Hi Polly, I've been single for about 8 years now (self imposed), but if that special someone walked into my life, then I'd be a fool to ignore the fact. One or two have taken my fancy, but as much as I liked them, living together was never gonna be an option x   |
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Yep.
I'm over my last relationship as in I wouldn't revisit it, however I feel the damage done may have been too deep for me to be able to trust again.
The fact we met here means that my brain has linked sex = badness. I have zero mojo or libido and that does make me sad.
That makes me sad. |
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"Yep.
I'm over my last relationship as in I wouldn't revisit it, however I feel the damage done may have been too deep for me to be able to trust again.
The fact we met here means that my brain has linked sex = badness. I have zero mojo or libido and that does make me sad.
That makes me sad."
Hey.. this makes me sad tooo.. especially as the damage that has been caused was inflicted by another person ...
I don’t know you but you look amazing and have so much to give .. don’t let someone else ruin things for you... go be you.. be amazing ! Xx |
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"You never know what’s going to happen until it suddenly hits you in the face like a shovel - fingers crossed they feel the same when it arrives. "
So true. Usually when least expecting it.. |
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"You never know what’s going to happen until it suddenly hits you in the face like a shovel - fingers crossed they feel the same when it arrives.
So true. Usually when least expecting it.."
Amen |
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By *awk90Man
over a year ago
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I do believe it's all out there, floating about, on a sense. Might just take time and movement to bump into it!
The best thing to do is try not to fret, I'm sure the right bump will happen eventually |
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I handed over my freedom to roam once to the wrong person and denied my true self, this was a big part of why it fell apart, now I am true to myself and am happy that I potentially will stay contentedly single for a long time to come  |
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"I handed over my freedom to roam once to the wrong person and denied my true self, this was a big part of why it fell apart, now I am true to myself and am happy that I potentially will stay contentedly single for a long time to come "
Same, but I have found someone who let's me be me so it can happen Reminds me of a quote "never put the keys to your happiness in someone else's pocket" glad you got your keys back xx |
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"You never know what’s going to happen until it suddenly hits you in the face like a shovel - fingers crossed they feel the same when it arrives. "
This ^ although a hand is better
For those thinking like this, I’ve been there and was adamant never ever again would I let someone close.... just live your lives, enjoy them for you, you really never know what is around the corner.... surprises do happen and when they do you’ll just know it’s right |
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"We have never had the amount of conduits available to find love and date than we do now even in a pandemic.
Keep the faith op and others.
If not invest in cats lots of cats. "
But with that brings fomo and fear of commitment. |
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"We have never had the amount of conduits available to find love and date than we do now even in a pandemic.
Keep the faith op and others.
If not invest in cats lots of cats.
But with that brings fomo and fear of commitment. "
In what way? From you or the other party?
When I was on Tinder I have to admit there was so much choice and it became mildly addictive to get matches and chat to people. I deleted it to avoid any conflict of interest when I dated.
Bloody good fun though best summer I’ve had since my twenties. |
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Hugs OP x
I'm in a place now where I'm not sure I care anymore about finding anyone.
I've been single for 10 years and am mostly fine with it.
Friends of mine that have made finding a relationship their full time job have found what they were looking for.
I think you have to actively work towards what you want.
Prospective partners rarely fly through your front room window 
I hope you find what you're looking for x |
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"Yep.
I'm over my last relationship as in I wouldn't revisit it, however I feel the damage done may have been too deep for me to be able to trust again.
The fact we met here means that my brain has linked sex = badness. I have zero mojo or libido and that does make me sad.
That makes me sad."
If there’s one thing I know about the future it’s that you don’t know about the future.
Don’t worry |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yep.
I'm over my last relationship as in I wouldn't revisit it, however I feel the damage done may have been too deep for me to be able to trust again."
I feel the same, my ex lied about a whole history of domestic abuse charges. Even though its been over a year since I left him, he's still causing trouble and I wouldn't think it fair on a new partner to have to deal with that.  |
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"Hugs OP x
I'm in a place now where I'm not sure I care anymore about finding anyone.
I've been single for 10 years and am mostly fine with it.
Friends of mine that have made finding a relationship their full time job have found what they were looking for.
I think you have to actively work towards what you want.
Prospective partners rarely fly through your front room window
I hope you find what you're looking for x"
This is me too including the 10 year single bit.
Don't get me wrong, being single somedays sucks and yes I can get lonely but it is sure as shit better than the hell I have previously been put through. |
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"Hugs OP x
I'm in a place now where I'm not sure I care anymore about finding anyone.
I've been single for 10 years and am mostly fine with it.
Friends of mine that have made finding a relationship their full time job have found what they were looking for.
I think you have to actively work towards what you want.
Prospective partners rarely fly through your front room window
I hope you find what you're looking for x
This is me too including the 10 year single bit.
Don't get me wrong, being single somedays sucks and yes I can get lonely but it is sure as shit better than the hell I have previously been put through. "
I think for most of us that have been single a long time have been in shit relationships and it has put us off!
The loneliness I feel on occasion is a small price to pay for the rest of the time when I feel pretty good about being on my own.
I honestly don't think the kind of relationship I want exists.
I'm much less prepared to put up with things now - I believe the relationshippers call it 'compromise'
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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Sometimes.
Sometimes I ache to be in a relationship where you feel that love that gives you that warm tingly “I feel loved and I am in love” feeling in your tummy.
And then I remember that realistically I have as much chance of finding that again as I do winning the lottery. And the little flickering light of hope almost goes out.
Almost.
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"Sometimes.
Sometimes I ache to be in a relationship where you feel that love that gives you that warm tingly “I feel loved and I am in love” feeling in your tummy.
And then I remember that realistically I have as much chance of finding that again as I do winning the lottery. And the little flickering light of hope almost goes out.
Almost.
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