiet in large gatherings (usually studying everyone else). Happy with silence. Can become more talkative/excitable on a one to one once I feel comfortable with the person. Comfortable in my own skin. Quite self-contained. Don't always open up. Can overthink. Know my moods.
Did I say I was quite introspective?"
INFJ (Advocate) - very rare apparently |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Also both.
Naturally outgoing, but it takes its toll and I need recharge time alone.
I prefer 121, to big groups socially, where I tend to retreat into my shell.
My alter ego, Testarossa, can be wild though, in a club setting! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ambivert here.
In my job I need to be extrovert but its draining.
I like my "me time"
Sometimes I crave social interaction, other times I hide away from it.
The worst thing is when I've had enough in the middle of a shift at work, it becomes a difficult situation and then anxiety takes over. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Liverpool |
Ambivert!
Very few people are true extroverts and introverts. The vast majority of the world's population are varying levels of being an Ambivert on a spectrum. Some leaning towards intro and some extro, but never really reaching the extreme levels of either. |
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By *Vine OP Man
over a year ago
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"Can you be a bit of both? Total extrovert in the right situation  "
It’s possible to be both or either in different contexts.
But extrovert doesn’t mean outgoing and introverted doesn’t mean shy.
I can be very sociable and outgoing on occasions but I’m an introvert.
Extroverts get energised by being around lots of people and drained by being alone, introverts get energy from being alone or very small groups and drained from large groups. |
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By *hav02Man
over a year ago
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"Can you be a bit of both? Total extrovert in the right situation
It’s possible to be both or either in different contexts.
But extrovert doesn’t mean outgoing and introverted doesn’t mean shy.
I can be very sociable and outgoing on occasions but I’m an introvert.
Extroverts get energised by being around lots of people and drained by being alone, introverts get energy from being alone or very small groups and drained from large groups. "
^ this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ambivert, I can talk your legs off and be myself if I feel comfortable with you, and as shy as a church mouse in large groups and would rather just lurk in the background   "
Actually this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m on both ends of the spectrum. I loved lockdown as it gave me an excuse to not leave my flat....I was loving it! But then I like and crave large groups. I thrive in them too. I however am not very good at small groups, they are tiring! So just confused  |
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